What to do...

Posted by tctao
Taurus people would rather be around someone who knows what they want and are sure of themselves. This is not you.



When things are new between 2 people they do communicate more often. Then it is normal for things to settle a bit. It seems like you are someone who needs constant attention and affirmation. Again, you are dealing with a Taurus and we are not built that way.



Perhaps another sign would be better for you. Not sure what your sign is.

Posted by Alswope307

Posted by tctao
Taurus people would rather be around someone who knows what they want and are sure of themselves. This is not you.





When things are new between 2 people they do communicate more often. Then it is normal for things to settle a bit. It seems like you are someone who needs constant attention and affirmation. Again, you are dealing with a Taurus and we are not built that way.





Perhaps another sign would be better for you. Not sure what your sign is.

So I’m a Pisces. I’m very sweet and caring.. and I hate upsetting people. I honest to god wanted to see him, I was packed, got my hair done, nails done lashes the works... I just talked myself out of it. Normally if I do that I suck it up and tell myself I’ll have a good time regardless... and always do.

I’m just wondering since he still has me around on IG and has been viewing my Snapchat stories... if he’s still slightly interested? I want to reach out but I was the last one to text and it already stated I wanted to buy another ticket to come see him bc I really do! I want that opportunity but I also don’t want to bug someone who’s not interested or look needy. How should I go about this? Going on 3 days of not hearing from him... click to expand

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Posted by LadyNeptune
Why would you fly yourself to him. Why can't he meet you halfway or go halfsies on your ticket?

Posted by Alswope307

Posted by LadyNeptune
Why would you fly yourself to him. Why can't he meet you halfway or go halfsies on your ticket?

Well he lives in Florida, so a vaca as well. lol I didn't mind paying, i don't normally even like men paying for me when i dont know them that well. click to expand

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Posted by Alswope307
I’m wondering if I should maybe snap him something sexy.. I know we talked a lot about getting physical once I was there, or if I should try and just be normal and ask how’s he’s been through text.

Or try and be a bit funny by saying how much I must be in the dog house since I haven’t even gotten a hello for a few days....

I’d like to lighten it a bit because that’s how I am, I’m very sarcastic and I like to make light of situations.

I thought maybe a sexy snap would get his attention with some sort of a caption stating I’d like to wear this for him in person or just a thinking of you... lol

Men are hard to read, and I’m a huge pleaser I just don’t like to come off eager or needy.

Posted by Alswope307
I’m wondering if I should maybe snap him something sexy.. I know we talked a lot about getting physical once I was there, or if I should try and just be normal and ask how’s he’s been through text.

Or try and be a bit funny by saying how much I must be in the dog house since I haven’t even gotten a hello for a few days....

I’d like to lighten it a bit because that’s how I am, I’m very sarcastic and I like to make light of situations.

I thought maybe a sexy snap would get his attention with some sort of a caption stating I’d like to wear this for him in person or just a thinking of you... lol

Men are hard to read, and I’m a huge pleaser I just don’t like to come off eager or needy.

Posted by The_Mad_Hatter

Posted by Boots1313

Posted by Alswope307
I’m wondering if I should maybe snap him something sexy.. I know we talked a lot about getting physical once I was there, or if I should try and just be normal and ask how’s he’s been through text.



Or try and be a bit funny by saying how much I must be in the dog house since I haven’t even gotten a hello for a few days....



I’d like to lighten it a bit because that’s how I am, I’m very sarcastic and I like to make light of situations.



I thought maybe a sexy snap would get his attention with some sort of a caption stating I’d like to wear this for him in person or just a thinking of you... lol



Men are hard to read, and I’m a huge pleaser I just don’t like to come off eager or needy.

I wouldn't go through sexy route.


Taurus men are physical but they aren't necessarily into that, at least not before they know you. ...he might find it dare I say "too easy" and might see right though it as you seeking attention





They enjoy wit and funny banter...I would go an intellectual route click to expand

Or this... if you wanna play it safer.. OP should know somewhat how he'll take it after 2 months, use your best judgment..



I'd dig it.. click to expand

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Posted by The_Mad_Hatter

Posted by Alswope307
I’m wondering if I should maybe snap him something sexy.. I know we talked a lot about getting physical once I was there, or if I should try and just be normal and ask how’s he’s been through text.


Or try and be a bit funny by saying how much I must be in the dog house since I haven’t even gotten a hello for a few days....


I’d like to lighten it a bit because that’s how I am, I’m very sarcastic and I like to make light of situations.


I thought maybe a sexy snap would get his attention with some sort of a caption stating I’d like to wear this for him in person or just a thinking of you... lol


Men are hard to read, and I’m a huge pleaser I just don’t like to come off eager or needy.

Sexy funny.. shock value will hit us over the head like a sledge hammer... he'll talk.. click to expand

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Posted by Alswope307

Posted by The_Mad_Hatter

Posted by Alswope307
I’m wondering if I should maybe snap him something sexy.. I know we talked a lot about getting physical once I was there, or if I should try and just be normal and ask how’s he’s been through text.



Or try and be a bit funny by saying how much I must be in the dog house since I haven’t even gotten a hello for a few days....



I’d like to lighten it a bit because that’s how I am, I’m very sarcastic and I like to make light of situations.



I thought maybe a sexy snap would get his attention with some sort of a caption stating I’d like to wear this for him in person or just a thinking of you... lol



Men are hard to read, and I’m a huge pleaser I just don’t like to come off eager or needy.

Sexy funny.. shock value will hit us over the head like a sledge hammer... he'll talk.. click to expand

Sexy funny, alright. I can try that. I think i come off awkward more so than anything at times trying to be sexy. Lol just for reference, any helpful things to throw out? What could I say to you if I had bailed last minute on a trip, have let you be but clearly am wanting to keep in touch. My hope is by getting back to a normal.. I can bring up wanting to visit again. I feel like if I keep bringing that up it’s just annoying. (Which sucks bc id love to get on a plane today if I could) click to expand

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Posted by Boots1313

Posted by Alswope307

Posted by The_Mad_Hatter

Posted by Alswope307
I’m wondering if I should maybe snap him something sexy.. I know we talked a lot about getting physical once I was there, or if I should try and just be normal and ask how’s he’s been through text.




Or try and be a bit funny by saying how much I must be in the dog house since I haven’t even gotten a hello for a few days....




I’d like to lighten it a bit because that’s how I am, I’m very sarcastic and I like to make light of situations.




I thought maybe a sexy snap would get his attention with some sort of a caption stating I’d like to wear this for him in person or just a thinking of you... lol




Men are hard to read, and I’m a huge pleaser I just don’t like to come off eager or needy.

Sexy funny.. shock value will hit us over the head like a sledge hammer... he'll talk.. click to expand

Sexy funny, alright. I can try that. I think i come off awkward more so than anything at times trying to be sexy. Lol just for reference, any helpful things to throw out? What could I say to you if I had bailed last minute on a trip, have let you be but clearly am wanting to keep in touch. My hope is by getting back to a normal.. I can bring up wanting to visit again. I feel like if I keep bringing that up it’s just annoying. (Which sucks bc id love to get on a plane today if I could) click to expand

Do you happen to know any of his other placements?



Venus, mars and moon specifcally click to expand

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Posted by The_Mad_Hatter

Posted by Alswope307

Posted by The_Mad_Hatter

Posted by Alswope307
I’m wondering if I should maybe snap him something sexy.. I know we talked a lot about getting physical once I was there, or if I should try and just be normal and ask how’s he’s been through text.




Or try and be a bit funny by saying how much I must be in the dog house since I haven’t even gotten a hello for a few days....




I’d like to lighten it a bit because that’s how I am, I’m very sarcastic and I like to make light of situations.




I thought maybe a sexy snap would get his attention with some sort of a caption stating I’d like to wear this for him in person or just a thinking of you... lol




Men are hard to read, and I’m a huge pleaser I just don’t like to come off eager or needy.

Sexy funny.. shock value will hit us over the head like a sledge hammer... he'll talk.. click to expand

Sexy funny, alright. I can try that. I think i come off awkward more so than anything at times trying to be sexy. Lol just for reference, any helpful things to throw out? What could I say to you if I had bailed last minute on a trip, have let you be but clearly am wanting to keep in touch. My hope is by getting back to a normal.. I can bring up wanting to visit again. I feel like if I keep bringing that up it’s just annoying. (Which sucks bc id love to get on a plane today if I could) click to expand

I think you were on the right track before; a pic with a "wold this get me outta the doghouse" kinda thing. I can't guarantee anything, but it should Crack the door open a little... PS. Awkward Sexy is sexy... one case where practice makes perfect, but perfect isn't always best. click to expand

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Posted by Alswope307

Posted by Boots1313

Posted by Alswope307

Posted by The_Mad_Hatter

Posted by Alswope307
I’m wondering if I should maybe snap him something sexy.. I know we talked a lot about getting physical once I was there, or if I should try and just be normal and ask how’s he’s been through text.





Or try and be a bit funny by saying how much I must be in the dog house since I haven’t even gotten a hello for a few days....





I’d like to lighten it a bit because that’s how I am, I’m very sarcastic and I like to make light of situations.





I thought maybe a sexy snap would get his attention with some sort of a caption stating I’d like to wear this for him in person or just a thinking of you... lol





Men are hard to read, and I’m a huge pleaser I just don’t like to come off eager or needy.

Sexy funny.. shock value will hit us over the head like a sledge hammer... he'll talk.. click to expand

Sexy funny, alright. I can try that. I think i come off awkward more so than anything at times trying to be sexy. Lol just for reference, any helpful things to throw out? What could I say to you if I had bailed last minute on a trip, have let you be but clearly am wanting to keep in touch. My hope is by getting back to a normal.. I can bring up wanting to visit again. I feel like if I keep bringing that up it’s just annoying. (Which sucks bc id love to get on a plane today if I could) click to expand

Do you happen to know any of his other placements?





Venus, mars and moon specifcally click to expand

Oh I have no idea... his birthday is May 11, 12 or 13th I believe if that helps? Lol click to expand

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Posted by Boots1313

Posted by Alswope307

Posted by Boots1313

Posted by Alswope307

Posted by The_Mad_Hatter

Posted by Alswope307
I’m wondering if I should maybe snap him something sexy.. I know we talked a lot about getting physical once I was there, or if I should try and just be normal and ask how’s he’s been through text.






Or try and be a bit funny by saying how much I must be in the dog house since I haven’t even gotten a hello for a few days....






I’d like to lighten it a bit because that’s how I am, I’m very sarcastic and I like to make light of situations.






I thought maybe a sexy snap would get his attention with some sort of a caption stating I’d like to wear this for him in person or just a thinking of you... lol






Men are hard to read, and I’m a huge pleaser I just don’t like to come off eager or needy.

Sexy funny.. shock value will hit us over the head like a sledge hammer... he'll talk.. click to expand

Sexy funny, alright. I can try that. I think i come off awkward more so than anything at times trying to be sexy. Lol just for reference, any helpful things to throw out? What could I say to you if I had bailed last minute on a trip, have let you be but clearly am wanting to keep in touch. My hope is by getting back to a normal.. I can bring up wanting to visit again. I feel like if I keep bringing that up it’s just annoying. (Which sucks bc id love to get on a plane today if I could) click to expand

Do you happen to know any of his other placements?







Venus, mars and moon specifcally click to expand

Oh I have no idea... his birthday is May 11, 12 or 13th I believe if that helps? Lol click to expand

Need exact date and year...

Cafe astrology has natal chart you can check out.

Also you have been talking 2 months and don't know his bday.... click to expand

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Posted by Alswope307

Posted by Boots1313

Posted by Alswope307

Posted by Boots1313

Posted by Alswope307

Posted by The_Mad_Hatter

Posted by Alswope307
I’m wondering if I should maybe snap him something sexy.. I know we talked a lot about getting physical once I was there, or if I should try and just be normal and ask how’s he’s been through text.







Or try and be a bit funny by saying how much I must be in the dog house since I haven’t even gotten a hello for a few days....







I’d like to lighten it a bit because that’s how I am, I’m very sarcastic and I like to make light of situations.







I thought maybe a sexy snap would get his attention with some sort of a caption stating I’d like to wear this for him in person or just a thinking of you... lol







Men are hard to read, and I’m a huge pleaser I just don’t like to come off eager or needy.

Sexy funny.. shock value will hit us over the head like a sledge hammer... he'll talk.. click to expand

Sexy funny, alright. I can try that. I think i come off awkward more so than anything at times trying to be sexy. Lol just for reference, any helpful things to throw out? What could I say to you if I had bailed last minute on a trip, have let you be but clearly am wanting to keep in touch. My hope is by getting back to a normal.. I can bring up wanting to visit again. I feel like if I keep bringing that up it’s just annoying. (Which sucks bc id love to get on a plane today if I could) click to expand

Do you happen to know any of his other placements?









Venus, mars and moon specifcally click to expand

Oh I have no idea... his birthday is May 11, 12 or 13th I believe if that helps? Lol click to expand

Need exact date and year...


Cafe astrology has natal chart you can check out.


Also you have been talking 2 months and don't know his bday.... click to expand

Haha I have horrible memory! He told me when we first met but haven’t talked

About it since. I can barely remember what I wore yesterday. He’s 28, so that would put him at 1990? And I want to say it’s the 13th click to expand

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Posted by The_Mad_Hatter

Posted by Alswope307

Posted by The_Mad_Hatter

Posted by Alswope307

Posted by The_Mad_Hatter

Posted by Alswope307
I’m wondering if I should maybe snap him something sexy.. I know we talked a lot about getting physical once I was there, or if I should try and just be normal and ask how’s he’s been through text.






Or try and be a bit funny by saying how much I must be in the dog house since I haven’t even gotten a hello for a few days....






I’d like to lighten it a bit because that’s how I am, I’m very sarcastic and I like to make light of situations.






I thought maybe a sexy snap would get his attention with some sort of a caption stating I’d like to wear this for him in person or just a thinking of you... lol






Men are hard to read, and I’m a huge pleaser I just don’t like to come off eager or needy.

Sexy funny.. shock value will hit us over the head like a sledge hammer... he'll talk.. click to expand

Sexy funny, alright. I can try that. I think i come off awkward more so than anything at times trying to be sexy. Lol just for reference, any helpful things to throw out? What could I say to you if I had bailed last minute on a trip, have let you be but clearly am wanting to keep in touch. My hope is by getting back to a normal.. I can bring up wanting to visit again. I feel like if I keep bringing that up it’s just annoying. (Which sucks bc id love to get on a plane today if I could) click to expand

I think you were on the right track before; a pic with a "wold this get me outta the doghouse" kinda thing. I can't guarantee anything, but it should Crack the door open a little... PS. Awkward Sexy is sexy... one case where practice makes perfect, but perfect isn't always best. click to expand

Alright, good advice! I’ve already mentally prepared myself to not expect anything after my actions. I guess since he kept saying he understood and wasn’t mad, that he did understand I just got nervous and if I was willing to buy yet ANOTHER plane ticket to see him he would be all for it.


At one point the day after I didn’t show, I had mentioned trying to come in June and he had never responded so I told him to just be honest if I had lost my chance. His response was then “maybe, we’ll have to see. It really turned me off you didn’t come”...


So there might be a smidge of hope.. but then again he could just be saying maybe in order to let me down easy since I haven’t even heard from him. I’m just unsure if he’s expecting me make more of an effort or if he’s just really not interested.. ya know? 🤷🏼‍♀️ click to expand

If he's a good stable Taurus, he shouldn't be willing to walk away without a good solid conclusion.. (read the Taurus boards there are some that won't quit after a conclusion... but that's not too stable either).



You know the guy better than is, does he seem like a quitter? click to expand

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Posted by Alswope307
First of all, I’m sorry this is so lengthy. I need to give details if I want good feedback though.



I met a Taurus man back I feb who was in town for a bachelor party. (he lives in another state than I do) We hung out a few times that weekend and he made the time for me which I thought was sweet and nice since he was with friends he hadn’t seen in awhile. His last night in town we slept together. About a week and a half later I booked a ticket to visit him. That visit should of been last Wednesday but for some reason after all of the anticipation, sex talk, getting to know each other and keeping in touch almost every day I talked myself out of getting on the plane last minute. I don’t know if it’s bc I started to hear from him less which made me feel like he didn’t want me to come as much anymore or if it was bc the flight was so early (5am) I had to be up at 2am... not completely thinking clearly lol.



Regardless I just didn’t get on it and lost out on the money. He said he didn’t see that coming and was very disappointed.. he had events paid for and things planned out. But for some reason I felt like... I had more attention in the beginning, he would txt me more, call me beautiful and check in etc... towards the actual visit I felt like he was distant. Maybe it’s bc he lived in another state so there isn’t as much to talk about... especially not really knowing each other.



Anyways... I felt bad and immediately regretted not going. I knew we would of had a good time regardless and our sex the first time was amazing so we had both been looking forward to that again. 2 1/2 months of waiting....

Since then he has hardly talked to me and when I mentioned buying another ticket to visit he said “maybe we’ll see. It was a turn off I didn’t come.”

A few nights ago I sent him a decent sized text stating I was sorry, (put thought into it all weekend) I really wanted to buy another ticket and make it up to him, that he was a great guy and I just got nervous. He said a short answer about he understood, knew I wasn’t playing any games and I wanted to come but if I was uncomfortable it is what it is.

I responded mentioning buying another ticket bc I really want to visit and have that time together but he hasn’t said anything to me since Sunday night. He looks at my snaps and hasn’t taken me off any social media... yet. Lol but I’m just wondering what to do? If there is anything I can do or if he’ll maybe want me to come visit if I go about it the right way... I’m just unsure as to how to do that.



Some help would be greatly appreciated!!

Posted by The_Mad_Hatter

Posted by Alswope307

Posted by Alswope307
First of all, I’m sorry this is so lengthy. I need to give details if I want good feedback though.







I met a Taurus man back I feb who was in town for a bachelor party. (he lives in another state than I do) We hung out a few times that weekend and he made the time for me which I thought was sweet and nice since he was with friends he hadn’t seen in awhile. His last night in town we slept together. About a week and a half later I booked a ticket to visit him. That visit should of been last Wednesday but for some reason after all of the anticipation, sex talk, getting to know each other and keeping in touch almost every day I talked myself out of getting on the plane last minute. I don’t know if it’s bc I started to hear from him less which made me feel like he didn’t want me to come as much anymore or if it was bc the flight was so early (5am) I had to be up at 2am... not completely thinking clearly lol.







Regardless I just didn’t get on it and lost out on the money. He said he didn’t see that coming and was very disappointed.. he had events paid for and things planned out. But for some reason I felt like... I had more attention in the beginning, he would txt me more, call me beautiful and check in etc... towards the actual visit I felt like he was distant. Maybe it’s bc he lived in another state so there isn’t as much to talk about... especially not really knowing each other.







Anyways... I felt bad and immediately regretted not going. I knew we would of had a good time regardless and our sex the first time was amazing so we had both been looking forward to that again. 2 1/2 months of waiting....



Since then he has hardly talked to me and when I mentioned buying another ticket to visit he said “maybe we’ll see. It was a turn off I didn’t come.”



A few nights ago I sent him a decent sized text stating I was sorry, (put thought into it all weekend) I really wanted to buy another ticket and make it up to him, that he was a great guy and I just got nervous. He said a short answer about he understood, knew I wasn’t playing any games and I wanted to come but if I was uncomfortable it is what it is.



I responded mentioning buying another ticket bc I really want to visit and have that time together but he hasn’t said anything to me since Sunday night. He looks at my snaps and hasn’t taken me off any social media... yet. Lol but I’m just wondering what to do? If there is anything I can do or if he’ll maybe want me to come visit if I go about it the right way... I’m just unsure as to how to do that.







Some help would be greatly appreciated!!

I appreciate all of the feedback. I do have a question for the Taurus men, if i could get your input. If it was you that i did this too, had a trip planned and bailed last minute. Why would you not be reaching out anymore? Is it because you're clearly upset and want space, want to see if i'll continue to make an effort or make more of one or you're just no longer interested and hope i catch on? I am trying to get a mans view and opinion on what might be going on before i decide to message him tonight..or if i even should. Maybe i should wait even longer to reach out.. anyways feedback would be great!





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I wouldn't reach out because if I wasn't important enough for you to follow through with the plans already made, why should I make you feel important by initiating contact... best advice I can give is don't get into a game of chicken with a Taurus...... you will lose if you think they will cave first.. or at least I'm that way.. I'll forgive, but I gotta have something to work with to do so. click to expand

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Postied by wildflower
Damnnnn, idk how you're going to get back from that! If you really want him, just show up!!

and see what happens.. could be good!

And if its not, then be done with it.

Posted by Alswope307

Posted by Alswope307
First of all, I’m sorry this is so lengthy. I need to give details if I want good feedback though.





I met a Taurus man back I feb who was in town for a bachelor party. (he lives in another state than I do) We hung out a few times that weekend and he made the time for me which I thought was sweet and nice since he was with friends he hadn’t seen in awhile. His last night in town we slept together. About a week and a half later I booked a ticket to visit him. That visit should of been last Wednesday but for some reason after all of the anticipation, sex talk, getting to know each other and keeping in touch almost every day I talked myself out of getting on the plane last minute. I don’t know if it’s bc I started to hear from him less which made me feel like he didn’t want me to come as much anymore or if it was bc the flight was so early (5am) I had to be up at 2am... not completely thinking clearly lol.





Regardless I just didn’t get on it and lost out on the money. He said he didn’t see that coming and was very disappointed.. he had events paid for and things planned out. But for some reason I felt like... I had more attention in the beginning, he would txt me more, call me beautiful and check in etc... towards the actual visit I felt like he was distant. Maybe it’s bc he lived in another state so there isn’t as much to talk about... especially not really knowing each other.





Anyways... I felt bad and immediately regretted not going. I knew we would of had a good time regardless and our sex the first time was amazing so we had both been looking forward to that again. 2 1/2 months of waiting....


Since then he has hardly talked to me and when I mentioned buying another ticket to visit he said “maybe we’ll see. It was a turn off I didn’t come.”


A few nights ago I sent him a decent sized text stating I was sorry, (put thought into it all weekend) I really wanted to buy another ticket and make it up to him, that he was a great guy and I just got nervous. He said a short answer about he understood, knew I wasn’t playing any games and I wanted to come but if I was uncomfortable it is what it is.


I responded mentioning buying another ticket bc I really want to visit and have that time together but he hasn’t said anything to me since Sunday night. He looks at my snaps and hasn’t taken me off any social media... yet. Lol but I’m just wondering what to do? If there is anything I can do or if he’ll maybe want me to come visit if I go about it the right way... I’m just unsure as to how to do that.





Some help would be greatly appreciated!!

I appreciate all of the feedback. I do have a question for the Taurus men, if i could get your input. If it was you that i did this too, had a trip planned and bailed last minute. Why would you not be reaching out anymore? Is it because you're clearly upset and want space, want to see if i'll continue to make an effort or make more of one or you're just no longer interested and hope i catch on? I am trying to get a mans view and opinion on what might be going on before i decide to message him tonight..or if i even should. Maybe i should wait even longer to reach out.. anyways feedback would be great!



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Posted by Alswope307

Posted by Alswope307

Posted by Alswope307
First of all, I’m sorry this is so lengthy. I need to give details if I want good feedback though.







I met a Taurus man back I feb who was in town for a bachelor party. (he lives in another state than I do) We hung out a few times that weekend and he made the time for me which I thought was sweet and nice since he was with friends he hadn’t seen in awhile. His last night in town we slept together. About a week and a half later I booked a ticket to visit him. That visit should of been last Wednesday but for some reason after all of the anticipation, sex talk, getting to know each other and keeping in touch almost every day I talked myself out of getting on the plane last minute. I don’t know if it’s bc I started to hear from him less which made me feel like he didn’t want me to come as much anymore or if it was bc the flight was so early (5am) I had to be up at 2am... not completely thinking clearly lol.







Regardless I just didn’t get on it and lost out on the money. He said he didn’t see that coming and was very disappointed.. he had events paid for and things planned out. But for some reason I felt like... I had more attention in the beginning, he would txt me more, call me beautiful and check in etc... towards the actual visit I felt like he was distant. Maybe it’s bc he lived in another state so there isn’t as much to talk about... especially not really knowing each other.







Anyways... I felt bad and immediately regretted not going. I knew we would of had a good time regardless and our sex the first time was amazing so we had both been looking forward to that again. 2 1/2 months of waiting....



Since then he has hardly talked to me and when I mentioned buying another ticket to visit he said “maybe we’ll see. It was a turn off I didn’t come.”



A few nights ago I sent him a decent sized text stating I was sorry, (put thought into it all weekend) I really wanted to buy another ticket and make it up to him, that he was a great guy and I just got nervous. He said a short answer about he understood, knew I wasn’t playing any games and I wanted to come but if I was uncomfortable it is what it is.



I responded mentioning buying another ticket bc I really want to visit and have that time together but he hasn’t said anything to me since Sunday night. He looks at my snaps and hasn’t taken me off any social media... yet. Lol but I’m just wondering what to do? If there is anything I can do or if he’ll maybe want me to come visit if I go about it the right way... I’m just unsure as to how to do that.







Some help would be greatly appreciated!!

I appreciate all of the feedback. I do have a question for the Taurus men, if i could get your input. If it was you that i did this too, had a trip planned and bailed last minute. Why would you not be reaching out anymore? Is it because you're clearly upset and want space, want to see if i'll continue to make an effort or make more of one or you're just no longer interested and hope i catch on? I am trying to get a mans view and opinion on what might be going on before i decide to message him tonight..or if i even should. Maybe i should wait even longer to reach out.. anyways feedback would be great!





Thanks! click to expand

So I sent him a cute yet sexy and simple photo of my sitting on my bed in a tank top and panties. I said “Hey! Just was thinking about you... wanted to pop in and see how you were?

Also, I’m not sure where my pants went...but I can assure you it wasn’t a plan to hopefully push me out of the dog house a bit. 🙈”

That was an hour ago, I know he’s been online so I know he’s had to of seen it and just not responded. SO, it’s either going to be a no response or maybe he’ll make me

Wait awhile and then say something. Either way... kind of sucks I’m trying to make an effort to make it up and it just doesn’t seem to be playing out well. Kicking myself in the ass for sure. 🤦🏼‍♀️



So it’s been 4 hours and nothing. I don’t know but I feel like I have a right to be pissed off and want to say something regardless wether it’s tonight or tomorrow. I was the one who booked a plane ticket and PAID to come visit, I kept in touch the most and I just sent a sexy photo with no response. That’s not okay to me. Don’t look at my Snapchat stories, get online but ignore me. I’m TRYINGy best to be cute and fix this from a distance and him saying he understood and want going to hold it against me sounds like bullshit to me if he’s going to ignore me. I’m really a sweet girl and I’ve dated a lot of douche bags.... I get what I did is messed up, and that’s why I’m trying to fix it. I don’t think it’s okay he lies and says he’s fine but ignores me. At this point should I say any of that or just never text him?

Should I be the one to take him

Off social media or wait to see if he does it to me? I’m just over all frustrated.... this would be so much easier for me to take care of within distance, like I said I’m a pleaser.... it’s just hard to do that from afar. I would even send him something if I knew his address but I don’t even know that. Fml click to expand

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Posted by Alswope307

Posted by Alswope307

Posted by Alswope307
First of all, I’m sorry this is so lengthy. I need to give details if I want good feedback though.







I met a Taurus man back I feb who was in town for a bachelor party. (he lives in another state than I do) We hung out a few times that weekend and he made the time for me which I thought was sweet and nice since he was with friends he hadn’t seen in awhile. His last night in town we slept together. About a week and a half later I booked a ticket to visit him. That visit should of been last Wednesday but for some reason after all of the anticipation, sex talk, getting to know each other and keeping in touch almost every day I talked myself out of getting on the plane last minute. I don’t know if it’s bc I started to hear from him less which made me feel like he didn’t want me to come as much anymore or if it was bc the flight was so early (5am) I had to be up at 2am... not completely thinking clearly lol.







Regardless I just didn’t get on it and lost out on the money. He said he didn’t see that coming and was very disappointed.. he had events paid for and things planned out. But for some reason I felt like... I had more attention in the beginning, he would txt me more, call me beautiful and check in etc... towards the actual visit I felt like he was distant. Maybe it’s bc he lived in another state so there isn’t as much to talk about... especially not really knowing each other.







Anyways... I felt bad and immediately regretted not going. I knew we would of had a good time regardless and our sex the first time was amazing so we had both been looking forward to that again. 2 1/2 months of waiting....



Since then he has hardly talked to me and when I mentioned buying another ticket to visit he said “maybe we’ll see. It was a turn off I didn’t come.”



A few nights ago I sent him a decent sized text stating I was sorry, (put thought into it all weekend) I really wanted to buy another ticket and make it up to him, that he was a great guy and I just got nervous. He said a short answer about he understood, knew I wasn’t playing any games and I wanted to come but if I was uncomfortable it is what it is.



I responded mentioning buying another ticket bc I really want to visit and have that time together but he hasn’t said anything to me since Sunday night. He looks at my snaps and hasn’t taken me off any social media... yet. Lol but I’m just wondering what to do? If there is anything I can do or if he’ll maybe want me to come visit if I go about it the right way... I’m just unsure as to how to do that.







Some help would be greatly appreciated!!

I appreciate all of the feedback. I do have a question for the Taurus men, if i could get your input. If it was you that i did this too, had a trip planned and bailed last minute. Why would you not be reaching out anymore? Is it because you're clearly upset and want space, want to see if i'll continue to make an effort or make more of one or you're just no longer interested and hope i catch on? I am trying to get a mans view and opinion on what might be going on before i decide to message him tonight..or if i even should. Maybe i should wait even longer to reach out.. anyways feedback would be great!





Thanks! click to expand

So I sent him a cute yet sexy and simple photo of my sitting on my bed in a tank top and panties. I said “Hey! Just was thinking about you... wanted to pop in and see how you were?

Also, I’m not sure where my pants went...but I can assure you it wasn’t a plan to hopefully push me out of the dog house a bit. 🙈”

That was an hour ago, I know he’s been online so I know he’s had to of seen it and just not responded. SO, it’s either going to be a no response or maybe he’ll make me

Wait awhile and then say something. Either way... kind of sucks I’m trying to make an effort to make it up and it just doesn’t seem to be playing out well. Kicking myself in the ass for sure. 🤦🏼‍♀️



So it’s been 4 hours and nothing. I don’t know but I feel like I have a right to be pissed off and want to say something regardless wether it’s tonight or tomorrow. I was the one who booked a plane ticket and PAID to come visit, I kept in touch the most and I just sent a sexy photo with no response. That’s not okay to me. Don’t look at my Snapchat stories, get online but ignore me. I’m TRYING my best to be cute and fix this from a distance but him saying he understood and wasnt going to hold it against me sounds like bullbutter to me if he’s going to ignore me. I’m really a sweet girl and I’ve dated a lot of douche bags.... I get what I did is messed up, and that’s why I’m trying to fix it. I don’t think it’s okay he lies and says he’s fine but ignores me. At this point should I say any of that or just never text him?

Should I be the one to take him

Off social media or wait to see if he does it to me? I’m just over all frustrated.... this would be so much easier for me to take care of within distance, like I said I’m a pleaser.... it’s just hard to do that from afar. I would even send him something if I knew his address but I don’t even know that. Fml click to expand

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Posted by Alswope307

Posted by Alswope307

Posted by Alswope307

Posted by Alswope307
First of all, I’m sorry this is so lengthy. I need to give details if I want good feedback though.









I met a Taurus man back I feb who was in town for a bachelor party. (he lives in another state than I do) We hung out a few times that weekend and he made the time for me which I thought was sweet and nice since he was with friends he hadn’t seen in awhile. His last night in town we slept together. About a week and a half later I booked a ticket to visit him. That visit should of been last Wednesday but for some reason after all of the anticipation, sex talk, getting to know each other and keeping in touch almost every day I talked myself out of getting on the plane last minute. I don’t know if it’s bc I started to hear from him less which made me feel like he didn’t want me to come as much anymore or if it was bc the flight was so early (5am) I had to be up at 2am... not completely thinking clearly lol.









Regardless I just didn’t get on it and lost out on the money. He said he didn’t see that coming and was very disappointed.. he had events paid for and things planned out. But for some reason I felt like... I had more attention in the beginning, he would txt me more, call me beautiful and check in etc... towards the actual visit I felt like he was distant. Maybe it’s bc he lived in another state so there isn’t as much to talk about... especially not really knowing each other.









Anyways... I felt bad and immediately regretted not going. I knew we would of had a good time regardless and our sex the first time was amazing so we had both been looking forward to that again. 2 1/2 months of waiting....




Since then he has hardly talked to me and when I mentioned buying another ticket to visit he said “maybe we’ll see. It was a turn off I didn’t come.”




A few nights ago I sent him a decent sized text stating I was sorry, (put thought into it all weekend) I really wanted to buy another ticket and make it up to him, that he was a great guy and I just got nervous. He said a short answer about he understood, knew I wasn’t playing any games and I wanted to come but if I was uncomfortable it is what it is.




I responded mentioning buying another ticket bc I really want to visit and have that time together but he hasn’t said anything to me since Sunday night. He looks at my snaps and hasn’t taken me off any social media... yet. Lol but I’m just wondering what to do? If there is anything I can do or if he’ll maybe want me to come visit if I go about it the right way... I’m just unsure as to how to do that.









Some help would be greatly appreciated!!

I appreciate all of the feedback. I do have a question for the Taurus men, if i could get your input. If it was you that i did this too, had a trip planned and bailed last minute. Why would you not be reaching out anymore? Is it because you're clearly upset and want space, want to see if i'll continue to make an effort or make more of one or you're just no longer interested and hope i catch on? I am trying to get a mans view and opinion on what might be going on before i decide to message him tonight..or if i even should. Maybe i should wait even longer to reach out.. anyways feedback would be great!







Thanks! click to expand

So I sent him a cute yet sexy and simple photo of my sitting on my bed in a tank top and panties. I said “Hey! Just was thinking about you... wanted to pop in and see how you were?


Also, I’m not sure where my pants went...but I can assure you it wasn’t a plan to hopefully push me out of the dog house a bit. 🙈”


That was an hour ago, I know he’s been online so I know he’s had to of seen it and just not responded. SO, it’s either going to be a no response or maybe he’ll make me


Wait awhile and then say something. Either way... kind of sucks I’m trying to make an effort to make it up and it just doesn’t seem to be playing out well. Kicking myself in the ass for sure. 🤦🏼‍♀️





So it’s been 4 hours and nothing. I don’t know but I feel like I have a right to be pissed off and want to say something regardless wether it’s tonight or tomorrow. I was the one who booked a plane ticket and PAID to come visit, I kept in touch the most and I just sent a sexy photo with no response. That’s not okay to me. Don’t look at my Snapchat stories, get online but ignore me. I’m TRYING my best to be cute and fix this from a distance but him saying he understood and wasnt going to hold it against me sounds like bullbutter to me if he’s going to ignore me. I’m really a sweet girl and I’ve dated a lot of douche bags.... I get what I did is messed up, and that’s why I’m trying to fix it. I don’t think it’s okay he lies and says he’s fine but ignores me. At this point should I say any of that or just never text him?


Should I be the one to take him


Off social media or wait to see if he does it to me? I’m just over all frustrated.... this would be so much easier for me to take care of within distance, like I said I’m a pleaser.... it’s just hard to do that from afar. I would even send him something if I knew his address but I don’t even know that. Fml click to expand

So, I'm about done with this thread. This is the first one i've really ever done and i appreciate all of the feedback. Before i decide to call it quits I have one more thing I'd like feedback on with this (preferably from any male Taurus's)

As i stated, i sent a cute/sexy photo trying to be a bit funny by mentioning it hopefully getting me out of the dog house a bit. I did this last night,and he finally responded back just a little bit ago with. "Sorry i was busy last night and forgot to respond. You look great".

Clearly he didn't have to respond at all..he did but it seemed short and still uninterested. Anyone want to give their thoughts on what his response might mean and how i should go about it if at all? click to expand

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Posted by Boots1313

Posted by Alswope307

Posted by Alswope307

Posted by Alswope307

Posted by Alswope307
First of all, I’m sorry this is so lengthy. I need to give details if I want good feedback though.











I met a Taurus man back I feb who was in town for a bachelor party. (he lives in another state than I do) We hung out a few times that weekend and he made the time for me which I thought was sweet and nice since he was with friends he hadn’t seen in awhile. His last night in town we slept together. About a week and a half later I booked a ticket to visit him. That visit should of been last Wednesday but for some reason after all of the anticipation, sex talk, getting to know each other and keeping in touch almost every day I talked myself out of getting on the plane last minute. I don’t know if it’s bc I started to hear from him less which made me feel like he didn’t want me to come as much anymore or if it was bc the flight was so early (5am) I had to be up at 2am... not completely thinking clearly lol.











Regardless I just didn’t get on it and lost out on the money. He said he didn’t see that coming and was very disappointed.. he had events paid for and things planned out. But for some reason I felt like... I had more attention in the beginning, he would txt me more, call me beautiful and check in etc... towards the actual visit I felt like he was distant. Maybe it’s bc he lived in another state so there isn’t as much to talk about... especially not really knowing each other.











Anyways... I felt bad and immediately regretted not going. I knew we would of had a good time regardless and our sex the first time was amazing so we had both been looking forward to that again. 2 1/2 months of waiting....





Since then he has hardly talked to me and when I mentioned buying another ticket to visit he said “maybe we’ll see. It was a turn off I didn’t come.”





A few nights ago I sent him a decent sized text stating I was sorry, (put thought into it all weekend) I really wanted to buy another ticket and make it up to him, that he was a great guy and I just got nervous. He said a short answer about he understood, knew I wasn’t playing any games and I wanted to come but if I was uncomfortable it is what it is.





I responded mentioning buying another ticket bc I really want to visit and have that time together but he hasn’t said anything to me since Sunday night. He looks at my snaps and hasn’t taken me off any social media... yet. Lol but I’m just wondering what to do? If there is anything I can do or if he’ll maybe want me to come visit if I go about it the right way... I’m just unsure as to how to do that.











Some help would be greatly appreciated!!

I appreciate all of the feedback. I do have a question for the Taurus men, if i could get your input. If it was you that i did this too, had a trip planned and bailed last minute. Why would you not be reaching out anymore? Is it because you're clearly upset and want space, want to see if i'll continue to make an effort or make more of one or you're just no longer interested and hope i catch on? I am trying to get a mans view and opinion on what might be going on before i decide to message him tonight..or if i even should. Maybe i should wait even longer to reach out.. anyways feedback would be great!









Thanks! click to expand

So I sent him a cute yet sexy and simple photo of my sitting on my bed in a tank top and panties. I said “Hey! Just was thinking about you... wanted to pop in and see how you were?



Also, I’m not sure where my pants went...but I can assure you it wasn’t a plan to hopefully push me out of the dog house a bit. 🙈”



That was an hour ago, I know he’s been online so I know he’s had to of seen it and just not responded. SO, it’s either going to be a no response or maybe he’ll make me



Wait awhile and then say something. Either way... kind of sucks I’m trying to make an effort to make it up and it just doesn’t seem to be playing out well. Kicking myself in the ass for sure. 🤦🏼‍♀️







So it’s been 4 hours and nothing. I don’t know but I feel like I have a right to be pissed off and want to say something regardless wether it’s tonight or tomorrow. I was the one who booked a plane ticket and PAID to come visit, I kept in touch the most and I just sent a sexy photo with no response. That’s not okay to me. Don’t look at my Snapchat stories, get online but ignore me. I’m TRYING my best to be cute and fix this from a distance but him saying he understood and wasnt going to hold it against me sounds like bullbutter to me if he’s going to ignore me. I’m really a sweet girl and I’ve dated a lot of douche bags.... I get what I did is messed up, and that’s why I’m trying to fix it. I don’t think it’s okay he lies and says he’s fine but ignores me. At this point should I say any of that or just never text him?



Should I be the one to take him



Off social media or wait to see if he does it to me? I’m just over all frustrated.... this would be so much easier for me to take care of within distance, like I said I’m a pleaser.... it’s just hard to do that from afar. I would even send him something if I knew his address but I don’t even know that. Fml click to expand

So, I'm about done with this thread. This is the first one i've really ever done and i appreciate all of the feedback. Before i decide to call it quits I have one more thing I'd like feedback on with this (preferably from any male Taurus's)


As i stated, i sent a cute/sexy photo trying to be a bit funny by mentioning it hopefully getting me out of the dog house a bit. I did this last night,and he finally responded back just a little bit ago with. "Sorry i was busy last night and forgot to respond. You look great".


Clearly he didn't have to respond at all..he did but it seemed short and still uninterested. Anyone want to give their thoughts on what his response might mean and how i should go about it if at all? click to expand

Sorry to say, sounds like he was with someone else last night... click to expand

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Posted by Alswope307

Posted by Boots1313

Posted by Alswope307

Posted by Alswope307

Posted by Alswope307

Posted by Alswope307
First of all, I’m sorry this is so lengthy. I need to give details if I want good feedback though.













I met a Taurus man back I feb who was in town for a bachelor party. (he lives in another state than I do) We hung out a few times that weekend and he made the time for me which I thought was sweet and nice since he was with friends he hadn’t seen in awhile. His last night in town we slept together. About a week and a half later I booked a ticket to visit him. That visit should of been last Wednesday but for some reason after all of the anticipation, sex talk, getting to know each other and keeping in touch almost every day I talked myself out of getting on the plane last minute. I don’t know if it’s bc I started to hear from him less which made me feel like he didn’t want me to come as much anymore or if it was bc the flight was so early (5am) I had to be up at 2am... not completely thinking clearly lol.













Regardless I just didn’t get on it and lost out on the money. He said he didn’t see that coming and was very disappointed.. he had events paid for and things planned out. But for some reason I felt like... I had more attention in the beginning, he would txt me more, call me beautiful and check in etc... towards the actual visit I felt like he was distant. Maybe it’s bc he lived in another state so there isn’t as much to talk about... especially not really knowing each other.













Anyways... I felt bad and immediately regretted not going. I knew we would of had a good time regardless and our sex the first time was amazing so we had both been looking forward to that again. 2 1/2 months of waiting....






Since then he has hardly talked to me and when I mentioned buying another ticket to visit he said “maybe we’ll see. It was a turn off I didn’t come.”






A few nights ago I sent him a decent sized text stating I was sorry, (put thought into it all weekend) I really wanted to buy another ticket and make it up to him, that he was a great guy and I just got nervous. He said a short answer about he understood, knew I wasn’t playing any games and I wanted to come but if I was uncomfortable it is what it is.






I responded mentioning buying another ticket bc I really want to visit and have that time together but he hasn’t said anything to me since Sunday night. He looks at my snaps and hasn’t taken me off any social media... yet. Lol but I’m just wondering what to do? If there is anything I can do or if he’ll maybe want me to come visit if I go about it the right way... I’m just unsure as to how to do that.













Some help would be greatly appreciated!!

I appreciate all of the feedback. I do have a question for the Taurus men, if i could get your input. If it was you that i did this too, had a trip planned and bailed last minute. Why would you not be reaching out anymore? Is it because you're clearly upset and want space, want to see if i'll continue to make an effort or make more of one or you're just no longer interested and hope i catch on? I am trying to get a mans view and opinion on what might be going on before i decide to message him tonight..or if i even should. Maybe i should wait even longer to reach out.. anyways feedback would be great!











Thanks! click to expand

So I sent him a cute yet sexy and simple photo of my sitting on my bed in a tank top and panties. I said “Hey! Just was thinking about you... wanted to pop in and see how you were?




Also, I’m not sure where my pants went...but I can assure you it wasn’t a plan to hopefully push me out of the dog house a bit. 🙈”




That was an hour ago, I know he’s been online so I know he’s had to of seen it and just not responded. SO, it’s either going to be a no response or maybe he’ll make me




Wait awhile and then say something. Either way... kind of sucks I’m trying to make an effort to make it up and it just doesn’t seem to be playing out well. Kicking myself in the ass for sure. 🤦🏼‍♀️









So it’s been 4 hours and nothing. I don’t know but I feel like I have a right to be pissed off and want to say something regardless wether it’s tonight or tomorrow. I was the one who booked a plane ticket and PAID to come visit, I kept in touch the most and I just sent a sexy photo with no response. That’s not okay to me. Don’t look at my Snapchat stories, get online but ignore me. I’m TRYING my best to be cute and fix this from a distance but him saying he understood and wasnt going to hold it against me sounds like bullbutter to me if he’s going to ignore me. I’m really a sweet girl and I’ve dated a lot of douche bags.... I get what I did is messed up, and that’s why I’m trying to fix it. I don’t think it’s okay he lies and says he’s fine but ignores me. At this point should I say any of that or just never text him?




Should I be the one to take him




Off social media or wait to see if he does it to me? I’m just over all frustrated.... this would be so much easier for me to take care of within distance, like I said I’m a pleaser.... it’s just hard to do that from afar. I would even send him something if I knew his address but I don’t even know that. Fml click to expand

So, I'm about done with this thread. This is the first one i've really ever done and i appreciate all of the feedback. Before i decide to call it quits I have one more thing I'd like feedback on with this (preferably from any male Taurus's)



As i stated, i sent a cute/sexy photo trying to be a bit funny by mentioning it hopefully getting me out of the dog house a bit. I did this last night,and he finally responded back just a little bit ago with. "Sorry i was busy last night and forgot to respond. You look great".



Clearly he didn't have to respond at all..he did but it seemed short and still uninterested. Anyone want to give their thoughts on what his response might mean and how i should go about it if at all? click to expand

Sorry to say, sounds like he was with someone else last night... click to expand

Could of been? Hes also a cop and works till 12am-1 though...so that was probably more so what it was, I should of just been coming back from visiting him on sunday so he should of been working. If he was really THAT busy at work? who knows click to expand

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Posted by AgentP911
It sounds like this Taurus man has had a lucky escape from you.



Im sorry but you sound quite manipulative and self rightous. You decided to send this fella a half naked photo of yourself in order to illicit a particular response from him and when he did not respond to you within your preferred time frame, which he was unaware of, you turn the tables and put yourself in as the 'good guy' and he's suddenly the 'bad guy'. You made the arrangements to visit him in the first place and it was YOU who let him down. Don't take it out on him.



I think it would be helpful for you to consider what you want from this man as you mentioned previously that you don't really see a future with him. Then if this is the case, what is the point of all of this?



All I've read is you going on about the same thing. What can you text him, is he interested, do you think he's interested, and even when he's been 100% clear with you, you still fail to grasp the situation.



I suggest you think if you actually want to see this man again or if it is just your ego that cannot handle his perceived rejection of you.



If you do, and you have the funds, then get a plan together along with some dates. Give him the dates and ask when would suit him. If he agrees dates then you book the ticket and follow through. You're on the back foot here so the onus is on you to make the effort this time, again, if you think it worth it. If he doesn't agree to your proposed dates or provide alternative dates then he is no longer as interested or serious so you can then move on.



I'd recommend at least getting yourself a few days accommodation so you are not reliant on him. I'm concerned you were going to stay with this man but you did not even know his address. As a precaution, I'd book an Airbnb or cheap hotel to cover yourself in case it goes tits up.



In addition, I was kind of in this guys shoes a number of years ago. I got on a plane to visit a guy and he wasn't at the airport on arrival despite him offering to pick me up. I can tell you now it was a butter feeling. That disappointment your Taurus guy felt would likely be real. Luckily I had arranged my own accommodation and I also spent time with another friend of mine who lived a few hour drive away so the trip turned out well in the end.



If you want to go then just do it. If not, find someone more local. Whatever you do, I hope it works out for you.

Posted by Boots1313

Posted by Alswope307

Posted by Boots1313

Posted by Alswope307

Posted by Alswope307

Posted by Alswope307

Posted by Alswope307
First of all, I’m sorry this is so lengthy. I need to give details if I want good feedback though.















I met a Taurus man back I feb who was in town for a bachelor party. (he lives in another state than I do) We hung out a few times that weekend and he made the time for me which I thought was sweet and nice since he was with friends he hadn’t seen in awhile. His last night in town we slept together. About a week and a half later I booked a ticket to visit him. That visit should of been last Wednesday but for some reason after all of the anticipation, sex talk, getting to know each other and keeping in touch almost every day I talked myself out of getting on the plane last minute. I don’t know if it’s bc I started to hear from him less which made me feel like he didn’t want me to come as much anymore or if it was bc the flight was so early (5am) I had to be up at 2am... not completely thinking clearly lol.















Regardless I just didn’t get on it and lost out on the money. He said he didn’t see that coming and was very disappointed.. he had events paid for and things planned out. But for some reason I felt like... I had more attention in the beginning, he would txt me more, call me beautiful and check in etc... towards the actual visit I felt like he was distant. Maybe it’s bc he lived in another state so there isn’t as much to talk about... especially not really knowing each other.















Anyways... I felt bad and immediately regretted not going. I knew we would of had a good time regardless and our sex the first time was amazing so we had both been looking forward to that again. 2 1/2 months of waiting....







Since then he has hardly talked to me and when I mentioned buying another ticket to visit he said “maybe we’ll see. It was a turn off I didn’t come.”







A few nights ago I sent him a decent sized text stating I was sorry, (put thought into it all weekend) I really wanted to buy another ticket and make it up to him, that he was a great guy and I just got nervous. He said a short answer about he understood, knew I wasn’t playing any games and I wanted to come but if I was uncomfortable it is what it is.







I responded mentioning buying another ticket bc I really want to visit and have that time together but he hasn’t said anything to me since Sunday night. He looks at my snaps and hasn’t taken me off any social media... yet. Lol but I’m just wondering what to do? If there is anything I can do or if he’ll maybe want me to come visit if I go about it the right way... I’m just unsure as to how to do that.















Some help would be greatly appreciated!!

I appreciate all of the feedback. I do have a question for the Taurus men, if i could get your input. If it was you that i did this too, had a trip planned and bailed last minute. Why would you not be reaching out anymore? Is it because you're clearly upset and want space, want to see if i'll continue to make an effort or make more of one or you're just no longer interested and hope i catch on? I am trying to get a mans view and opinion on what might be going on before i decide to message him tonight..or if i even should. Maybe i should wait even longer to reach out.. anyways feedback would be great!













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So I sent him a cute yet sexy and simple photo of my sitting on my bed in a tank top and panties. I said “Hey! Just was thinking about you... wanted to pop in and see how you were?





Also, I’m not sure where my pants went...but I can assure you it wasn’t a plan to hopefully push me out of the dog house a bit. 🙈”





That was an hour ago, I know he’s been online so I know he’s had to of seen it and just not responded. SO, it’s either going to be a no response or maybe he’ll make me





Wait awhile and then say something. Either way... kind of sucks I’m trying to make an effort to make it up and it just doesn’t seem to be playing out well. Kicking myself in the ass for sure. 🤦🏼‍♀️











So it’s been 4 hours and nothing. I don’t know but I feel like I have a right to be pissed off and want to say something regardless wether it’s tonight or tomorrow. I was the one who booked a plane ticket and PAID to come visit, I kept in touch the most and I just sent a sexy photo with no response. That’s not okay to me. Don’t look at my Snapchat stories, get online but ignore me. I’m TRYING my best to be cute and fix this from a distance but him saying he understood and wasnt going to hold it against me sounds like bullbutter to me if he’s going to ignore me. I’m really a sweet girl and I’ve dated a lot of douche bags.... I get what I did is messed up, and that’s why I’m trying to fix it. I don’t think it’s okay he lies and says he’s fine but ignores me. At this point should I say any of that or just never text him?





Should I be the one to take him





Off social media or wait to see if he does it to me? I’m just over all frustrated.... this would be so much easier for me to take care of within distance, like I said I’m a pleaser.... it’s just hard to do that from afar. I would even send him something if I knew his address but I don’t even know that. Fml click to expand

So, I'm about done with this thread. This is the first one i've really ever done and i appreciate all of the feedback. Before i decide to call it quits I have one more thing I'd like feedback on with this (preferably from any male Taurus's)




As i stated, i sent a cute/sexy photo trying to be a bit funny by mentioning it hopefully getting me out of the dog house a bit. I did this last night,and he finally responded back just a little bit ago with. "Sorry i was busy last night and forgot to respond. You look great".




Clearly he didn't have to respond at all..he did but it seemed short and still uninterested. Anyone want to give their thoughts on what his response might mean and how i should go about it if at all? click to expand

Sorry to say, sounds like he was with someone else last night... click to expand

Could of been? Hes also a cop and works till 12am-1 though...so that was probably more so what it was, I should of just been coming back from visiting him on sunday so he should of been working. If he was really THAT busy at work? who knows click to expand

See you left that detail out.

That's completely logical....

You gotta think with logic and be rational bit, before your emotions make you flip out click to expand

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Posted by The_Mad_Hatter
2 things:



1 have you just tried calling him? Texting sucks for this kind of thing.



2 the part about him being law enforcement is a pretty big detail to leave out. He's probably a little less laid back than most tauruses. Believe me, I started in law enforcement before moving to the FD because I was too laid back for some of the butter I had to do.



And, having known that beforehand I know I wouldn't have suggested sending a pic. Police and FF work as a brotherhood, if he truly isn't interested there's a good chance everyone on his shift has or will see your pic.



Also, not to sound smug, but you might have missed your chance... all the ladies wanna date a cop...

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Posted by Alswope307

Posted by The_Mad_Hatter
2 things:







1 have you just tried calling him? Texting sucks for this kind of thing.







2 the part about him being law enforcement is a pretty big detail to leave out. He's probably a little less laid back than most tauruses. Believe me, I started in law enforcement before moving to the FD because I was too laid back for some of the butter I had to do.







And, having known that beforehand I know I wouldn't have suggested sending a pic. Police and FF work as a brotherhood, if he truly isn't interested there's a good chance everyone on his shift has or will see your pic.







Also, not to sound smug, but you might have missed your chance... all the ladies wanna date a cop...

Well nice to know. lol We have both sent nudes back and forth though...we had sex 2 months ago so of course we wanted to see each other in some way. As for calling, no i have not. We havent even called each other on the phone, we did one facetime over a month ago. Usually the times i am free hes working, so i dont want to just call. But it might be weird if i ask to call to? lol click to expand

HEY YOU!! STOP THINKING SO DAMN MUCH AND JUST CALL THE MAN!! Sheesh! click to expand

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Posted by Alswope307

Posted by The_Mad_Hatter

Posted by Alswope307

Posted by The_Mad_Hatter
2 things:











1 have you just tried calling him? Texting sucks for this kind of thing.











2 the part about him being law enforcement is a pretty big detail to leave out. He's probably a little less laid back than most tauruses. Believe me, I started in law enforcement before moving to the FD because I was too laid back for some of the butter I had to do.











And, having known that beforehand I know I wouldn't have suggested sending a pic. Police and FF work as a brotherhood, if he truly isn't interested there's a good chance everyone on his shift has or will see your pic.











Also, not to sound smug, but you might have missed your chance... all the ladies wanna date a cop...

Well nice to know. lol We have both sent nudes back and forth though...we had sex 2 months ago so of course we wanted to see each other in some way. As for calling, no i have not. We havent even called each other on the phone, we did one facetime over a month ago. Usually the times i am free hes working, so i dont want to just call. But it might be weird if i ask to call to? lol click to expand

HEY YOU!! STOP THINKING SO DAMN MUCH AND JUST CALL THE MAN!! Sheesh! click to expand

This is why i didn't end up getting my ass on the plane in the first place! lol I think WAY too much...its exhausting for me sometimes. Should i just come out and be blunt? Like look, I really like you, I just want to buy another damn plane ticket and come see your sexy self like i should have to begin with? If you're no longer interested, then please just let me know so i can do us both a favor and stop trying.





Side note, he is having small talk with me at the moment, which makes me happy. He said his weeks been really busy, asked how mine was. click to expand

Good deal!



Ease into it, just let what happens happen. Don't force him into a corner - the default answer will usually be a "no" when someone is put on the spot like that.



Break your bigger question into smaller questions and ask each one over time.



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Posted by The_Mad_Hatter
Oh, and stay outta your head... You're likely imagining things that aren't even real..

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Posted by AgentP911
It sounds like this Taurus man has had a lucky escape from you.





Im sorry but you sound quite manipulative and self rightous. You decided to send this fella a half naked photo of yourself in order to illicit a particular response from him and when he did not respond to you within your preferred time frame, which he was unaware of, you turn the tables and put yourself in as the 'good guy' and he's suddenly the 'bad guy'. You made the arrangements to visit him in the first place and it was YOU who let him down. Don't take it out on him.





I think it would be helpful for you to consider what you want from this man as you mentioned previously that you don't really see a future with him. Then if this is the case, what is the point of all of this?





All I've read is you going on about the same thing. What can you text him, is he interested, do you think he's interested, and even when he's been 100% clear with you, you still fail to grasp the situation.





I suggest you think if you actually want to see this man again or if it is just your ego that cannot handle his perceived rejection of you.





If you do, and you have the funds, then get a plan together along with some dates. Give him the dates and ask when would suit him. If he agrees dates then you book the ticket and follow through. You're on the back foot here so the onus is on you to make the effort this time, again, if you think it worth it. If he doesn't agree to your proposed dates or provide alternative dates then he is no longer as interested or serious so you can then move on.





I'd recommend at least getting yourself a few days accommodation so you are not reliant on him. I'm concerned you were going to stay with this man but you did not even know his address. As a precaution, I'd book an Airbnb or cheap hotel to cover yourself in case it goes tits up.





In addition, I was kind of in this guys shoes a number of years ago. I got on a plane to visit a guy and he wasn't at the airport on arrival despite him offering to pick me up. I can tell you now it was a butter feeling. That disappointment your Taurus guy felt would likely be real. Luckily I had arranged my own accommodation and I also spent time with another friend of mine who lived a few hour drive away so the trip turned out well in the end.





If you want to go then just do it. If not, find someone more local. Whatever you do, I hope it works out for you.

I wasn't really expecting a response since i hadn't even heard from him in a few days. We just would talk every day before last week when i didnt come. And i get that and understand why. I honestly didn't mean to hurt him and i've been extremely mad at myself since for not just going. As i have stated i just want the chance to make it up, its a little harder to do from another state.

As far as booking a ticket, i could do that... but i know he works about 4 days and then has 4 off, so it would be best to get his days off first unless i just pick some random weekend and see what he even says to that or offers up a new date?

With my last post and what he finally responded...what do you suggest it sounds like. I just hate to be a nag or keep bothering someone if they aren't interested. And i cant tell if thats him or if hes still just mad.

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Posted by The_Mad_Hatter

Posted by AgentP911
It sounds like this Taurus man has had a lucky escape from you.





Im sorry but you sound quite manipulative and self rightous. You decided to send this fella a half naked photo of yourself in order to illicit a particular response from him and when he did not respond to you within your preferred time frame, which he was unaware of, you turn the tables and put yourself in as the 'good guy' and he's suddenly the 'bad guy'. You made the arrangements to visit him in the first place and it was YOU who let him down. Don't take it out on him.





I think it would be helpful for you to consider what you want from this man as you mentioned previously that you don't really see a future with him. Then if this is the case, what is the point of all of this?





All I've read is you going on about the same thing. What can you text him, is he interested, do you think he's interested, and even when he's been 100% clear with you, you still fail to grasp the situation.





I suggest you think if you actually want to see this man again or if it is just your ego that cannot handle his perceived rejection of you.





If you do, and you have the funds, then get a plan together along with some dates. Give him the dates and ask when would suit him. If he agrees dates then you book the ticket and follow through. You're on the back foot here so the onus is on you to make the effort this time, again, if you think it worth it. If he doesn't agree to your proposed dates or provide alternative dates then he is no longer as interested or serious so you can then move on.





I'd recommend at least getting yourself a few days accommodation so you are not reliant on him. I'm concerned you were going to stay with this man but you did not even know his address. As a precaution, I'd book an Airbnb or cheap hotel to cover yourself in case it goes tits up.





In addition, I was kind of in this guys shoes a number of years ago. I got on a plane to visit a guy and he wasn't at the airport on arrival despite him offering to pick me up. I can tell you now it was a butter feeling. That disappointment your Taurus guy felt would likely be real. Luckily I had arranged my own accommodation and I also spent time with another friend of mine who lived a few hour drive away so the trip turned out well in the end.





If you want to go then just do it. If not, find someone more local. Whatever you do, I hope it works out for you.

I agree.



Side note: are you a taurus? Is your username based on the Taurus PT911? Or is that a coincidence? click to expand

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Posted by Alswope307

Posted by AgentP911
It sounds like this Taurus man has had a lucky escape from you.







Im sorry but you sound quite manipulative and self rightous. You decided to send this fella a half naked photo of yourself in order to illicit a particular response from him and when he did not respond to you within your preferred time frame, which he was unaware of, you turn the tables and put yourself in as the 'good guy' and he's suddenly the 'bad guy'. You made the arrangements to visit him in the first place and it was YOU who let him down. Don't take it out on him.







I think it would be helpful for you to consider what you want from this man as you mentioned previously that you don't really see a future with him. Then if this is the case, what is the point of all of this?







All I've read is you going on about the same thing. What can you text him, is he interested, do you think he's interested, and even when he's been 100% clear with you, you still fail to grasp the situation.







I suggest you think if you actually want to see this man again or if it is just your ego that cannot handle his perceived rejection of you.







If you do, and you have the funds, then get a plan together along with some dates. Give him the dates and ask when would suit him. If he agrees dates then you book the ticket and follow through. You're on the back foot here so the onus is on you to make the effort this time, again, if you think it worth it. If he doesn't agree to your proposed dates or provide alternative dates then he is no longer as interested or serious so you can then move on.







I'd recommend at least getting yourself a few days accommodation so you are not reliant on him. I'm concerned you were going to stay with this man but you did not even know his address. As a precaution, I'd book an Airbnb or cheap hotel to cover yourself in case it goes tits up.







In addition, I was kind of in this guys shoes a number of years ago. I got on a plane to visit a guy and he wasn't at the airport on arrival despite him offering to pick me up. I can tell you now it was a butter feeling. That disappointment your Taurus guy felt would likely be real. Luckily I had arranged my own accommodation and I also spent time with another friend of mine who lived a few hour drive away so the trip turned out well in the end.







If you want to go then just do it. If not, find someone more local. Whatever you do, I hope it works out for you.

I wasn't really expecting a response since i hadn't even heard from him in a few days. We just would talk every day before last week when i didnt come. And i get that and understand why. I honestly didn't mean to hurt him and i've been extremely mad at myself since for not just going. As i have stated i just want the chance to make it up, its a little harder to do from another state.


As far as booking a ticket, i could do that... but i know he works about 4 days and then has 4 off, so it would be best to get his days off first unless i just pick some random weekend and see what he even says to that or offers up a new date?


With my last post and what he finally responded...what do you suggest it sounds like. I just hate to be a nag or keep bothering someone if they aren't interested. And i cant tell if thats him or if hes still just mad.


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I just gave my Taurus boyfriend the background of your post and then read your last post word for word. I asked him his thoughts on your Taurus' response. He said 'he's not interested. It was just a polite response. It's just the sort of thing I would put if I wasn't interested as I'm polite. If he was interested he'd have been more proactive.'



If you still want to pursue this then yes, some random dates that work for you that also fit with him. He will either come back and agree or offer alternative dates after he's checked his diary/shifts. This should be within 48 hours. If he doesn't agree, offers no alternatives, and is tricky to pin down then you really know he's no longer interested. I'd call him. Not text.



Again, consider why you actually want to see this guy. What are you hoping for? Do you even know he's single?



Personally, I'd move on from him. You're not that invested in him so you can move on. Also, even if you did meet him, what then? You'd be more invested and all I'm seeing here is a Pisces heading for a head treetrunk. click to expand

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Posted by Alswope307

Posted by AgentP911

Posted by Alswope307

Posted by AgentP911
It sounds like this Taurus man has had a lucky escape from you.









Im sorry but you sound quite manipulative and self rightous. You decided to send this fella a half naked photo of yourself in order to illicit a particular response from him and when he did not respond to you within your preferred time frame, which he was unaware of, you turn the tables and put yourself in as the 'good guy' and he's suddenly the 'bad guy'. You made the arrangements to visit him in the first place and it was YOU who let him down. Don't take it out on him.









I think it would be helpful for you to consider what you want from this man as you mentioned previously that you don't really see a future with him. Then if this is the case, what is the point of all of this?









All I've read is you going on about the same thing. What can you text him, is he interested, do you think he's interested, and even when he's been 100% clear with you, you still fail to grasp the situation.









I suggest you think if you actually want to see this man again or if it is just your ego that cannot handle his perceived rejection of you.









If you do, and you have the funds, then get a plan together along with some dates. Give him the dates and ask when would suit him. If he agrees dates then you book the ticket and follow through. You're on the back foot here so the onus is on you to make the effort this time, again, if you think it worth it. If he doesn't agree to your proposed dates or provide alternative dates then he is no longer as interested or serious so you can then move on.









I'd recommend at least getting yourself a few days accommodation so you are not reliant on him. I'm concerned you were going to stay with this man but you did not even know his address. As a precaution, I'd book an Airbnb or cheap hotel to cover yourself in case it goes tits up.









In addition, I was kind of in this guys shoes a number of years ago. I got on a plane to visit a guy and he wasn't at the airport on arrival despite him offering to pick me up. I can tell you now it was a butter feeling. That disappointment your Taurus guy felt would likely be real. Luckily I had arranged my own accommodation and I also spent time with another friend of mine who lived a few hour drive away so the trip turned out well in the end.









If you want to go then just do it. If not, find someone more local. Whatever you do, I hope it works out for you.

I wasn't really expecting a response since i hadn't even heard from him in a few days. We just would talk every day before last week when i didnt come. And i get that and understand why. I honestly didn't mean to hurt him and i've been extremely mad at myself since for not just going. As i have stated i just want the chance to make it up, its a little harder to do from another state.



As far as booking a ticket, i could do that... but i know he works about 4 days and then has 4 off, so it would be best to get his days off first unless i just pick some random weekend and see what he even says to that or offers up a new date?



With my last post and what he finally responded...what do you suggest it sounds like. I just hate to be a nag or keep bothering someone if they aren't interested. And i cant tell if thats him or if hes still just mad.



Thanks for the feedback! click to expand

I just gave my Taurus boyfriend the background of your post and then read your last post word for word. I asked him his thoughts on your Taurus' response. He said 'he's not interested. It was just a polite response. It's just the sort of thing I would put if I wasn't interested as I'm polite. If he was interested he'd have been more proactive.'





If you still want to pursue this then yes, some random dates that work for you that also fit with him. He will either come back and agree or offer alternative dates after he's checked his diary/shifts. This should be within 48 hours. If he doesn't agree, offers no alternatives, and is tricky to pin down then you really know he's no longer interested. I'd call him. Not text.





Again, consider why you actually want to see this guy. What are you hoping for? Do you even know he's single?





Personally, I'd move on from him. You're not that invested in him so you can move on. Also, even if you did meet him, what then? You'd be more invested and all I'm seeing here is a Pisces heading for a head treetrunk. click to expand

Alright. Well tell your man I said thanks for the honest feedback. 2 questions:

I don’t give up easily, so if I throw dates out to visit.. should that be soon or wait a week or two since I JUST disappointed him.



Or should I be just be blunt like I mentioned to someone else in one of my last posts? Ask if he’s basically still interested bc I do like him and want to buy a plane ticket to come see his sexy self as I should of. If not to please just be honest and let me know so I stop wasting my time.

Or is that just too much?



Again, thanks! click to expand

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Posted by Alswope307

Posted by AgentP911

Posted by Alswope307

Posted by AgentP911
It sounds like this Taurus man has had a lucky escape from you.









Im sorry but you sound quite manipulative and self rightous. You decided to send this fella a half naked photo of yourself in order to illicit a particular response from him and when he did not respond to you within your preferred time frame, which he was unaware of, you turn the tables and put yourself in as the 'good guy' and he's suddenly the 'bad guy'. You made the arrangements to visit him in the first place and it was YOU who let him down. Don't take it out on him.









I think it would be helpful for you to consider what you want from this man as you mentioned previously that you don't really see a future with him. Then if this is the case, what is the point of all of this?









All I've read is you going on about the same thing. What can you text him, is he interested, do you think he's interested, and even when he's been 100% clear with you, you still fail to grasp the situation.









I suggest you think if you actually want to see this man again or if it is just your ego that cannot handle his perceived rejection of you.









If you do, and you have the funds, then get a plan together along with some dates. Give him the dates and ask when would suit him. If he agrees dates then you book the ticket and follow through. You're on the back foot here so the onus is on you to make the effort this time, again, if you think it worth it. If he doesn't agree to your proposed dates or provide alternative dates then he is no longer as interested or serious so you can then move on.









I'd recommend at least getting yourself a few days accommodation so you are not reliant on him. I'm concerned you were going to stay with this man but you did not even know his address. As a precaution, I'd book an Airbnb or cheap hotel to cover yourself in case it goes tits up.









In addition, I was kind of in this guys shoes a number of years ago. I got on a plane to visit a guy and he wasn't at the airport on arrival despite him offering to pick me up. I can tell you now it was a butter feeling. That disappointment your Taurus guy felt would likely be real. Luckily I had arranged my own accommodation and I also spent time with another friend of mine who lived a few hour drive away so the trip turned out well in the end.









If you want to go then just do it. If not, find someone more local. Whatever you do, I hope it works out for you.

I wasn't really expecting a response since i hadn't even heard from him in a few days. We just would talk every day before last week when i didnt come. And i get that and understand why. I honestly didn't mean to hurt him and i've been extremely mad at myself since for not just going. As i have stated i just want the chance to make it up, its a little harder to do from another state.



As far as booking a ticket, i could do that... but i know he works about 4 days and then has 4 off, so it would be best to get his days off first unless i just pick some random weekend and see what he even says to that or offers up a new date?



With my last post and what he finally responded...what do you suggest it sounds like. I just hate to be a nag or keep bothering someone if they aren't interested. And i cant tell if thats him or if hes still just mad.



Thanks for the feedback! click to expand

I just gave my Taurus boyfriend the background of your post and then read your last post word for word. I asked him his thoughts on your Taurus' response. He said 'he's not interested. It was just a polite response. It's just the sort of thing I would put if I wasn't interested as I'm polite. If he was interested he'd have been more proactive.'





If you still want to pursue this then yes, some random dates that work for you that also fit with him. He will either come back and agree or offer alternative dates after he's checked his diary/shifts. This should be within 48 hours. If he doesn't agree, offers no alternatives, and is tricky to pin down then you really know he's no longer interested. I'd call him. Not text.





Again, consider why you actually want to see this guy. What are you hoping for? Do you even know he's single?





Personally, I'd move on from him. You're not that invested in him so you can move on. Also, even if you did meet him, what then? You'd be more invested and all I'm seeing here is a Pisces heading for a head treetrunk. click to expand

Alright. Well tell your man I said thanks for the honest feedback. 2 questions:

I don’t give up easily, so if I throw dates out to visit.. should that be soon or wait a week or two since I JUST disappointed him.



Or should I be just be blunt like I mentioned to someone else in one of my last posts? Ask if he’s basically still interested bc I do like him and want to buy a plane ticket to come see his sexy self as I should of. If not to please just be honest and let me know so I stop wasting my time.

Or is that just too much?



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