Will a Taurus man wait for sex?

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So I am going to try and make this short and to the point:


My Taurus guy and I were together for over 1 year before we broke up. When we first got together he knew my views on sex and knew that I wanted to wait until the time was right. 8 months after we were together we had sex and like most relationships we began to have problems and it didn't help that I was so emotionally vested in him. Soon enough he grew insecure and kept breaking up with me for no reason. Of course, I would take him back each time smh. Finally he broke up with me for good saying that I deserve better and that he needed to get his life together. A few months before we broke up for good, I stopped having sex with him because it became so sinful/ lustful to me and it didn't help that he kept running in and out of my life as he pleased.


Fast forward to today. We been broken up with no contact for about 14 months and we recently reconnected about 2 months ago. When we first saw each other he got on his knees and apologized for everything he put me through and told me that he was still in love with me. He told me that when he gets his life together (whenever that is) that I was going to be the woman he wants to marry. He also told me that he's dated other girls and none of them compared to me. Last week we went out to dinner and began to talk about the previous relationship. I told him that if I were to ever give us another try, I would want to remove sex from the relationship until we build a stronger foundation. His reaction was not the best, he kept making up all these excuses as to why that wouldn't work. He kept telling me that I was worth the wait but blah blah blah...more excuses. Overall it was a turnoff to me and showed how immature/lustful he still is. I believed I grown from the relationship and he hasn't. I love a challenge and he doesn't give me that. As much as I want to walk away from him, I still love him and think what if? What do you guys think? Has anyone been through this before? It may not be a Taurus man situation but a Man situation. I am open to all advice. Thanks!
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if you think sex is sinful, you're going to have a problem with anyone who doesn't feel that same way.


sex is part of having a healthy relationship. you might be right that you want to wait to build a stronger foundation but you're trying to close that gate after the horse has bolted.


and taurus as a sign, love their sex. if you equate that with being lustful (and yeah it is) and a bad thing, then unless you can change your thinking, this might not be the best match for you.
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How old are you I wonder? The truth is Taurus love sex. It's just how it is, so if you aren't about that, I don't think you should get back with him because that part of him isn't going to change.
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Posted by Scorpio123
She didn't say she's against sex, she's been having sex with him, but she doesn't want it to be JUST sex like it was.
She said in her post she told him she wants to withhold sex from him until they build a stronger foundation if they got back together. That can scare a bull away because they need consistency and the uncertainty of that aspect of their relationship or rather, the unknown amount of time for it to get there again, may be a bit much for him to handle especially considering he already waited 8 months prior.
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Posted by jeane
if you think sex is sinful, you're going to have a problem with anyone who doesn't feel that same way.


sex is part of having a healthy relationship. you might be right that you want to wait to build a stronger foundation but you're trying to close that gate after the horse has bolted.


and taurus as a sign, love their sex. if you equate that with being lustful (and yeah it is) and a bad thing, then unless you can change your thinking, this might not be the best match for you.
Something i have issues dealing with.. Virgo i was with enjoyed the sex but was going on about lust, i'm Taurus moon with moon conjunct mars.


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fuck that. if my partner turned around and said no more sex or that it was too "lustful" (whatever that means), it would be our death knell.


thank god he is a taurus and that would never happen. Winking
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So what happens when someone wont have sex till they are in a relationship then?.
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Posted by jeane
if you think sex is sinful, you're going to have a problem with anyone who doesn't feel that same way.


sex is part of having a healthy relationship. you might be right that you want to wait to build a stronger foundation but you're trying to close that gate after the horse has bolted.


and taurus as a sign, love their sex. if you equate that with being lustful (and yeah it is) and a bad thing, then unless you can change your thinking, this might not be the best match for you.
I never wanted to close the gate off completely. Just until we build something stronger. When sex is the only thing we have I feel like im being used and it becomes draining... he doesn't see like that.
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Posted by earlorg16
How old are you I wonder? The truth is Taurus love sex. It's just how it is, so if you aren't about that, I don't think you should get back with him because that part of him isn't going to change.
I am 26 and he is 27 & I agree with you. I don't think it will work. He is so stubborn and doesn't like change...
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Posted by Scorpio123
She didn't say she's against sex, she's been having sex with him, but she doesn't want it to be JUST sex like it was.
She said in her post she told him she wants to withhold sex from him until they build a stronger foundation if they got back together. That can scare a bull away because they need consistency and the uncertainty of that aspect of their relationship or rather, the unknown amount of time for it to get there again, may be a bit much for him to handle especially considering he already waited 8 months prior.
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Right, so he rather have sex than have a more stronger relationship. You can get sex from anyone. All I am asking him for is to compromise and he can't seem to do that.
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Posted by jeane
if you think sex is sinful, you're going to have a problem with anyone who doesn't feel that same way.


sex is part of having a healthy relationship. you might be right that you want to wait to build a stronger foundation but you're trying to close that gate after the horse has bolted.


and taurus as a sign, love their sex. if you equate that with being lustful (and yeah it is) and a bad thing, then unless you can change your thinking, this might not be the best match for you.
Something i have issues dealing with.. Virgo i was with enjoyed the sex but was going on about lust, i'm Taurus moon with moon conjunct mars.


fuck that. if my partner turned around and said no more sex or that it was too "lustful" (whatever that means), it would be our death knell.


thank god he is a taurus and that would never happen. Winking
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lol, we he pretty much ran the other way. His actions were definitely shown...
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Posted by MsFiona
Posted by jeane
if you think sex is sinful, you're going to have a problem with anyone who doesn't feel that same way.


sex is part of having a healthy relationship. you might be right that you want to wait to build a stronger foundation but you're trying to close that gate after the horse has bolted.


and taurus as a sign, love their sex. if you equate that with being lustful (and yeah it is) and a bad thing, then unless you can change your thinking, this might not be the best match for you.
I never wanted to close the gate off completely. Just until we build something stronger. When sex is the only thing we have I feel like im being used and it becomes draining... he doesn't see like that.
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do you really only have the sex? so more of an fwb arrangement? you don't go out, have conversations beyond sex? what were you doing for 8 months?


but yes, no one is worth feeling used.
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Posted by Scorpio123
She didn't say she's against sex, she's been having sex with him, but she doesn't want it to be JUST sex like it was.
She said in her post she told him she wants to withhold sex from him until they build a stronger foundation if they got back together. That can scare a bull away because they need consistency and the uncertainty of that aspect of their relationship or rather, the unknown amount of time for it to get there again, may be a bit much for him to handle especially considering he already waited 8 months prior.
It sounded like a really dysfunctional relationship and that sex was replacing having any kind of a healthy relationship so in that regard I think she's doing the right thing, trying to fix some of the issues before jumping into having sex again instead of addressing their problems.


I can respect that. Doesn't mean she won't be fucking his brains out once he starts getting his shit together. ?

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You're like the only one who understands where I am coming from lol, ...that is the plan. I just asked him to lets remove sex from the equation temporarily and he acts like that is a power trip

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I agree with Jeane saying my sex drive is too lustful would be a death wound to the relationship. People need to understand Taurus is on the axis of love sex and intimacy we crave sex and intimacy and being a bull gives us a high sex drive and stamina if you can't hang find another partner with the same view on sex and sex drive like yourself.
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I agree with Jeane saying my sex drive is too lustful would be a death wound to the relationship. People need to understand Taurus is on the axis of love sex and intimacy we crave sex and intimacy and being a bull gives us a high sex drive and stamina if you can't hang find another partner with the same view on sex and sex drive like yourself.
Oh trust me, I understand. I am a Virgo and my sex drive is just as high probably higher. But when all we have left in the relationship is just good sex, that's not enough. I'm sure there's plenty more of that out there...
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Posted by Kityyyyyyy
So what happens when someone wont have sex till they are in a relationship then?.
I did that, I didn't have sex with him until I fell in love with him.
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So they will wait and are good people at heart?.
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Posted by Kityyyyyyy
So they will wait and are good people at heart?.
They make the choice to wait also, if they don't then good bye...

I'd be glad that I didn't have waste my vag on them lol
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This is actually really easy.


He is promising to get his life together, has been promising to for quite some time. So tell him sex will happen once he gets his life together and commits. Not before.


Then be strong enough to mean what you say and stick by it.
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Posted by MsFiona
Finally he broke up with me for good saying that I deserve better and that he needed to get his life together.


He told me that when he gets his life together (whenever that is) that I was going to be the woman he wants to marry. He also told me that he's dated other girls and none of them compared to me.
No pussy until he makes good on these promises.
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Posted by earlorg16
Posted by Scorpio123
She didn't say she's against sex, she's been having sex with him, but she doesn't want it to be JUST sex like it was.
She said in her post she told him she wants to withhold sex from him until they build a stronger foundation if they got back together. That can scare a bull away because they need consistency and the uncertainty of that aspect of their relationship or rather, the unknown amount of time for it to get there again, may be a bit much for him to handle especially considering he already waited 8 months prior.
It sounded like a really dysfunctional relationship and that sex was replacing having any kind of a healthy relationship so in that regard I think she's doing the right thing, trying to fix some of the issues before jumping into having sex again instead of addressing their problems.


I can respect that. Doesn't mean she won't be fucking his brains out once he starts getting his shit together. ?

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Right, if the issue was bought up and he's reacting to it the way he is already, it doesn't make sense to reconcile.
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Posted by MsFiona
Posted by earlorg16
Posted by Scorpio123
She didn't say she's against sex, she's been having sex with him, but she doesn't want it to be JUST sex like it was.
She said in her post she told him she wants to withhold sex from him until they build a stronger foundation if they got back together. That can scare a bull away because they need consistency and the uncertainty of that aspect of their relationship or rather, the unknown amount of time for it to get there again, may be a bit much for him to handle especially considering he already waited 8 months prior.
Right, so he rather have sex than have a more stronger relationship. You can get sex from anyone. All I am asking him for is to compromise and he can't seem to do that.
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Sex is part of equation for him, a big part it seems. You CAN'T get sex from anyone, he wants it from you and you're not willing to offer it and make him wait. All I'm saying is if this is an issue now and yall aren't even together, it may not be a good idea. The good news from this? At least he's not BSing you about it, he's telling you up front that no sex is a deal breaker for him.
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Posted by MsFiona
Posted by earlorg16
Posted by Scorpio123
She didn't say she's against sex, she's been having sex with him, but she doesn't want it to be JUST sex like it was.
She said in her post she told him she wants to withhold sex from him until they build a stronger foundation if they got back together. That can scare a bull away because they need consistency and the uncertainty of that aspect of their relationship or rather, the unknown amount of time for it to get there again, may be a bit much for him to handle especially considering he already waited 8 months prior.
Right, so he rather have sex than have a more stronger relationship. You can get sex from anyone. All I am asking him for is to compromise and he can't seem to do that.
Sex is part of equation for him, a big part it seems. You CAN'T get sex from anyone, he wants it from you and you're not willing to offer it and make him wait. All I'm saying is if this is an issue now and yall aren't even together, it may not be a good idea. The good news from this? At least he's not BSing you about it, he's telling you up front that no sex is a deal breaker for him.
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I get that, but he's acting like I'm saying no sex forever. It's only temporary. He's so stubborn and only sees things his way...

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Posted by MsFiona
Finally he broke up with me for good saying that I deserve better and that he needed to get his life together.


He told me that when he gets his life together (whenever that is) that I was going to be the woman he wants to marry. He also told me that he's dated other girls and none of them compared to me.
No pussy until he makes good on these promises.
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I sooooo agree!!!
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Posted by MsFiona
Posted by Kityyyyyyy
So they will wait and are good people at heart?.
They make the choice to wait also, if they don't then good bye...

I'd be glad that I didn't have waste my vag on them lol
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"waste your vag"? lol
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Posted by LadyNeptune
This is actually really easy.


He is promising to get his life together, has been promising to for quite some time. So tell him sex will happen once he gets his life together and commits. Not before.


Then be strong enough to mean what you say and stick by it.


I agree! Thank you!
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Posted by MsFiona
Posted by earlorg16
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Posted by Scorpio123
She didn't say she's against sex, she's been having sex with him, but she doesn't want it to be JUST sex like it was.
She said in her post she told him she wants to withhold sex from him until they build a stronger foundation if they got back together. That can scare a bull away because they need consistency and the uncertainty of that aspect of their relationship or rather, the unknown amount of time for it to get there again, may be a bit much for him to handle especially considering he already waited 8 months prior.
Right, so he rather have sex than have a more stronger relationship. You can get sex from anyone. All I am asking him for is to compromise and he can't seem to do that.
Sex is part of equation for him, a big part it seems. You CAN'T get sex from anyone, he wants it from you and you're not willing to offer it and make him wait. All I'm saying is if this is an issue now and yall aren't even together, it may not be a good idea. The good news from this? At least he's not BSing you about it, he's telling you up front that no sex is a deal breaker for him.
I get that, but he's acting like I'm saying no sex forever. It's only temporary. He's so stubborn and only sees things his way...

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I think it's more of a testament to his maturity level that he can't wait. Maybe he'll come around to it, but the fact that he's reacting to it the way he is already is a red flag. But again, it's the unknown that is scaring him away. I'm sure he knows that it would happen down the road and that it's temporary, it's the aspect of "how temporary" that is making this tough.
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Posted by LadyNeptune
This is actually really easy.


He is promising to get his life together, has been promising to for quite some time. So tell him sex will happen once he gets his life together and commits. Not before.


Then be strong enough to mean what you say and stick by it.
I agree there. Sex is about trust, why would you have sex with a guy you don't trust? Fuck astrology. This is about your right as a WOMAN. You get to choose who you want to fuck and when girlfriend. If you don't trust him, then he has to try to earn it; until then, keep it in your pants boy. ??
Especially when he makes these big all encompassing statements but then can't back it up by giving the op what she needs.


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When we first saw each other he got on his knees and apologized for everything he put me through and told me that he was still in love with me.
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Don't you want the woman you love to have the stability and security she craves in a relationship? Seems to me that he can talk a big game but has zero follow-through.
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Posted by Scorpio123
She didn't say she's against sex, she's been having sex with him, but she doesn't want it to be JUST sex like it was.
She said in her post she told him she wants to withhold sex from him until they build a stronger foundation if they got back together. That can scare a bull away because they need consistency and the uncertainty of that aspect of their relationship or rather, the unknown amount of time for it to get there again, may be a bit much for him to handle especially considering he already waited 8 months prior.
Right, so he rather have sex than have a more stronger relationship. You can get sex from anyone. All I am asking him for is to compromise and he can't seem to do that.
Sex is part of equation for him, a big part it seems. You CAN'T get sex from anyone, he wants it from you and you're not willing to offer it and make him wait. All I'm saying is if this is an issue now and yall aren't even together, it may not be a good idea. The good news from this? At least he's not BSing you about it, he's telling you up front that no sex is a deal breaker for him.
I get that, but he's acting like I'm saying no sex forever. It's only temporary. He's so stubborn and only sees things his way...

I think it's more of a testament to his maturity level that he can't wait. Maybe he'll come around to it, but the fact that he's reacting to it the way he is already is a red flag. But again, it's the unknown that is scaring him away. I'm sure he knows that it would happen down the road and that it's temporary, it's the aspect of "how temporary" that is making this tough.
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maybe or maybe she treats her nunny as a prize rather than sex as being something that is shared between two people. if it used as a way to wield power in a relationship, well, that's no fun.


still, she has final say what kind of relationship she wants to be in.

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if you think sex is sinful, you're going to have a problem with anyone who doesn't feel that same way.


sex is part of having a healthy relationship. you might be right that you want to wait to build a stronger foundation but you're trying to close that gate after the horse has bolted.


and taurus as a sign, love their sex. if you equate that with being lustful (and yeah it is) and a bad thing, then unless you can change your thinking, this might not be the best match for you.
I never wanted to close the gate off completely. Just until we build something stronger. When sex is the only thing we have I feel like im being used and it becomes draining... he doesn't see like that.
do you really only have the sex? so more of an fwb arrangement? you don't go out, have conversations beyond sex? what were you doing for 8 months?


but yes, no one is worth feeling used.
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During the first 8 months, he was so perfect (in my eyes). Dates all the time, flowers sent to work, we would talk for hours in person and on the phone like we were in high school ... After sex, all of that slowly went down the drain. The dates were more like once a month, no more flowers, it was like the fire died. The only time the fire would rekindle was after-sex and that just became mentally draining at least for me... Then he got all insecure and kept breaking up with me almost every week. It was like an emotional roller coaster ...he finally broke up with saying that I deserve someone better and that he needed to fix his life...So I ghosted him for 14 months until he called me about 2 months ago...now all these feelings start coming back...

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Jeane, I didn't really get that vibe from her? It seems like sex is a special thing to her and a bond that needs to be built. Nothing wrong with that.


So many men force women into doing things they don't want, and the women oblige out of the fear that the men would dump them.


Wish I had flipped guys like these off in my past.
then why speak of sex being sinful?
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if you think sex is sinful, you're going to have a problem with anyone who doesn't feel that same way.


sex is part of having a healthy relationship. you might be right that you want to wait to build a stronger foundation but you're trying to close that gate after the horse has bolted.


and taurus as a sign, love their sex. if you equate that with being lustful (and yeah it is) and a bad thing, then unless you can change your thinking, this might not be the best match for you.
I never wanted to close the gate off completely. Just until we build something stronger. When sex is the only thing we have I feel like im being used and it becomes draining... he doesn't see like that.
do you really only have the sex? so more of an fwb arrangement? you don't go out, have conversations beyond sex? what were you doing for 8 months?


but yes, no one is worth feeling used.
During the first 8 months, he was so perfect (in my eyes). Dates all the time, flowers sent to work, we would talk for hours in person and on the phone like we were in high school ... After sex, all of that slowly went down the drain. The dates were more like once a month, no more flowers, it was like the fire died. The only time the fire would rekindle was after-sex and that just became mentally draining at least for me... Then he got all insecure and kept breaking up with me almost every week. It was like an emotional roller coaster ...he finally broke up with saying that I deserve someone better and that he needed to fix his life...So I ghosted him for 14 months until he called me about 2 months ago...now all these feelings start coming back...

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it doesn't sound like the problem was having sex but more that he was indecisive and just an all round crap boyfriend.


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I agree with Jeane saying my sex drive is too lustful would be a death wound to the relationship. People need to understand Taurus is on the axis of love sex and intimacy we crave sex and intimacy and being a bull gives us a high sex drive and stamina if you can't hang find another partner with the same view on sex and sex drive like yourself.
Oh trust me, I understand. I am a Virgo and my sex drive is just as high probably higher. But when all we have left in the relationship is just good sex, that's not enough. I'm sure there's plenty more of that out there...
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Ahh you're a Virgo makes more sense my X virgal made me wait a year before sex and in that time we built a bond so that when we did have sex it would be much more that just sex but an extension of our unity and commitment to each other. If she would've held back sex from me after that point it would be a big problem for me. You don't serve a Taurus a great meal and expect us to be satisfied with only getting that same meal once in a while no no we want it served to us very often since we now have an insatiable crave for its taste. What was your relationship like prior to the sex with the two of you? And what happend to it to where it's no longer around in your relationship now to where you feel good sex is the only thing left in it?

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if you think sex is sinful, you're going to have a problem with anyone who doesn't feel that same way.


sex is part of having a healthy relationship. you might be right that you want to wait to build a stronger foundation but you're trying to close that gate after the horse has bolted.


and taurus as a sign, love their sex. if you equate that with being lustful (and yeah it is) and a bad thing, then unless you can change your thinking, this might not be the best match for you.
I never wanted to close the gate off completely. Just until we build something stronger. When sex is the only thing we have I feel like im being used and it becomes draining... he doesn't see like that.
do you really only have the sex? so more of an fwb arrangement? you don't go out, have conversations beyond sex? what were you doing for 8 months?


but yes, no one is worth feeling used.
During the first 8 months, he was so perfect (in my eyes). Dates all the time, flowers sent to work, we would talk for hours in person and on the phone like we were in high school ... After sex, all of that slowly went down the drain. The dates were more like once a month, no more flowers, it was like the fire died. The only time the fire would rekindle was after-sex and that just became mentally draining at least for me... Then he got all insecure and kept breaking up with me almost every week. It was like an emotional roller coaster ...he finally broke up with saying that I deserve someone better and that he needed to fix his life...So I ghosted him for 14 months until he called me about 2 months ago...now all these feelings start coming back...



it doesn't sound like the problem was having sex but more that he was indecisive and just an all round crap boyfriend.


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actually i'm reminded of something @tiziani said a while ago. he said that when you make sex so important in a relationship, it is seen like something to accomplish for some guys. they'll work their asses off to get it. almost like you've set them a challenge to get to the top of the mountain. once they get to the top, they are not all that fussed anymore. it became less about the relationship and more about the challenge to get you into bed.


i've paraphrased that so poorly that i've tagged him. hopefully he will be able to give you a more succinct explanation.

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Posted by Scorpio123
She didn't say she's against sex, she's been having sex with him, but she doesn't want it to be JUST sex like it was.
She said in her post she told him she wants to withhold sex from him until they build a stronger foundation if they got back together. That can scare a bull away because they need consistency and the uncertainty of that aspect of their relationship or rather, the unknown amount of time for it to get there again, may be a bit much for him to handle especially considering he already waited 8 months prior.
Right, so he rather have sex than have a more stronger relationship. You can get sex from anyone. All I am asking him for is to compromise and he can't seem to do that.
Sex is part of equation for him, a big part it seems. You CAN'T get sex from anyone, he wants it from you and you're not willing to offer it and make him wait. All I'm saying is if this is an issue now and yall aren't even together, it may not be a good idea. The good news from this? At least he's not BSing you about it, he's telling you up front that no sex is a deal breaker for him.
I get that, but he's acting like I'm saying no sex forever. It's only temporary. He's so stubborn and only sees things his way...

I think it's more of a testament to his maturity level that he can't wait. Maybe he'll come around to it, but the fact that he's reacting to it the way he is already is a red flag. But again, it's the unknown that is scaring him away. I'm sure he knows that it would happen down the road and that it's temporary, it's the aspect of "how temporary" that is making this tough.
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Im taking the risk also. Im also in the unknown...what if I sex him again and he leaves...again? Its a two way street. A relationship is a risk two people have to take, not one...
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This is actually really easy.


He is promising to get his life together, has been promising to for quite some time. So tell him sex will happen once he gets his life together and commits. Not before.


Then be strong enough to mean what you say and stick by it.
I agree there. Sex is about trust, why would you have sex with a guy you don't trust? Fuck astrology. This is about your right as a WOMAN. You get to choose who you want to fuck and when girlfriend. If you don't trust him, then he has to try to earn it; until then, keep it in your pants boy. ??
Especially when he makes these big all encompassing statements but then can't back it up by giving the op what she needs.


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When we first saw each other he got on his knees and apologized for everything he put me through and told me that he was still in love with me.
Don't you want the woman you love to have the stability and security she craves in a relationship? Seems to me that he can talk a big game but has zero follow-through.
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you explained him perfectly...his actions rarely match his words...
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Posted by Scorpio123
Jeane, I didn't really get that vibe from her? It seems like sex is a special thing to her and a bond that needs to be built. Nothing wrong with that.


So many men force women into doing things they don't want, and the women oblige out of the fear that the men would dump them.


Wish I had flipped guys like these off in my past.
I guess I hold sex a little higher than others I see. I don't go around sexing just anybody. If I don't feel that the trust is there anymore then I put a lock on it until the trust grows back, and if he isn't willing to work for it then why would I continue to give him the prize? Not this one...
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Jeane, I didn't really get that vibe from her? It seems like sex is a special thing to her and a bond that needs to be built. Nothing wrong with that.


So many men force women into doing things they don't want, and the women oblige out of the fear that the men would dump them.


Wish I had flipped guys like these off in my past.
then why speak of sex being sinful?
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It started to feel sinful when there was no longer any other meaning behind it..
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Whats his moon? Gemini?
In Capricorn
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I agree with Jeane saying my sex drive is too lustful would be a death wound to the relationship. People need to understand Taurus is on the axis of love sex and intimacy we crave sex and intimacy and being a bull gives us a high sex drive and stamina if you can't hang find another partner with the same view on sex and sex drive like yourself.
Oh trust me, I understand. I am a Virgo and my sex drive is just as high probably higher. But when all we have left in the relationship is just good sex, that's not enough. I'm sure there's plenty more of that out there...


Ahh you're a Virgo makes more sense my X virgal made me wait a year before sex and in that time we built a bond so that when we did have sex it would be much more that just sex but an extension of our unity and commitment to each other. If she would've held back sex from me after that point it would be a big problem for me. You don't serve a Taurus a great meal and expect us to be satisfied with only getting that same meal once in a while no no we want it served to us very often since we now have an insatiable crave for its taste. What was your relationship like prior to the sex with the two of you? And what happend to it to where it's no longer around in your relationship now to where you feel good sex is the only thing left in it?

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I had no choice but to hold back. He kept breaking up and me and leaving for no reason. I shut down. I could no longer give him that piece of me and when I did it just felt wrong...I felt used. I was doing it to keep him happy but I wasn't happy. I felt like our relationship before sex was perfect, idk how he felt but its the reason why I chose to have sex with him because I was ready.
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I agree with Jeane saying my sex drive is too lustful would be a death wound to the relationship. People need to understand Taurus is on the axis of love sex and intimacy we crave sex and intimacy and being a bull gives us a high sex drive and stamina if you can't hang find another partner with the same view on sex and sex drive like yourself.
Oh trust me, I understand. I am a Virgo and my sex drive is just as high probably higher. But when all we have left in the relationship is just good sex, that's not enough. I'm sure there's plenty more of that out there...


Ahh you're a Virgo makes more sense my X virgal made me wait a year before sex and in that time we built a bond so that when we did have sex it would be much more that just sex but an extension of our unity and commitment to each other. If she would've held back sex from me after that point it would be a big problem for me. You don't serve a Taurus a great meal and expect us to be satisfied with only getting that same meal once in a while no no we want it served to us very often since we now have an insatiable crave for its taste. What was your relationship like prior to the sex with the two of you? And what happend to it to where it's no longer around in your relationship now to where you feel good sex is the only thing left in it?

I had no choice but to hold back. He kept breaking up and me and leaving for no reason. I shut down. I could no longer give him that piece of me and when I did it just felt wrong...I felt used. I was doing it to keep him happy but I wasn't happy. I felt like our relationship before sex was perfect, idk how he felt but its the reason why I chose to have sex with him because I was ready.
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oh I see I'm sure he felt you were a perfect fit for him and put you on a pedestal. You mentioned he started having insecurities this is something I was having with my Virgo which made me act out of character with her. Was he having these insecurities with you before sex or they only came on after the sex? You said he didn't feel good enough for you would break up with you and would eventually come back to you right to take him back. If he really didn't feel worthy to have you then he wanted to set you free to find someone better than him because he felt you deserved only the best in life. But he just couldn't face not having you in his life anymore in his heart he knew that he needed you back. And if he were to see you actually move on from him it would break him so he ran back out of fear of losing you forever. But it doesn't sound like he has changed much from your time apart if he's really making the no sex thing that much of a big deal. If I really wanted to get back with an X it wouldn't bother me to wait for sex If I know she is worth it i'll wait.


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This retrograde brings people back into our lives as a re do, a test of sorts if you will, to see were you went wrong and wether you would entertain a second chance. Good luck to you, choose love. Choose wisely.
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I agree with Jeane saying my sex drive is too lustful would be a death wound to the relationship. People need to understand Taurus is on the axis of love sex and intimacy we crave sex and intimacy and being a bull gives us a high sex drive and stamina if you can't hang find another partner with the same view on sex and sex drive like yourself.
Oh trust me, I understand. I am a Virgo and my sex drive is just as high probably higher. But when all we have left in the relationship is just good sex, that's not enough. I'm sure there's plenty more of that out there...


Ahh you're a Virgo makes more sense my X virgal made me wait a year before sex and in that time we built a bond so that when we did have sex it would be much more that just sex but an extension of our unity and commitment to each other. If she would've held back sex from me after that point it would be a big problem for me. You don't serve a Taurus a great meal and expect us to be satisfied with only getting that same meal once in a while no no we want it served to us very often since we now have an insatiable crave for its taste. What was your relationship like prior to the sex with the two of you? And what happend to it to where it's no longer around in your relationship now to where you feel good sex is the only thing left in it?

I had no choice but to hold back. He kept breaking up and me and leaving for no reason. I shut down. I could no longer give him that piece of me and when I did it just felt wrong...I felt used. I was doing it to keep him happy but I wasn't happy. I felt like our relationship before sex was perfect, idk how he felt but its the reason why I chose to have sex with him because I was ready.

oh I see I'm sure he felt you were a perfect fit for him and put you on a pedestal. You mentioned he started having insecurities this is something I was having with my Virgo which made me act out of character with her. Was he having these insecurities with you before sex or they only came on after the sex? You said he didn't feel good enough for you would break up with you and would eventually come back to you right to take him back. If he really didn't feel worthy to have you then he wanted to set you free to find someone better than him because he felt you deserved only the best in life. But he just couldn't face not having you in his life anymore in his heart he knew that he needed you back. And if he were to see you actually move on from him it would break him so he ran back out of fear of losing you forever. But it doesn't sound like he has changed much from your time apart if he's really making the no sex thing that much of a big deal. If I really wanted to get back with an X it wouldn't bother me to wait for sex If I know she is worth it i'll wait.


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I did not notice any insecurities before sex but I don't doubt that they were there & and yes he would break up with me, blame everything on me & then come back and say that he doesn't deserve me and it's him with the issue. But me being so in love with him, I loved him regardless. When I stop having sex with him I think that made things worse. He wanted me to do wife type things but he wouldn't even commit or even keep his word that he wouldn't leave again, so the trust was gone. I know deep down that he isn't any good for me but it sucks because I love him and I keep having hope that he would change... he keeps telling me I'm worth the wait but gives tons of excuses each time he makes that statement. So obviously I am not worth the wait to him...

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You don't need to explain yourself to us or him, this is your body and that is the most intimate part of you; if you don't feel comfortable giving it, then please don't.


I know you said you feel like you still love him, but could it be just a closure issue you had? Sometimes it's not love, but an echo of it, you start remembering feelings he made you feel; but he longer does NOW.


Only you can know how you really feel towards him, but it doesn't seem like this relationship was very fulfilling for you. I'd personally stay away from him. He's unpredictable.
Thanks and I like to think that it is closure... actually I kind of hope it was closure and that this is just the healing process...


I don't think I can put myself back in that relationship because I know what he is capable of and now he's making a big deal about sex (seems like another red flag).
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I did not notice any insecurities before sex but I don't doubt that they were there & and yes he would break up with me, blame everything on me & then come back and say that he doesn't deserve me and it's him with the issue. But me being so in love with him, I loved him regardless. When I stop having sex with him I think that made things worse. He wanted me to do wife type things but he wouldn't even commit or even keep his word that he wouldn't leave again, so the trust was gone. I know deep down that he isn't any good for me but it sucks because I love him and I keep having hope that he would change... he keeps telling me I'm worth the wait but gives tons of excuses each time he makes that statement. So obviously I am not worth the wait to him...

he sounds like an arse.

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She didn't say she's against sex, she's been having sex with him, but she doesn't want it to be JUST sex like it was.
She said in her post she told him she wants to withhold sex from him until they build a stronger foundation if they got back together. That can scare a bull away because they need consistency and the uncertainty of that aspect of their relationship or rather, the unknown amount of time for it to get there again, may be a bit much for him to handle especially considering he already waited 8 months prior.
Right, so he rather have sex than have a more stronger relationship. You can get sex from anyone. All I am asking him for is to compromise and he can't seem to do that.
Sex is part of equation for him, a big part it seems. You CAN'T get sex from anyone, he wants it from you and you're not willing to offer it and make him wait. All I'm saying is if this is an issue now and yall aren't even together, it may not be a good idea. The good news from this? At least he's not BSing you about it, he's telling you up front that no sex is a deal breaker for him.
I get that, but he's acting like I'm saying no sex forever. It's only temporary. He's so stubborn and only sees things his way...

I think it's more of a testament to his maturity level that he can't wait. Maybe he'll come around to it, but the fact that he's reacting to it the way he is already is a red flag. But again, it's the unknown that is scaring him away. I'm sure he knows that it would happen down the road and that it's temporary, it's the aspect of "how temporary" that is making this tough.
Im taking the risk also. Im also in the unknown...what if I sex him again and he leaves...again? Its a two way street. A relationship is a risk two people have to take, not one...
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Sex is a big part of a relationship for some people (seems like is to him and he wants it sooner rather than later). It may not be to you, but it is to him. If you're going to be using the "two way street" analogy, you have to put that into account for him as well. Compromise is the key here. If you can't reach one with him, there's no point continuing.
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She didn't say she's against sex, she's been having sex with him, but she doesn't want it to be JUST sex like it was.
She said in her post she told him she wants to withhold sex from him until they build a stronger foundation if they got back together. That can scare a bull away because they need consistency and the uncertainty of that aspect of their relationship or rather, the unknown amount of time for it to get there again, may be a bit much for him to handle especially considering he already waited 8 months prior.
Right, so he rather have sex than have a more stronger relationship. You can get sex from anyone. All I am asking him for is to compromise and he can't seem to do that.
Sex is part of equation for him, a big part it seems. You CAN'T get sex from anyone, he wants it from you and you're not willing to offer it and make him wait. All I'm saying is if this is an issue now and yall aren't even together, it may not be a good idea. The good news from this? At least he's not BSing you about it, he's telling you up front that no sex is a deal breaker for him.
I get that, but he's acting like I'm saying no sex forever. It's only temporary. He's so stubborn and only sees things his way...

I think it's more of a testament to his maturity level that he can't wait. Maybe he'll come around to it, but the fact that he's reacting to it the way he is already is a red flag. But again, it's the unknown that is scaring him away. I'm sure he knows that it would happen down the road and that it's temporary, it's the aspect of "how temporary" that is making this tough.
Im taking the risk also. Im also in the unknown...what if I sex him again and he leaves...again? Its a two way street. A relationship is a risk two people have to take, not one...
Sex is a big part of a relationship for some people (seems like is to him and he wants it sooner rather than later). It may not be to you, but it is to him. If you're going to be using the "two way street" analogy, you have to put that into account for him as well. Compromise is the key here. If you can't reach one with him, there's no point continuing.
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True and I've compromised enough for him. I was told to ask myself if he would do the same from me as I done for him and honestly he wouldn't do almost half the things I've done for him. He's selfish and only looks out for himself.... he tells me he loves me but shows me otherwise...

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I'm sorry I'm just going to say it....


this sounds BORING.

Being in a relationship with you sounds BORING.

You sound like a power tripping police officer with that puss

and im curious what you actually bring to his table to equalize the relationship



him breaking up with you so much is called comfort

and him leaving for good is call intuition

and him claiming to want it to work out with you - is him probably hoping you changed for him because its not easy out there being single.


Taurus are such amazing lovers and men

I think your really narcissistic



kbyeeee
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She didn't say she's against sex, she's been having sex with him, but she doesn't want it to be JUST sex like it was.
She said in her post she told him she wants to withhold sex from him until they build a stronger foundation if they got back together. That can scare a bull away because they need consistency and the uncertainty of that aspect of their relationship or rather, the unknown amount of time for it to get there again, may be a bit much for him to handle especially considering he already waited 8 months prior.
It sounded like a really dysfunctional relationship and that sex was replacing having any kind of a healthy relationship so in that regard I think she's doing the right thing, trying to fix some of the issues before jumping into having sex again instead of addressing their problems.


I can respect that. Doesn't mean she won't be fucking his brains out once he starts getting his shit together. ?

You're like the only one who understands where I am coming from lol, ...that is the plan. I just asked him to lets remove sex from the equation temporarily and he acts like that is a power trip

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You removing sex is a power trip.

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OP,


I think your approach to this relationship seriously lacks any understanding of men, and human nature in general.


The predicament you're in or was in with this guy was an arbitrary, self-imposed one.


He courted you for EIGHT months. Eight fucking months. He waited until YOU felt ready AND on YOUR terms. This doesn't strike me as a relationship based only on sex. How can it be? You didn't have any sex for the first eight months!


Relationships will settle down after a while. There will be the rough times and the smooth times.


I think you use your fanny for control purposes but pass it off as being sweet, innocent, and almost virginal. As if your fanny is so much better than another's fanny!


I think the turning point for you in this relationship was when you felt you no longer held the upper hand. When he was no longer there to court you, bring you flowers every day and all that crap you decided to bring out the ultimate fanny padlock to teach him a lesson. Your constant control of sex, that loving, intimate act to share equally between two people, and your constant narcissistic, 'me me me, it's all about me, what are you doing for me, what do I get' attitude probably made him seriously question whether he wanted to be with you... or not. You changed the deal on him.


You cut off your boyfriend from having sex with you after he waited eight months. You cut off your boyfriend's way of feeling intimate and close to you and substituted it with even more hoops he had to jump through.


Who would want a relationship like that? Would YOU be happy if boot were on the other foot? No, you wouldn't be.


Why are you surprised that he finally cut you off in return? Was it because he’s a selfish prick? No, it was because he had a girlfriend whose actions and needs were not properly aligned with his own.
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