Hey men of Dxp are you dating or not

Posted by LuckyLibra7
I'm typically dating just to stay on my toes.. If you don't use it, you lose it.. is my motto.
I don't struggle with finding anyone, but not everyone you encounter you're compatible with. Dating a Sag right now.. ended things with a Libra about 6 weeks ago after dating for about 3 months..
I did have a ONS with a Taurus in between.. I actually did like her.

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by LuckyLibra7
I'm typically dating just to stay on my toes.. If you don't use it, you lose it.. is my motto.
I don't struggle with finding anyone, but not everyone you encounter you're compatible with. Dating a Sag right now.. ended things with a Libra about 6 weeks ago after dating for about 3 months..
I did have a ONS with a Taurus in between.. I actually did like her.

Good to hear someone’s keeping the faith 😂

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Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by LuckyLibra7
I'm typically dating just to stay on my toes.. If you don't use it, you lose it.. is my motto.
I don't struggle with finding anyone, but not everyone you encounter you're compatible with. Dating a Sag right now.. ended things with a Libra about 6 weeks ago after dating for about 3 months..
I did have a ONS with a Taurus in between.. I actually did like her.

Good to hear someone’s keeping the faith 😂

😂😂 there aren't many

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Posted by Walk_on_by
just because I am a loser really.

Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter
Unfortunately no
I better explain. It's actually fortunate that I'm not dating. At my age I just like my alone time.

Posted by hydorah

Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter
Unfortunately no
I better explain. It's actually fortunate that I'm not dating. At my age I just like my alone time.

this, it's more trouble than it's worth. Plus after a certain age most people you can date have mental problems

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Posted by 7s

Posted by LuckyLibra7
I'm typically dating just to stay on my toes.. If you don't use it, you lose it.. is my motto.
I don't struggle with finding anyone, but not everyone you encounter you're compatible with. Dating a Sag right now.. ended things with a Libra about 6 weeks ago after dating for about 3 months..
I did have a ONS with a Taurus in between.. I actually did like her.

You guys (libra’s) can’t do without being in a relationship or around people, no? Like fish out of water, I imagine being alone is a near death experience. Outside looking in I see you guys in relationships that’s obviously ran its course but a libra will stay in it just for the sake of being in a relationship. Will smith comes to mind. I don’t know you personally it’s just that the things you wrote is what a woman would say.

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Posted by StubbornSag
It's really sad to read these responses...how do people become such twisted versions of what they were once? I'm sure everyone was having fun at some point of their life. Why can't they keep their inner youth and have fun, why does everything has to become serious and materialistic at some point? Seems like women complain how men are messy, childish, they don't approach them...men complain how women are fake or crazy and unapproachable...and it's all rooted in having some kind of secret agenda (each has their own) but everyone seems to forget about having fun and good times. I wonder who is really the problem, men or women?

Posted by StubbornSag

Posted by LuckyLibra7

Posted by StubbornSag
It's really sad to read these responses...how do people become such twisted versions of what they were once? I'm sure everyone was having fun at some point of their life. Why can't they keep their inner youth and have fun, why does everything has to become serious and materialistic at some point? Seems like women complain how men are messy, childish, they don't approach them...men complain how women are fake or crazy and unapproachable...and it's all rooted in having some kind of secret agenda (each has their own) but everyone seems to forget about having fun and good times. I wonder who is really the problem, men or women?

Social media is the disconnect.




Reducing interest in someone down to several photos and corny prompts. Some profiles of which don't even contain information. There are Tiktoks advising what to put on your profile which is why a ton of them look the same.




Everyone having the platform to give unsolicited advice for dating. All advice is not good advice..




Lastly, how many dating coaches are in relationships?? They're all single!!

Social media sort of ruined it's own purpose. When I used to date it was just as available but people used to meet more in person than they do now from what it seems. It was like you find someone interesting, you agree to go out and see where it goes from there. Now everything seems to be down to scrolling/swiping giving the false idea of endless options...when in fact people have questionable amount of options really.

And ugh...dating advices...dating coaches...what happened to being yourself, what happened to spontaneity? How did people become ao uniformed 😐

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Posted by StubbornSag
It's really sad to read these responses...how do people become such twisted versions of what they were once? I'm sure everyone was having fun at some point of their life. Why can't they keep their inner youth and have fun, why does everything has to become serious and materialistic at some point? Seems like women complain how men are messy, childish, they don't approach them...men complain how women are fake or crazy and unapproachable...and it's all rooted in having some kind of secret agenda (each has their own) but everyone seems to forget about having fun and good times. I wonder who is really the problem, men or women?

Posted by Walk_on_by
just because I am a loser really

Posted by Saturn_Returns
No, because most women nowadays are very selfish, have unrealistic expectations and/or are batshit crazy. Both modern society and social media have fucked-up their minds.
My single male friends are currently struggling - one is in denial about the drastic cultural change (he came out of a long-term relationship not too long ago), while the other has completely given up (he's been taken for a ride on far too many dates) and relies on 'encounters' via dating apps. Both of them still [foolishly] try to persuade me to join a dating app but I always tell them to fuck off.
In this day and age, it's not worth pushing for anything. Live your life - if something happens, fine.

Posted by StubbornSag
It's really sad to read these responses...how do people become such twisted versions of what they were once? I'm sure everyone was having fun at some point of their life. Why can't they keep their inner youth and have fun, why does everything has to become serious and materialistic at some point? Seems like women complain how men are messy, childish, they don't approach them...men complain how women are fake or crazy and unapproachable...and it's all rooted in having some kind of secret agenda (each has their own) but everyone seems to forget about having fun and good times. I wonder who is really the problem, men or women?

Posted by Eggrolls
At some point we have to address the elephant in the room, that your specific dating pool is a reflection of you.
My friend just sent me some women who “liked” him on a dating app last night saying they were overweight. Should I tell him that’s his specific dating pool? If he wants better options, he’s going to need to work on himself?
I don’t mean that he’s unattractive, because he’s not. He is incredibly immature though, at 40 years old. He wears Hollister t shirts that I would have worn in middle school. He uses the silent treatment when he’s upset about something, posts vague and whiney posts on Facebook to passively call people out.
All I’m saying is, if your dating pool is a little grimey, you might want to take a look in the mirror.

Posted by Eggrolls
At some point we have to address the elephant in the room, that your specific dating pool is a reflection of you.
My friend just sent me some women who “liked” him on a dating app last night saying they were overweight. Should I tell him that’s his specific dating pool? If he wants better options, he’s going to need to work on himself?
I don’t mean that he’s unattractive, because he’s not. He is incredibly immature though, at 40 years old. He wears Hollister t shirts that I would have worn in middle school. He uses the silent treatment when he’s upset about something, posts vague and whiney posts on Facebook to passively call people out.
All I’m saying is, if your dating pool is a little grimey, you might want to take a look in the mirror.

Posted by serenidad
i knew at around fifteen that i didn’t wanna aimlessly date around or sow my wild oats or whatever they call it so i quickly found someone with the same values as me and settled tf down lol i hate complicated shit so dating around is not for me.
tying the knot in a few weeks. i’m sorta relieved but at the same time i’m like shit, the pressure is on now lol i gotta make this marriage last 😂 cuz marriage itself is never the goal or the finish line. making it last/flourish is the goal.
i think many dudes are opting out of dating now cuz things have gotten way too needlessly complicated these days. even more so than before.
people acting like it’s a competition to see who can be more heartless in dating.
there’s a toxic culture of “play or get played”.
so, it must be hell out there for people who love deeply. they don’t wanna be a part of the silly games.

Posted by ATGR
More serious answer - I don’t want to get married or have kids so that rules out about 90% of women. Also don’t want to live together so probably another 5% gone right there.
Also, a lot of people (men and women) are idiots, so finding someone I can get along with plus meets my other wants is difficult.

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by ATGR
More serious answer - I don’t want to get married or have kids so that rules out about 90% of women. Also don’t want to live together so probably another 5% gone right there.
Also, a lot of people (men and women) are idiots, so finding someone I can get along with plus meets my other wants is difficult.

A lot of women in their 40s already have a family and prob don’t want marriage again but is that too old for you?

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Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter

Posted by Eggrolls
At some point we have to address the elephant in the room, that your specific dating pool is a reflection of you.
My friend just sent me some women who “liked” him on a dating app last night saying they were overweight. Should I tell him that’s his specific dating pool? If he wants better options, he’s going to need to work on himself?
I don’t mean that he’s unattractive, because he’s not. He is incredibly immature though, at 40 years old. He wears Hollister t shirts that I would have worn in middle school. He uses the silent treatment when he’s upset about something, posts vague and whiney posts on Facebook to passively call people out.
All I’m saying is, if your dating pool is a little grimey, you might want to take a look in the mirror.

I attract horny women. Does this mean I'm horny too?

It's just a bullshit excuse many women use to deflect from the need to be accountable for their own lousy behaviour.
The last time I checked, this tactic is known as victim blaming.

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Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by ATGR
More serious answer - I don’t want to get married or have kids so that rules out about 90% of women. Also don’t want to live together so probably another 5% gone right there.
Also, a lot of people (men and women) are idiots, so finding someone I can get along with plus meets my other wants is difficult.

A lot of women in their 40s already have a family and prob don’t want marriage again but is that too old for you?

Not necessarily, early 40s or mid to late 30s is fine. (Pretending I have options.)

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Posted by Eggrolls

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Posted by Eggrolls
At some point we have to address the elephant in the room, that your specific dating pool is a reflection of you.
My friend just sent me some women who “liked” him on a dating app last night saying they were overweight. Should I tell him that’s his specific dating pool? If he wants better options, he’s going to need to work on himself?
I don’t mean that he’s unattractive, because he’s not. He is incredibly immature though, at 40 years old. He wears Hollister t shirts that I would have worn in middle school. He uses the silent treatment when he’s upset about something, posts vague and whiney posts on Facebook to passively call people out.
All I’m saying is, if your dating pool is a little grimey, you might want to take a look in the mirror.

Men tend to like to date a tier above. Even though these women may be a match to him in terms of looks and personality, he may be turned off at the idea of dating his equal. Even if he's a fat and balding 5, he would rather keep reaching for the 7 rather than date another 5 face.

I don’t think a man would go after a woman he thought was more attractive. The problem is that they think they are 7s. Men tend to overestimate their intelligence and physical attractiveness.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-asymmetric-brain/202002/do-men-rate-their-own-intelligence-higher-women-do?amp
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So men think too highly of them self, where as women don't think enough of themself. Well thats a recipe for unhealthy.
I don't know if you were ever here when P-Angel was, but I remember there was some guy on the board complaining about how his model friend wouldn't date him. And I remember P-Angel harshly telling him he was a 4 face, he was being unrealistic, and heshould aim much lower. He was hella offended of course. Whatever score he saw himself as, he considered himself to be on the same level as the model he felt entitle to date lol.

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Posted by GoodBunny

Posted by Eggrolls

Posted by GoodBunny

Posted by Eggrolls
At some point we have to address the elephant in the room, that your specific dating pool is a reflection of you.
My friend just sent me some women who “liked” him on a dating app last night saying they were overweight. Should I tell him that’s his specific dating pool? If he wants better options, he’s going to need to work on himself?
I don’t mean that he’s unattractive, because he’s not. He is incredibly immature though, at 40 years old. He wears Hollister t shirts that I would have worn in middle school. He uses the silent treatment when he’s upset about something, posts vague and whiney posts on Facebook to passively call people out.
All I’m saying is, if your dating pool is a little grimey, you might want to take a look in the mirror.

Men tend to like to date a tier above. Even though these women may be a match to him in terms of looks and personality, he may be turned off at the idea of dating his equal. Even if he's a fat and balding 5, he would rather keep reaching for the 7 rather than date another 5 face.

I don’t think a man would go after a woman he thought was more attractive. The problem is that they think they are 7s. Men tend to overestimate their intelligence and physical attractiveness.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-asymmetric-brain/202002/do-men-rate-their-own-intelligence-higher-women-do?amp
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So men think too highly of them self, where as women don't think enough of themself. Well thats a recipe for unhealthy.
I don't know if you were ever here when P-Angel was, but I remember there was some guy on the board complaining about how his model friend wouldn't date him. And I remember P-Angel harshly telling him he was a 4 face, he was being unrealistic, and heshould aim much lower. He was hella offended of course. Whatever score he saw himself as, he considered himself to be on the same level as the model he felt entitle to date lol.

truth.
reminds me of this one reddit story where this guy asked his wife for an open marriage (completely forgetting the market value of a man vs woman in the dating world especially when the male offers little to substandard in looks, finances, personality, charm/charisma, etc.)
endless matches and countless dates came pouring in for her. she started dressing up, taking care of herself more, working out and was out almost every night.
it was lucky he'd even chat up a woman in a month.

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Posted by GoodBunny

Posted by Eggrolls

Posted by GoodBunny

Posted by Eggrolls
At some point we have to address the elephant in the room, that your specific dating pool is a reflection of you.
My friend just sent me some women who “liked” him on a dating app last night saying they were overweight. Should I tell him that’s his specific dating pool? If he wants better options, he’s going to need to work on himself?
I don’t mean that he’s unattractive, because he’s not. He is incredibly immature though, at 40 years old. He wears Hollister t shirts that I would have worn in middle school. He uses the silent treatment when he’s upset about something, posts vague and whiney posts on Facebook to passively call people out.
All I’m saying is, if your dating pool is a little grimey, you might want to take a look in the mirror.

Men tend to like to date a tier above. Even though these women may be a match to him in terms of looks and personality, he may be turned off at the idea of dating his equal. Even if he's a fat and balding 5, he would rather keep reaching for the 7 rather than date another 5 face.

I don’t think a man would go after a woman he thought was more attractive. The problem is that they think they are 7s. Men tend to overestimate their intelligence and physical attractiveness.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-asymmetric-brain/202002/do-men-rate-their-own-intelligence-higher-women-do?amp
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So men think too highly of them self, where as women don't think enough of themself. Well thats a recipe for unhealthy.
I don't know if you were ever here when P-Angel was, but I remember there was some guy on the board complaining about how his model friend wouldn't date him. And I remember P-Angel harshly telling him he was a 4 face, he was being unrealistic, and heshould aim much lower. He was hella offended of course. Whatever score he saw himself as, he considered himself to be on the same level as the model he felt entitle to date lol.

truth.
reminds me of this one reddit story where this guy asked his wife for an open marriage (completely forgetting the market value of a man vs woman in the dating world especially when the male offers little to substandard in looks, finances, personality, charm/charisma, etc.)
endless matches and countless dates came pouring in for her. she started dressing up, taking care of herself more, working out and was out almost every night.
it was lucky he'd even chat up a woman in a month.

This is a popular scenario for men. It is highlighted in an animated cartoon series with hilariously explicit detail on Netflix

"Captain Fall" Season 1 Episode 4

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Posted by VenusAquarius

Posted by virgoOPPP

Posted by GoodBunny

Posted by Eggrolls

Posted by GoodBunny

Posted by Eggrolls
At some point we have to address the elephant in the room, that your specific dating pool is a reflection of you.
My friend just sent me some women who “liked” him on a dating app last night saying they were overweight. Should I tell him that’s his specific dating pool? If he wants better options, he’s going to need to work on himself?
I don’t mean that he’s unattractive, because he’s not. He is incredibly immature though, at 40 years old. He wears Hollister t shirts that I would have worn in middle school. He uses the silent treatment when he’s upset about something, posts vague and whiney posts on Facebook to passively call people out.
All I’m saying is, if your dating pool is a little grimey, you might want to take a look in the mirror.

Men tend to like to date a tier above. Even though these women may be a match to him in terms of looks and personality, he may be turned off at the idea of dating his equal. Even if he's a fat and balding 5, he would rather keep reaching for the 7 rather than date another 5 face.

I don’t think a man would go after a woman he thought was more attractive. The problem is that they think they are 7s. Men tend to overestimate their intelligence and physical attractiveness.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-asymmetric-brain/202002/do-men-rate-their-own-intelligence-higher-women-do?amp
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So men think too highly of them self, where as women don't think enough of themself. Well thats a recipe for unhealthy.
I don't know if you were ever here when P-Angel was, but I remember there was some guy on the board complaining about how his model friend wouldn't date him. And I remember P-Angel harshly telling him he was a 4 face, he was being unrealistic, and heshould aim much lower. He was hella offended of course. Whatever score he saw himself as, he considered himself to be on the same level as the model he felt entitle to date lol.

truth.
reminds me of this one reddit story where this guy asked his wife for an open marriage (completely forgetting the market value of a man vs woman in the dating world especially when the male offers little to substandard in looks, finances, personality, charm/charisma, etc.)
endless matches and countless dates came pouring in for her. she started dressing up, taking care of herself more, working out and was out almost every night.
it was lucky he'd even chat up a woman in a month.

This is a popular scenario for men. It is highlighted in an animated series with hilariously explicit detail on Netflix


"Captain Fall" Season 1 Episode 4

i used to be a stupid girl until i took the red pill and understood that even without doing much, as a female i'd naturally have more power in dating.



men can send multiple pics of their penis to everyone and they'd be lucky to get a laughing emoji.



all I had to do was change my status in fb to single to summon a man's attention.

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Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter

Posted by Saturn_Returns

Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter

Posted by Eggrolls
At some point we have to address the elephant in the room, that your specific dating pool is a reflection of you.
My friend just sent me some women who “liked” him on a dating app last night saying they were overweight. Should I tell him that’s his specific dating pool? If he wants better options, he’s going to need to work on himself?
I don’t mean that he’s unattractive, because he’s not. He is incredibly immature though, at 40 years old. He wears Hollister t shirts that I would have worn in middle school. He uses the silent treatment when he’s upset about something, posts vague and whiney posts on Facebook to passively call people out.
All I’m saying is, if your dating pool is a little grimey, you might want to take a look in the mirror.

I attract horny women. Does this mean I'm horny too?

It's just a bullshit excuse many women use to deflect from the need to be accountable for their own lousy behaviour.
The last time I checked, this tactic is known as victim blaming.
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Um yeah I kinda get what you saying. I kinda don't agree with eggrolls post. I'm a good looking decent dude who carry myself professionally and it seem like redneck trailer park skeezers come on to me more. I mean they not ugly by no means some are hot but I'm not interesting in them. Even men be looking at me like they be checking me out. The cute decent looking gals are a bit standoffish. I think pretty women are far more in to ugly dudes.

Embrace your options. Skeezers need love too. I can't tell you how to get rid of the male attention, nothing you can do about those good looks. Just avoid the "where my hug" type of men and you should be okay.

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Posted by virgoOPPP

Posted by VenusAquarius

Posted by virgoOPPP

Posted by GoodBunny

Posted by Eggrolls

Posted by GoodBunny

Posted by Eggrolls
At some point we have to address the elephant in the room, that your specific dating pool is a reflection of you.
My friend just sent me some women who “liked” him on a dating app last night saying they were overweight. Should I tell him that’s his specific dating pool? If he wants better options, he’s going to need to work on himself?
I don’t mean that he’s unattractive, because he’s not. He is incredibly immature though, at 40 years old. He wears Hollister t shirts that I would have worn in middle school. He uses the silent treatment when he’s upset about something, posts vague and whiney posts on Facebook to passively call people out.
All I’m saying is, if your dating pool is a little grimey, you might want to take a look in the mirror.

Men tend to like to date a tier above. Even though these women may be a match to him in terms of looks and personality, he may be turned off at the idea of dating his equal. Even if he's a fat and balding 5, he would rather keep reaching for the 7 rather than date another 5 face.

I don’t think a man would go after a woman he thought was more attractive. The problem is that they think they are 7s. Men tend to overestimate their intelligence and physical attractiveness.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-asymmetric-brain/202002/do-men-rate-their-own-intelligence-higher-women-do?amp
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So men think too highly of them self, where as women don't think enough of themself. Well thats a recipe for unhealthy.
I don't know if you were ever here when P-Angel was, but I remember there was some guy on the board complaining about how his model friend wouldn't date him. And I remember P-Angel harshly telling him he was a 4 face, he was being unrealistic, and heshould aim much lower. He was hella offended of course. Whatever score he saw himself as, he considered himself to be on the same level as the model he felt entitle to date lol.

truth.
reminds me of this one reddit story where this guy asked his wife for an open marriage (completely forgetting the market value of a man vs woman in the dating world especially when the male offers little to substandard in looks, finances, personality, charm/charisma, etc.)
endless matches and countless dates came pouring in for her. she started dressing up, taking care of herself more, working out and was out almost every night.
it was lucky he'd even chat up a woman in a month.

This is a popular scenario for men. It is highlighted in an animated series with hilariously explicit detail on Netflix


"Captain Fall" Season 1 Episode 4

i used to be a stupid girl until i took the red pill and understood that even without doing much, as a female i'd naturally have more power in dating.




men can send multiple pics of their penis to everyone and they'd be lucky to get a laughing emoji.




all I had to do was change my status in fb to single to summon a man's attention.

You don't know how refreshing it is to read this.

May I ask what made you think otherwise? No problem if you don't feel like answering, these things can be long stories buy sometimes one word like mom, religion, culture, etc.

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Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter

Posted by Saturn_Returns

Posted by Jumpin_Jupiter

Posted by Eggrolls
At some point we have to address the elephant in the room, that your specific dating pool is a reflection of you.
My friend just sent me some women who “liked” him on a dating app last night saying they were overweight. Should I tell him that’s his specific dating pool? If he wants better options, he’s going to need to work on himself?
I don’t mean that he’s unattractive, because he’s not. He is incredibly immature though, at 40 years old. He wears Hollister t shirts that I would have worn in middle school. He uses the silent treatment when he’s upset about something, posts vague and whiney posts on Facebook to passively call people out.
All I’m saying is, if your dating pool is a little grimey, you might want to take a look in the mirror.

I attract horny women. Does this mean I'm horny too?

It's just a bullshit excuse many women use to deflect from the need to be accountable for their own lousy behaviour.
The last time I checked, this tactic is known as victim blaming.
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Um yeah I kinda get what you saying. I kinda don't agree with eggrolls post. I'm a good looking decent dude who carry myself professionally and it seem like redneck trailer park skeezers come on to me more. I mean they not ugly by no means some are hot but I'm not interesting in them. Even men be looking at me like they be checking me out. The cute decent looking gals are a bit standoffish. I think pretty women are far more in to ugly dudes.

I hear you.
Btw, this thread says it all about of lot of women out there. The OP asked for opinions from MEN but the female dxpers couldn’t resist derailing the thread by belittling any male opinion they didn’t like. As always, women can voice any opinion about men in general but, when the tables are turned and the opinions about women aren’t flattering, men are nothing but whiners and losers. And then the clueless masses wonder why less men are interested in marriage, let alone dating.
Like you, I can easily go out and find someone anytime I want but, over the years, I’ve become more selective. I have no interest in being in a relationship for the sake of it, especially when there are too many women who are unable to curb their egos and selfish impulses for the sake of the relationship itself. Compatibility is one thing, but there needs to be a sufficient level of maturity, self-awareness and accountability that many women lack these days.
And, no, I’m not looking for perfection – just someone with solid potential to work with. After all, being in a relationship is supposed to be a healthy partnership, and not one where men are slaves to women’s every whim (even when it’s at the expense of men).

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Posted by GoodBunny

Posted by Eggrolls

Posted by GoodBunny

Posted by Eggrolls
At some point we have to address the elephant in the room, that your specific dating pool is a reflection of you.
My friend just sent me some women who “liked” him on a dating app last night saying they were overweight. Should I tell him that’s his specific dating pool? If he wants better options, he’s going to need to work on himself?
I don’t mean that he’s unattractive, because he’s not. He is incredibly immature though, at 40 years old. He wears Hollister t shirts that I would have worn in middle school. He uses the silent treatment when he’s upset about something, posts vague and whiney posts on Facebook to passively call people out.
All I’m saying is, if your dating pool is a little grimey, you might want to take a look in the mirror.

Men tend to like to date a tier above. Even though these women may be a match to him in terms of looks and personality, he may be turned off at the idea of dating his equal. Even if he's a fat and balding 5, he would rather keep reaching for the 7 rather than date another 5 face.

I don’t think a man would go after a woman he thought was more attractive. The problem is that they think they are 7s. Men tend to overestimate their intelligence and physical attractiveness.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-asymmetric-brain/202002/do-men-rate-their-own-intelligence-higher-women-do?amp
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So men think too highly of them self, where as women don't think enough of themself. Well thats a recipe for unhealthy.
I don't know if you were ever here when P-Angel was, but I remember there was some guy on the board complaining about how his model friend wouldn't date him. And I remember P-Angel harshly telling him he was a 4 face, he was being unrealistic, and heshould aim much lower. He was hella offended of course. Whatever score he saw himself as, he considered himself to be on the same level as the model he felt entitle to date lol.
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truth.
reminds me of this one reddit story where this guy asked his wife for an open marriage (completely forgetting the market value of a man vs woman in the dating world especially when the male offers little to substandard in looks, finances, personality, charm/charisma, etc.)
endless matches and countless dates came pouring in for her. she started dressing up, taking care of herself more, working out and was out almost every night.
it was lucky he'd even chat up a woman in a month.

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Posted by Eggrolls
At some point we have to address the elephant in the room, that your specific dating pool is a reflection of you.
My friend just sent me some women who “liked” him on a dating app last night saying they were overweight. Should I tell him that’s his specific dating pool? If he wants better options, he’s going to need to work on himself?
I don’t mean that he’s unattractive, because he’s not. He is incredibly immature though, at 40 years old. He wears Hollister t shirts that I would have worn in middle school. He uses the silent treatment when he’s upset about something, posts vague and whiney posts on Facebook to passively call people out.
All I’m saying is, if your dating pool is a little grimey, you might want to take a look in the mirror.

Men tend to like to date a tier above. Even though these women may be a match to him in terms of looks and personality, he may be turned off at the idea of dating his equal. Even if he's a fat and balding 5, he would rather keep reaching for the 7 rather than date another 5 face.

I don’t think a man would go after a woman he thought was more attractive. The problem is that they think they are 7s. Men tend to overestimate their intelligence and physical attractiveness.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-asymmetric-brain/202002/do-men-rate-their-own-intelligence-higher-women-do?amp
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So men think too highly of them self, where as women don't think enough of themself. Well thats a recipe for unhealthy.
I don't know if you were ever here when P-Angel was, but I remember there was some guy on the board complaining about how his model friend wouldn't date him. And I remember P-Angel harshly telling him he was a 4 face, he was being unrealistic, and heshould aim much lower. He was hella offended of course. Whatever score he saw himself as, he considered himself to be on the same level as the model he felt entitle to date lol.
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Lol who the hell has model friends and a 4 face?

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Posted by Saturn_Returns
@Eggrolls
I've long put you on mute, so whatever you've posted I am not going to read.
You're nothing but toxic trash, and I find it hilarious that you're in this thread trying to convince everyone that you're anything but, while being devoid of any self-awareness or maturity.
You epitomise why so many men have thrown in the towel, with regards to dating.
Anyway, I'm done with addressing your unread posts. So, please, just fuck off.

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Posted by serenidad
i knew at around fifteen that i didn’t wanna aimlessly date around or sow my wild oats or whatever they call it so i quickly found someone with the same values as me and settled tf down lol i hate complicated shit so dating around is not for me.
tying the knot in a few weeks. i’m sorta relieved but at the same time i’m like shit, the pressure is on now lol i gotta make this marriage last 😂 cuz marriage itself is never the goal or the finish line. making it last/flourish is the goal.
i think many dudes are opting out of dating now cuz things have gotten way too needlessly complicated these days. even more so than before.
people acting like it’s a competition to see who can be more heartless in dating.
there’s a toxic culture of “play or get played”.
so, it must be hell out there for people who love deeply. they don’t wanna be a part of the silly games.

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Posted by Walk_on_by
just because I am a loser really.

No, you're not
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Lol glad I'm not the only one that thought that.
Course I only know ya here not irl and all, but you seem interesting enough from what's posted on the ole dxp...might be because actually are a couple desperate seeming losers throwing off the curve but I don't think so...

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