Taurus Woman -- Disappearing More Often Now

I have read a gamut of opinions on this topic. My Taurus used to NEVER disappear unless she was at work. that was the only time she would turn off her phone when she wasn't around me.

Her birthday is on Monday and she said she had a lot of things to do without specifying what. She claims she wanted to watch a movie with me but she isn't sure she has the time (wth? this is new and sketchy).

Last night she offered to sneak me into her parent's place and then offered to pay for an Uber, both solid signs of Taurean love. Then she didn't wish me a good night so i didn't bother to either. THen this morning she is texting me up a storm and sending selfie after selfie. After around noon, she has since disappeared and I have no idea where she is for the last 4h.

This is the third time this week. Should I be concerned? We had our first big fight last week and she removed all of her things from my place yet wanted to meet me either last night or tonight for food (huge deal giving full evening availability for a weekend). She claimed without asking that Monday and Tuesday evening she was at home due to the really bad weather, which can be justified out of nowhere but had stopped talking to me also for a 4h-6h block of time. Last night she complained about having my arm around her (a first!) being uncomfortable but was OK with me holding both of her hands.

I don't like how it seems like she is reluctant to spend time alone with me anymore. Is this finished with me after a single fight??

Well you do sound very pieces. Check your feelings. I’m not Taurus so probably shouldn’t advise. But seems like typical testing to me. Don’t be a jerk, but don’t be a pushover either, don’t try to control her and always give her the benefit of the doubt. Don’t show insecurity. 6h no contact is nothing. Respect what she wants. Go at her pace, or you will lose her. And never bring up the argument again, never revisit the past like that. The arm thing will be that she doesn’t want to be controlled, relax, you don’t need to have your arm round her. Don’t give up on her by saying it’s over either, have more confidence, or you will kill it all by yourself.

6h contact is nothing? I have seen girls dumped and guys freaking out over as little as 2h.

If someone cannot reply to a text/FB message within an hour, they clearly aren't that interested in speaking to you in the first place! 🙂

She can go at her pace but if she isn't happy with being touched, there is usually bigger problems at play. I know she has difficulties expressing herself and what is making her unhappy and then she wonders why the guys do things she disapproves of?

I don't think resting an arm on someone's shoulder is a sign of a controlling person. She never had a problem leaning on my arm before.

I have plenty of confidence but she should know how to behave and what is appropriate in a relationship as she has been in relationships before. 🙂

What experience do you have to be giving this advice? I have 7+ years of relationship experience and know the behaviours I have written about the last few weeks are bad news. Someone shouldn't have problems explaining if they are upset to their bf/gf. 🙂

I think if you have a gut feeling then you will know, as I can only go off what you’ve written in here, but there will always be subconcious messages given off which can’t be explained, so if you have a gut feeling then you could be right. I just think being positive is still the best way. If you notice something she doesn’t like then why would you want to do it again? I think there is actually a huge difference between leaning on someone’s arm and having an arm round you. Sometimes it takes a while for women to open up, and usually a woman’s behaviour changes too. I think it could be a test, if you chase her too much, she might find you possessive, but go with your gut.