What does the taurus guy want?
This topic was created in the Taurus forum by danni1215 on Sunday, October 5, 2014 and has 9 replies.
Hey, so I need some advice! I met a Taurus guy online a few weeks ago (im a Sagittarius girl). We talked online every day for about a week and i liked him so we decided to meet. The first time we met, it was quite nice we just talked and went for a walk and then the second time we met was when I told him i was sick and brought me some food so I went down and sat in his car and we both talked and ate. It was really nice of him and he seemed like he cared a lot. Following that though we kept chatting online and a few times he said he wanted me to give him a head massage (ive heard they love massages?), and I was having some issue with my laptop so i asked him to fix it for me and I would give him a massage in return. He came over and fixed the laptop and then he was like ok time to give me a massage so i mentioned that ive never given anyone a massage so why dont you show me and then ill do it and then one thing led to another and he started kissing my neck and then it went on. I guess he wanted to have sex but I lied and said i had my periods, and he didnt force me but we had a good time and after that we sat and talked for a good hour and even had dinner together! then while leaving he hugged me and kissed me and said he will see me soon and then no message nothing after that! I sent him a message the following day asking if he wanted to go for a movie but he didnt say much and then it just feels like he is avoiding me? I dont know what he is thinking! and I am starting to really like him and i wish he would tell me whats going on in his head or what he wants. Its frustrating me and im always the one to initiate conversations, sometimes i feel maybe he doesnt want to talk but i keep annoying him? I'm so confused and its been 3 days now he hasnt said much and im starting to get really pissed off because of this because I genuinly like this guy and I would do anything for him i just need that confirmation that he has feelings for me too and he will stay but I dont think I will get that? what should i do? just wait for him to come talk to me or keep having casual conversation or be straight to the point and ask him (i dont want to push him away either with this, he may think im too pushy or forcing him). I dont want him to tell me that he loves me but atleast some sort of i like u and we can give this a go would be great to keep me going
danni1215 First of all, don't you ever say "I would do anything for XY" if you know the guy for just a few weeks, lady you don't even know him yet! If you present yourself to him with that attitude from the very beginning, then he will act as he please. People treat you how you let yourself be treated. Do you really want to let this guy, whom you know for only few weeks, think of you as someone who will do anything for him, hmmm???
About 3 day passing.... Considering you recently started seeing each other, three days are nothing. This is not even about famous Taurus slowness.
And about how Taurus move slow. Slow that down even more and add more slowness to that. Take your time. Be patient and easy. Let this thing grow naturally. No pressure, imagine planting a tree - you know it will grow eventually in it's own time,you cannot force it to grow as you wish, by treating it and move around it gently you'll nourish it, try to force it, you will destroy it. Sometimes a bit of distance and space is necessary for things to grow.
Taurus tend to take this "breaks" to digest what they have consumed. Is he going only for the sex and he doesn't see more than that in you or is he processing, time will tell and you have to be yourself, think about yourself, live your life and don't allow yourself to think about him constantly. Many Taurus I know are highly sensitive on emotional state of their close ones. They mostly pick up your energy well. If you let yourself be nervous and anxious around him,worried and insecure, he will probably pick that up and he won't like it, not to mention that you only harm yourself.
I would advise you, in future don't think of false excuses if you don't want something, rather, loudly say you do/or don't want something. Don't be ashamed of your own opinion and your standards just because you don't want to hurt feelings of some immature boy, or sexual predator... etc. Be proud of them, it only shows you respect yourself and there is no one you will allow to treat you otherwise. Now, real man and decent person will respect that.
For now, do not concern yourself with what HE thinks, but think about yourself.
About 3 day passing.... Considering you recently started seeing each other, three days are nothing. This is not even about famous Taurus slowness.
And about how Taurus move slow. Slow that down even more and add more slowness to that. Take your time. Be patient and easy. Let this thing grow naturally. No pressure, imagine planting a tree - you know it will grow eventually in it's own time,you cannot force it to grow as you wish, by treating it and move around it gently you'll nourish it, try to force it, you will destroy it. Sometimes a bit of distance and space is necessary for things to grow.
Taurus tend to take this "breaks" to digest what they have consumed. Is he going only for the sex and he doesn't see more than that in you or is he processing, time will tell and you have to be yourself, think about yourself, live your life and don't allow yourself to think about him constantly. Many Taurus I know are highly sensitive on emotional state of their close ones. They mostly pick up your energy well. If you let yourself be nervous and anxious around him,worried and insecure, he will probably pick that up and he won't like it, not to mention that you only harm yourself.
I would advise you, in future don't think of false excuses if you don't want something, rather, loudly say you do/or don't want something. Don't be ashamed of your own opinion and your standards just because you don't want to hurt feelings of some immature boy, or sexual predator... etc. Be proud of them, it only shows you respect yourself and there is no one you will allow to treat you otherwise. Now, real man and decent person will respect that.
For now, do not concern yourself with what HE thinks, but think about yourself.
First mistake, if a Taurus man tries to initiate sex with you and you lie and say your on your period and you don't give him at least something he most likely will go try to find sex elsewhere. Taurus men are very sexual and when they want to be pleased you better please them! Taurus men will disappear frequently and either they are just focuses on themselves maybe a job (or hanging out with friends) or there is someone else in the picture.
If a Taurus man wants you and sees a future with you he will make it very obvious. They are not afraid to tell you how they feel, it seems to me like he's some what put you on the back burner and is maybe seeing what else is out there or trying to feed his sexual appetite.
If you are already saying you would do anything for him and you guys have only been together for a few weeks, he maybe caught onto that energy and you could of came off as to desperate/clingy. Taurus' do NOT like either one of those and they will run far far away.
My advice to you is focus on yourself, and don't worry about what he's doing. Do not try to initiate conversation with him, if he wants to talk to you he knows how to get a hold of you. It's a silly quote but don't put all your eggs in one basket! Good luck xx
If a Taurus man wants you and sees a future with you he will make it very obvious. They are not afraid to tell you how they feel, it seems to me like he's some what put you on the back burner and is maybe seeing what else is out there or trying to feed his sexual appetite.
If you are already saying you would do anything for him and you guys have only been together for a few weeks, he maybe caught onto that energy and you could of came off as to desperate/clingy. Taurus' do NOT like either one of those and they will run far far away.
My advice to you is focus on yourself, and don't worry about what he's doing. Do not try to initiate conversation with him, if he wants to talk to you he knows how to get a hold of you. It's a silly quote but don't put all your eggs in one basket! Good luck xx
Taurus(Earth) and Sag (Fire) won't work ... ever. Enuff said.
Maybe I'm missing something but from your message it appeared your first few meet ups seem to be geared to be only about you. You were sick, he brought you food. Your laptop broke, he fixed it. You offered a message in return but ended up convincing him to give you one instead. It's always been about taking care of your needs. It appears you're using his niceness. What is he getting out of this? He probably recognized that and moved on.
@Taurusgirl3,
aren't you missing that being nice is a good thing anyway. People feel lucky when they can do good things to each other. But sexual intimacy is something you'd prefer to start just in a good frame. Only a nice atmosphere and some flattery should not be the reason for a woman to have sex if she doesn't feel ok with that. Isn't it what mothers tell their daughters to be slow about with whom they go to bed?
Isn't Internet full of stories of online dating where they even had sex for a few times and every thing was ok now he does not call at all?
aren't you missing that being nice is a good thing anyway. People feel lucky when they can do good things to each other. But sexual intimacy is something you'd prefer to start just in a good frame. Only a nice atmosphere and some flattery should not be the reason for a woman to have sex if she doesn't feel ok with that. Isn't it what mothers tell their daughters to be slow about with whom they go to bed?
Isn't Internet full of stories of online dating where they even had sex for a few times and every thing was ok now he does not call at all?
RainDancer88: "don't play dumb like you didn't know what a back rub meant"
Depending on age and upbringing she may really be that naive:
1. not to know what it means
2. not checking you are sending mixed signals.
Sex starts in mind.
danni1215: "a few times he said he wanted me to give him a head massage (ive heard they love massages?)"
My thought when a guy (first time) asked me to give me a massage was, "omg, this guy knows he didn't reach the mesmerizing moment of intimacy. So he is trying to get there by physical effects". He was a Virgo man. I said no cause it was a turn off for me. I knew romanic timing is possible and essential for me.
For some this may be the only way to overcome shyness. Anyway I say no.
BTW the whole zodiac is saying Sags are sluts. Now a Saggirl is writing how she took care of her intimacy, then they say she is using her him. I may be missing something here.
Depending on age and upbringing she may really be that naive:
1. not to know what it means
2. not checking you are sending mixed signals.
Sex starts in mind.
danni1215: "a few times he said he wanted me to give him a head massage (ive heard they love massages?)"
My thought when a guy (first time) asked me to give me a massage was, "omg, this guy knows he didn't reach the mesmerizing moment of intimacy. So he is trying to get there by physical effects". He was a Virgo man. I said no cause it was a turn off for me. I knew romanic timing is possible and essential for me.
For some this may be the only way to overcome shyness. Anyway I say no.
BTW the whole zodiac is saying Sags are sluts. Now a Saggirl is writing how she took care of her intimacy, then they say she is using her him. I may be missing something here.
BTW don't feel bad just because you told no to a man. Be pride of yourself. Don't give in to flattery. People with backbone have a more respectful love life. Sex starts in head. Wait for the moment you want to do it. Miss the moment only one side wants to do it. Well, unless you are in a partnership. That's another issue.
One of the important things I've learned about a Taurus man is that they WANT a financially stabled woman. They only see a future with women who are successful, FINANCIALLY. I had one tell me he wouldn't date this girl because she's been an associate at Walmart for over a year. Be goal oriented and patient. You can be sensual but stand firm when it comes to giving up the goods. They like to chase.
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