If someone has this book, I surely need a copy.... (Half Smile) ... First let me say, I am a Libra woman.... I was having a on again off again relationship with a Taurus man. Mostly off again due to all the stunts and shows he was pulling..... One minute he's calling/texting everyday, doing spontaneous dinners with me, acting crazy when he couldn't reach me and so on but the minute I begin to play his game, he goes missing for days at a time, if I ask why wasnt calling he'd say things like oh, I was busy and all that silliness so then I would shut down... As soon as I would he would go back to calling alot and all the other stuff so it started to seem like a game to me that I was way to grown for... Now this is the problem.... As soon as I finally made the decision not to play the game anymore and cut him off is when I realized that I really care more than I thought I did.... So anyway, last month he started with all the calling & I tried not to give in but I did so we went a month straight with him blowing my phone up, uestioning my every move, hanging out all the time to now this month.... Hardly speaking... We hadn't had a argument or anything, so I finally broke down and asked him what's up??? He said, if u can believe this.... "Mya, u play to many games which makes me lose interest and I don't like to be smoothered" WHAT?????...... Can u say bipolar???.... So then he asked me to stop calling so much as ifa call once a day maybe makes me a stalker... So I explained to him that I really didn't understand where all of that was coming from when he is the one who does most of the stalking and insecure things but don't worry I wouldnt be calling again... How about he called me yesterday after I haven't heard from him in 3 days..., I amswered and he said "hey, What do you think about Obama, I answered then he said, lets go to lunch as if the phone call 3 days before never happened.... I know this sounds crazy but I am completely confused.... I like him and the time we spend together but I am not good at chasing men and even though I don't chase him, the chase is more so on his end, he still talks to me when I do try and reachout like I have done to him what he is doing to me.... Is he crazy or is this another Taurus trait??.... What should I do, I like hime but I don't understand his signals or anything else for that matter... Please help!
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"Have you ever spent time with a person even though you knew the relationship couldn't go any futher than the little time you both shared???... Well that's my situation. I have fallen in love with a man that I had no business messing around with in the first place and it's impossible for us to have anything more than stolen moments..... Now he wants to call it quits due to the fact that our relationship could never grow but I want to keep seeing him if only for those moments cause I love him. He has asked me leave him alone but when I try, I always end up calling or texting him and if I don't, he will end up calling me, not to hang out or be together, just to talk but, I can't handle it cause I want what we have always had. I don't know what to do or say to him cause it's unfair to ask him to stay in a relationship that will never go anywhere, but the fact that I love him, I don't want to let go.... I believe he cares for me but shy's away from spending any quality time or hanging out and if I press the issue he gets upset. I have never been in a situation like this before, I know the simple answer is to leave it alone but it's not so easy when ur heart is involved... Please help"
Which is it doll?
Moon or Venus..., Not sure which one
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Dunno about *right* or *wrong*, and as to helpful answers...the best one I can give. The one I will always give is brutal honesty. Cut off all contact. Completely. Wean yourself off of him like an addict does with a drug.
A man that is willing to give all of himself will not disappear for days and days. He will not tell you to bugger off. He will not need space, or head room. If he wants silence, hand it to him with a bow. Busy yourself with other things, people in your life. Being with someone shouldn't be full of doubts and suspicion. It just is. Something that is not a question unanswered. If he is telling you something with his mouth, take it at face value. Gather up your skirts and take a bow. Exit with grace and decorum. Never let him see you sweat, you are absolutely A-OK minus wetting a pillow with tears. He's not worth them.
Forget his *signals*. As women we read far more into them than is necessary. We could take a thoughtful pause and whip it with all the force of a hurricane into something wrong. Try to decipher each and every little thing and twist it into something that has to MEAN something. Sometimes things don't mean a damned thing. One of womankinds biggest faults. God knows any man that leaves a woman with too much time on her hands to think means he gonna have a crazy woman to deal with. Cry. Take a hot bath. Go on a walk and sit near a lake and soak it all into your bones. Hit 'delete' and look upwards. Nothing but that blue blue sky and plenty of sunshine.
It's funny how we know the answers but somehow still need to hear it from someone else... Thank you for ur honesty, it was surely the comfirmation I was looking for. As I told someone else, I am in the process of allowing this thing to get out of my system, it just takes time... I wish it was cut and dry, one day love, next day don't care but that's just not how life is but I will say this.... I know I should leave the situation alone and I will not stop tring to do just that and again...Never quit... quiting, .... Thanks
Okay, call me crazy!!..... Mr. Taurus had been calling me, I ignored the calls but couldnn't stop thinking of what he could want after he clearly expressed his disinterest in me. So today I went to an event knowing he'd be there, I just could not resist myself. After the event we spoke, He told me how pretty he thought I looked and good it was to see me then sure enough the questions came pouring in.... Why aren't u answering my calls (as if) and some other personal stuff... My only response was I don't think we should discuss this here" so he said that if I would answer his call he'd call later and I said I would.... When I returned home, I thought maybe it would be better as two adults if we talked in person, so I texted him and asked if it would be okay for us to meet... 3 hours later no response from him.... I am just making things worst, why can't I just leave well enough alone??... The only thing that will happen now is he'll call tomorrow wanting me to answer, and I'll want to answer... This is a bad spiral that's going no where and although I know that I am still so curious of why he won't stop & leave me alone fully as it's clear I can't seem to let go....
I totally understand what ur going through
I too dont understand those taurus man!!! Lol kinda confused like u right now, wish i had a crystal ball with all the answers to his weirdness!!
They shut down so fast and then they want answers right away, everything according to his convenience!!!
When they choose they choose. When they have a hard time if it difficult to see you or deal with your because they completely draw up and unless you are already really close to them they won't include you or allow you to help. They are NOT initiators. I met mine online and when I asked him what if we had met in person he said nothing would have happened. he explained further that is not that he don't think he should have to approach a woman but that he just is not that bold period. The more I see the more I understand.I do think they like unavailable woman and that is what draws them to Cancer women. Most cancers have a lot going on so they aren't available which gives them time to unwind. My problem is I love him!