what bull do when they split?
This topic was created in the Taurus forum by fishworry on Wednesday, February 28, 2007 and has 13 replies.
Ok the bull i was going out with for 1 yr told me on 19th that its all over and that he doesnt have any feeling for me and wants nothing to do with plus that i should leave him alone....when i asked if he loved me he said whos to know....he broke my heart.
so thats what i did. I didnt contact him at all...usually i would call and try to resolve issues but this time i was hurt and i gave up as he told that he had long time ago.
But then i had an interview for a graduate job yesterday in the same company we worked for as interns....well he texted me to wish me good luck and encouraging me that i have work before so i will have better chance....
I am so confused as to why he texted me when he said he wants nothing to do with me....whole week i saw him on msn but we never said anything. He also said that its not his problem that i have an interview when he was breaking up with me on 19th....so why wish me luck????? or contact me.....
I text back this morning saying thanks and tell that it went ok and now waiting to hear their answer....but he hasnt contacted me back at all.
Anyone any thoughts....coz i love this guy but when he told all this i was heart broken....
so thats what i did. I didnt contact him at all...usually i would call and try to resolve issues but this time i was hurt and i gave up as he told that he had long time ago.
But then i had an interview for a graduate job yesterday in the same company we worked for as interns....well he texted me to wish me good luck and encouraging me that i have work before so i will have better chance....
I am so confused as to why he texted me when he said he wants nothing to do with me....whole week i saw him on msn but we never said anything. He also said that its not his problem that i have an interview when he was breaking up with me on 19th....so why wish me luck????? or contact me.....
I text back this morning saying thanks and tell that it went ok and now waiting to hear their answer....but he hasnt contacted me back at all.
Anyone any thoughts....coz i love this guy but when he told all this i was heart broken....
Maybe he said it in an attempt to redeem himself from that insesitive remark he made..?
What I don't understand is why he would be so mean when breaking up. Sounds like he was annoyed.
In any case, I don't think you should read too much into it.
What I don't understand is why he would be so mean when breaking up. Sounds like he was annoyed.
In any case, I don't think you should read too much into it.
Yes RainingPeanuts he was annoyed....infact he was furious....i know people say things they dont mean when they are angry....but such mean things can only mean that he meant to say them but just didnt know how...n when and i gave him a chance to be angry n he said it....
there has been times before that he has said that its over but we got back together...coz i never gave up or he realised and things would just go back to normal....but this time i have not tried...i am accepting what he said....making no attempts.
i know everyone is saying dont read too much but i cant help but keep thinking why...coz he said he doesnt want to be friends or anything....he has deleted me from everywhere as his friend....then why wish me luck....if i mean nothing.....why care to say "remember you have done the job already" try to encourage me...n care about it when he said that it means nothing to him whatever i do. It just messess me up coz its only been a week and by doing these things he makes me think of him when i shouldnt be....
I love him and what to be with him but he has to realise that he cant do this to me....my birthday is coming so if he care then that will be his only chance to show it.
I hope he misses me....like i miss him.
Ok at first I wasn't going to comment because I don't think about this much but unfortuntely I experienced the same with a Taurus I had a relationship once.
I haven't had but three what I consider serious relationships in my life- a Pisces, Taurus, and now Cancer
The Taurus I loved a lot. Thing is I wasn't interested in him at first and he pursued me. I even chose him over a Scorp who was interested at me at the time too. The beginning of our relationship was wonderful. There were and are things about the Taurus man that is very attractive- manly and hard working and great sense of humors and he also was neat and had good taste. I loved him a lot but then after a year in our relationship things started to change. He would treat me badly. He didn't want to see me as much and he would do the push pull thing with me too. He would be mean to me too and he wanted to spend time with his friends more than.
Fishworry, I went through what sounds like the same thing you are going through and for me no matter how much I tried to let him know I loved him and how much I wanted to be with him, it wasn't enough. He would see me when he wanted to see me and discard me so easily when he was done. I went through a lot of hurt with this and I finally had to get enough self respect and strength to leave him alone completely. It wasn't easy and it was hard but I knew I had to. When I did, I felt so much freedom and finally my self worth came back to me. And yes there were still times after this that he would still try to contact me but I DIDN'T go back.
I'm not saying you will have to do the same but I think you give in too quickly after he does this "getting rid of you" thing and you respond immediately back to him. Let him know you are fed up with the hurt of what he's doing and really seriously consider opening yourself up to other men- even if it's just friendships with other men. You never know what might happen. I've seen your pic on your profile and you are very smart and a career woman- my gosh girl- why take this when you obviously don't have to????
You are not realizing right now your own self worth and importance and assests but I hope you will and soon
I haven't had but three what I consider serious relationships in my life- a Pisces, Taurus, and now Cancer
The Taurus I loved a lot. Thing is I wasn't interested in him at first and he pursued me. I even chose him over a Scorp who was interested at me at the time too. The beginning of our relationship was wonderful. There were and are things about the Taurus man that is very attractive- manly and hard working and great sense of humors and he also was neat and had good taste. I loved him a lot but then after a year in our relationship things started to change. He would treat me badly. He didn't want to see me as much and he would do the push pull thing with me too. He would be mean to me too and he wanted to spend time with his friends more than.
Fishworry, I went through what sounds like the same thing you are going through and for me no matter how much I tried to let him know I loved him and how much I wanted to be with him, it wasn't enough. He would see me when he wanted to see me and discard me so easily when he was done. I went through a lot of hurt with this and I finally had to get enough self respect and strength to leave him alone completely. It wasn't easy and it was hard but I knew I had to. When I did, I felt so much freedom and finally my self worth came back to me. And yes there were still times after this that he would still try to contact me but I DIDN'T go back.
I'm not saying you will have to do the same but I think you give in too quickly after he does this "getting rid of you" thing and you respond immediately back to him. Let him know you are fed up with the hurt of what he's doing and really seriously consider opening yourself up to other men- even if it's just friendships with other men. You never know what might happen. I've seen your pic on your profile and you are very smart and a career woman- my gosh girl- why take this when you obviously don't have to????
You are not realizing right now your own self worth and importance and assests but I hope you will and soon
Thanks everyone. I think I understand....that its all over but when i am in middle of forgetting him and he does something like this just makes me think that there is hope.
I do agree that i dont have to take this and believe me i wont but at the moment i am not ready or at the stage where i can see other guys coz he is still on my mind and it wouldnt be right. I do have guy friends and i will be seeing a lot more friends on my birthday next weekend which will help.
maybe he did it to make himself look good as in...."see, i am not a total Dhead" and nothing more...coz if he loves me he will come to me.
What do you mean i'd be assuming too much.....
Its just strange that he doesnt speak to me....doesnt want to know me....then he texted me luck knowing how i feel for him...why give me hope after breaking my heart...
I bet he'll text me again on my birthday to wish me all the best for my future...etc etc.
why do it!!!??? he has cut his ties so why bother.....he comes online and doesnt speak to me....what the hell....
Maybe i am a nuisance...
I hate relationships....i have been hurt twice too soon and i dont think i have the strength to take another heartbreak....hurts so much.
Well i am out of his life so i guess its all happy and smooth now...i really hope he understands and leaves me alone if he has no intentions of make things work between us.
I have to have no contact to get over him.
Thanks SagitTAUries...I sometime think i am very intense and guys dont know how to handle that.
Yeah i think he does have problems and yeah he is handeling it in an immature way....but I do believe that he Loves me even tho he said whos to know....he has feelings for me but he cant accept that he can feel so much for me.
But i have to accept that he has decided to end this and not bother with anything more. I will ignore it all just like it never happend....like he never contacted me.
Yeah i think he does have problems and yeah he is handeling it in an immature way....but I do believe that he Loves me even tho he said whos to know....he has feelings for me but he cant accept that he can feel so much for me.
But i have to accept that he has decided to end this and not bother with anything more. I will ignore it all just like it never happend....like he never contacted me.
Fishworry:
Just wondering how are you holding up?
Check back in with us soon to let me and I'm sure others who'd like to know, how you're doing
Just wondering how are you holding up?
Check back in with us soon to let me and I'm sure others who'd like to know, how you're doing
"I am so confused as to why he texted me when he said he wants nothing to do with me....whole week i saw him on msn but we never said anything. He also said that its not his problem that i have an interview when he was breaking up with me on 19th....so why wish me luck????? or contact me....."
Hey sorry to dig up such an old thread. But I was referred here from another thread. You know what I'm so guilty of the above. Hee...embarrassed. I did this to my Pisces love at least three times...saying that I'm leaving him but then later email him again. I'm so guilty of this and it's rather embarrassing now trying to recall. But I try to explain from my perspective.
Let me recall...first couple of times, it was because of insecurity reason. Can I say this about Taurus? Haha, it's our secret. Taurus people are strong on the outside but very insecure in the inside and they crave security...they need security! On the other hand, they do not like departure. They hate departing from people they love and they cared for. I went through a lot of thinking each time I said I want to leave my Pisces guy. I always am torn making that decision believe me on that. And whenever I said I want out to my Pisces guy, the next thing u know I'll be doing is crying. Definitely. Even if I have that slight idea in my head, I'll tear. But security is important to us. If it's not met, they become jealous (I don't like to be jealous btw), they feel unloved and they would think of all kinds of negative scenario in their mind that can be happened in the future. They would be unsure if whether staying in this relationship would be a good thing in the long run for both they and their partners. They have this dilenma...they love their partners but they also don't want the two of them to suffer in the future. They always think long term when it comes to relationship. Can't stressed enough, they need secure, long relationship.
And why do they like after a week or so...they'll come running back to you...simply because they still care for you...maybe not as a lover, but as a friend. Even they said they don't like you anymore, they will still rmb your birthday, your everything. And if they try to ignore you, they are really trying their best. lol. They are pretending very hard they don't care about you anymore, they don't want to go back on their words...because they are reliable people and wants to stay this way, but inside they are like..."but I still care about him/her"..."what if he
Hey sorry to dig up such an old thread. But I was referred here from another thread. You know what I'm so guilty of the above. Hee...embarrassed. I did this to my Pisces love at least three times...saying that I'm leaving him but then later email him again. I'm so guilty of this and it's rather embarrassing now trying to recall. But I try to explain from my perspective.
Let me recall...first couple of times, it was because of insecurity reason. Can I say this about Taurus? Haha, it's our secret. Taurus people are strong on the outside but very insecure in the inside and they crave security...they need security! On the other hand, they do not like departure. They hate departing from people they love and they cared for. I went through a lot of thinking each time I said I want to leave my Pisces guy. I always am torn making that decision believe me on that. And whenever I said I want out to my Pisces guy, the next thing u know I'll be doing is crying. Definitely. Even if I have that slight idea in my head, I'll tear. But security is important to us. If it's not met, they become jealous (I don't like to be jealous btw), they feel unloved and they would think of all kinds of negative scenario in their mind that can be happened in the future. They would be unsure if whether staying in this relationship would be a good thing in the long run for both they and their partners. They have this dilenma...they love their partners but they also don't want the two of them to suffer in the future. They always think long term when it comes to relationship. Can't stressed enough, they need secure, long relationship.
And why do they like after a week or so...they'll come running back to you...simply because they still care for you...maybe not as a lover, but as a friend. Even they said they don't like you anymore, they will still rmb your birthday, your everything. And if they try to ignore you, they are really trying their best. lol. They are pretending very hard they don't care about you anymore, they don't want to go back on their words...because they are reliable people and wants to stay this way, but inside they are like..."but I still care about him/her"..."what if he
"what if he/she didn't get the job and there's no one to comfort her." blah blah blah. haha. They are really softie inside...but they don't want to admit it...they don't want others to know they have a soft spot...they don't want others to misuse it...as they don't trust others easily.
U know what, I was writing this and I felt silly, but Taurus people are like these. They are silly. haha. They cannot forget their love so easily and yet they want it quit. If you feel hurt, just open up with him...talk to him...communicate to him and clear up with him. He won't want to hurt anybody unless you betrayed him. They take time to forget their love...so from time to time, they will still contact you...but less and less each time. But if you want to speed up the process and prevent them from getting hurt, just be direct to them...say you're confused...find out from them what they think...why they make their decision.
COMMUNICATION between lovers are very important. Not just between these 2 zodiac signs...but for all relationships. If you have tell him what you said in the forum, he may have a better understanding. You should not over-estimate a Taurus ability to see other people POV. Sometimes, must really present to them in a logical way, then they will be like "ohhh...". But of course, feelings is not something that can present in a logical manner.
Sigh...I miss my Pisces friend. I hope we can be friends again...but he won't talk to me.
-THE END-
U know what, I was writing this and I felt silly, but Taurus people are like these. They are silly. haha. They cannot forget their love so easily and yet they want it quit. If you feel hurt, just open up with him...talk to him...communicate to him and clear up with him. He won't want to hurt anybody unless you betrayed him. They take time to forget their love...so from time to time, they will still contact you...but less and less each time. But if you want to speed up the process and prevent them from getting hurt, just be direct to them...say you're confused...find out from them what they think...why they make their decision.
COMMUNICATION between lovers are very important. Not just between these 2 zodiac signs...but for all relationships. If you have tell him what you said in the forum, he may have a better understanding. You should not over-estimate a Taurus ability to see other people POV. Sometimes, must really present to them in a logical way, then they will be like "ohhh...". But of course, feelings is not something that can present in a logical manner.
Sigh...I miss my Pisces friend. I hope we can be friends again...but he won't talk to me.
-THE END-
Maybe he wants to remain friends. It is possible he still cares for you although he doesn't think the relationship is working out.
Taurus' never hate their ex's, man or woman. they usually wish them the best and say so long.
We never really stop caring about the people we loved, but we do fall out of love just like everyone else. Then we look back and dwell at all the good and wonder to ourselves "what went wrong? what could it have been?". We rarely try to rekindle lost loves but we still cherish that person as if they were family.
Remember that love is truly a close bond. If a Taurus ever loved you, chances are they still do in a different way, or possibly the same way.
my advice to you is to ignore him. I'm guilty of doing this too and It's not exactly healthy, we just really wanna see that person recover. He'll check up on you and make sure your doing OK without you ever knowing it. He'll probably try to help but doesn't realize he's causing more harm that good.
He doesn't realize this so try not to hold it against him. just ignore him and keep on truckin.
We never really stop caring about the people we loved, but we do fall out of love just like everyone else. Then we look back and dwell at all the good and wonder to ourselves "what went wrong? what could it have been?". We rarely try to rekindle lost loves but we still cherish that person as if they were family.
Remember that love is truly a close bond. If a Taurus ever loved you, chances are they still do in a different way, or possibly the same way.
my advice to you is to ignore him. I'm guilty of doing this too and It's not exactly healthy, we just really wanna see that person recover. He'll check up on you and make sure your doing OK without you ever knowing it. He'll probably try to help but doesn't realize he's causing more harm that good.
He doesn't realize this so try not to hold it against him. just ignore him and keep on truckin.
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