Taurus with venus in aries going at 1000 miles an hour
This topic was created in the Taurus forum by soundsunscene on Tuesday, August 29, 2017 and has 8 replies.
so me and my bull have been talking about moving in together
we hit one year this week though a lot was long distance and not really fully committed the whole time- the last 6 months or so upped the ante for us and going away a few times really got us to another level
he is now talking about the future wanting to move in together get (buy) a house together etc etc
the thing though is it involves a LOT of change for him - new area, new routine leaving the home he has lived in for a long time, new life without his kids in the home etc. For me it is a matter of "ok if we do that I do plan a" as to my work living situation etc, if we don't I do plan B but there is a point where a firm decision needs to be made in 6 months tops as I have to know what I am doing workwise with the area I love to especially (big city versus out of the city diff jobs etc) .
i'm concerned/have fears his venus in aries is just going at 1000 miles an hour caught up in being in love and all the crazy things that come with that feeling and he wont actually be able to do it when push comes to shove so im not sure how i am supposed to think as we go along being I have a real time crunch that i dont want to oppose onto him too much (he is aware of the timing and started the whole thing)
I have voiced this to him and said he needs to drive the whole thing due to my concerns and so i know he is going at a pace and plans he can handle especially as a Taurus with change (he is into astrology so i can mention these things to him like that which helps him a lot)
is it possible a Taurus with Venus in Aries can get a bit caught up in the excitement of plans but not be able to follow them through ? I know when Taurus makes a decision it is in stone so I'm not sure which one to go with here if that makes sense caution or certainty. if he is leading everything than can i be more ok with it all ? He has given me no reason to doubt its just a huge change for him and feels rather fast but also feels very right like when you know you just know! (i have said to rent to test it out first to be sure and a few other things so that I dont get caught up in it and also freak out his fear of change). We are both in situations where we are making big changes so it is well timed to do it together but im good with it)
I've proposed we need to go fairly close to where he is (but not same place as i dont want to be in the same town as the ex wife etc) so that he doesn't need to change routine too much, can still spend time with his kids as somewhat normal and am willing to acomodate half way ...
What is my best procedure here for anyone that has dealt with a Taurus Sun Venus in Aries? do you have experience with not following through grandiose plans that never come off etc and am I right to be cautious ? Thanks in advance we are having a big talk about it later this week so just some clarity how to think here is what I am after.
we hit one year this week though a lot was long distance and not really fully committed the whole time- the last 6 months or so upped the ante for us and going away a few times really got us to another level
he is now talking about the future wanting to move in together get (buy) a house together etc etc
the thing though is it involves a LOT of change for him - new area, new routine leaving the home he has lived in for a long time, new life without his kids in the home etc. For me it is a matter of "ok if we do that I do plan a" as to my work living situation etc, if we don't I do plan B but there is a point where a firm decision needs to be made in 6 months tops as I have to know what I am doing workwise with the area I love to especially (big city versus out of the city diff jobs etc) .
i'm concerned/have fears his venus in aries is just going at 1000 miles an hour caught up in being in love and all the crazy things that come with that feeling and he wont actually be able to do it when push comes to shove so im not sure how i am supposed to think as we go along being I have a real time crunch that i dont want to oppose onto him too much (he is aware of the timing and started the whole thing)
I have voiced this to him and said he needs to drive the whole thing due to my concerns and so i know he is going at a pace and plans he can handle especially as a Taurus with change (he is into astrology so i can mention these things to him like that which helps him a lot)
is it possible a Taurus with Venus in Aries can get a bit caught up in the excitement of plans but not be able to follow them through ? I know when Taurus makes a decision it is in stone so I'm not sure which one to go with here if that makes sense caution or certainty. if he is leading everything than can i be more ok with it all ? He has given me no reason to doubt its just a huge change for him and feels rather fast but also feels very right like when you know you just know! (i have said to rent to test it out first to be sure and a few other things so that I dont get caught up in it and also freak out his fear of change). We are both in situations where we are making big changes so it is well timed to do it together but im good with it)
I've proposed we need to go fairly close to where he is (but not same place as i dont want to be in the same town as the ex wife etc) so that he doesn't need to change routine too much, can still spend time with his kids as somewhat normal and am willing to acomodate half way ...
What is my best procedure here for anyone that has dealt with a Taurus Sun Venus in Aries? do you have experience with not following through grandiose plans that never come off etc and am I right to be cautious ? Thanks in advance we are having a big talk about it later this week so just some clarity how to think here is what I am after.
I am a Taurus with a Venus in Aries. I fall in love fast and am impulsive with my emotions. I have this feeling of "I need to do this NOW" and I talk and think very fast, especially with love. I moved cities after one year long distance for a man I ended up being with for 8 years. On first meeting, we spent the whole weekend together and I fell in love at first meeting. In the end, it didn't work. I realized the only thing keeping me in the city was him. I hated everything else about it. He couldn't leave because of his job. We had to part because of how unhappy I was and how I felt like I wasn't living to my full potential, but there were other things too, like the fact that he was constantly working and no longer giving me attention. That's really what you have to worry about with Venus in Aries. Do not let them get bored or they will start finding a way to get out, even if they have a "stable" sun sign like Taurus.
I am also Taurus Sun with Venus in Aries - but I can only speak for me - when I commit, it is a full on commitment ... all my life I can only have one partner at a time, I go all in, I do not cheat, just can't do it - I would rather invest my energy into the relationship. If it ends up it doesn't work, it just doesn't work - most always it was the other person. What are his other placements?
Check his rising, 7th house, and MC...what sign, what planets are there, and do they aspect your stuff.
oh this is so helpful thank you
he has a sag ascendent but he gets to travel for work a lot to get that travel part out of the way and we travel a lot together ..so that can have a bit of a mix with traits of venus in aries I am aware ...hes almost 50 so only so one loses a bit of fire getting older and he loves being at home and has a pretty strong Taurus home routine which is lucky and I am prepared to give him a long leash to feel his way through it at the start as we have a lot of old history before we got together properly - otherwise he is very Taurus - mars, mercury, sun and north node.
he has neptune near the ascendent, but my neptune conjuncts his ascendent also so the dreamy loved up stuff is crazy but also why im cautious rose coloured glassed and all , plus my vertex conjuncts his ascendent within one degree which is the thing you can really feel!
thanks again i feel a lot more confident reading this !!
he has a sag ascendent but he gets to travel for work a lot to get that travel part out of the way and we travel a lot together ..so that can have a bit of a mix with traits of venus in aries I am aware ...hes almost 50 so only so one loses a bit of fire getting older and he loves being at home and has a pretty strong Taurus home routine which is lucky and I am prepared to give him a long leash to feel his way through it at the start as we have a lot of old history before we got together properly - otherwise he is very Taurus - mars, mercury, sun and north node.
he has neptune near the ascendent, but my neptune conjuncts his ascendent also so the dreamy loved up stuff is crazy but also why im cautious rose coloured glassed and all , plus my vertex conjuncts his ascendent within one degree which is the thing you can really feel!
thanks again i feel a lot more confident reading this !!
From my experience, Venus in Aries is full frontal and then they come to a sudden halt when something goes awry. I think your concerns and precautions are reasonable and I would definitely try to make the changes as minimal as possible and in his favor, (allowing it to work for you too). Because Taurus is stubborn and if it's too much change they didn't forsee, the dig their heels.
Posted by NevermoreDang!
I know a pisces who has aries venus that within a week of getting to know each other already have a bf and 6 months later already moved in.
cyber hugs! Love,
Eva
My fella is Taurus Sun with Aries Venus. Leo rising and moon, Aries mercury, and Cap mars.
We met over 18 months ago. He's now 46. I'm 37. He was keen on me as soon as he saw my picture on the dating app POF. He pursued me and was always clear with his intentions. I never found him smothering or full of shit. He said what he meant and meant what he said. He knew he wanted to be with me although if I'd have turned out to be an idiot or not compatible then he wouldn't have stuck around of course.
He was keen to meet more than once a week at first but I was unsure and still dating as I wanted to take my time.
Fast forward 18 months and he's moved in with me, technically he moved in four months ago while he was finishing his place off, he's now renting out his place as of 1st Sept. he knew from the start that he wanted a long term relationship with a view to living together, marriage, possibly kids. Because he knew this he was already part way there. He just had to find the right lady! He's not been married before, and no kids.
He's been forward with his intentions without being pushy. It's actually me who fills in the details and supports him with his plans. He's not so great on the plans or practicalities. I'm certainly more logical than him. For example, for ages he has said about setting up a savings account so we can transfer money each month into it for holidays etc. Not big sums but he likes the idea of it, another tie to me. However, I don't see the point because if only have to transfer it out as I use certain cards for making bookings etc.
Along with the change of residence, which brings him about a 40 minute drive away from his plus an additional 40 minute drive away from his parents, he's also got an hours commute to work. It does t bother him, the drive or the change. It was his decision. Ultimately, had we not moved in then what would be the point of being together?
In addition to the move, he's potentially got a new job which he could take which is only s20 minute easy commute. Honestly, it's a super move but he's been at his place for 12 years and although it's shit, and I mean shit, he doesn't want to change. He didn't even want to move branch to be down the road from where we now live. This new job though is worth changing for. He knows it. I don't think he has a major problem with change. If anything, his slower or more steady approach ensures he doesn't make quick decisions based on poor reasoning. If he takes too long then I give him a boot up the arse! I'm showing him the accounts of the new company to show him they can pay him more than just settling for the same money. It's up to him how he wants to go about negotiating but if I can help and show him things then it can ease the change for him.
I don't think Venus Aries in your guy sounds bad. I think the issue is with you OP in that you're worried, insecurities that things may go bad etc is making you feel worse but I think you are right to put some brakes on and to go at your pace too. This guy is old enough to make his life decisions so I think if you have history together then trust him to decide. I don't know how my fella knew I was the one for him... it must have been the tits or the legs in the photos! Ha ha! Actually it was the nose... he has a thing for noses.
Go with it at your pace.
We met over 18 months ago. He's now 46. I'm 37. He was keen on me as soon as he saw my picture on the dating app POF. He pursued me and was always clear with his intentions. I never found him smothering or full of shit. He said what he meant and meant what he said. He knew he wanted to be with me although if I'd have turned out to be an idiot or not compatible then he wouldn't have stuck around of course.
He was keen to meet more than once a week at first but I was unsure and still dating as I wanted to take my time.
Fast forward 18 months and he's moved in with me, technically he moved in four months ago while he was finishing his place off, he's now renting out his place as of 1st Sept. he knew from the start that he wanted a long term relationship with a view to living together, marriage, possibly kids. Because he knew this he was already part way there. He just had to find the right lady! He's not been married before, and no kids.
He's been forward with his intentions without being pushy. It's actually me who fills in the details and supports him with his plans. He's not so great on the plans or practicalities. I'm certainly more logical than him. For example, for ages he has said about setting up a savings account so we can transfer money each month into it for holidays etc. Not big sums but he likes the idea of it, another tie to me. However, I don't see the point because if only have to transfer it out as I use certain cards for making bookings etc.
Along with the change of residence, which brings him about a 40 minute drive away from his plus an additional 40 minute drive away from his parents, he's also got an hours commute to work. It does t bother him, the drive or the change. It was his decision. Ultimately, had we not moved in then what would be the point of being together?
In addition to the move, he's potentially got a new job which he could take which is only s20 minute easy commute. Honestly, it's a super move but he's been at his place for 12 years and although it's shit, and I mean shit, he doesn't want to change. He didn't even want to move branch to be down the road from where we now live. This new job though is worth changing for. He knows it. I don't think he has a major problem with change. If anything, his slower or more steady approach ensures he doesn't make quick decisions based on poor reasoning. If he takes too long then I give him a boot up the arse! I'm showing him the accounts of the new company to show him they can pay him more than just settling for the same money. It's up to him how he wants to go about negotiating but if I can help and show him things then it can ease the change for him.
I don't think Venus Aries in your guy sounds bad. I think the issue is with you OP in that you're worried, insecurities that things may go bad etc is making you feel worse but I think you are right to put some brakes on and to go at your pace too. This guy is old enough to make his life decisions so I think if you have history together then trust him to decide. I don't know how my fella knew I was the one for him... it must have been the tits or the legs in the photos! Ha ha! Actually it was the nose... he has a thing for noses.
Go with it at your pace.
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