Virgo vs Taurus help
This topic was created in the Taurus forum by Infatuatedbsr28 on Saturday, December 22, 2012 and has 6 replies.
bulls are constantly viewed as being tenacious but currently I'm feeling immune to manipulation. I usually give ppl a fair chance to get to know me, and I prefer that notion to be reciprocated. This gives me the chance to sift through the bs and dismiss those less worthy of my loyalty and devotion, thus making the best companionship choice possible. I also know Taurus's are notorious for not giving up as easily when in relationships but being stubborn by default I'm comfortable with the guy I'm "seeing" not to mention I despise the whole " getting to know you" phase.. I've been dealing with a virgo and throughout the duration of our journey it has been engulfed in drama to say the least. Truth be told, he did acknowledge that he had a gf, but was conveniently unhappy, thus their relationship was coming to an end. MY INTIAL REACTION WAS TO TIE UP MY NIKES AND HAUL ASS, but instead my feet remained on solid ground. I respected his honesty, that was a excellent seed to plant, however my level of trust towards him was tainted. WE ALL KNOW THE SAYING: if he did to her...........
It was love at fist sight, I was intrigued by his honesty, he captivated with charm, I had no reason to question his intentions because he was honest from the genesis.. RIGHT... Yea...no...unbeknownst to me he was living a double life. It was some truth, he was indeed unhappy in his relationship but he was misleading his misses. I later found out by someone else that he had a child on the way with her, which he managed to keep that information disclosed due to the fact he wasn't sure if we had longevity. Ok great.. What can I say.. This was a pre-existing situation, she had already become pregnant prior to our union so i guess I could roll with that.. Right? No lol.... to make this long, drawn out story as story as short possible he was telling me the truth for the most part but he was lying to her 100% . He says it was to protect her feelings but it was mainly to shield his wrong doings. He claims she is prone to mental break downs as she would have a difficult time adjusting to fact that he was being unfaithful AGAIN especially during her pregnancy, but he was surely going to dump her.He always conveyed her to be an unattractive Pisces, passive, needy, messy, that enabled him to cheat. but I am the exact opposite..HE HAS STATED THAT HE FELT AS IF HE DIDN'T DESERVE ME, AT FIRST THIS DIDN'T RESONATE, BUT THIS IS MY SENTIMENT EXACTLY.
NOW THAT THE TRUTH HAS BEEN EXPOSED.
It was love at fist sight, I was intrigued by his honesty, he captivated with charm, I had no reason to question his intentions because he was honest from the genesis.. RIGHT... Yea...no...unbeknownst to me he was living a double life. It was some truth, he was indeed unhappy in his relationship but he was misleading his misses. I later found out by someone else that he had a child on the way with her, which he managed to keep that information disclosed due to the fact he wasn't sure if we had longevity. Ok great.. What can I say.. This was a pre-existing situation, she had already become pregnant prior to our union so i guess I could roll with that.. Right? No lol.... to make this long, drawn out story as story as short possible he was telling me the truth for the most part but he was lying to her 100% . He says it was to protect her feelings but it was mainly to shield his wrong doings. He claims she is prone to mental break downs as she would have a difficult time adjusting to fact that he was being unfaithful AGAIN especially during her pregnancy, but he was surely going to dump her.He always conveyed her to be an unattractive Pisces, passive, needy, messy, that enabled him to cheat. but I am the exact opposite..HE HAS STATED THAT HE FELT AS IF HE DIDN'T DESERVE ME, AT FIRST THIS DIDN'T RESONATE, BUT THIS IS MY SENTIMENT EXACTLY.
NOW THAT THE TRUTH HAS BEEN EXPOSED.
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SHE CONTACTED ME. AND READ DOWN HIS ENTIRE R??SUM??. I WOULD NEVER TO FORM AN ALLIANCE WITH HER BUT SHE HAS SUBSTANTIAL PROOF THAT HE'S BEEN MANIPULATING THE SYSTEM..OUR SYSTEM!!!!!!! But how could I let this happen?? He was always with me ( minus the 70% of the time he was working lol) a lot of things she embellished to make me feel bad for being the other woman but overall this guy has been playing games. NOW THAT IM NO LONGER BLIND TO TYPE OF MAN I WAS INVOLVED WITH, HERE COMES THE DISCORD BETWEEN hIM AND I. I made it very clear that I don't date for the sake of dating.. And call me crazy but he has shown me in numerous ways that he cares about me. I myself, feel as though I have went over and beyond to show him that I have his back .Good, bad, the ugly I never judged him but I thought all those females were apart of his past. Although the sex is mind blowing, I need something of more substance.. He has started to become verbally and physically abusive to me. I heard that he has a pattern of conducting him self this way but I thought I was different, because he was always kind and loving to me. plus, he knows can kick his ass if forced of course
I'm not making excuses for him but I feel like this behavior is triggered by his insecurity.. Maybe he does feel like I can do better than him.. He does tell me I'm different and based on what I now about his exes, thats an under statement...
I have isolated myself away from him, but I'm unsure about my next move. He hasnt contacted me either.. as our fights dont last long..Should I leave or should I persevere?? Call me crazy but I feel compelled to love him. The good and bad are at about 50% . Help me make a conscious decision? My seems to get me in trouble smfh.. CAN VIRGS CONFORM???
SHE CONTACTED ME. AND READ DOWN HIS ENTIRE R??SUM??. I WOULD NEVER TO FORM AN ALLIANCE WITH HER BUT SHE HAS SUBSTANTIAL PROOF THAT HE'S BEEN MANIPULATING THE SYSTEM..OUR SYSTEM!!!!!!! But how could I let this happen?? He was always with me ( minus the 70% of the time he was working lol) a lot of things she embellished to make me feel bad for being the other woman but overall this guy has been playing games. NOW THAT IM NO LONGER BLIND TO TYPE OF MAN I WAS INVOLVED WITH, HERE COMES THE DISCORD BETWEEN hIM AND I. I made it very clear that I don't date for the sake of dating.. And call me crazy but he has shown me in numerous ways that he cares about me. I myself, feel as though I have went over and beyond to show him that I have his back .Good, bad, the ugly I never judged him but I thought all those females were apart of his past. Although the sex is mind blowing, I need something of more substance.. He has started to become verbally and physically abusive to me. I heard that he has a pattern of conducting him self this way but I thought I was different, because he was always kind and loving to me. plus, he knows can kick his ass if forced of course
I'm not making excuses for him but I feel like this behavior is triggered by his insecurity.. Maybe he does feel like I can do better than him.. He does tell me I'm different and based on what I now about his exes, thats an under statement... I have isolated myself away from him, but I'm unsure about my next move. He hasnt contacted me either.. as our fights dont last long..Should I leave or should I persevere?? Call me crazy but I feel compelled to love him. The good and bad are at about 50% . Help me make a conscious decision? My seems to get me in trouble smfh.. CAN VIRGS CONFORM???
Posted by Infatuatedbsr28
1)MY INTIAL REACTION WAS TO TIE UP MY NIKES AND HAUL ASS,...
2)"WE ALL KNOW THE SAYING: if he did to her"...
3)"he was honest from the genesis.. RIGHT... Yea...no."
4)HE HAS STATED THAT HE FELT AS IF HE DIDN'T DESERVE ME, AT FIRST THIS DIDN'T RESONATE, BUT THIS IS MY SENTIMENT EXACTLY.
5)SHE CONTACTED ME....AND READ DOWN HIS ENTIRE R??SUM??.
6) Although the sex is mind blowing, I need something of more substance..
7) He has started to become verbally and physically abusive to me.
8) I heard that he has a pattern of conducting him self this way but --I thought I was different.
9) Maybe he does feel like I can do better than him..
Call me crazy but I feel compelled to love him.
Help me make a conscious decision? My seems to get me in trouble smfh.. CAN VIRGS CONFORM???
1) LISTEN to your 1st instincts..They'll NEVER fail you.
2) WHYYY would you want to be with someone who is not respecting his WIFE, but also HIS child?? WHAT respect do you think he possibly has for you?? Have some SHAME woman!
3) Whenever a man says that "he DOESN'T deserve you"..BELIEVE him. They're not saying it to be cute. Its because he KNOWS he's SCUM.
4)HE is physically and verbally abusing you because..He's lost respect for you because YOU don't think highly enough of yourself to REMOVE yourself from the situation. If you stick around any longer, he'll break you down, and remind you that you're not worthy of anything better...EVERY chance he gets. You GET what you ALLOW.
You deserve and can DO alot better, You don't need to be compelled to love garbage treatment.
Learn to love yourself and Please act accordingly WITH class & diginity.
Robyn808 thanks so much for your response!! Due to the physical altercation that transpired on Friday, I haven't contacted him.Usually I have no problem with voicing my opinion during a dispute, but you are absolutely right SILENCE IS GOLDEN. I don't even want to give him a chance to state his case and make it seem as though its my fault. He has not tried to reach out to me which is weird....But by him being a virgo he'll do anything to try to force himself back in my life. IM PUTTING ON MY AMOUR!!!!
Taurusbelle, hey!! And thanks you as well for your response!!! You are correct I should have listened to my instincts but the only information I had to go off was what he was telling me. And that was fact that he was wasn't happy. This wasn't his wife, this was his gf, this doesn't make it morally correct but I from how he depicted their relationship, I believed him.. SILLY I KNOW SMH!!!! Had I known that this was a pattern with him being serial cheater, I would have never given him a chance.. PERIOD!!
When he used to say "he didn't deserve me": I actually took that as a compliment. I've been around his family, his children's mother, and I been in the same environment as some of his exes so I know he saw the difference in me, as a woman. Even from the way he was raised, the way he engages in conversation with his mother, I can tell he lived a rough life. And that's what gravitated me to him. GUESS EVERYBODY CAN'T BE UPGRADED
I realize that I can't reconcile with him. He would have to die and become a new person. I was blinded by all the red flags that have been thrown. But i had the chance to go back to the beginning and see how this problem started, I admit my part in this as well.. Due to his insecurity, i believe he is trying to break me down, and brainwash me into thinking that I can't do better than him.
I love myself too much to be subjected to this bs. DEFINITELY GOTTA DO SOME MORE SOUL SEARCHING AND SPEND SOME QT WITH SELF I just feel embarrassed for even contemplating a relationship with him. I deserve this _??'_???
When he used to say "he didn't deserve me": I actually took that as a compliment. I've been around his family, his children's mother, and I been in the same environment as some of his exes so I know he saw the difference in me, as a woman. Even from the way he was raised, the way he engages in conversation with his mother, I can tell he lived a rough life. And that's what gravitated me to him. GUESS EVERYBODY CAN'T BE UPGRADED
I realize that I can't reconcile with him. He would have to die and become a new person. I was blinded by all the red flags that have been thrown. But i had the chance to go back to the beginning and see how this problem started, I admit my part in this as well.. Due to his insecurity, i believe he is trying to break me down, and brainwash me into thinking that I can't do better than him.
I love myself too much to be subjected to this bs. DEFINITELY GOTTA DO SOME MORE SOUL SEARCHING AND SPEND SOME QT WITH SELF I just feel embarrassed for even contemplating a relationship with him. I deserve this _??'_???
This hilarious. Did we date the same virgo. Run girl run! You are in for a major let down. I went through the exact same situation. My virgo told me half truths about everything with his sons mother. We went to high school together then met back up at our reunion. He would even take on vacations and treat me like a queen when we were together. I later found out about his sons mother on facebook. When questioned him about he told me they live together but are not in relationship. He didnt know taurus are immune to bullshit . Theres more but get my point. He recently stopped talking to me because i'd call him out on his bullshit. He doesnt like being judged. Lol get ur life girl find a mature man
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