What Happened and Is He Gone for Good
This topic was created in the Taurus forum by yad035 on Wednesday, September 30, 2015 and has 22 replies.
Hi. Met taurus man. Read they move slow. He did not. Put in a realtionship status on Facebook after only 1 week. A month into the relationship said he was thinking when my lease was over we get a place. We were texting/talking every day and/or going out. He liked to throw darts in tournaments and asked me to go with him. There was an older man sitting two seats down from me. He saw that guy reach in front of me to see how many beers left in bucket. The older guy said he was done drinking and was going to give the beers he had left to us. My b/f immediatey came over, got right in the middle between me and the older guy, and the older guy told him what he was doing, and my b/f said no you are not. Couple days later my b/f said that he knew I was bored while watching him play darts and he would not ask me to go anymore. I told him I was fine just sitting there. The relationship continued and was going great. About a month and a half later he wanted to go play darts and asked me to go. I did. Some guy sits down next to me. I figured I would not be sociable due to how he acted the first time. I was even not sociable to women cuz no women around me, so I sat there and watched darts. Well, here comes the b/f and tells the guy that was his seat. Things seemed to be going pretty well otherwise. He started staying less nights with me. We started looking at apartments. He seemed excited. Then the texting and calling slowed way . I was lucky if he stayed two nights a week with me. He said he was exhausted from work 1 day and was going home after work. I noticed he went and played darts. (He had the FB thing turned on where I could see where he was at most times). That bothered me. I did not say anything though. My birthday came and went out to a nice dinner and then to a comedy club. The next week the texts, calls diminished even further. I sent text on a Tuesday and asked him if we were okay. He called and said yes and he loved me, that he was just stressed out from work. I had to initiate contact Wed, Thur, Fri. Only day we both had off was Saturday. I waited Sat and he did not call by early afternoon. I texted I was hurt and confused. Feel like I am an option. We should work thru this or go our separate ways. No contact after that from him. After pressing the issue he texted: Stressed out from work, then get that text from you and you were having second thoughts and both of us seem not ready for committed relationship. He then says he did and does love me but our differences are too great. I did not act myself when out at darts cuz I was afraid and really there was nothing there to do but sit there or talk, and no women were around me. What did he expect me to do? Yes, I was bored but happy to be there with him. I am kind of on the quiet side and not real outgoing. (Just to put that out there). Seems I was not outgoing enough for him, and he thought I was bored stiff at darts, but that was partly his fault
hope this posted.
Virgo. We dated 3 months. He pretty much right from the start put us into a committed relationship.
Want to add this also: On a lot of occasions, he would make remarks to me like, "Did you have a hot date last night." Or, "Did your boyfriend come over." (and this was pretty much from the beginning and went all through the relationship). At first I would tell him he is the only one I was dating and only one interested in dating. When he still was saying those kinds of things, I started saying things like that back. Example: I bet you have more than one woman around. (He drives a semi and is gone 3 days out of the week). His response was, "Yes I do." Then he came back and said, "I can only afford you."
Later on in the relationship, when he did this, I once said, "I would never do that to you. You have my heart." He said, "I know you would never. You won't talk to anybody." (Meaning how quiet I was in the orginal post).
Coulda, shoulda, woulda. I wish I would have questioned him more on why he kept saying those things and stood up and said this is why I am so quiet, but I learned over time that he does not like deep relationship discussions.
Later on in the relationship, when he did this, I once said, "I would never do that to you. You have my heart." He said, "I know you would never. You won't talk to anybody." (Meaning how quiet I was in the orginal post).
Coulda, shoulda, woulda. I wish I would have questioned him more on why he kept saying those things and stood up and said this is why I am so quiet, but I learned over time that he does not like deep relationship discussions.
Just sounds like a big bowl of bullshit to me. Three months in and you've discovered you're probably not very compatible. That's all that's happened here. The comments about 'did you have a hot date?' etc serve no purpose. They're just childish. It could be banter but it doesn't seem that way.
Posted by AgentP911
Just sounds like a big bowl of bullshit to me. Three months in and you've discovered you're probably not very compatible. That's all that's happened here. The comments about 'did you have a hot date?' etc serve no purpose. They're just childish. It could be banter but it doesn't seem that way.
Does the fact that he was not going to answer me at all, meaning cease all contact for good, after I sent that last text of how I felt hurt and confused and we either work it through or move our separate ways, change your idea on probably just not compatible? Just does not seem he would have prefered to not give me an answer at all at first, but that is what he did for a few days. (I did not text him at all for 3 days after he did not answer my text).
Posted by yad035Posted by AgentP911
Just sounds like a big bowl of bullshit to me. Three months in and you've discovered you're probably not very compatible. That's all that's happened here. The comments about 'did you have a hot date?' etc serve no purpose. They're just childish. It could be banter but it doesn't seem that way.
Does the fact that he was not going to answer me at all, meaning cease all contact for good, after I sent that last text of how I felt hurt and confused and we either work it through or move our separate ways, change your idea on probably just not compatible? Just does not seem he would have prefered to not give me an answer at all at first, but that is what he did for a few days. (I did not text him at all for 3 days after he did not answer my text).click to expand
I think you're only looking at the small things and not at the bigger picture. Firstly, do you really think after only one week of knowing each other (that's probably only maybe 5 hours of time spent together) that it's enough to declare relationship status? It isn't. However, I'll entertain it for now and say it is but as you've moved through time and got to know each other more then it sounds like there's many things that cause for concern.
Your question isn't clear and it's too long winded to make a point effectively.
You text him about being hurt etc and it took him three days to respond. Is that what you're saying?
I could pick out so many things from these posts of yours. I'm surprised Busy hasn't already!! She'll be back. I think you should read your own posts then make a list of all things you like about this dude and the things you don't. How you feel when you're with him, how you feel about yourself etc. Loads of stuff. My point is you're three months in and you're not being yourself, you feel you can't be yourself, you're not allowed to talk to anyone else, you send each other stupid shit about being with other people, he's stressed at work (am I the only person who isn't stressed at work???). You assume you're meeting at the weekend yet you haven't made plans then you get disappointed and blame him (been there, done that!). I can't find anything good apart from you saying 'the relationship was going great after a month but... If it was so great there wouldn't be a but.
Ms Virgo needs to self analyse a bit!
Ms Virgo needs to self analyse a bit!
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Oh in three months can make a determination about. We have a built in bullshit sonar alert..
If you're consistent with your actions...you could very much indeed have a Taurus in your life..
If you're consistent with your actions...you could very much indeed have a Taurus in your life..
Posted by AgentP911
I could pick out so many things from these posts of yours. I'm surprised Busy hasn't already!! She'll be back. I think you should read your own posts then make a list of all things you like about this dude and the things you don't. How you feel when you're with him, how you feel about yourself etc. Loads of stuff. My point is you're three months in and you're not being yourself, you feel you can't be yourself, you're not allowed to talk to anyone else, you send each other stupid shit about being with other people, he's stressed at work (am I the only person who isn't stressed at work???). You assume you're meeting at the weekend yet you haven't made plans then you get disappointed and blame him (been there, done that!). I can't find anything good apart from you saying 'the relationship was going great after a month but... If it was so great there wouldn't be a but.
Ms Virgo needs to self analyse a bit!
Thanks. I should not have been someone other than myself. I made a wrong call and kept quiet so he would not think I was a flirt.
@The OP.
What's his date of birth.
It sounds as if his placements are contradicting his Sun sign.
If his Venus or Moon is in Aries/Gemini, chances are, the relationship ended before it started.
When a Bull moves this quick, adjust your radar.
This is NEVER a good sign.
What's his date of birth.
It sounds as if his placements are contradicting his Sun sign.
If his Venus or Moon is in Aries/Gemini, chances are, the relationship ended before it started.
When a Bull moves this quick, adjust your radar.
This is NEVER a good sign.
Posted by TaurusBull1977
@The OP.
What's his date of birth.
It sounds as if his placements are contradicting his Sun sign.
If his Venus or Moon is in Aries/Gemini, chances are, the relationship ended before it started.
When a Bull moves this quick, adjust your radar.
This is NEVER a good sign.
May 19, 1968, born in Canoga Park, CA.
BlackMamba, thank you for your thoughts. I thought it was strange about the FB in a relationship thing so soon. There was another thing that happened with that FB thing that I probably should have marked as a red flag. When we became friends on FB, he had himself blocked where no one could search and find him. He had to unhide himself and let me request him as a friend. (The thought crossed my mind why he had it where no one could find him). When I did request him as a friend, and he accepted it, about 3 hours later, I got a friend's request from him. I texted him and asked why am I getting a request from you. He said he accidentally deleted me. I do not think it is so easy to accidentally delete someone from FB as a friend..... The thought crossed my mind he deleted me and re-requested me to put me in a group where I would only see certain things and other people would only see certain things. (but I thought it was maybe because of his teenage daughters.....that he did not want to reveal anything to his daughters so soon.
Posted by yad035
BlackMamba, thank you for your thoughts. I thought it was strange about the FB in a relationship thing so soon. There was another thing that happened with that FB thing that I probably should have marked as a red flag. When we became friends on FB, he had himself blocked where no one could search and find him. He had to unhide himself and let me request him as a friend. (The thought crossed my mind why he had it where no one could find him). When I did request him as a friend, and he accepted it, about 3 hours later, I got a friend's request from him. I texted him and asked why am I getting a request from you. He said he accidentally deleted me. I do not think it is so easy to accidentally delete someone from FB as a friend..... The thought crossed my mind he deleted me and re-requested me to put me in a group where I would only see certain things and other people would only see certain things. (but I thought it was maybe because of his teenage daughters.....that he did not want to reveal anything to his daughters so soon.
Go with the gut and use logic. Sounds like you're right with this scenario.
Posted by yad035Posted by TaurusBull1977
@The OP.
What's his date of birth.
It sounds as if his placements are contradicting his Sun sign.
If his Venus or Moon is in Aries/Gemini, chances are, the relationship ended before it started.
When a Bull moves this quick, adjust your radar.
This is NEVER a good sign.
May 19, 1968, born in Canoga Park, CA.click to expand
Old enough to know better!
Bullet dodging aplenty here!
He has 4 of my placements.
Sun: Taurus
Moon:Gemini
Venus: Aries
Mercury: Taurus
Rising Sign is in 06 Degrees Leo
You love to be the center of attention and you want to appear strong, confident and dominant. You are very proud of yourself, sometimes quite vain even. When all around you are bedraggled and falling apart, you look like a million bucks! Very dignified and honorable, you enjoy the power and privilege, but not the responsibilities, that come with leadership. You are very idealistic but can also be quite stubborn. Others impress you only if they have integrity (but wealth, power and influence can also turn your head). You prefer rich, elegant surroundings and possessions, and will try to acquire them as your budget allows. Physically, you are very impressive - - at your best you have a regal, charismatic demeanor and bearing. Try not to be such a showoff!
Sun is in 11 Degrees Taurus.
You are known for being patient, slow moving and careful -- you love to prolong and savor enjoyable times. You appreciate and need comfort, ease and warm surroundings. Be careful of a tendency to become placid and self-satisfied and to overeat (especially sweets). You require strenuous situations in order to grow and mature properly, even though you try to avoid them. Affectionate, even-tempered and slow to anger -- when you do become emotionally upset, you are also slow to forgive and time must pass before your calm returns. You demand real results from any situation -- abstractions are very difficult for you to comprehend. Very artistic, your hands love to mold and shape things. You portray an earthy, physical sexiness that others find quite seductive.
Moon is in 26 Degrees Gemini.
Restless in the extreme, you are easily bored because of your short attention span. Your emotions change rapidly and you love to talk about your feelings. Generally, you have good judgment -- your intellect controls your emotions and you do not overreact emotionally to things. A good jack-of-all-trades, you have many- sided interests and enjoy reasoning things through. With your mental agility and need for physical mobility, you are attracted to traveling and learning about other peoples and cultures. You have vivid powers of emotional self-expression - - you can be a nonstop talker. You love to share your ideas with anyone who will listen.
Sun: Taurus
Moon:Gemini
Venus: Aries
Mercury: Taurus
Rising Sign is in 06 Degrees Leo
You love to be the center of attention and you want to appear strong, confident and dominant. You are very proud of yourself, sometimes quite vain even. When all around you are bedraggled and falling apart, you look like a million bucks! Very dignified and honorable, you enjoy the power and privilege, but not the responsibilities, that come with leadership. You are very idealistic but can also be quite stubborn. Others impress you only if they have integrity (but wealth, power and influence can also turn your head). You prefer rich, elegant surroundings and possessions, and will try to acquire them as your budget allows. Physically, you are very impressive - - at your best you have a regal, charismatic demeanor and bearing. Try not to be such a showoff!
Sun is in 11 Degrees Taurus.
You are known for being patient, slow moving and careful -- you love to prolong and savor enjoyable times. You appreciate and need comfort, ease and warm surroundings. Be careful of a tendency to become placid and self-satisfied and to overeat (especially sweets). You require strenuous situations in order to grow and mature properly, even though you try to avoid them. Affectionate, even-tempered and slow to anger -- when you do become emotionally upset, you are also slow to forgive and time must pass before your calm returns. You demand real results from any situation -- abstractions are very difficult for you to comprehend. Very artistic, your hands love to mold and shape things. You portray an earthy, physical sexiness that others find quite seductive.
Moon is in 26 Degrees Gemini.
Restless in the extreme, you are easily bored because of your short attention span. Your emotions change rapidly and you love to talk about your feelings. Generally, you have good judgment -- your intellect controls your emotions and you do not overreact emotionally to things. A good jack-of-all-trades, you have many- sided interests and enjoy reasoning things through. With your mental agility and need for physical mobility, you are attracted to traveling and learning about other peoples and cultures. You have vivid powers of emotional self-expression - - you can be a nonstop talker. You love to share your ideas with anyone who will listen.
Cont'd
Mercury is in 19 Degrees Taurus.
A slow and careful thinker, you like to present ideas visually and concretely. Abstractions are quite difficult for you to understand. For you, everything must be practical and useful in order to merit your attention. You are a perfectionist -- you enjoy being skillful enough to handle the dexterity required of fine craftsmanship. Cautious and conservative in your thinking, you are very slow to change your opinions. You are more apt to respond to an appeal to your feelings than to an appeal to logic or reason.
Venus is in 28 Degrees Aries.
You are a very affectionate person but you hate to be tied down. You are more than willing to be the aggressor in initiating new relationships. Indeed, once you have set your sights on someone, you tend to pursue him or her ardently and passionately. But you do demand your own way in a relationship. Try to give in to your partner's needs and desires once in a while.
Mars is in 25 Degrees Taurus.
Careful, slow and thorough about all that you do, at times you are also willful and stubborn when others try to alter your course. You are definitely not a quitter -- you will work long and hard to get what you want. Your possessions are very important to you. One of your continuing problems is that you tend to regard the significant people in your life much the same way as you do your possessions -- you become overly attached and much too jealous. You repress your anger when you get upset and that is not healthy. Try to learn to show your anger immediately in order to avoid painful explosions later.
Mercury is in 19 Degrees Taurus.
A slow and careful thinker, you like to present ideas visually and concretely. Abstractions are quite difficult for you to understand. For you, everything must be practical and useful in order to merit your attention. You are a perfectionist -- you enjoy being skillful enough to handle the dexterity required of fine craftsmanship. Cautious and conservative in your thinking, you are very slow to change your opinions. You are more apt to respond to an appeal to your feelings than to an appeal to logic or reason.
Venus is in 28 Degrees Aries.
You are a very affectionate person but you hate to be tied down. You are more than willing to be the aggressor in initiating new relationships. Indeed, once you have set your sights on someone, you tend to pursue him or her ardently and passionately. But you do demand your own way in a relationship. Try to give in to your partner's needs and desires once in a while.
Mars is in 25 Degrees Taurus.
Careful, slow and thorough about all that you do, at times you are also willful and stubborn when others try to alter your course. You are definitely not a quitter -- you will work long and hard to get what you want. Your possessions are very important to you. One of your continuing problems is that you tend to regard the significant people in your life much the same way as you do your possessions -- you become overly attached and much too jealous. You repress your anger when you get upset and that is not healthy. Try to learn to show your anger immediately in order to avoid painful explosions later.
As I stated earlier, adjust your radar for the Venus/Moon: Aries/Gemini placements.
Pay close to the attention to the Venus in Aries and Moon in Gemini.
This is quite a pattern. Initiate, get caught up in the 'idea' of a partner, territorial, loses it's spark, boredom, then 'reality sets in' , flaws are more visible, the individual gets distracted, and then the grass begins to look greener on the other side. I was guilty of this pattern in my teens and twenties. I'm older, and your Bull is as well, at this stage, there should be some self-realization about what he wants and how to proceed. Apparently he hasn't figured this out yet.
I hate to break this to you, but you're on your way out.
Pay close to the attention to the Venus in Aries and Moon in Gemini.
This is quite a pattern. Initiate, get caught up in the 'idea' of a partner, territorial, loses it's spark, boredom, then 'reality sets in' , flaws are more visible, the individual gets distracted, and then the grass begins to look greener on the other side. I was guilty of this pattern in my teens and twenties. I'm older, and your Bull is as well, at this stage, there should be some self-realization about what he wants and how to proceed. Apparently he hasn't figured this out yet.
I hate to break this to you, but you're on your way out.
^Agree^
Just out of curiosity, I have another question. 20 days went by, and I got a text from him asking when would be a good time to come and get his things. Long story short, I told him I could set his shoes outside my door. He also named a few other things he wanted; basically everything that he had ever bought specifically for my house. I always considered those things gifts. I never asked him for anything, and the things he did buy he never said you can use it, borrow it, etc. Why after 3 weeks, is he texting me asking me this when he dropped off the face of the earth and chose not to talk to me anymore? And just to throw this in the mix, I asked him why, and he said he has been very busy and stressed out with work.
Sometimes it takes people longer to process things so three weeks is clearly a good time frame for him.
I'm not a bull, I'm Scorp but sometimes it takes me a while to think things though and process and see how I feel about things.
I wouldn't focus too much on that.
If he wants these items them just give them to him and be done with it.
I'm not a bull, I'm Scorp but sometimes it takes me a while to think things though and process and see how I feel about things.
I wouldn't focus too much on that.
If he wants these items them just give them to him and be done with it.
taurusbull, where did you get his planets? I am now afraid I got wrong other natal charts as well, because I always use the same page for it
I put his birthday in the natal chart, and what came out was:
His sun: Taurus
Moon: Pisces
Mercury: Gemini
Venus: Taurus
Mars: Gemini
still lots of gemini thou
I put his birthday in the natal chart, and what came out was:
His sun: Taurus
Moon: Pisces
Mercury: Gemini
Venus: Taurus
Mars: Gemini
still lots of gemini thou
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