Unrequited love

This topic was created in the Taurus forum by Geminlove on Thursday, July 9, 2015 and has 14 replies.
How do you all deal with it? I know the general feels of taurus "hard to move on", "invested time and effort." I read somewhere that taurus would rather take the words that shouldve been said (express feelings) to their grave then tell the person what they feel. Is it really that bad?
It depends unlike BUSY, I have Aquarius moon, MARS in Taurus and cAncer rising. Omg I very expressive through words. Too much I might add. Where if you aren't that emotional attached, I can open up for you to understand certain things they way I feel, think, and act and while I am getting to know a guy.. if there is a connection small or big.

I charge because I need someone to handle me. Because I am emotionally stable. And confident in my speech. Now when it comes to action. I am very versatile throughout, I'm open, sexual, sensual, passionate, affectionate, caring, and a rock.. if I am not getting that back I fret. And retreat.

Another Taurus motto is that we are mentally stable, physically stable, financially stable, emotionally stable, secured, reliable, dependable , and sincere actions..it takes a really long time..

I can forgive you but will not go back to an investment that I lost in. I hate losing. I'm VIT and CAncer rising it takes a toll on my health, and my ability to forget the pain.

Im pretty straight forward in my thinking. . I am very honest with the way I interact with a guy. My rising is alittle bit sensitive feelings which is if I open up and get no response.. or I make a side comment out loud and guage your reaction...

I shut down and possibly just made it seems like I am emotionally stable. But then fear sets in because I actually dead serious about all of it. I have let it out over time. Too much feelings would have you panicked.
Posted by Geminlove
How do you all deal with it? I know the general feels of taurus "hard to move on", "invested time and effort." I read somewhere that taurus would rather take the words that shouldve been said (express feelings) to their grave then tell the person what they feel. Is it really that bad?

it depends. If you are talking in the matter of an one sided love, I do express it eventually but its hard for me to turn it off when rejected. I am still learning how to deal with it but I have to stop all contact with them. I cut them off completely only because its torture seeing someone you love and unable to touch or etc towards them regardless if we been friends for many years. When I fall in love, I love hard and its unstoppable. My arien venus takes over so I'm super impatient at times.
Posted by busyeyes88
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busyeyes you're so cold man! Tongue

Do research on venus and Saturn in pisces and you will understand!!

I have only been in 3 relationships. They used my venus and Saturn against me. I sacrificed... Would have done anything. My ACTIONS told them just how much I was willing to do for them.. I am not expressive speechwise I have leo rising and moon, mercury in Aries and Mars in Taurus. But the taurus who is in my life now can read me... He would say 'you put on tough exterior but we both know you are completely different... ' He knows the barriers are up and he tries to get me.to open up but I struggle.. .. My other previous relationships were too self serving and too self satisfying so they never got to know that beyond the coldness of my surface lies a warm self sacrificing heart... But they never how to manipulate me. Hence you.will find on a lot of threads I hate the pisces in me... It can love too much.

So once I'm done... I'm DONE... Do not feel sorry for my exes.. They had a 'good innings'
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I agree. I believe words has zero meaning. You can say you love someone all day but do you really mean it or just for the moment? Actions are everything to me. You do things from your heart so its always proof to me on what you really want to do in life and love. I did learn that mercury ruled ppl (I was in an 8 yr relationship with a virgo) and air sign ppl need to hear words. They see your actions but rather hear you say how you feel. Im horrible at expressing my deep true feelings (which is surprising bc I have a merc in gem). My virgo ex always throw in my face that he never believed I love him because I never SAID, "I love you". I would always argue that I showed you my love through ALL the things I have done for him and affection.
Talk is cheap, value is in the actions not the way you describe them.

I live my life with no regrets, and consider all my past experiences a lesson. However that's not to say that I'm not haunted by things I should have done or said but didn't. At the end of the day all the pieces fall into place, not for me personally but for those around me. I suppose that's what matters most. I have always felt more like an observer to my life than an actual participant of it. Perhaps that's my sole purpose in this life is to document and keep a record of events as they unfold, I do have the unique ability to recall every little detail of my life all the way down to specs of dust resting on surfaces of inanimate objects. My memories, they play like a Hi Definition movie in my head, every single expression and utterance forever kept safe in my organic hard drive..

Posted by AnomalousBull
Talk is cheap, value is in the actions not the way you describe them.

I live my life with no regrets, and consider all my past experiences a lesson. However that's not to say that I'm not haunted by things I should have done or said but didn't. At the end of the day all the pieces fall into place, not for me personally but for those around me. I suppose that's what matters most. I have always felt more like an observer to my life than an actual participant of it. Perhaps that's my sole purpose in this life is to document and keep a record of events as they unfold, I do have the unique ability to recall every little detail of my life all the way down to specs of dust resting on surfaces of inanimate objects. My memories, they play like a Hi Definition movie in my head, every single expression and utterance forever kept safe in my organic hard drive..



Do u have an aqua moon? I felt detach from myself as well. I'm just now becoming more in touch with the events in my life.
I have a Gemini Moon, so for me I can always rationalize my feelings without connecting to it 100% . I think there should always be a balance. Would I tell a person how I felt? Yes, but this will be a gradual process, not an immediate act of expression. If I felt completely safe with the person, then my declarations of love would be apparent. If the feelings were non reciprocated, then I would seek closure, not the wishful thinking of a reconciliation, but a future where I can learn from my mistakes, and evolve to a more, new and improved version of myself.

But I will never look back for a reconciliation!

...Unless....

I assumed full responsibility for the demise of the relationship.

If a man can get my stubborn @ss to admit when I'm wrong, then this will be the man I marry. smile
Argee with @ Honey and BUSY- I feel if I see the action I may not need the words.. The difference atm. Is my VIT I am very patient..and will not let go so fast. Believe in second chances.. but I really don't tolerate too much though because my air moon, Neptune in Sagittarius, Jupiter in Libra, and pluto in Libra. I feel extremely picky and free flowing attitude. Which makes me cold hearted. But once I am done I am fixated on it. Locked down till I see otherwise. I am cautious and slow.

A motto is slow and steady wins the race.
Posted by busyeyes88
Posted by Impulsv
I think that's the Taurus lesson to understand not everyone is like them n some of do need to hear it. It's not bad to say it smile

?_? taurus is reactionary... If someone says they love you do.They really when their actions are speaking a different language... Many people say stuff and they are mean horrible and nasty... To me words are just that... I would not expect my partner to say I.love you or anything... If his actions show me and I can feel it.. Do we really need.words?!
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the thing is you might not need words, others might. you might think your feelings are obvious but in a sense that is an arrogant viewpoint. you assume that everyone thinks the way you do and can just somehow read your mind. we're all individuals, we don't all perceive the world in the same way and some leeway and understanding for another's perception has to be granted sometimes, especially if is the person you love.

(not picking on you busy, i meant "you" in a general sense).
Here's a twist: what if you (Taurus) tried moving on, gets attracted to another but breaks up and still can't forget about that person.

@busy: does it have to do with pride?
Posted by Honeybunniie
Posted by Geminlove
How do you all deal with it? I know the general feels of taurus "hard to move on", "invested time and effort." I read somewhere that taurus would rather take the words that shouldve been said (express feelings) to their grave then tell the person what they feel. Is it really that bad?

it depends. If you are talking in the matter of an one sided love, I do express it eventually but its hard for me to turn it off when rejected. I am still learning how to deal with it but I have to stop all contact with them. I cut them off completely only because its torture seeing someone you love and unable to touch or etc towards them regardless if we been friends for many years. When I fall in love, I love hard and its unstoppable. My arien venus takes over so I'm super impatient at times.
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I am the same way! Taurus with a Aries Venus too, plus an Aqua moon smile I also tend to love hard, and get disappointed when the other person seems to not reciprocate in the same way. The problem is it's difficult to find another person that loves as hard as I do, that doesn't give up on the other person, and that is willing to hold on. Especially nowadays, it seems like relationships can be very fickle, with people not knowing what they want or not wanting to settle because of social media, they always think they can do better and better and better... I need real, deep, genuine people in my life. I don't really have "unrequited love"... I will admit that I am direct and I always make the first move. I'm impulsive in that way. I get frustrated when dealing with slower people, for example with Cancers, who love in a similar, deep way, but prefer to move slow. I get impatient and restless and start thinking, hm maybe they don't want me after all... But they really do they just are afraid of showing it because they don't want to get hurt. It's in their nature, I can't change it...
Posted by Geminlove
Here's a twist: what if you (Taurus) tried moving on, gets attracted to another but breaks up and still can't forget about that person.

@busy: does it have to do with pride?
This has happened to me. I felt haunted by someone that I got too impatient with. He was a Cancer, a wonderful guy, smart, and I did feel a connection. BUT he was soooo slooowwwww with how he was pursuing me. I know that it's a Cancer's thing to go slow and be indirect but my God... It just wasn't working for me... I ended up getting together with someone else but the Cancer would still occasionally text me, show his concern and care for me, and I couldn't get his eyes out of my head. It did impinge on the new relationship, because I started second guessing my choice. It was horrible. Both were good people, it's just that the Aquarius that I started anew with was very direct, open, affectionate, and verbal. He constantly affirmed his attraction to me, and that's just what I needed at the time.
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuy
Really struggling with unrequited feelings at the moment. I know the woman in question doesn't feel the same as I do because she already turned me down but it's hard to deal with. Also don't want her to think I don't respect her feelings so being careful about not pursuing her.

I rarely find someone to connect with so when I do it's tough when they don't like me back.

I'm also seeing her most days at the moment so it's extra tough to see someone so beautiful and (I think) perfect for me and know they don't feel the same.

Things are due to change soon and I won't be seeing her so I just have to hold on until then.

Really feel I have to give up on love in my life

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Don't give up! Taurus people are born to love.

Posted by TaurusBull1977

I have a Gemini Moon, so for me I can always rationalize my feelings without connecting to it 100% . I think there should always be a balance. Would I tell a person how I felt? Yes, but this will be a gradual process, not an immediate act of expression. If I felt completely safe with the person, then my declarations of love would be apparent. If the feelings were non reciprocated, then I would seek closure, not the wishful thinking of a reconciliation, but a future where I can learn from my mistakes, and evolve to a more, new and improved version of myself.



But I will never look back for a reconciliation!



...Unless....



I assumed full responsibility for the demise of the relationship.



If a man can get my stubborn @ss to admit when I'm wrong, then this will be the man I marry. smile
I managed this once with a Taurus to admit her wrong, although she didn't marry me in the end... Tongue