Do men have a friend zone for women??

Posted by ArilovesAqu

What you’re describing is literally the friend zone. A man who wants to sleep with a woman and the woman has no intention of being anything other than a friend.


You....are in the friend zone.

Posted by LadyNeptune


Men have zero issues fucking their friends.

Posted by Sassysailorscout I assume every guy is a guy. And a guy friend who is not gay (Even then sometimes) and single wants or will sleep with me given the opportunity . This is facts. I don't pretend and play games about biology.

Posted by SlipperySlope

So you'll fuck your friend but what if she fat/ugly?


Will you just not be friends with a fat/ugly?

Posted by LadyNeptune

No.

Men have zero issues fucking their friends.

Posted by Sassysailorscout

Posted by Metatron

Posted by Sassysailorscout I assume every guy is a guy. And a guy friend who is not gay (Even then sometimes) and single wants or will sleep with me given the opportunity . This is facts. I don't pretend and play games about biology.

I'm a little tired today. Help me out....


So you basically think every straight single man (and some that are gay) desires to sleep with you?

Yes .

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Posted by jeane

i think some of you aren't giving some men enough credit.

Posted by Metatron

Posted by jeane

i think some of you aren't giving some men enough credit.

and/or are delusional, ignorant, sexist, arrogant, etc....


don't hold back now....

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Posted by LadyNeptune

No.

Men have zero issues fucking their friends.

you can't even count then to not fuck each others LMAO


take two average straight guys, leave then for a year in a deserted island.... see what happens then 🤣


and they gonna have a "friend zone" yeah right.

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Posted by Metatron

Posted by LadyNeptune

Men have zero issues fucking their friends.

You can't actually believe that...

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Posted by jeane

Posted by Metatron

Posted by jeane

i think some of you aren't giving some men enough credit.

and/or are delusional, ignorant, sexist, arrogant, etc....


don't hold back now....

you know what? reading it saddens me because it makes me realise that women on the whole don't see certain aspects to male character. partly that's on women. it's also on men too because they don't talk to women about it or show them.


i have a lot of male friends and they aren't looking for a quick fuck. they are actually seeking (even longing) for a connection/companion and the closeness that comes from sex with someone they have feelings for. having sex with any available woman (colleague, acquaintance etc) just doesn't do it for them. even if she is very attractive.

" it's also on men too because they don't talk to women about it or show them. "


fair point.

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Posted by jeane

Posted by Metatron

Posted by jeane

i think some of you aren't giving some men enough credit.

and/or are delusional, ignorant, sexist, arrogant, etc....


don't hold back now....

you know what? reading it saddens me because it makes me realise that women on the whole don't see certain aspects to male character. partly that's on women. it's also on men too because they don't talk to women about it or show them.


i have a lot of male friends and they aren't looking for a quick fuck. they are actually seeking (even longing) for a connection/companion and the closeness that comes from sex with someone they have feelings for. having sex with any available woman (colleague, acquaintance etc) just doesn't do it for them. even if she is very attractive.

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Posted by LadyNeptune

Posted by Metatron

Posted by LadyNeptune

Men have zero issues fucking their friends.

You can't actually believe that...

Yes, I do believe that.

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Posted by Metatron

Posted by jeane

Posted by Metatron

Posted by jeane

i think some of you aren't giving some men enough credit.

and/or are delusional, ignorant, sexist, arrogant, etc....


don't hold back now....

you know what? reading it saddens me because it makes me realise that women on the whole don't see certain aspects to male character. partly that's on women. it's also on men too because they don't talk to women about it or show them.


i have a lot of male friends and they aren't looking for a quick fuck. they are actually seeking (even longing) for a connection/companion and the closeness that comes from sex with someone they have feelings for. having sex with any available woman (colleague, acquaintance etc) just doesn't do it for them. even if she is very attractive.

There are men who are looking for a quick fuck and who are only as faithful or as sexually inhibited "as their options" as the saying goes (all separate and potentially unrelated issues IMO). And then there are men who don't fit these categories as you just said. Not trying to be a smartass at all here, but its hard to see how its any man (or woman's) responsibility to make sure men that any particular group they belong to isn't being mis-characterized by others. I'm not out here representing men. I'm just living my life. If someone is so ignorant to still be running with stereotypes like "all men (or women) are the same", I just chime in at that point to tell them that they're wrong on whatever the particular issue is.


Isn't it just obvious that men enjoy companionship though? Don't we grow up in families with mothers, sisters, and a whole host of social relationships with women, many that we care about deeply, that have no sexual context whatsoever? What do women who believe that their male friends would jump at the chance to fuq them, think these men are hanging around them for? Are they just waiting patiently for a moment of weakness?

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Posted by jeane

Posted by Metatron

Posted by jeane

Posted by Metatron

Posted by jeane

i think some of you aren't giving some men enough credit.

and/or are delusional, ignorant, sexist, arrogant, etc....


don't hold back now....

you know what? reading it saddens me because it makes me realise that women on the whole don't see certain aspects to male character. partly that's on women. it's also on men too because they don't talk to women about it or show them.


i have a lot of male friends and they aren't looking for a quick fuck. they are actually seeking (even longing) for a connection/companion and the closeness that comes from sex with someone they have feelings for. having sex with any available woman (colleague, acquaintance etc) just doesn't do it for them. even if she is very attractive.

There are men who are looking for a quick fuck and who are only as faithful or as sexually inhibited "as their options" as the saying goes (all separate and potentially unrelated issues IMO). And then there are men who don't fit these categories as you just said. Not trying to be a smartass at all here, but its hard to see how its any man (or woman's) responsibility to make sure men that any particular group they belong to isn't being mis-characterized by others. I'm not out here representing men. I'm just living my life. If someone is so ignorant to still be running with stereotypes like "all men (or women) are the same", I just chime in at that point to tell them that they're wrong on whatever the particular issue is.


Isn't it just obvious that men enjoy companionship though? Don't we grow up in families with mothers, sisters, and a whole host of social relationships with women, many that we care about deeply, that have no sexual context whatsoever? What do women who believe that their male friends would jump at the chance to fuq them, think these men are hanging around them for? Are they just waiting patiently for a moment of weakness?

i agree #notallmen


more and more though we (ie women) are bombarded with stories of the "nice guy" or incels that seethe with hatred for women but in reality all they want is to have sex with the pretty woman at the gym.


so yeah from the other side looking in, you guys have a terrible marketing department. it isn't obvious that men enjoy companionship. male companionship definitely but female companionship? "go and make me a sandwich."

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Posted by Sassysailorscout I assume every guy is a guy. And a guy friend who is not gay (Even then sometimes) and single wants or will sleep with me given the opportunity . This is facts. I don't pretend and play games about biology.

I'm a little tired today. Help me out....


So you basically think every straight single man (and some that are gay) desires to sleep with you?

Yes .

That's very interesting. Do all straight (and some gay) single men desire to sleep with you specifically? Or do you think this applies to all women?


And whatever your answer to that is, what do you actually base this belief on?

I'm a little tired today. Help me out ...


Can you just fill in whatever anwser makes you feel better. Thanks boo 😘

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Posted by LadyNeptune

Posted by Endless

Posted by LadyNeptune

No.

Men have zero issues fucking their friends.

you can't even count then to not fuck each others LMAO


take two average straight guys, leave then for a year in a deserted island.... see what happens then 🤣


and they gonna have a "friend zone" yeah right.

So, like, prison? Lol

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Posted by LadyNeptune

No.

Women use the friend zone to categorize the men they won't fuck.

Men have zero issues fucking their friends.

Posted by Metatron

Posted by LadyNeptune

Posted by Metatron

Posted by LadyNeptune

Men have zero issues fucking their friends.

You can't actually believe that...

Yes, I do believe that.

What do you base that belief on? You think men are sexually attracted to all of their friends? Or you think men even routinely fuck women they are not sexually attracted to?


To clarify....


And I'm making a couple assumptions here, like for instance that you have a social life where you and your boyfriend go out with mutual friends of the opposite sex -- do you basically believe that you're dating a man who would fuck any one of them, were he given the green light by all parties involved?

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Posted by Antiphates

Posted by Metatron

Posted by jeane

Posted by Metatron

Posted by jeane

i think some of you aren't giving some men enough credit.

and/or are delusional, ignorant, sexist, arrogant, etc....


don't hold back now....

you know what? reading it saddens me because it makes me realise that women on the whole don't see certain aspects to male character. partly that's on women. it's also on men too because they don't talk to women about it or show them.


i have a lot of male friends and they aren't looking for a quick fuck. they are actually seeking (even longing) for a connection/companion and the closeness that comes from sex with someone they have feelings for. having sex with any available woman (colleague, acquaintance etc) just doesn't do it for them. even if she is very attractive.

There are men who are looking for a quick fuck and who are only as faithful or as sexually inhibited "as their options" as the saying goes (all separate and potentially unrelated issues IMO). And then there are men who don't fit these categories as you just said. Not trying to be a smartass at all here, but its hard to see how its any man (or woman's) responsibility to make sure that any particular group they belong to isn't being mis-characterized by others. I'm not out here representing men. I'm just living my life. If someone is so ignorant to still be running with stereotypes like "all men (or women) are the same", I just chime in at that point to tell them that they're wrong on whatever the particular issue is.


Isn't it just obvious that men enjoy companionship though? Don't we grow up in families with mothers, sisters, and a whole host of social relationships with women, many that we care about deeply, that have no sexual context whatsoever? What do women who believe that their male friends would jump at the chance to fuq them, think these men are hanging around them for? Are they just waiting patiently for a moment of weakness?

Allow me to chime in, be and sound like a smartass:

It's a variation of a core problem that humans face in relation to themselves as well as others, which is that your identity can only exist as a filtered and made construct. Only through this made up image and it's narration you can relate to yourself. Without it you would have a very different sense of self, if any at all. In relationships to others this problem only becomes more prominent even although we all usually try to project an image that we understand as something we are to others as means to connect and feel understood. One of the biggest obstacles is that we don't always speak in the same abstract language and symbols. In other words you not only have to actively express yourself but have to do so in the language of the other person. That's already a doubled effort you have to put in.

Now put this already problematic thing into the potentially sexually charged male-female relationship that has been the source of conflict for thousands of years and you can only have a mess of misunderstandings. The increasing politicisation and moralisation of the recent years also probably didn't help with that.

With all of that in mind, to just live and do your thing would create a massive vacuum that the other person would need to fill with something to avoid a potential uncomfortableness or even other, stronger emotions. The usual solution is to project aspects of yourself into this void.


In general I can only recommend some self-experimentation to see what happens once one truly stops commuicating his/her/it's own self-image in various and just do things without ever framing them to others.


Almost all of this wouldn't really be a problem if us humans would be able to apporach each other openly, as individuals and without categories, but that's hard for most and eventually even problematic or harmful for most other contexts.

In the end both genders will have to put in some effort and create new, and hopefully, better categories.

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Posted by 7thHouse

I think men do have a friend zone for women. Their human beings after all and have preferences and standards.

Posted by Antiphates

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Posted by Antiphates

Posted by Metatron

Posted by jeane

Posted by Metatron

Posted by jeane

i think some of you aren't giving some men enough credit.

and/or are delusional, ignorant, sexist, arrogant, etc....


don't hold back now....

you know what? reading it saddens me because it makes me realise that women on the whole don't see certain aspects to male character. partly that's on women. it's also on men too because they don't talk to women about it or show them.


i have a lot of male friends and they aren't looking for a quick fuck. they are actually seeking (even longing) for a connection/companion and the closeness that comes from sex with someone they have feelings for. having sex with any available woman (colleague, acquaintance etc) just doesn't do it for them. even if she is very attractive.

There are men who are looking for a quick fuck and who are only as faithful or as sexually inhibited "as their options" as the saying goes (all separate and potentially unrelated issues IMO). And then there are men who don't fit these categories as you just said. Not trying to be a smartass at all here, but its hard to see how its any man (or woman's) responsibility to make sure that any particular group they belong to isn't being mis-characterized by others. I'm not out here representing men. I'm just living my life. If someone is so ignorant to still be running with stereotypes like "all men (or women) are the same", I just chime in at that point to tell them that they're wrong on whatever the particular issue is.


Isn't it just obvious that men enjoy companionship though? Don't we grow up in families with mothers, sisters, and a whole host of social relationships with women, many that we care about deeply, that have no sexual context whatsoever? What do women who believe that their male friends would jump at the chance to fuq them, think these men are hanging around them for? Are they just waiting patiently for a moment of weakness?

Allow me to chime in, be and sound like a smartass:

It's a variation of a core problem that humans face in relation to themselves as well as others, which is that your identity can only exist as a filtered and made construct. Only through this made up image and it's narration you can relate to yourself. Without it you would have a very different sense of self, if any at all. In relationships to others this problem only becomes more prominent even although we all usually try to project an image that we understand as something we are to others as means to connect and feel understood. One of the biggest obstacles is that we don't always speak in the same abstract language and symbols. In other words you not only have to actively express yourself but have to do so in the language of the other person. That's already a doubled effort you have to put in.

Now put this already problematic thing into the potentially sexually charged male-female relationship that has been the source of conflict for thousands of years and you can only have a mess of misunderstandings. The increasing politicisation and moralisation of the recent years also probably didn't help with that.

With all of that in mind, to just live and do your thing would create a massive vacuum that the other person would need to fill with something to avoid a potential uncomfortableness or even other, stronger emotions. The usual solution is to project aspects of yourself into this void.


In general I can only recommend some self-experimentation to see what happens once one truly stops commuicating his/her/it's own self-image in various and just do things without ever framing them to others.


Almost all of this wouldn't really be a problem if us humans would be able to apporach each other openly, as individuals and without categories, but that's hard for most and eventually even problematic or harmful for most other contexts.

In the end both genders will have to put in some effort and create new, and hopefully, better categories.

Short translation: "be real wit yoself," lol.

No.

That's exactly what it can't be, because there is no "real".

There is only the fiction.

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Posted by Black-Mamba

how come all my guy friends stop being friends with me after they get a girlfriend/wife

Posted by LadyNeptune

Posted by Metatron

Posted by LadyNeptune

Posted by Metatron

Posted by LadyNeptune

Men have zero issues fucking their friends.

You can't actually believe that...

Yes, I do believe that.

What do you base that belief on? You think men are sexually attracted to all of their friends? Or you think men even routinely fuck women they are not sexually attracted to?


To clarify....


And I'm making a couple assumptions here, like for instance that you have a social life where you and your boyfriend go out with mutual friends of the opposite sex -- do you basically believe that you're dating a man who would fuck any one of them, were he given the green light by all parties involved?

To clarify,

No, I said nothing about men being sexually attracted to ALL of their friends. I said men wouldn’t deny themselves sex on the basis of ‘we’re friends’ like women do when they friend zone.

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Posted by LadyNeptune

Posted by Metatron

Posted by LadyNeptune

Posted by Metatron

Posted by LadyNeptune

Men have zero issues fucking their friends.

You can't actually believe that...

Yes, I do believe that.

What do you base that belief on? You think men are sexually attracted to all of their friends? Or you think men even routinely fuck women they are not sexually attracted to?


To clarify....


And I'm making a couple assumptions here, like for instance that you have a social life where you and your boyfriend go out with mutual friends of the opposite sex -- do you basically believe that you're dating a man who would fuck any one of them, were he given the green light by all parties involved?

To clarify,

No, I said nothing about men being sexually attracted to ALL of their friends. I said men wouldn’t deny themselves sex on the basis of ‘we’re friends’ like women do when they friend zone.

Thx for clarifying.


So you think men are incapable of choosing the value of the friendship over the instant gratification of sex? I can tell you I've definitely made that choice myself. One of the closest female friends I've had, also one of the most physically attractive women I've known....I sincerely respected her too much to think of her sexually. I would literally not even allow my thoughts to go there as I thought it would mess up the vibe. There did come a time where I felt she was signaling attraction. Tbh, in my own mind, I felt sure I could've slept with her, but I had no interest whatsoever, as I felt we'd be incompatible long-term and lose respect for one another. I didn't really like who/how she was with the guy she was dating for most of the time I'd known her, and I felt she wouldn't deal too well with my own possessiveness. So unless, I'm still misunderstanding you, that theory doesn't really get off the ground, and I'm confused as to why you would even hold to it....

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Posted by LadyNeptune

Posted by Metatron

Posted by LadyNeptune

Posted by Metatron

Posted by LadyNeptune

Men have zero issues fucking their friends.

You can't actually believe that...

Yes, I do believe that.

What do you base that belief on? You think men are sexually attracted to all of their friends? Or you think men even routinely fuck women they are not sexually attracted to?


To clarify....


And I'm making a couple assumptions here, like for instance that you have a social life where you and your boyfriend go out with mutual friends of the opposite sex -- do you basically believe that you're dating a man who would fuck any one of them, were he given the green light by all parties involved?

To clarify,

No, I said nothing about men being sexually attracted to ALL of their friends. I said men wouldn’t deny themselves sex on the basis of ‘we’re friends’ like women do when they friend zone.

Thx for clarifying.


So you think men are incapable of choosing the value of the friendship over the instant gratification of sex? I can tell you I've definitely made that choice myself. One of the closest female friends I've had, also one of the most physically attractive women I've known....I sincerely respected her too much to think of her sexually. I would literally not even allow my thoughts to go there as I thought it would mess up the vibe. There did come a time where I felt she was signaling attraction. Tbh, in my own mind, I felt sure I could've slept with her, but I had no interest whatsoever, as I felt we'd be incompatible long-term and lose respect for one another. I didn't really like who/how she was with the guy she was dating for most of the time I'd known her, and I felt she wouldn't deal too well with my own possessiveness. So unless, I'm still misunderstanding you, that theory doesn't really get off the ground, and I'm confused as to why you would even hold to it....

Just to add insult to the injury, let’s not forget the self-undoing perpetuated by boyfriends/partners worldwide filling their respective SO’s heads with the notion that they (girlfriends) could not possibly have strictly platonic male friends. 🤷🏻‍♀️


I’m sure explanation to the incentives and/or rationale behind such behavior/actions is completely redundant though.

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Posted by Argus

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Posted by LadyNeptune

Posted by Metatron

Posted by LadyNeptune

Posted by Metatron

Posted by LadyNeptune

Men have zero issues fucking their friends.

You can't actually believe that...

Yes, I do believe that.

What do you base that belief on? You think men are sexually attracted to all of their friends? Or you think men even routinely fuck women they are not sexually attracted to?


To clarify....


And I'm making a couple assumptions here, like for instance that you have a social life where you and your boyfriend go out with mutual friends of the opposite sex -- do you basically believe that you're dating a man who would fuck any one of them, were he given the green light by all parties involved?

To clarify,

No, I said nothing about men being sexually attracted to ALL of their friends. I said men wouldn’t deny themselves sex on the basis of ‘we’re friends’ like women do when they friend zone.

Thx for clarifying.


So you think men are incapable of choosing the value of the friendship over the instant gratification of sex? I can tell you I've definitely made that choice myself. One of the closest female friends I've had, also one of the most physically attractive women I've known....I sincerely respected her too much to think of her sexually. I would literally not even allow my thoughts to go there as I thought it would mess up the vibe. There did come a time where I felt she was signaling attraction. Tbh, in my own mind, I felt sure I could've slept with her, but I had no interest whatsoever, as I felt we'd be incompatible long-term and lose respect for one another. I didn't really like who/how she was with the guy she was dating for most of the time I'd known her, and I felt she wouldn't deal too well with my own possessiveness. So unless, I'm still misunderstanding you, that theory doesn't really get off the ground, and I'm confused as to why you would even hold to it....

Just to add insult to the injury, let’s not forget the self-undoing perpetuated by boyfriends/partners worldwide filling their respective SO’s heads with the notion that they (girlfriends) could not possibly have strictly platonic male friends. 🤷🏻‍♀️


I’m sure explanation to the incentives and/or rationale behind such behavior/actions is completely redundant though.

I admit that I've used the line myself ("you know he just wants to sleep with you"). But of course, I was just being extremely insecure and manipulative and I had no idea whatsoever. I've had jealous gf's do the same though. I (regrettably) ghosted the friend in my story above, because I wound up dating a rival of her's, who didn't trust her around me....

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Posted by Argus I’d like to think though, once we reach certain age and hopefully rid ourself of hung-ups and insecurities long the way, the idea of platonic friends of the opposite sex becomes not only acceptable but also welcome.

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Posted by Metatron

Posted by jeane

Posted by Metatron

Posted by jeane

i think some of you aren't giving some men enough credit.

and/or are delusional, ignorant, sexist, arrogant, etc....


don't hold back now....

you know what? reading it saddens me because it makes me realise that women on the whole don't see certain aspects to male character. partly that's on women. it's also on men too because they don't talk to women about it or show them.


i have a lot of male friends and they aren't looking for a quick fuck. they are actually seeking (even longing) for a connection/companion and the closeness that comes from sex with someone they have feelings for. having sex with any available woman (colleague, acquaintance etc) just doesn't do it for them. even if she is very attractive.

There are men who are looking for a quick fuck and who are only as faithful or as sexually inhibited "as their options" as the saying goes (all separate and potentially unrelated issues IMO). And then there are men who don't fit these categories as you just said. Not trying to be a smartass at all here, but its hard to see how its any man (or woman's) responsibility to make sure that any particular group they belong to isn't being mis-characterized by others. I'm not out here representing men. I'm just living my life. If someone is so ignorant to still be running with stereotypes like "all men (or women) are the same", I just chime in at that point to tell them that they're wrong on whatever the particular issue is.


Isn't it just obvious that men enjoy companionship though? Don't we grow up in families with mothers, sisters, and a whole host of social relationships with women, many that we care about deeply, that have no sexual context whatsoever? What do women who believe that their male friends would jump at the chance to fuq them, think these men are hanging around them for? Are they just waiting patiently for a moment of weakness?

Allow me to chime in, be and sound like a smartass:

It's a variation of a core problem that humans face in relation to themselves as well as others, which is that your identity can only exist as a filtered and made construct. Only through this made up image and it's narration you can relate to yourself. Without it you would have a very different sense of self, if any at all. In relationships to others this problem only becomes more prominent even although we all usually try to project an image that we understand as something we are to others as means to connect and feel understood. One of the biggest obstacles is that we don't always speak in the same abstract language and symbols. In other words you not only have to actively express yourself but have to do so in the language of the other person. That's already a doubled effort you have to put in.

Now put this already problematic thing into the potentially sexually charged male-female relationship that has been the source of conflict for thousands of years and you can only have a mess of misunderstandings. The increasing politicisation and moralisation of the recent years also probably didn't help with that.

With all of that in mind, to just live and do your thing would create a massive vacuum that the other person would need to fill with something to avoid a potential uncomfortableness or even other, stronger emotions. The usual solution is to project aspects of yourself into this void.


In general I can only recommend some self-experimentation to see what happens once one truly stops commuicating his/her/it's own self-image in various and just do things without ever framing them to others.


Almost all of this wouldn't really be a problem if us humans would be able to apporach each other openly, as individuals and without categories, but that's hard for most and eventually even problematic or harmful for most other contexts.

In the end both genders will have to put in some effort and create new, and hopefully, better categories.

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Posted by Undine

Yeah...not, unless the chemistry is not there. Which make one question how did you become friends, in the first instance.


I think it's up to the woman to set firm boundaries.

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Posted by Antiphates

Posted by Black-Mamba

how come all my guy friends stop being friends with me after they get a girlfriend/wife

Scenario 1: the wife has problems with it

Scenario 2: the husband thinks the wife might have a problem with it and takes preemptive measures

Scenario 3: the merging, where most of the other social contancts are mostly abandoned

the answer is because men truly can't be friends with women


they really use the woman and if they can't get sex will dump her for the one that gives him sex


simple, men can't be friends with women they're just biding their time until they can get a regular sexual mate

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Posted by Undine

Yeah...not, unless the chemistry is not there. Which make one question how did you become friends, in the first instance.


I think it's up to the woman to set firm boundaries.

why is it the woman's responsibility to set a man's boundary?

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Posted by Undine

Yeah...not, unless the chemistry is not there. Which make one question how did you become friends, in the first instance.


I think it's up to the woman to set firm boundaries.

why is it the woman's responsibility to set a man's boundary?

She can't "set a man's boundary". However, she can set a boundary between herself and that man. Her self-made boundary.


In my case, it meant responding with silence and stern face to all backhanded compliments and saying a firm NO when something questionable was on offer. They learned quickly that there was a boundary.

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Posted by Undine

Yeah...not, unless the chemistry is not there. Which make one question how did you become friends, in the first instance.


I think it's up to the woman to set firm boundaries.

why is it the woman's responsibility to set a man's boundary?

She can't "set a man's boundary". However, she can set a boundary between herself and that man. Her self-made boundary.


In my case, it meant responding with silence and stern face to all backhanded compliments and saying a firm NO when something questionable was on offer. They learned quickly that there was a boundary.

or perhaps maybe men shouldn't overstep the mark with women in the first place if it is uninvited?

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Posted by Black-Mamba

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Posted by Black-Mamba

how come all my guy friends stop being friends with me after they get a girlfriend/wife

Scenario 1: the wife has problems with it

Scenario 2: the husband thinks the wife might have a problem with it and takes preemptive measures

Scenario 3: the merging, where most of the other social contancts are mostly abandoned

the answer is because men truly can't be friends with women


they really use the woman and if they can't get sex will dump her for the one that gives him sex


simple, men can't be friends with women they're just biding their time until they can get a regular sexual mate

Whatever you need to tell yourself to avoid taking responsibility for the failings of your relationships.

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Posted by Black-Mamba

how come all my guy friends stop being friends with me after they get a girlfriend/wife

Scenario 1: the wife has problems with it

Scenario 2: the husband thinks the wife might have a problem with it and takes preemptive measures

Scenario 3: the merging, where most of the other social contancts are mostly abandoned

the answer is because men truly can't be friends with women


they really use the woman and if they can't get sex will dump her for the one that gives him sex


simple, men can't be friends with women they're just biding their time until they can get a regular sexual mate

Whatever you need to tell yourself to avoid taking responsibility for the failings of your relationships.

It's not failing of her relationships cus she never been deep in it with all those outgoing fire she got. It's the failing of her friendship with men.

Friendships are relationships. They are just non-romantic.

I still should have been more clear on this tho.

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Posted by virgoking

Another question can a man be friends with a really hot chick like a perfect 10.. I can't do it I tried they are just too fine for me. I can't stop thinking as about fucking them. It's painful to be around such women and trying to turn off your natural responses.

Posted by Mesquite

Posted by virgoking

Another question can a man be friends with a really hot chick like a perfect 10.. I can't do it I tried they are just too fine for me. I can't stop thinking as about fucking them. It's painful to be around such women and trying to turn off your natural responses.

No matter how hot a woman is, another man is already sick of her shit. 💡

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