Whats with this lame BS excuse?

That I've heard many a Taurus use now. "I don't have time" wtf? Okay I'm calling your bluff. What is the REAL motivation behind this lame ass bullshit excuse?





>>>teehee yes I'm back. Found another bull to drive me crazy

""I don't have time to _____"


Maybe it means..


'I don't have a desire to _____'






hahha Just messing with ya...

"I don't have time." A very bald way to state the obvious. You did not however state the situation presented.

I don't have time to put up with your shit?
I don't have time to babysit you?

What was he/she referring to?

Well I've heard it three times- two said to me and once said to a friend of mine (by a friend bullette). I don't have time for a gf/bf. Is what it always is. Buuuuttttt.... at least once it really does NOT match with the ACTIONS.. Okay fine I guess I'll spill my whole story. 😛

Ya'll know about my last Bull. It meant "I'm not that into you". Pretty clear though I didn't want to believe it. And I think it was the same thing with my Bullette friend and her Pisces. The actions MATCHED the words though, you see.

I've gone out with my current Bull twice. First time was just to the dog park lol. But we're both dog lovers so it worked. Spent three hours talking and laughing so hard I don't remember the last time I had that much fun with ANYONE, much less on a date. Usually I feel awkward, uncomfortable, afraid to be myself. I could actually make fun of the dogs like I only do with people I really trust and not only did he not look at me like I'm crazy, he thought it was just as funny as I did.

Second time we went clubbing with some friends. Pretty much spent the entire night with our arms around each other.. dancing and staring into each others eyes the whole time.. anyway it felt like there was nobody else there. Our poor friends lol. This isn't even kind of "I'm not into you" body language. He could have been distracted while dancing with me, or even said no, but he had that 'look' iykwim, kinda half awake almost drooling looking at me. 😛

But still I get the "I don't have time" bullshit line. WTF?

And no epi, I havent had the money to have them fixed yet 😢

I think it means that he just wants to focus on himself. If he works alot of hours and has stuff to deal with at home then he may think also juggling a girlfriend would be too hard for him right now. Just be a friend to him, maybe he'll come around.

Alright. Figured it out. He's afraid. Le sigh. Well I told him the ball's in his court. We'll see if he decides to play, or just be an idiot and watch me walk away.

I have to laugh tho. *SMH* I tell him "This is the last time I'm reaching out to you. You realize the chances of us running into eachother are really remote. Just want you to know what you'll be losing."

And he said "but I have your phone number and you have mine, and we're on fb"

And I said "well yes but I wont' be calling you."

"Will you answer?"

lmao. Okay would you make up your f*cking mind?

He's gotcha. Every time you respond, he's gotcha.

Well what do you recommend my beloved VB?

Stick to your guns. If you say you're going to give him some room, give it willingly. If the ball is in his court, then let him play with it awhile. Make him work for you a bit. You hand him exactly what he wants he'll grow bored of it. At the very least he'll know how to play you like a fiddle. Mustn't have that now, must we. We rather like the hard won prize, it makes the having of it that much sweeter.
Spinning out desire in someone is rather like all the good meal smells on the air. If you have it quickly it's just another meal. But if you wait, it's a feast. One that lives in memory.
And never play a trump card you don't have. We'll call that bluff and remember. 😉

you made me laugh. Okay. Why must we play this stupid game at all? Oh well he can play with himself till he decides he misses me enough to do something about it 😛 I'll just go down to the bar and make some friends.

Well darn let me add my question to your thread because you seem to be going through what friend/family member #3 is going through and argh they are driving me crazy and I am not feeling the immature bulls right now Lol.

What's up with their string along? Do some of them just want to keep females as friends just to string them along or do they genuinely love to be around the opposite sex? This girl has been talking to him for 6 months and he went hot and cold and then he started talking to her when she pulled back as I suggested *pat on my back* then when she gave in he said he was too busy and wanted to be only friends. But meanwhile he hinted to her about a relationship and gave her false hope.

Her sign: Leo

VB help us!

Posted by piranhaparadiise
Taurus are usually all out full force if they want you...

they always have time...and are not shy about showing their interest...to the one they *want*...
You will be the one wondering where is your time when a Taurus is showing you interest...you will be swamped with
the interest they show you...

My brother is a Taurus and so is a guy friend that fell for me and I can tell you that they do not hesitate about wanting you....they either do or they don't...
and they will claim you theirs before you even said yes...

So it's either one extreme or the other. I said that originally based on my scenario but like the thread starter in my girlfriend's case, he's doing all the things that says I WANT YOU BABY but then tells her he isn't really trying to settle down. Do some of them play the womanizing game? I thought that was an Aries male trait?

Well thank you for the insight PP but *that* really wasn't in question. I'd have to be really oblivious not to be able to tell he is crushing on me also, and not only that he told me straight out twice of that fact. (And using the "whatever falls out of my gob is what I mean" principle of Taurus...) I was just trying to figure out why, when he DOES like me, he is still giving me this bullshit line.

I called him on being scared. And he agreed with me. And he also said he's being an idiot and a stubborn ass. lmao. Well then stop it! 😛 But I basically said "well if thats what you want to be, watch me walk away". So... question for my bulls: think he'll let the stubbornness win or will he come around?

Not a game per se, but keeping options open until the decision is made upon who is right. All men can play the womanizing game, that is not sign specific. I have many male friends. Some may be perceived as suitors, but only one will truly hold my heart in the palm of his hand. I enjoy people in general for their qualities and value my friends. Male and female.
I can be a horrendous flirt, and have a wicked sense of humor but once I lock down on the object of my affection and desire everyone else immediately gets slammed into friend territory. There is no possibilities or entertainment of such thoughts. My focus is ONE. And I like to know precisely where I stand in someones affection. No wondering. To put it most bluntly...I want someone to eat, shit, and breathe me in. Because that is what I am doing in reverse. No middle ground for me. Most definitely black and white in that arena.
Walking off into the fog and mist might work for some Bulls ( that panicked reaction of "OH SHIT, can't lose DAT! What are you doing?! THINK! THINK! ) but it drives a wedge in deep for me and plainly tells me with both fingers extended to 'fugoff'..which I will do, hurt. I have far too much Fire to want to drag my feet and piddle fart around in general. What I want, I'll be wanting yesterday sankoovellymuch. So quite a bit of that 'oh no's!' crap and swooning majestically backward onto a hope chest crap while I clutch my pearls doesn't fly with me very far. YES I will think, YES I will ponder, then I'll just slam one foot on the clutch and the other on the gas and slip that baby into 5th gear so I can listen to it PURR. All the way to the frocking floor with it. And all the fear, and all the wondering, and all the extreme bullshit can kiss my round lily white ASSSSSSSSSS. Ya feeling me sisters? Can ya dig on that? Can ya groooooove on it? Yehhhh baby.

Posted by venusianbull
Not a game per se, but keeping options open until the decision is made upon who is right. All men can play the womanizing game, that is not sign specific. I have many male friends. Some may be perceived as suitors, but only one will truly hold my heart in the palm of his hand. I enjoy people in general for their qualities and value my friends. Male and female.
I can be a horrendous flirt, and have a wicked sense of humor but once I lock down on the object of my affection and desire everyone else immediately gets slammed into friend territory. There is no possibilities or entertainment of such thoughts. My focus is ONE. And I like to know precisely where I stand in someones affection. No wondering. To put it most bluntly...I want someone to eat, shit, and breathe me in. Because that is what I am doing in reverse. No middle ground for me. Most definitely black and white in that arena.
Walking off into the fog and mist might work for some Bulls ( that panicked reaction of "OH SHIT, can't lose DAT! What are you doing?! THINK! THINK! ) but it drives a wedge in deep for me and plainly tells me with both fingers extended to 'fugoff'..which I will do, hurt. I have far too much Fire to want to drag my feet and piddle fart around in general. What I want, I'll be wanting yesterday sankoovellymuch. So quite a bit of that 'oh no's!' crap and swooning majestically backward onto a hope chest crap while I clutch my pearls doesn't fly with me very far. YES I will think, YES I will ponder, then I'll just slam one foot on the clutch and the other on the gas and slip that baby into 5th gear so I can listen to it PURR. All the way to the frocking floor with it. And all the fear, and all the wondering, and all the extreme bullshit can kiss my round lily white ASSSSSSSSSS. Ya feeling me sisters? Can ya dig on that? Can ya groooooove on it? Yehhhh baby.

I second that emotion.

Posted by venusianbull

Walking off into the fog and mist might work for some Bulls ( that panicked reaction of "OH SHIT, can't lose DAT! What are you doing?! THINK! THINK! ) but it drives a wedge in deep for me and plainly tells me with both fingers extended to 'fugoff'..which I will do, hurt. I have far too much Fire to want to drag my feet and piddle fart around in general. What I want, I'll be wanting yesterday sankoovellymuch. So quite a bit of that 'oh no's!' crap and swooning majestically backward onto a hope chest crap while I clutch my pearls doesn't fly with me very far. YES I will think, YES I will ponder, then I'll just slam one foot on the clutch and the other on the gas and slip that baby into 5th gear so I can listen to it PURR. All the way to the frocking floor with it. And all the fear, and all the wondering, and all the extreme bullshit can kiss my round lily white ASSSSSSSSSS. Ya feeling me sisters? Can ya dig on that? Can ya groooooove on it? Yehhhh baby.

VB, you are very poetic. Very pretty. But it made absolutely no sense.

Erm, correction: You made no sense TO ME. In other words, I dun get it. And I think yew were talking to me...

Sometimes I go off on a tangent trying to explain Tau dynamic.

Posted by venusianbull
Sometimes I go off on a tangent trying to explain Tau dynamic.

Well I got it. And that's what message boards do they merge and fuse thoughts together because you try to answer all at once. As far as my Bull I thank the stars I was able to get him without all of the hassles. I am learning for my girls though and I am learning it well I think with your help. Basically: if and when they want you, you will know.

Thanks daysunny for making that painfully obvious (which is what it takes for me to get it sometimes 😉) And no worries VB, I love yew anyway even if you sometimes confuse me.



Well I guess I wait and see. Bah I hate waiting. Well I guess 1/12 of the population would be Taurus, am I right? There'll be one for me at some point.

LOL Well I have to keep you guessing eh? Wouldn't want you lot getting tired of me. 😉

Patience Sky, patience. We want to know you've got our back. If you just give up because he's not as eager as you are to jump in with both feet.. for one such as I it would send me a very clear message that feelings were not true at all. Because you do not give up. You keep barreling along with it.

And if that ^^^ confuses a bit, I shall state it plainly. He knows you care for him. It's up to him whether or not he'll step up. If nothing else continue being a steady presence, but stick to your WORD, yeh? If you give him space, give it to him, but do not disappear.

*hugs* THANK you for beating me with the obvious stick. Yes I must be beaten with the message to get it clearly enough. 😛

So.. I'm not entirely sure how to go about that because we aren't likely to be randomly hanging around in the same places. I surely have the same group of friends though, but I spend most of my time with this chick and she doesn't usually go out with my bull and his bff. We were working together but I just quit that job. I do need to go pick up my paycheck, and we were working at a grocery store so its not like I wont be going in there once in a while.. but he works in the back. Not likely I'll see him. What do you recommend?

Do you. Go out with your friends, live your life. Have fun for heavens sakes. Trust me, he knows you're there.

Mkay 🙂 That was my plan anyway, just wanted to make sure it was the right idea. *crooked grin* I have a feeling this isn't over.

BWAHAHAHAAA, doesn't sound like it. First and foremost, reeeelllllaaaax. 🙂

should be my mantra

*huge smile* And remember this song..this is all Taurus. Mmmhmmm.

Hahhaa, awwwww yeh. The notes shimmer in the air while you walk. Hips rolling and butt swaying in heels. Head up and proud, eyes snapping. 😉

lmao This sounds like what I'm saying to him.

Bought me a pair of stilletto boots today. Couldn't find a miniskirt but something similar. Gonna catch me a Taurus. 😛

Well, (And I can already hear VB saying RELLLLAAAAAAXXXXXXX in my head)

I haven't heard from him. Last talked to him on Sunday. My sort of plan is to go out with random people this weekend, just go to the bar and have some fun. And wait. And I have a couple spies 😛 Whenever he gets around to asking about me.. maybe accidentally on purpose show up when HE goes out. Just basically make my presence felt, and make him drool. 😛 Think it will work? Or should I write it off....? :/

(Okay I had to add this. My emotional side is saying "yeah right, scorpio, you think you can write it off? after all the last one took 4 MONTHS to get over and we went out 4 times") So um.. maybe I'm just hoping I can? If he's not interested?

Oh Sky, just hang in there. I remember your posts from long ago now. It's not you honey it's that these guys get scared a lot and then do a dance. But I had to learn the hard way that if I start to over analyze it and then interpret it then it's all over. You may remember my story but briefly I was dating my guy and this was when Myspace was out. He had all kinds of women on his page, he would have his top 8 and then removed me and didn't want to put his status. It was a long long while ago. But I had it and left. He chased every since. So I know about the ambiguity and all that stuff. If I had a time machine I think I would've dumped him sooner and acted like he didnt exist sooner because that's when the respect came. However we are in the battle of submissive versus bitch right now, it's going good. I know he is a loving guy and the stability is great but once you do get them be prepared for some more challenges as with any sign.

Posted by Skykomish
Well, (And I can already hear VB saying RELLLLAAAAAAXXXXXXX in my head)

I haven't heard from him. Last talked to him on Sunday. My sort of plan is to go out with random people this weekend, just go to the bar and have some fun. And wait. And I have a couple spies 😛 Whenever he gets around to asking about me.. maybe accidentally on purpose show up when HE goes out. Just basically make my presence felt, and make him drool. 😛 Think it will work? Or should I write it off....? :/

If I may, and this is what worked for me. I sometimes give off an air that I am not emotional but that's just how Libras present facts. We are emotional beings but we are matter of fact to make the person see it as logically as possible as quickly as possible because we dont want them to hurt. I think you should be present around him. That will work, look your best as you know that you can but what I wanted to warn you about is that they can almost sense when you are zeroing in on them. It's like they have a 6th sense. So, it is really important as hard as it is to occupy your time as though you didnt meet him until he meets up with you again. Then when he does figure out what category you fit into because that is what mine did he assessed me and even though I knew his parents and family he still put me in a box. But once he figures out, give him time, just act like a friend. What you don't want is to put the pressure on and make him fake an entire identity because they can do that. Venus for both Libra and Taurus we are prone to create a romantic filled evening and you still wont get any deeper than you wanted to in the first place, we are about appearances. Taureans are more up front about it if you push them but we all like soft, polite, easy going, and that can all be fiction if we are pressured. If any of that makes sense I had a long day with the neighbors. Hang in there. Be elusive, go in the Libra and Taurus thread the answer there may help you too, it's from a Taurus male.

Little update. So when we went out the first time he was talking about this place he loves to take his dog/go fishing, Patagonia. I drove through there yesterday. Figured what the hell, I'll send him a text.. not asking a question, not really expecting an answer. Especially since he basically never answers anyone on text, no matter what. So I texted him- "I can see why you love Patagonia. It is beautiful." And surprise surprise.. he texted me back... "Not as beautiful as you."

Awwwwww

That was very sweet. 🙂