Taurus Woman is my dream but I don't understand her

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SouthernLeo1970
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First I hope everyone had a great holiday and is looking forward to the New Year..

So I have been dating my Taurus woman for several months now and she is for the most part a dream come true. So feminine--beautiful--dresses to impress--smells so good and keeps her home immaculate clean! And our sex life is phenomenal! She is older than me but has young woman energy in bed!!! Amazing!!!

The problems are that my ex-wife (Pisces) left me to take care of my children (now 7 and 9) after her ex "got out". If you've seen that movie De Lovely with Sean Penn and his wife and John Travolta...well I'm John Travolta!! I was crushed and stayed single 2 years and didn't start dating until my Taurus now.

My Taurus woman knew that I have my children when we started dating and they adore her..but she is HIGHLY UPSET because she says that I am too soft on my ex-wife. She wants me to make her do more for the children and it is consuming her. She says that she shouldn't have started the relationship with someone that has children because she doesn't want to be a mother again as hers are grown (as I mentioned shes a little older than me).

Not only is that confusing to me now that we are in the relationship she keeps hinting on me marrying her and wants to give insight on how I spend my money. I thought Taurus women moved slow? She also asked me to add her on Facebook which I did..she went through all of my page down to the history and asked me about females in my friend list. I told her everything she wanted to know because she said "no secrets"..but when I tried to look at her Facebook and liked a picture of her and asked her if that was an ex of hers in a photo because it was nice -- SHE BLOCKED ME! I'm like? WHAT—!!!

She said I was getting nosey. I'm like you just went through my history and I answered every question and because when I ask.."I'm nosey". Ok so why I am really on her asking other Taurus women for advice...last night I was to meet my exwife for my children's Christmas presents (yes.I know its been days after the holiday..)..she did not buy what she was suppose to for the children. I didn't want to disappoint them further because they had already been waiting for their gifts so I bought them the gift she was suppose to have given. I told my Taurus lady and ALL HELL BROKE LOOSE!

You're weak..you're too soft. You let her get away with too much! I'm used to stronger men. I have to call someone. Call me later. Then she hung up on me. I didn't call her back last night and she called me and left a text message to call her and I haven't responded. I REALLY want to be with this woman because of what I wrote above but I'm not sure what to do. Someone said just ignore her and give her some space because I've been too nice to her and she is taking me for granted but that was a Virgo friend so I wanted advice from other Tauruses. Thanks all.

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SouthernLeo1970
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Posted by TaurusBull1977
Your thread is very similar to a thread created by a Virgo on this forum.

I can't stress this enough...

A Bullette linked to a weak man...is the worst type of Bullette you can attract.

Expect to be John Travolta's character twice in your lifetime.

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Wow..so I'm just weak huh? Because I take care of my children when their mom doesn't care about them or me anymore? I've been looking at some of your posts TaurusBull1977 and I was really looking forward to your insight on this...now I'm just floored and disappointed.
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Taking care of your children signifies strength...

Allowing a woman to walk all over you without you defending yourself signifies weakness

See the difference?

Any woman who embraces you should 'embrace' your children.

Any woman who plays the double standard card, "I can have male friends" but you can not have "female friends" needs to get over herself and kick rocks.

The saddest thing...because your Pisces ex was such a self-absorbed b&tch who put a loser before her own family, you would never learn to understand the sacrifice a woman will make for the man that she loves.

This is why you think this Bull is a step up.

But she's not. She's the same. Just packaged differently. Nice perfume, immaculate house, great sex, etc...

She is just as selfish.

I will give you the same advice I gave the Virgo.

Ignore her, she's not worth it.
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Posted by TaurusBull1977
Taking care of your children signifies strength...

Allowing a woman to walk all over you without you defending yourself signifies weakness

See the difference?

Any woman who embraces you should 'embrace' your children.

Any woman who plays the double standard card, "I can have male friends" but you can not have "female friends" needs to get over herself and kick rocks.

The saddest thing...because your Pisces ex was such a self-absorbed b&tch who put a loser before her own family, you would never learn to understand the sacrifice a woman will make for the man that she loves.

This is why you think this Bull is a step up.

But she's not. She's the same. Just packaged differently. Nice perfume, immaculate house, great sex, etc...

She is just as selfish.

I will give you the same advice I gave the Virgo.

Ignore her, she's not worth it.
BAM!

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If you're looking for astrological advice,

Here it is....

Megan Fox was only 18 years of age and played stepmom to Brian Austin Green's son.

Janet Jackson embraced Jermaine Dupri's daughter, and they have a great relationship.

Tahiry was a ride or die chick for Joe Budden when he was broke, and also assume the role of stepmom.

All women are Bulls.

There is nothing in the world that we won't do for the men that we love.

Single fathers are sexy.

It shows patriarch attributes such as great provider, responsibility, selflessness, and compassion.

However,

Never allow a woman to tell you who YOU are!

If you can't defend yourself,at least defend your children.

Try surrounding them with women are actually maternal, and not looking out for themselves.
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Posted by TaurusBull1977
This is why you think this Bull is a step up.

But she's not. She's the same. Just packaged differently. Nice perfume, immaculate house, great sex, etc...

She is just as selfish.

I will give you the same advice I gave the Virgo.

Ignore her, she's not worth it.
this is interesting. i once read that many divorced people will find partners very similar to those they left. it's their pattern. it's the same person over and over that both attracts and repels them.

anyway op, she sounds very similar to a taurus woman that i know. she's utterly hideous. i would save yourself a lot of heartache and let this one go. you'll never live up to her requirements and you'll kill yourself trying.
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granted it is difficult dealing with a crazy other parent and a new relationship and/or marriage - I've seen my son go through it

a lot of times things are done just to keep the peace for the children's sake which I can sometimes agree on and then other times, it's like well - they need to know the real story if they don't already know

but in general I agree with the above

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Posted by TaurusBull1977
Taking care of your children signifies strength...

Allowing a woman to walk all over you without you defending yourself signifies weakness

See the difference?

Any woman who embraces you should 'embrace' your children.

Any woman who plays the double standard card, "I can have male friends" but you can not have "female friends" needs to get over herself and kick rocks.

The saddest thing...because your Pisces ex was such a self-absorbed b&tch who put a loser before her own family, you would never learn to understand the sacrifice a woman will make for the man that she loves.

This is why you think this Bull is a step up.

But she's not. She's the same. Just packaged differently. Nice perfume, immaculate house, great sex, etc...

She is just as selfish.

I will give you the same advice I gave the Virgo.

Ignore her, she's not worth it.


Thanks. I was afraid of this. She is so perfect otherwise. My mom was a Taurus and she is just as strong and proud. I really want her to be the one.

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Posted by SouthernLeo1970


It was perfect for me and my two brothers. She was the ideal homemaker. She passed away and I miss her dearly.


I am sorry to hear that.

Perhaps, you may have mistook some of this Taurus' traits to be synonymous with your Mom's characteristics.

The difference?

This Taurus woman is trying to work that 'ring' (trying to persuade you to marry her despite her hidden motives) while exuding all the negative traits of a Bull... selfishness, greediness, self-centered, hypocritical

Your mother did this because she loved you all, and she embodied all the positive traits of a Bull...selflessness, maternal, protective, kind, and generous...strength

A Bull with 'strength' can pretty much handle and take on anything.

Just ask the other Bulls on this forum.
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Posted by SouthernLeo1970


It was perfect for me and my two brothers. She was the ideal homemaker. She passed away and I miss her dearly.


I am sorry to hear that.

Perhaps, you may have mistook some of this Taurus' traits to be synonymous with your Mom's characteristics.

The difference?

This Taurus woman is trying to work that 'ring' (trying to persuade you to marry her despite her hidden motives) while exuding all the negative traits of a Bull... selfishness, greediness, self-centered, hypocritical

Your mother did this because she loved you all, and she embodied all the positive traits of a Bull...selflessness, maternal, protective, kind, and generous...strength

A Bull with 'strength' can pretty much handle and take on anything.

Just ask the other Bulls on this forum.

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You're right. I get glimpses of the positive..but mostly the negative as of late.

Not sure what her hidden motives are and that is so confusing.I have a decent career but not rolling in money so not sure why she wants to control it. Her mixed signals are mind boggling.

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Her hidden motives?

She wants control.

Over you...

Your finances

Your friends

Your relationship with your ex



While offering you nothing in return.

The coldness disposition is who she really is....the lovey dovey charm she kicks out is a farce.

Try this...

Tell her that you have no intentions of remarrying.

Tell her that you're fine with the way things are. Her children are grown. Your children already have both parents, and she does not have to be factored into your children's lives.

Why get married?



See what she tells you.
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Posted by TaurusBull1977
Her hidden motives?

She wants control.

Over you...

Your finances

Your friends

Your relationship with your ex



While offering you nothing in return.

The coldness disposition is who she really is....the lovey dovey charm she kicks out is a farce.

Try this...

Tell her that you have no intentions of remarrying.

Tell her that you're fine with the way things are. Her children are grown. Your children already have both parents, and she does not have to be factored into your children's lives.

Why get married?



See what she tells you.
Ok..that sounds like playing with fire but I will.

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Posted by TaurusBull1977
What did I tell you....
Maybe I'm in shock but I strangely don't feel so bad about it. She told me that she needed someone that would listen to her and not cause her so much stress. She said she was unhappy and a Leo never wants to hear that. She said we should break up now and I said I agree and that was it. Single again..not sure another Taurus is in the cards...ever.........
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Aquarius woman here...who is close to a Taurus man. For the record..i am older with a grown child and he is younger with small children (your story in reverse). Now I can't emphasise this enough.... @TaurusBull1977 is right and so on the money it is mind blowing. She is NOT the one.... walk away. Aquarius/Taurus relationships are tricky at the best of times ... for it to work you have to sync...you guys don't...not even remotely. Find someone else.... and stop putting up with your exes piscean bullbutter..... she needs a slapping too (for the sake of your kids)
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Posted by SouthernLeo1970
she just sent me like 12 text messages saying that shes sorry..oh man.


Don’t be a fucking idiot and believe her. The ‘hard’ part of breaking up with her wasn’t so hard after all. You felt relief because you know it’s the right thing. Think of this ‘clean break’ from her as your Christmas present from Santa! If you were to get back involved with her then breaking it off next time will not be so easy. Imagine: the next 30 years with her... it doesn’t look good, does it?

The advice on here from all is spot on. I’ve only just read your post but from the first one I thought she was a sociopath. Certainly controlling, selfish, unaccepting. Are these qualities you actively look for in a partner? No. She may present herself in a nice package and you may think she’s perfect in every way except for... all the ways she’s not perfect and all the ways she’s basically just a bit of a nasty c*nt.

Eight BILLION people on the planet... she’s not the one... find another one...
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Posted by SouthernLeo1970
she just sent me like 12 text messages saying that shes sorry..oh man.
She is in the state of shock that you actually developed a backbone.



Stick to your guns

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For the first time in my life I just actually BLOCKED someone from calling me or texting me again. I hope Sprint holds up. I don't know what I was thinking. I think may have mommy issues when it comes to Taurus women.

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she just sent me like 12 text messages saying that shes sorry..oh man.


Don’t be a fucking idiot and believe her. The ‘hard’ part of breaking up with her wasn’t so hard after all. You felt relief because you know it’s the right thing. Think of this ‘clean break’ from her as your Christmas present from Santa! If you were to get back involved with her then breaking it off next time will not be so easy. Imagine: the next 30 years with her... it doesn’t look good, does it?

The advice on here from all is spot on. I’ve only just read your post but from the first one I thought she was a sociopath. Certainly controlling, selfish, unaccepting. Are these qualities you actively look for in a partner? No. She may present herself in a nice package and you may think she’s perfect in every way except for... all the ways she’s not perfect and all the ways she’s basically just a bit of a nasty c*nt.

Eight BILLION people on the planet... she’s not the one... find another one...
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You're so right about her being a sociopath...I had to block her because she kept texting me. Now I don't get any texts and it goes straight to voicemail when she calls.

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Posted by TaurusBull1977
Ask yourself this John Travolta,



Why do you attract selfish women?
Leos cant keep their ego in check so they chase people who dont want them, because they cant handle rejection

They stay pining for love from people who are mean to them 😁
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Heyyy..lol. You are correct for the most part as I do chase women but I don't like mean ones. This Taurus is being mean to me now so I'm backing away easily. The Pisces (my exwife) knows how to bat her eyelashes and keep me helping her I have to stop that. I'm still a little hurt by her too.

UPDATE on the TAURUS: 84 text messages and 4 blocked phone calls. I could listen to her messages but I don't wanna. (too scared)

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Posted by TaurusBull1977
What did I tell you....
Maybe I'm in shock but I strangely don't feel so bad about it. She told me that she needed someone that would listen to her and not cause her so much stress. She said she was unhappy and a Leo never wants to hear that. She said we should break up now and I said I agree and that was it. Single again..not sure another Taurus is in the cards...ever.........
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Good riddance
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Posted by halalbae
Posted by TaurusBull1977
Ask yourself this John Travolta,



Why do you attract selfish women?
Leos cant keep their ego in check so they chase people who dont want them, because they cant handle rejection

They stay pining for love from people who are mean to them 😁
Heyyy..lol. You are correct for the most part as I do chase women but I don't like mean ones. This Taurus is being mean to me now so I'm backing away easily. The Pisces (my exwife) knows how to bat her eyelashes and keep me helping her I have to stop that. I'm still a little hurt by her too.

UPDATE on the TAURUS: 84 text messages and 4 blocked phone calls. I could listen to her messages but I don't wanna. (too scared)

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Just read the whole story.

Omg she sounds so crazy. Please don’t answer any of her phone calls.

And she broke up with you? Talking all her smack. Smh.

Crazy.
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Posted by SouthernLeo1970
UPDATE: I gave in and called her. She asked me if something was wrong with my phone and I told her that I was working (which I am). She was cold at first but got all lovey dovey and asked me when I was coming over. Just don't know what to do. She has me hooked.
Ok dear man. There are several things I see going on regardless of signs.

But before everything I would ask if you can sit down with her and tell her you like her and would be with her however ask her how she sees your relationships with kids to make her happy?

Does woman will make a man to abandon his kids and pay alimony and forget they exists?

If so...she will do the same for you if god forbid you fell sick or need her help.

Great body? Shallow mind. Of course sex is now clouding your judgement but think!

Letting her see your FB and her refusing you to see hers - she has you by the throat! You will marry her and as soon as you are hers - sex will be given in exchange for favors. You will beg for her body and she will withhold. You will be dying wondering why you had done it!

I am so sorry for you. You are in love and you are a good man but now you thinking with your lower part of the body!

Refuse her. And see what will happen.

She already showing you hell getting loose! And she isn’t even your...anybody!

Shark woman. You can’t afford that!

One more - I supposed you are financially well off...we should had started from it.

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One more - I supposed you are financially well off...we should had started from it.


I hope to go over 5 figures next year..We get by ok me and the kids.

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The reason I’ve asked - she would never go for you if you weren’t well off financially.

You taking care of kids viewed by her as you wasting HER money on some other people no matter who they are and if they are your CHILDREN - they are still the enemies! That’s why she is raising hell!

Your soft nature that have responsibilities will be crashed by her. You are a prey!

She is a hunter!

Dear man! Please run. Weight all that had happened while you’ve met her.

With your fathers brain, not the other brain. You can’t afford having small kids and shark woman! You’ll end up mental case. I’ve seen it! Happens to the best of you! Please don’t...
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Wow..didn't think of it that way with the children. She did ask me a lot about how I spend for their school supplies and football uniforms and things..she said that I could get them cheaper. I just thought she was helping but now I see it as you and others are pointing out.

She stopped calling me and tried to call my best friend instead who told her that I had blocked her and was not interested. Maybe I'm done with her and can move on to the New Year 🙂
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The real question is... could you see her being a good mother to your small children?

We all clearly know the answer to that.

You are in a position in your life where it can’t be just about how you feel about a person anymore. You have other people ppl to think about as well. And they come before you.

I’m not saying go out and pick a women solely because she will be a good mother like figure for your kids. I’m saying that your kids needs are equally as important as your needs when it comes to picking the women you date.

Speaking from personal experience, my stepmother figure and the type of woman she was had more of an impact on me than the fact that my parents were no longer together. She wasn’t the most pleasant woman to be around. And that’s tuff for a young kid.

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Posted by SouthernLeo1970
Wow..didn't think of it that way with the children. She did ask me a lot about how I spend for their school supplies and football uniforms and things..she said that I could get them cheaper. I just thought she was helping but now I see it as you and others are pointing out.

She stopped calling me and tried to call my best friend instead who told her that I had blocked her and was not interested. Maybe I'm done with her and can move on to the New Year 🙂


She shouldn’t be with someone who has kids. She probably shouldn’t be with anyone at all but certainly not someone with kids. She’d already mentioned or had reservations about it - so your initial post said. Some people just don’t suit being with someone who already has kids. It’s just how it is. Gem is right with how she might be viewing the money thing. It would have only got worse too.

Glad you blocked her but be prepared for her/you not moving on so easily. Your other post suggests you think just blocking her number will suffice and then you can just live happily ever after. You can see she’s already turned psycho with over 80 texts and also voicemails. Then she upped it by calling your friend. She could get worse. It could take a while. Please keep your backbone in place!
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Thanks guys..she scared me last night with a voice mail screaming to not "shut her out" among other things..I remember the person that mentioned her possibly being suicidal and I didn't want her to hurt herself so I send her a simple text just asking her if she is ok.

She responded with "why did you block me?" I said that she hurt me by calling me soft and I needed some space. After that I told her good night and she stopped responding and has been quiet ever since. Hopefully I cooled the fire and she is just mad now and not hysterical. She really scared me. 😢 Yes, Leos care.
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Posted by SouthernLeo1970
Thanks guys..she scared me last night with a voice mail screaming to not "shut her out" among other things..I remember the person that mentioned her possibly being suicidal and I didn't want her to hurt herself so I send her a simple text just asking her if she is ok.

She responded with "why did you block me?" I said that she hurt me by calling me soft and I needed some space. After that I told her good night and she stopped responding and has been quiet ever since. Hopefully I cooled the fire and she is just mad now and not hysterical. She really scared me. 😢 Yes, Leos care.
It's good happened this way, be happy for it. Later on with a kid with her together wouldn't be so easy to walk away. Some woman just like this. Nice presentation, you falling then they turn to psycho. Some of them have serious personality disorder from underlying genetics, others just simply nuts by definition. You re blessed I am telling you, it's still was in time.

Oh yes. Don't eat her acting, I seen this before. Turning mental, suicide tendency etc. All just a show to pressure you and make you guilty and confuse you. If she gain any control over you, you fucked my friend. Make sure you know what you re doing, do not get back or contact her
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