This Guy😍😍

This topic was created in the Taurus forum by DeeLovesRed on Friday, November 16, 2018 and has 4 replies.
I’ve been talking to Mr.Bull for a while now. We’ve encountered our first road bump and we’ve handled it pretty well. However, I don’t know why I feel like he’s rushing things.

Like I’ve explained to him many times that I just want to go with the flow of things. I don’t want to rush or label anything yet especially with coming out of my past relationships..

Idk, maybe it’s either his Leo moon (rushing), Aries Venus (rushing) or Cap Ascendant (rushing to ground us)

Any advice on what I should say to him without hurting him?

Btw, I really like him and I don’t want to lose him to rushing things.. I just feel like we wouldn’t have any more zeal for each other if we rush now..
Have you taken sufficient time to heal after your previous relationship ended? A lot of people tend to jump from one to another. They think they have taken time to heal but in reality they have not. They think they are ready but they are not emotionally available. It's not always clear to people so be honest with yourself. If you're not ready to embark upon another relationship then perhaps you should not be engaging with people in the dating world. That said, there's not much info offered in your post so not much to go on.

For him, from what you've said, he sounds clear with what he is looking for. If he's looking for a relationship and feels he'd like to date you to see if you match then he's likely to be direct and tell you this.

The problem arises because both of you do not match with what you are looking for. He wants something real, to build and move with his life whereas you want to only dip your toe in while keeping the other foot out the door. It's unfair to want to keep him warm and dangling while you figure out what you want.

My fella is Taurus with Aries venus and Leo moon. He was very keen and direct with what he wanted and not uncomfortably so. For me, I was ready for a relationship but I still wanted to take it slow so I could move through the dating process. He was keen to meet up and would have preferred to meet more often than one date per week initially but we had daily contact. I simply told him I was available on X day but had other things to do for the other days. It allowed me to pace dating without jumping in, and being polite about it. He wanted to see me so he was fine with that.

More info here is needed please. Have you actually met in person?

What is it exactly that makes you feel rushed?

What is troubling you from previous relationships?

What do you want now?
Posted by AgentP911

Have you taken sufficient time to heal after your previous relationship ended? A lot of people tend to jump from one to another. They think they have taken time to heal but in reality they have not. They think they are ready but they are not emotionally available. It's not always clear to people so be honest with yourself. If you're not ready to embark upon another relationship then perhaps you should not be engaging with people in the dating world. That said, there's not much info offered in your post so not much to go on.

For him, from what you've said, he sounds clear with what he is looking for. If he's looking for a relationship and feels he'd like to date you to see if you match then he's likely to be direct and tell you this.

The problem arises because both of you do not match with what you are looking for. He wants something real, to build and move with his life whereas you want to only dip your toe in while keeping the other foot out the door. It's unfair to want to keep him warm and dangling while you figure out what you want.

My fella is Taurus with Aries venus and Leo moon. He was very keen and direct with what he wanted and not uncomfortably so. For me, I was ready for a relationship but I still wanted to take it slow so I could move through the dating process. He was keen to meet up and would have preferred to meet more often than one date per week initially but we had daily contact. I simply told him I was available on X day but had other things to do for the other days. It allowed me to pace dating without jumping in, and being polite about it. He wanted to see me so he was fine with that.

More info here is needed please. Have you actually met in person?

What is it exactly that makes you feel rushed?

What is troubling you from previous relationships?

What do you want now?
I have taken time to heal. It has been a long time since my breakup. However, even with my healing I just feel like I just want to go slow with things. One lesson I've learned from my last relationship is to let the relationship guide itself. If this is where WE’RE meant to be, then it’ll reveal that.

Also, I don’t want to have one foot in and one foot out. I just don’t want us to speed things up... because I just feel like:

a) The fast pace which we’re going at is making me a little uncomfortable

b) If we rush things, then later on will we have much excitement and zeal left?

Yes, we’ve met in person. We’re to the point of sleeping at each others homes. Certain things that he does rubs me as him rushing. For instance, like he’ll say “Why live separate, let’s just move in with each other?” OR “How long should we wait to get married?”

Like... SLOW DOWNNN.... I just don’t want us to end up like my past. I want us to take things slow and see what direction the relationship heads in b/c I really, really like him.
Cap ac is a wonderful placement. Fire Venus and moon forsure can rush things. Just tell him slow down.