Will my Taurus man come back?

This topic was created in the Taurus forum by symone88 on Friday, July 15, 2016 and has 33 replies.
Let me start by saying I am a Virgo woman. My ex and I broke up about 3 weeks ago. We were together for 1 year. In our relationship I have caught girls in his phone a couple of times but I didn’t break up with him. He apologized and swore he would never do it again. I eventually stopped looking through his phone because I didn’t want to know if he was still communicating with other women ( I know that sounds a little silly). 1 month before we broke up, he text me saying that he needs some time away. I asked him if this meant we were breaking up and he told me I was free to do whatever I wanted to do.

5 days went by and I haven’t heard from him. I end out going out with a few friends and gave my number out to a guy, only because I felt single. Two days later, my boyfriend reach back out to me after a week of no contact. Although I was upset he went a whole week without talking to me I was also glad to hear from him. I deleted the guy’s number out of my phone because I know how jealous and possessive my Taurus man is and I didn't want it to be a problem.

He asked me if I have been talking to anyone during the week we didn't speak and I lied and said no. I lied because, I wasn’t talking to anyone I just gave my number away, nothing serious. Fast forward, he came to my house saying that he had this strong feeling I was talking to someone and asked to look through my phone. I gave it to him. He didn’t find anything. He started to accuse me of deleting things out my phone and I confessed. I told him that I did give my number out only because I felt single and he went 7 days without talking to me. He broke up with me. Called me a liar and cheater. I printed all out my phone calls/ and text messages records from my mobile carrier to prove that I had been faithful to him. He still doesn’t believe me.

I don’t get how he so quick to walk away. After I found girls in his phone I stayed. I gave my phone number out while we were on a so called break and he breaks up with me. He even told me he start talking to other girls. This broke my heart. I need help... Do you think my Taurus man will return?
Did he just test you and you failed by chance?
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Did he just test you and you failed by chance?
What do you mean by that?
will he come back? probably.

and when he does, you should tell him to turn back round again and go out the way he came in.
This Taurus man of yours: "Do as I say, not as I do."

He did it, he's paranoid and feeling guilty, so he tested you and you just allowed him to feel better about the break up. You just exactly as he wanted you to.

Don't go back. Think the texting other girls will stop? It won't.

And now he basically can do whatever he wants. He will go through your phone when he wants now, but try to go though his and he'll flip out.

Leave that boy.. Too many games girl. Not worth it.
*You just did
You are so right. This isn't the first time he broke up with me. He broke up with me before because he was depressed. He swore up and down he loved me and begged for me back. He is very controlling. But the sucky part is that I love him Sad

I am trying hard to let go but its so hard.

He probably will return. But you shouldn't welcome him back with open arms, or at all for that matter. He seems like the darker side of a Taurus man, controlling and possessive. Possessive and jealousy is kinda cute in my opinion, but not this kind. This is very controlling and there's a total double standard going on here. He knows you love him and will do anything to keep him and he's using that as an advantage. Leave him, it'll hurt? , but it's for the best.
Do not go back. The guilt trip is real.

He will come back but just so you know, he got broads in atlanta.
Posted by DMV
Do not go back. The guilt trip is real.

He will come back but just so you know, he got broads in atlanta.
Yes, he has taken me on many guilt trips and emotional roller coaster rides. I haven't reach out to him in 2 weeks and I hope that I don't anytime soon.
So what is he depressed about?
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
So what is he depressed about?
When we first broke up, he told me that he wasn't happy with himself and that he needed time to find himself. He had a lot going on such as school and being financially unstable. None of that bothered me because I love him unconditionally and I told him that. After a few weeks we got back together and everything seemed well. When he just broke up with me he mentioned again that he was unstable, unhappy with himself again, and he no longer wanted to be in a relationship right now....I just don't get how he is talking to all of these girls all of a sudden.
Posted by symone88
I asked him if this meant we were breaking up and he told me I was free to do whatever I wanted to do.
His words.

As far as I am concerned you were behaving like a single woman.

No confusion there.

No psychological tests either.

This only works for an insecure loyal Bull.

There is nothing about him that screams LOYAL!

He wants to have his cake and eat it too.

And he wants you to be OK with it.

If he returns, shove the cake in his face, and slam the door FOREVER!

I'll tell you If we don't have our shit together we won't let you stay, will let you go until we do. But still be possessive of you. So idk.


Deadass this is funny, sounds like my Aries ex boyfriend

Almost everything exact expect I did "cheat" while on our break and I would never print out a damn thing for a man to prove I'm not lying.

No good will come from this please the last thing you want is this emotionally unstable and abusive person coming back into your life for anything.

He's psycho. And you should never have to feel like you owe something to a man who isn't prepared to give you even 50% of the same effort back.
Always 50/50 or 80/20.
Posted by symone88
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
So what is he depressed about?
When we first broke up, he told me that he wasn't happy with himself and that he needed time to find himself. He had a lot going on such as school and being financially unstable. None of that bothered me because I love him unconditionally and I told him that. After a few weeks we got back together and everything seemed well. When he just broke up with me he mentioned again that he was unstable, unhappy with himself again, and he no longer wanted to be in a relationship right now....I just don't get how he is talking to all of these girls all of a sudden.
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Mentally and emotionally unstable yeah.

I don't think he loves you at all im sorry to tell you.. there is no all of the sudden with talking to girls. He's done it before you and will continue after.

What are this man's placements?
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Always 50/50 or 80/20.


80/20?
Well I think everyone said it already but this bull is a manipulative asshat. Yes, he will be back, the bad ones ALWAYS come back and usually more than once. Just remember he is bad news and you deserve better.
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
I'll tell you If we don't have our shit together we won't let you stay, will let you go until we do. But still be possessive of you. So idk.
This is true to an extent...

But he's a cheater, so his credibility is already shot!

...And he's with a loving woman who has been very supportive.

So his moral character is already in question. He is not deserving of her.

Well in that case see ya don't let the door hit you in the ass.

Shake this off@Op. No one should be treated like this.
Posted by HarleyTwinFlame
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Always 50/50 or 80/20.


80/20?
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Yeah my family upbringing was 50/50.
I say stop, drop and roll - I know it hurts but get back out there and get a few more numbers and lose his ...

he did the wrong and is trying to make it sound like it's all your fault - look what you did blah blah - F him !
Posted by TaurusBull1977
Posted by symone88
I asked him if this meant we were breaking up and he told me I was free to do whatever I wanted to do.
His words.

As far as I am concerned you were behaving like a single woman.

No confusion there.

No psychological tests either.

This only works for an insecure loyal Bull.

There is nothing about him that screams LOYAL!

He wants to have his cake and eat it too.

And he wants you to be OK with it.

If he returns, shove the cake in his face, and slam the door FOREVER!

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Lol!! I'll be sure to do that if he returns.

Posted by HarleyTwinFlame

Deadass this is funny, sounds like my Aries ex boyfriend

Almost everything exact expect I did "cheat" while on our break and I would never print out a damn thing for a man to prove I'm not lying.

No good will come from this please the last thing you want is this emotionally unstable and abusive person coming back into your life for anything.

He's psycho. And you should never have to feel like you owe something to a man who isn't prepared to give you even 50% of the same effort back.
You are right. When I look back on that, I shouldn't have proved a damn thing to him. I was just emotional as hell and wanted him back so bad.
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Posted by symone88
Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
So what is he depressed about?
When we first broke up, he told me that he wasn't happy with himself and that he needed time to find himself. He had a lot going on such as school and being financially unstable. None of that bothered me because I love him unconditionally and I told him that. After a few weeks we got back together and everything seemed well. When he just broke up with me he mentioned again that he was unstable, unhappy with himself again, and he no longer wanted to be in a relationship right now....I just don't get how he is talking to all of these girls all of a sudden.
Mentally and emotionally unstable yeah.

I don't think he loves you at all im sorry to tell you.. there is no all of the sudden with talking to girls. He's done it before you and will continue after.

What are this man's placements?
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Yea I am pretty sure he was talking to other women all along. I just stopped searching for it. What do you mean by placements?
Posted by TaurusinTexas
Well I think everyone said it already but this bull is a manipulative asshat. Yes, he will be back, the bad ones ALWAYS come back and usually more than once. Just remember he is bad news and you deserve better.
Thank you! Yes you are right, I do deserve better. It's just very hard to let go.
Posted by tiziani
Posted by symone88
I printed all out my phone calls/ and text messages records from my mobile carrier to prove that I had been faithful to him.
Don't do this with anyone in the future.

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I promise, I wont ever do that again.
Posted by symone88
Posted by HarleyTwinFlame

Deadass this is funny, sounds like my Aries ex boyfriend

Almost everything exact expect I did "cheat" while on our break and I would never print out a damn thing for a man to prove I'm not lying.

No good will come from this please the last thing you want is this emotionally unstable and abusive person coming back into your life for anything.

He's psycho. And you should never have to feel like you owe something to a man who isn't prepared to give you even 50% of the same effort back.
You are right. When I look back on that, I shouldn't have proved a damn thing to him. I was just emotional as hell and wanted him back so bad.
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Trust me I know.. it took a lot to realize how toxic that relationship was and I tried to hold onto it because of was very insecure... but it was a learning experience

So see it as that and keep your distance from this man.

Do you know his full birthday?
Posted by symone88
You are so right. This isn't the first time he broke up with me. He broke up with me before because he was depressed. He swore up and down he loved me and begged for me back. He is very controlling. But the sucky part is that I love him Sad

I am trying hard to let go but its so hard.

Well my ex never broke up with me, just gave me ultimatums. Said he would if I went to a certain university (farther away), and after I picked a closer university, said he would if I didn't move back soon. He was very controlling. Didn't allow certain trips, certain friends, etc. always had his reasons. However, we had GOOD times. I can't deny that. I loved him dearly as well. That man had my heart. But I just say that if he is breaking up with you, talking to other girls, and being entirely stubborn about everything...is it really worth it?

There are plenty of fish in the sea (just like him that will take you for granted), but there are also many who won't.

Love is a tricky thing...try to take those rose-colored glasses off though (I know it's hard)...or you could end up like me. Married and divorced. (Although I'm the happiest I've ever been now) I hate that I went through a divorce.
Posted by TaurusBull1977
Posted by symone88
I asked him if this meant we were breaking up and he told me I was free to do whatever I wanted to do.
His words.

As far as I am concerned you were behaving like a single woman.

No confusion there.

No psychological tests either.

This only works for an insecure loyal Bull.

There is nothing about him that screams LOYAL!

He wants to have his cake and eat it too.

And he wants you to be OK with it.

If he returns, shove the cake in his face, and slam the door FOREVER!


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^^^^^ this
Posted by jane84
This Taurus man of yours: "Do as I say, not as I do."

He did it, he's paranoid and feeling guilty, so he tested you and you just allowed him to feel better about the break up. You just exactly as he wanted you to.

Don't go back. Think the texting other girls will stop? It won't.

And now he basically can do whatever he wants. He will go through your phone when he wants now, but try to go though his and he'll flip out.

Leave that boy.. Too many games girl. Not worth it.
Yes, this right here. Ime the men that are the most paranoid and suspicious, wanting to control every move you make, are the ones cheating themselves. But by putting the spotlight on you constantly you don't have a chance to realize the deception happening, oftentimes, right in front of your very eyes.

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Posted by jane84
This Taurus man of yours: "Do as I say, not as I do."

He did it, he's paranoid and feeling guilty, so he tested you and you just allowed him to feel better about the break up. You just exactly as he wanted you to.

Don't go back. Think the texting other girls will stop? It won't.

And now he basically can do whatever he wants. He will go through your phone when he wants now, but try to go though his and he'll flip out.

Leave that boy.. Too many games girl. Not worth it.
Yes, this right here. Ime the men that are the most paranoid and suspicious, wanting to control every move you make, are the ones cheating themselves. But by putting the spotlight on you constantly you don't have a chance to realize the deception happening, oftentimes, right in front of your very eyes.

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This is very true, I hate that I fell for him