Taurus + Scorpio

Soooo...


It just dawned on me that I might be in love with my very good friend of 9 years, who is a Taurus. Not sure how to approach it, or if I should even...

SS! Funny you should mention this right now because I too am now in love with a friend of mine for almost 8 years now, who is also a Taurus! 🙂

Posted by robyn808

When a baby elephant is born they are tied to a post with a chain? During the first couple of weeks of this newborns life, it continually attempts to free itself from this constraint. After about two weeks the elephant gives up trying to break free because the constraint does not yield after numerous attempts. As the elephant continues to grow larger and stronger, it fails to realize that it is merely tied up with a chain that is fastened to a pole or rail. The elephant with its great size could easily snap this chain or pull the pole from the ground; however, past conditioning keeps this immensely strong beast from trying. The reason being that past conditioning brings back memories of failure.


That's my thoughts on it for now, he might just need to be reconditioned. Anyway, thats what I think about it, hopefully David will come in with some great male bull advice.

Great advice!
Nine years is a long time.
The Scorp will have to recondition him.

She will have to do this gradually....in a more subtle way....

May I suggest presenting some incentives gradually
1) Light touches on the hand, back, etc (Bulls are physical signs)
2) Light, 'hypnotic' perfume.
3) Casual flirting.

Whatever you do...do NOT attempt to come in kicking the front door down

Posted by miso
SS! Funny you should mention this right now because I too am now in love with a friend of mine for almost 8 years now, who is also a Taurus! 🙂

You, too, miso?! Haha! It must be something in the air. Does yours know?

Posted by 87scorpio
I fell for one of my best friends who was a taurus...unfortunately he didn't feel the same and I could no longer carry on the friendship with him. Goof luck with whatever you decide to do!

Well, geez. That's what I *don't* need. Sorry to hear. 😢 How are you handling the dissolution of your friendship?

Posted by Poisson
nothing to contribute. just wanted to say 'nice to see you' 🙂

Poisson! How are you, doll?!

Posted by robyn808
Has it been totally platonic? Any flirting? lingering looks? has their been that brief moment where you almost locked lips?

I find that the similarities between these two signs work against each other. Both play it so cool that its hard to get something off the ground.

I wouldn't suggest leading with "hey I caught feelings for you". You might confuse him, and might question whither or not you really mean it, or if you're just feeling that way cus you're lonely right now.

I tend to think taurus can be a hard one to cross that line with, once the boundary's have been established. But I think you can ease him into it slowly if the attraction is there. Kind of just subtlety plant the idea in his head causally. You might not see a reaction right away. But if you give him some time he will thinking about it, and then you can let him know your open to it, he could just take charge. Putting it on him all at once could be a little tricky.

What a thoughtful response! Thanks, robyn! You gave me a lot to consider. Unfortunately, no flirting or lingering looks- strictly platonic. I've actually never looked at him as anything more than a friend until now. I'm not sure if that has anything to do with him reminding me so much of myself. It's so strange how much we are alike- he knows it too. He will often comment on how much we both rely on our intuition (INFJs, lol). In college, he was my safety. We took all the same classes, got the same grades, were equally socially awkward, and I told him everything.


I am most afraid of damaging our friendship. Omg, if I lost that I'd be sooo sad. I'm already aware that I've always felt closer to him than he does to me, and that's okay. But, I would rather things stay the way they are now than to risk it being anything less.


So, what I may do is tell him without actually telling him, if that makes any sense. I don't know, I'll figure it out, I guess. Whatever happens, I will have to be the one to initiate it, as he is very passive and reticent (which is a cultural thing, I've learned).

Posted by Mr. Defense
Get a Pisces or something. Leave the bulls to us Virgos. God knows we already don't have a lot of signs compatible with us. And we don't need dirty scorps taking the one sign we are compatible with

You're compatible with Cappies too! 🙂

Posted by TaurusBull1977

Posted by robyn808

When a baby elephant is born they are tied to a post with a chain? During the first couple of weeks of this newborns life, it continually attempts to free itself from this constraint. After about two weeks the elephant gives up trying to break free because the constraint does not yield after numerous attempts. As the elephant continues to grow larger and stronger, it fails to realize that it is merely tied up with a chain that is fastened to a pole or rail. The elephant with its great size could easily snap this chain or pull the pole from the ground; however, past conditioning keeps this immensely strong beast from trying. The reason being that past conditioning brings back memories of failure.


That's my thoughts on it for now, he might just need to be reconditioned. Anyway, thats what I think about it, hopefully David will come in with some great male bull advice.

Great advice!
Nine years is a long time.
The Scorp will have to recondition him.

She will have to do this gradually....in a more subtle way....

May I suggest presenting some incentives gradually
1) Light touches on the hand, back, etc (Bulls are physical signs)
2) Light, 'hypnotic' perfume.
3) Casual flirting.

Whatever you do...do NOT attempt to come in kicking the front door down

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Thanks, TaurusBull! Ugh, but I've never been one for PDA of any kind! lol

Posted by 87scorpio

Posted by ScorpSuperior

Posted by 87scorpio
I fell for one of my best friends who was a taurus...unfortunately he didn't feel the same and I could no longer carry on the friendship with him. Goof luck with whatever you decide to do!

Well, geez. That's what I *don't* need. Sorry to hear. 😢 How are you handling the dissolution of your friendship?

It was hard to begin with, but after a while I didn't miss him too much. I just knew that I couldn't stay around him knowing I wanted more and he didn't. We had hooked up when we had first met when he was on a break in a relationship, they ended up getting back together, but we were still friends and talking for a while, we had a lot in common. I had then got into a relationship myself, and we had lost touch. We had only really been speaking again for about 8 months from after he most recently split from his girlfriend, but we had been spending a lot of time together. Other friends had said to me that we would make a great couple and that is what had put the idea into my head, and I realised I had always had those feelings. In those 8 months we had hooked up a few times and there was definite chemistry. When I approached the subject my timing was terrible. He was still in his "fun" stage, enjoying the single life after a very long term relationship. Perhaps if I would have planned an attack rather than sending a drunken text declaring my feelings, things may have been different. I could probably be friends with him again now, but at the time it was the best thing for me to do to save my own feelings.

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Well, you sound like one resilient lady! I hope you are able to rekindle your friendship, if it's your heart's desire.

Posted by miso

Posted by ScorpSuperior

Posted by miso
SS! Funny you should mention this right now because I too am now in love with a friend of mine for almost 8 years now, who is also a Taurus! 🙂

You, too, miso?! Haha! It must be something in the air. Does yours know?

a) She's a woman.. not that that specifically matters in this case but
b) it's blossoming romantic friendship love only and
c) yes she knows

🙂

Just one of those people that you know you want in your life, indefinitely. She's my Anamchara. My Rara Avis.

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How sweet! Notice, I hadn't assigned a gender to your beloved Taurus. See how culturally sensitive I am! lol Reward me. Awww, miso, don't you just love LOVE!? I live to love. All the best to you and your growing love!

Geez, can't get the formatting right when posting a comment...


Anyway, as I was trying to say...It's funny because I've come to realize over the years that I've confused like/love with lust a lot in my past relationships!