About people who you want but they arent good for you?
What do you think
Posted by Geminlove
About people who you want but they arent good for you?
I feel it now.
I want it now.
Then I step away.
Analyze.
Assess.
Observe.
Actively Listen.
Internalize.
Make a decision.
It's just not going to work out.
Whether I want you or not, is irrelevant.
(Venus in Aries; Moon in Gemini)
@Taurusbull1977: so during this time the other person needs to make the effort and tell the taurus its going to work out
Posted by Geminlove
@Taurusbull1977: so during this time the other person needs to make the effort and tell the taurus its going to work out
It's a segregation of emotions and logic.
Despite my moon and venus placements, I'm still a hardcore Bull.
If I don't see longevity or any sense of stability with this individual.
Making a lifelong decision based on emotions just isn't practical.
The only thing the other person needs to do:
Be genuine and realistic in your approach...and with your intentions.
Posted by Geminlove
About people who you want but they arent good for you?
Could you elaborate "not good for you"?
I met My taurus 13 years ago... we were together for 2 years and a half. Things didn't turn out the way we wanted them to be so we got separate for a decade. Faith has brought us back together a hear and a half ago and we're going to get marry in august!
I don't think 2 person can match each other perfectly... there will always be differences, likes and dislikes toward each other. A long time ago I thought my Bull was an insecure, jealous sunnavabee...I'd lost him because of that! Today I could seach the whole world and I'll never find another man as caring and tender as him. But both of us haven't changed...but rather evolved. We approach matters differently. Today, I understand that he's not jealous but VERY protective... and all I have to do is make him understand that I love the way he cares for me but I also can take care of myself. I take a few seconds to call him and let him know that I'm fine and I can enjoy an evening of total freedom as long as none of my ex are involved of course lol.
Let me ask you this... Why did you want each other in the first place? 🙂
Posted by Leylia12
I take a few seconds to call him and let him know that I'm fine and I can enjoy an evening of total freedom as long as none of my ex are involved of course lol.
^^^^^^
Hence, why this is very important
Posted by TaurusBull1977
The only thing the other person needs to do:
Be genuine and realistic in your approach...and with your intentions.click to expand
It's not perfection we seek, it's an individual who has a strong sense of who they are (no hidden agendas, no pretenses) who can offer us loyalty, committment, now and forever.
Posted by TaurusBull1977Posted by Leylia12
I take a few seconds to call him and let him know that I'm fine and I can enjoy an evening of total freedom as long as none of my ex are involved of course lol.
^^^^^^
Hence, why this is very important
Posted by TaurusBull1977
The only thing the other person needs to do:
Be genuine and realistic in your approach...and with your intentions.
It's not perfection we seek, it's an individual who has a strong sense of who they are (no hidden agendas, no pretenses) who can offer us loyalty, committment, now and forever.click to expand
This! No surprises, just need to kno at the end of the day you will be there for me and you have my back.
But to the op...I don't really understand your question. What's the real deal?
Its complicated 😢 when we first met we got off on the wrong foot. It eventually got to the point where i disliked him. Then he falls for me and starts pursuing me....more like chasing me, he gave me his all. He became a lil pup whenever i was around. I was indifferent towards him and all the while he dried up his harem while chasing me. I dont know how to feel about the harem drying up....does that mean anything?
>>>fast forward>>> i realize that i want him and hes everything i look for in a man. Caring, tender, protective and loving, just for the record you bulls are perfection 😢 ] he blushes and shuts me out for 6 months. Im all heart broken
>>>fast forward>>> i realize that i want him and hes everything i look for in a man. Caring, tender, protective and loving, just for the record you bulls are perfection 😢 ] he blushes and shuts me out for 6 months. Im all heart broken
*perfection 🙂
Posted by Geminlove
Its complicated 😢 when we first met we got off on the wrong foot. It eventually got to the point where i disliked him. Then he falls for me and starts pursuing me....more like chasing me, he gave me his all. He became a lil pup whenever i was around. I was indifferent towards him and all the while he dried up his harem while chasing me. I dont know how to feel about the harem drying up....does that mean anything?
>>>fast forward>>> i realize that i want him and hes everything i look for in a man. Caring, tender, protective and loving, just for the record you bulls are perfection 😢 ] he blushes and shuts me out for 6 months. Im all heart broken
Is it me or all the gemini girls on the Taurus board seem to have the exact same problem and almost same scenario too lol. I know at least 3 of you that went through the samething. He pursu you, but you were not interested and push him away...he went cold, but then you're suddenly interested...
How long did he pursu you? You said you were indifferent at first... what made you change? Does he know about your current feelings for him? And when you said he shut you out... what do you mean? is he still talking to you? is he avoiding you? I'll need more info to work with here 🙂
I'll go bug my Bull as usual...he always frown and give me that "you're annoying" look when I ask him stuff from DXP lol... but he always give in and help me anyway 🙂
And exactly who is the "people who you want but they arent good for you?"
Who's not good for who?
Who's not good for who?
Im not good for him
?? He pursu you for 2 years and a half all the while you were indifferent to him?? What happened? what changed, why are you suddenly interested in him? Well after 2 years and a half facing you being unresponsive...I think his reaction is kinda normal. Are you guys working together? You said it's hard to crack his shell... what was your approach? Does he know how you feel about him? Did you guys ever have a serious talk about this? If you change your attitude towards him... He'll neeed to understand why. I'm not trying to put the blame on you or anything, but you have to understand that after such a long time anybody would give up... gotta love those Bull for their patience don't we?? 🙂
Anyway... If he was after you for that long, that means there's something he really liked about you. Just try to be yourself as you were and approach him slowly and casually. Just act and do what you want to do and not what you think you should do. And I still don't understand why you are not good for him?? Until you have a nice chat with him, you won't know where he stands. I know all too well how hard it is to approach a Bull once you hurt them and once they gone cold, but you'll have make that firt step... because he probably won't. Things might or might not work out... but at the very least you'll know what he thinks...and we'll take it from there 🙂
I don`t know if he's a good guy or not, but a good taurus man is more than worth it...once you fall for them... it's extremely hard to get over them (talking from my own experience).
Anyway... If he was after you for that long, that means there's something he really liked about you. Just try to be yourself as you were and approach him slowly and casually. Just act and do what you want to do and not what you think you should do. And I still don't understand why you are not good for him?? Until you have a nice chat with him, you won't know where he stands. I know all too well how hard it is to approach a Bull once you hurt them and once they gone cold, but you'll have make that firt step... because he probably won't. Things might or might not work out... but at the very least you'll know what he thinks...and we'll take it from there 🙂
I don`t know if he's a good guy or not, but a good taurus man is more than worth it...once you fall for them... it's extremely hard to get over them (talking from my own experience).
His last txt to me: "You??re not in love with me, not really, you just love the way I always made you feel. Like you were the centre of my world. Because you were. I would have done anything for you."
I told him thats not it.....and i need a little time to figure things out
I told him thats not it.....and i need a little time to figure things out
Posted by Geminlove
His last txt to me: "You??re not in love with me, not really, you just love the way I always made you feel. Like you were the centre of my world. Because you were. I would have done anything for you."
I told him thats not it.....and i need a little time to figure things out
Then what is it? is what he said true? You'll have to be honest here if you want any chance to get him back. If you only enjoy the attention he gives you... then please move on... he chased you long enough. Take some time to think about it... what is it that you want form him? why the sudden change of heart? if he somehow come back to you... then what? I mean... I've asked you the second question 3 times already... and still no answer. Taurus men eat and breath consistency... if one day you're all over him and the next day distant... you'll just push him further away. So if you truely love him and miss him you'll have to somehow convince him...but right now could you even convince yourself?
Posted by Geminlove
About people who you want but they arent good for you?
The story of my life. I always seem to attract the bad boy types. The kind that cheat on you, lie to you and then take advantage of you financially, sexually, yada yada. Ok.. I need to stop. I'm having a moment. lol
@Leylia12: I want him to be mine, i want to be his. But my guilt is eating me up on the inside. THIS IS ALL MY FAULT 😭 I feel like im not good enough for him. I dont like every guy who gives me his attention, i actually feel uncomfortable and cut off all contact if im not interested so they can move on. Thus I have never had a harem in my life. He is different than others instead of constantly hitting on me he actually tried to figure me out. My quirks, my habits and how i function, genuinely cared for me. But when you fall so hard, you confess and the other person shuts you out...you become numb. It happens to me when i feel heart wrenching pain, my gemini kicks in and i become superficial to conceal the pain. When he came back i was still trying to recover and now he thinks that i like him for his attention... 😢
Posted by MissAmandaLynnPosted by Geminlove
About people who you want but they arent good for you?
The story of my life. I always seem to attract the bad boy types. The kind that cheat on you, lie to you and then take advantage of you financially, sexually, yada yada. Ok.. I need to stop. I'm having a moment. lolclick to expand
im so sorry to hear 😢 no matter who you attract, you should sit back take a moment and analyze your options and choose the right one.....i sound like a preacher but its just advice 🙂 you'll find your prince charming, good luck.
^^ Lol. thanks. I'd settle for Prince awkward at this point.
Posted by TachiMichi
...some people want to risk eating half a worm just to get a bite of the apple...
Damn....so spot on O_O
Posted by Geminlove
@Leylia12: I want him to be mine, i want to be his. But my guilt is eating me up on the inside. THIS IS ALL MY FAULT 😭 I feel like im not good enough for him. I dont like every guy who gives me his attention, i actually feel uncomfortable and cut off all contact if im not interested so they can move on. Thus I have never had a harem in my life. He is different than others instead of constantly hitting on me he actually tried to figure me out. My quirks, my habits and how i function, genuinely cared for me. But when you fall so hard, you confess and the other person shuts you out...you become numb. It happens to me when i feel heart wrenching pain, my gemini kicks in and i become superficial to conceal the pain. When he came back i was still trying to recover and now he thinks that i like him for his attention... 😢
So you confessed your feelings to him and he shut you out? and then he came back and you push him away again? Sorry, you story is a little confusing lol. Anyway if you still love him and still want him, you'll have to be very patient. Once hurt, it's very hard to get a taurus man back. There is no miracle solution, you have to be steady in your approach and not be all over him suddenly. I know it's a lot easier said than done, but be yourself and be transparent...the truth is... Taurus man are dumb and dense as hell when it comes to the woman they love...subtle hints don't work really well with them... and will just end up frustrating the hell out of you. So smile and laugh if they do something you like and it's ok to be mad at them and let them know it when something is wrong... not talking about some silly girly issu. What I'm saying is... if him begin distant bother you... you have to let him know it...to you it might sounds like it come from nowhere but to them, that is spelled steady and will help them move in the right direction. As for you not being good for him...sorry to be harsh, but keep telling yourself that it might become a reality....Truth is only him will have the answer to that. Just do what you have to do and what you want to do... and let him do his part.
Posted by Geminlove
About people who you want but they arent good for you?
More likely to happen to women than men in most cases.
Posted by Leylia12Posted by Geminlove
@Leylia12: I want him to be mine, i want to be his. But my guilt is eating me up on the inside. THIS IS ALL MY FAULT 😭 I feel like im not good enough for him. I dont like every guy who gives me his attention, i actually feel uncomfortable and cut off all contact if im not interested so they can move on. Thus I have never had a harem in my life. He is different than others instead of constantly hitting on me he actually tried to figure me out. My quirks, my habits and how i function, genuinely cared for me. But when you fall so hard, you confess and the other person shuts you out...you become numb. It happens to me when i feel heart wrenching pain, my gemini kicks in and i become superficial to conceal the pain. When he came back i was still trying to recover and now he thinks that i like him for his attention... 😢
So you confessed your feelings to him and he shut you out? and then he came back and you push him away again? Sorry, you story is a little confusing lol. Anyway if you still love him and still want him, you'll have to be very patient. Once hurt, it's very hard to get a taurus man back. There is no miracle solution, you have to be steady in your approach and not be all over him suddenly. I know it's a lot easier said than done, but be yourself and be transparent...the truth is... Taurus man are dumb and dense as hell when it comes to the woman they love...subtle hints don't work really well with them... and will just end up frustrating the hell out of you. So smile and laugh if they do something you like and it's ok to be mad at them and let them know it when something is wrong... not talking about some silly girly issu. What I'm saying is... if him begin distant bother you... you have to let him know it...to you it might sounds like it come from nowhere but to them, that is spelled steady and will help them move in the right direction. As for you not being good for him...sorry to be harsh, but keep telling yourself that it might become a reality....Truth is only him will have the answer to that. Just do what you have to do and what you want to do... and let him do his part.click to expand
Thank your for your advice 🙂
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