What the frick...Taurus test, normal behavior, or caution. Good or bad

This topic was created in the Taurus forum by Ventaurmoonlibra on Thursday, September 15, 2016 and has 4 replies.
I believe my Taurus and I may be trying again, though at a slower snails pace. Basically, I ruined my Taurus's security in me and he ran for the hills. Nothing with infedielity, was unaffectionate, didn't openly voice my feelings and attraction, and limited his access. His words exactly the other night, you pisses me off when you ......to long to type....these things make me nervous as hell . I said so you got nervous (bit my tongue to not say scared and ran) and took off. Yes. During the last few months I did the whole make sure he knew I was still there, he responded most always,especially if I got feisty for him not (generally when he was sleeping oops). I called to ask his help the other day he agreed,then I asked to hang out he agreed, even made comments while catching up about things I should have called him for (really you gave no indication geez). I digress, we had a great time. There was touching, dancing etc, then this convoy that did not end clearly, he now knows there were other guys talking to me during this time but I didn't take their advances because as I said "eh, and I WANTED YOU but I wasn't allowed so I will be single because I know what I deserve, if you can't give it to me that's fine just saying". But still not clear...so next day I don't text wait, he texts, convoy start past few days less than when we were together, more than during time apart. I have been affectionate, or flirty in text trying to use words that are true but ease insecurities ie: handomse, sexy, I am proud of you, I appreciate etc. He solidified coming to help me with the thing for Friday. He has initiated all text, of course just brief and ends convoy without it really ending in Taurus fashion. Then 2 nights ago I had responded about something serious that involved me almost getting hurt physically. got feisty when he did not respond with a "guess convo is over haha I am ok by the way". Next morning he said a flat out I am Sorry (new one) that he fell asleep (To be fair he did work like 15 hours). I just said no worries handsome. Radio silence since. No reply to a text I sent nothing. Before he would always call at night and text throughout day. The minimal texting this time I attribute to caution. But I don't want to fail this again, is the silence a test to see if I can fit into his now very busy world , is he being cautious, is it a test to see if I text him, I dunno whether to wait for him, or make contact both could be correct answers. I let him initiate ecauseI figured the control would ease his mind, then again maybe he just changed his mind, but I don't see him going silent, he knows he hurt me when he left instead of talking it out, I have told him how I feel, I know I have to back my words but which is right way? Damn tests I always suck at them, especially when answer could be all of the above.
Hi redOctober thank you for responding.

At moment I have no idea what we are, what we were though:

Few months ago during this was all confused here is how:

Me: we are getting to know each other, seeing each other

My friends and family ( who he did not meet, hello we agreed to go slow except my parents he was already close to my dad through work): her "special friend"

Him: I consider you my girl

His friends and family who I met all of, (like being "presented" kinda odd felt like I should have beauty queen waved or heard trumpets...but he just said this is name): his girlfriend

But we never talked about it, I heard don't ask Taurus so I rolled with it all lol

Then after I had spent much time staying at his house but didn't let him come to mine at 1 am and later another time made him leave at 6 am ( Oi silly me and fear)....

Me: um what are we doing because we said we would go slow but your whole family calls me your girlfriend, was there a conversation we had that I missed?

Him: I said I consider you my girl

Me: that kinda freaks me out

Him: nothing just got physical lol ( which I had to deny...treetrunking dirty lady time)

24 hrs. Later...him: (after radio silence and the 6 am kick out) I think we should stop seeing each other, I am not ready for something serious.

Me: you were the serious one nor me, followed by let's be friends we have a great time together

Him: i'll think about it.

Radio silence, I texted occasionally to let him know I was still there, sent info on a favorite band of ours though when he said he would be out of town I said I was informing I not inviting he blew me off after all.

Then more nicer texts from me since I realized I was an ass, only 1 every week to 2 weeks, even asked him to hang out which may have sounded inadvertently like a booty call given timing...whoops, said no he had to sleep because of this big music thing next day which he did have. received short responses until after his week long bunch of guys vacation, then I texted something harmless about his sport,he suddenly jumped allover replying telling me how well he had done etc. From there he was more in the texts etc and the story above starts. Lol I know this is a lot I have spent months unclear and confused, his brother said he doesn't date, never really has be patient with him so I try to be but good lord This is my first Taurus he has a leo moon and Pisces venus and Mars to boot....I always dated Sags (even married one) and 1 leo....I know how to navigate them....
He isn't married, I would never do that. He never said it was just phsyical either. I said being "his girl scared me" he responded by hugging me kissing me etc. And I didn't assume I was, I said seeing each other, his friends and family said girlfriend, he said his girl....I was the non "titling one here" . they were the ones placing title's drove me nuts actually lol. Just had to clear that up, especially the married man thing no no never nope, when I was married loyal to a fault.
Sounds like a good plan, your right. This may be a reaction to him knowing there are a few other guys sniffing about that I turn down. Plus, honestly I have a great full life, I don't need a man. This stress is for the birds haha oh but for record... did not sleep with him and am not...