Understanding a Taurus moon woman

This topic was created in the Taurus Moon forum by Jhene on Thursday, September 15, 2016 and has 15 replies.
As the topic states. I would like some insights on how a Taurus moon woman deals with stress, disappointment with success, space etc. I have been with a Taurus moon Leo female for over 3yrs and she tends to cut the world off without a moments notice at times.

I know one of her biggest issues is having to work for people vs having her own business aND she belive times agains her. I hate when she compares herself to me and feels less than worthy.

She recently ask for space again the last time was 4mths ago, where she totally iced me out. Talking to her during these times is like two strangers that has no relation. I believe space is good and healthy for every relationship however for me security is a huge thing if I don't know where I stand with you its a major issue.

I normally post in the Leo board and it's my first here. Most her other placements is cancer
For me if Im stressed out I need space and quiet me-time. I need to figure things out in my head and pushing me won't work. A taurus won't budge lol!!

Maybe ask her what her intentions are with you? Be direct. She might say she needs some time to think but will give you an honest answer.
As a Taurus moon I'm going through something similar.

I'm choosing to focus on my career because it's a big part of what helps me feel stable and content. Without stability there I cannot be the person I want to be to a lover , friend etc

So yea, I've become sort of a loner to focus. As a Taurus moon I find that I can have tunnel vision on one thing and it's hard to do my best if I have other focuses. I know that's bad, I try to find a balance.

This is probably where your girlfriend is. She may have chosen to focus on her career bc she personally doesn't feel stable without that part being ok so she cannot be the girlfriend you need right now. Despite this, if I was in a relationship i wouldn't go so far to ice that person out. The only reason I could see her icing you out is if she feel threatened by you and your career or that you are not being supportive of her. She may feel she cannot confide in you during these times.

Talk it out with her to get to the bottom of it.
Cap moon and Taurus moon understand space and independent life style with nice company added to it whenever possible. Comfort Inn with gourmet food waiting.
I haven't seen a Taurus moon detach but I have and I was questioned about it. I said I am not just I stay to myself alot and don't worry I'll be back soon. Pick up where things left hopefully people do have mood swings and know not to take it personal.
Posted by Aliensusedourbogroll
She might feel you'll eventually leave her because of her (all in her head) inferiority. Those cancer placements can lead to insecurity. Your gonna have to show her you have staying power and you're not going anywhere.
Actually, she has stated this before. But I don't run away easily and i have made this extremely clear yet at the same time she asks why? why stick around for all the stress etc. I just tell her deal with it don't you want someone who accepts you are your worst as well as your best? then i tell her to get over herself and she snaps out of it.. well for awhile
Posted by Impulsv
After three years though

She going have to set boundaries that she can't run away when life gets tough n how incredibly hurtful it is to her
I recently sat with her and spoke about this. That I can't handle the flip flop and she has come around. I will, however, give her breathing space. we both do out own individual activities hangout with friends etc without having to be around each other all the time like we normally do. Funny enough she expressed that since I have to give her space I feel distant to her and I informed her, no I just going with the flow I don't want to impose on her.
Posted by aNEWday
As a Taurus moon I'm going through something similar.

I'm choosing to focus on my career because it's a big part of what helps me feel stable and content. Without stability there I cannot be the person I want to be to a lover , friend etc

So yea, I've become sort of a loner to focus. As a Taurus moon I find that I can have tunnel vision on one thing and it's hard to do my best if I have other focuses. I know that's bad, I try to find a balance.

This is probably where your girlfriend is. She may have chosen to focus on her career bc she personally doesn't feel stable without that part being ok so she cannot be the girlfriend you need right now. Despite this, if I was in a relationship i wouldn't go so far to ice that person out. The only reason I could see her icing you out is if she feel threatened by you and your career or that you are not being supportive of her. She may feel she cannot confide in you during these times.

Talk it out with her to get to the bottom of it.
She has expressed she doesn't see why I'm with her based on where I am at in my life vs her. And I constantly tell her to stop the comparison. I'm with her because I want to be and told her the exactly what she does for me. But she does knock me down in other ways. I know it's not intentional but I makes me feel withdrawn and insecure. she keeps drill we have a communications issue yet I make all these attempts and try improve it. I talk more, write etc but yet same complaints over and over. I even ask can you make a suggestion or state exactly what instead of constantly knocking me.

ok yea I have a complex now

Posted by Koniuchaa
OP, have you mentioned any of this to her? I am a Cancer moon too, so I get it. Relationships are important to me and I fight for them, but not if the other person is just taking off when they feel stressed. That is not a serious relationship.
Yea I have countless times. And it seems to be getting worst. I know a lot of her actions has nothing to do with me personally , it's her personal issues and I get caught in the mix because of im with her. Sometimes I get so confused as to what she needs, I give her space then she feels uneasy asking me about anything. I just don't know how to communicate with her.
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Posted by Aliensusedourbogroll
She might feel you'll eventually leave her because of her (all in her head) inferiority. Those cancer placements can lead to insecurity. Your gonna have to show her you have staying power and you're not going anywhere.
According to the OP's story, the Taurus moon woman is the one that keeps taking off.

We all have stress in our lives.


Yeah I know it's the Taurus moon woman taking off. I'm just saying Taurus moon likes stability but her cancer placements could be playing with her head and causing insecurity (could be the reason why she feels inferior) so she's not feeling the stability with the OP.

Yes I know we all have stress in our lives. Don't think I'm condoning her actions, I'm just trying to find an explanation. I think not speaking to a SO for that length of time is hurtful and unproductive.

On a further note I just reread the OP. If this has been happening for 3 years I doubt there's anything the OP can do or say to make the girlfriend feel secure by now. She clearly has deep insecurity issues. I reckon the best thing the OP can do is try to convince her to get therapy for her insecurity (and maybe depression. Lack of contact, especially for long periods of time, is a sign of depression). If she won't do that then OP has to think long and hard about wether she wants to continue this merry go round.
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she does suffer from depression. I have mention it but she gets mad at the thought. Alot of her issues comes from her dad he truly messed with her mentally.
Posted by Aliensusedourbogroll
How does she knock you down?
She doesnt intentionally we I dont think so. she would complain about how I have that I intimidate people. she says i have a strong presence that just commands respect and she sees that will the people around me. I keep telling her im not trying to, I realy dont care what people do. she states she knows but when people run jokes it would get to her ( i think she had a issue with dominance or something) I care nothing for control especially over people. But I have become very conscious of this.

Then she states there's a communication issue with us. Every little thing, it could be something so simple she blows up saying that. She has a problem with active listen but I don't drill in her head , I would make suggestions or I would repeat myself a lot to ensure she hears. This is one of the most draining things and it really frustrates me. This honestly even affects me at work I get so conscious of how I speak and write. I hate overthinking because I'm very critical. I want to speak to her about this today i just dont even know where to start.
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Posted by Aliensusedourbogroll
How does she knock you down?
She doesnt intentionally we I dont think so. she would complain about how I have that I intimidate people. she says i have a strong presence that just commands respect and she sees that will the people around me. I keep telling her im not trying to, I realy dont care what people do. she states she knows but when people run jokes it would get to her ( i think she had a issue with dominance or something) I care nothing for control especially over people. But I have become very conscious of this.

Then she states there's a communication issue with us. Every little thing, it could be something so simple she blows up saying that. She has a problem with active listen but I don't drill in her head , I would make suggestions or I would repeat myself a lot to ensure she hears. This is one of the most draining things and it really frustrates me. This honestly even affects me at work I get so conscious of how I speak and write. I hate overthinking because I'm very critical. I want to speak to her about this today i just dont even know where to start.
Do you feel like you have to walk on egg shells around her?
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Not as much as I used to. because I tell her I won't

once that we would just be friends. Im pretty good with all my exes we may be friends or just acquaintances. But bringing up a convo like that with her we would def end the convo with breaking up cause thats how her mind works
Good luck @Op.
Posted by NotSoInstant
For a Taurus moon,I hate boring stable stuff.

Enough said

Gemini Sun FTW



:-P
See here's the thing for example I got aqua moon I can think and be expressive and give ideas then I got earth to calm down after I just had 100 things to do. So I'm up in the air constantly fretting, worrying, having fun or just mundane perhaps too.