This topic is for the savage type of guys

Posted by yupvirgoo
@Aries_Luminary


It's scientifically possible.


We are complex beings and it’s very possible that two different traits in two different people can both appeal to us.


Say you're in a relationship with someone then someone new comes into your life. It could be a new person at work, someone you meet when you’re traveling, or some random situation, but you feel something you shouldn’t feel- you're falling in love. (This is due to the surge of hormones, total biology).


It starts with simply talking, but as this person is speaking to you, something inside of you is going wild. It’s instant electricity in a way that should be reserved for the person you love. You interact with this person on a consistent basis and find yourself falling hard. It’s very confusing.


How could this happen you ask?


Because there is something missing in your current relationship. It might be sexual, mental, emotional but somewhere there is a void that this second person fills in.


But remember, we choose the love we feed and allow to grow.

Posted by Gemitati
Excellent question and first answer!


I think the one who can answer it must have Nobel Prize and Pulitser one as well.


However we went to the moon and i say if those money were spent on research of this issue - that would so much more for the humanity than moon walking!

But no one cares! Unfortunately.

Posted by Aries_Luminary
Why do some men... not all... I won't group you... Why do men like to keep side chicks when they are perfectly happy with their life and who they chose to be in a relationship with?

It's just a simple question.


This isn't the why do men cheat question. Because people in general cheat for their own personal reasons.


When I say side chick I don't mean a woman u randomly have sex with from time to time. I mean a woman you are carrying out a "relationship" with. You buy her gifts, take her out. You do all the things you would do in a real relationship. You go out of your way for her and make time for her. All that. And you care about her and have feelings for the woman.


BUT you love the woman you are actually with and have no plans on leaving her. You're happy with her. And you're happy with your side chick. I guess really it would be having two girlfriends.


But anyway. I see this ALOT. And I'm curious as to why it happens.

Posted by octobersveryown

Posted by Aries_Luminary
Why do some men... not all... I won't group you... Why do men like to keep side chicks when they are perfectly happy with their life and who they chose to be in a relationship with?

It's just a simple question.


This isn't the why do men cheat question. Because people in general cheat for their own personal reasons.


When I say side chick I don't mean a woman u randomly have sex with from time to time. I mean a woman you are carrying out a "relationship" with. You buy her gifts, take her out. You do all the things you would do in a real relationship. You go out of your way for her and make time for her. All that. And you care about her and have feelings for the woman.


BUT you love the woman you are actually with and have no plans on leaving her. You're happy with her. And you're happy with your side chick. I guess really it would be having two girlfriends.


But anyway. I see this ALOT. And I'm curious as to why it happens.

Maybe he's polyamorous...?

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Posted by Kodak

Posted by Aries_Luminary
Why do some men... not all... I won't group you... Why do men like to keep side chicks when they are perfectly happy with their life and who they chose to be in a relationship with?

It's just a simple question.


This isn't the why do men cheat question. Because people in general cheat for their own personal reasons.


When I say side chick I don't mean a woman u randomly have sex with from time to time. I mean a woman you are carrying out a "relationship" with. You buy her gifts, take her out. You do all the things you would do in a real relationship. You go out of your way for her and make time for her. All that. And you care about her and have feelings for the woman.


BUT you love the woman you are actually with and have no plans on leaving her. You're happy with her. And you're happy with your side chick. I guess really it would be having two girlfriends.


But anyway. I see this ALOT. And I'm curious as to why it happens.

It's having that intimacy with another can be exciting, knowing you have a girl back home. Sometimes, men want to spread their love wide, not so much deep. And if it becomes a habit, then it sticks. If the wife puts up with it, then he gets his cake and eats it too. I had a few Childhood mentors like this. Very Alpha, dominant type of dudes who got what they wanted, and no one ever opposed them.

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Posted by Kodak

Posted by Aries_Luminary
Why do some men... not all... I won't group you... Why do men like to keep side chicks when they are perfectly happy with their life and who they chose to be in a relationship with?

It's just a simple question.


This isn't the why do men cheat question. Because people in general cheat for their own personal reasons.


When I say side chick I don't mean a woman u randomly have sex with from time to time. I mean a woman you are carrying out a "relationship" with. You buy her gifts, take her out. You do all the things you would do in a real relationship. You go out of your way for her and make time for her. All that. And you care about her and have feelings for the woman.


BUT you love the woman you are actually with and have no plans on leaving her. You're happy with her. And you're happy with your side chick. I guess really it would be having two girlfriends.


But anyway. I see this ALOT. And I'm curious as to why it happens.

It's having that intimacy with another can be exciting, knowing you have a girl back home. Sometimes, men want to spread their love wide, not so much deep. And if it becomes a habit, then it sticks. If the wife puts up with it, then he gets his cake and eats it too. I had a few Childhood mentors like this. Very Alpha, dominant type of dudes who got what they wanted, and no one ever opposed them.

Your description sounds similar to the men that I have seen in these positions.

I could be wrong but I've noticed in some cases that the woman they have at home seems weak in character or self esteem maybe. But that's just me from the outside looking in.


I like your statement... they enjoy spreading their love wide, not deep

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Posted by Gemitati
Excellent question and first answer!


I think the one who can answer it must have Nobel Prize and Pulitser one as well.


However we went to the moon and i say if those money were spent on research of this issue - that would so much more for the humanity than moon walking!

But no one cares! Unfortunately.

Posted by Ssuperman
Because they like sticking that dick in crazy. They like that chick who will fuck them RCG and turn to look at them and call them daddy.


They get in a relationship too soon without fully test driving before committing. The one they committed to quit doing all that and now he sees her as just another basic chick.

Posted by PancakeFace
I don't think anyone who's truly happy in their relationship will have a side chick. When you've felt true happiness one on one you don't want anyone else. This whole side chick thing gets glamorised way too much recently in the music industry. Honestly I think it just comes down to insecurity and being selfish. When you commit to someone commit to them. A lot of guys get lonely and yeah insecure they want someone to always be there for them and their needs. You don't do this fling stuff if you truly love someone and you're happy with them. With that being said I can relate to what the first guy who answered first said but we have choices. I make choices to stay faithful.

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Posted by Kodak

Posted by Aries_Luminary
Why do some men... not all... I won't group you... Why do men like to keep side chicks when they are perfectly happy with their life and who they chose to be in a relationship with?

It's just a simple question.


This isn't the why do men cheat question. Because people in general cheat for their own personal reasons.


When I say side chick I don't mean a woman u randomly have sex with from time to time. I mean a woman you are carrying out a "relationship" with. You buy her gifts, take her out. You do all the things you would do in a real relationship. You go out of your way for her and make time for her. All that. And you care about her and have feelings for the woman.


BUT you love the woman you are actually with and have no plans on leaving her. You're happy with her. And you're happy with your side chick. I guess really it would be having two girlfriends.


But anyway. I see this ALOT. And I'm curious as to why it happens.

It's having that intimacy with another can be exciting, knowing you have a girl back home. Sometimes, men want to spread their love wide, not so much deep. And if it becomes a habit, then it sticks. If the wife puts up with it, then he gets his cake and eats it too. I had a few Childhood mentors like this. Very Alpha, dominant type of dudes who got what they wanted, and no one ever opposed them.

I think it's a legitimate way to love. Not everyone is suited to monogamy. The sooner we accept that, the better. If you don't like it, don't get involved with those types. And these people shouldn't be looked down upon when they're honest about what they want.

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Posted by PancakeFace
I don't think anyone who's truly happy in their relationship will have a side chick. When you've felt true happiness one on one you don't want anyone else. This whole side chick thing gets glamorised way too much recently in the music industry. Honestly I think it just comes down to insecurity and being selfish. When you commit to someone commit to them. A lot of guys get lonely and yeah insecure they want someone to always be there for them and their needs. You don't do this fling stuff if you truly love someone and you're happy with them. With that being said I can relate to what the first guy who answered first said but we have choices. I make choices to stay faithful.

I absolutely agree. A person isn't truly happy in their relationship if they are spending a large majority of their time with someone else. But people are complex. So I do believe a man could have a perfect wife/partner and be proud of her, love her, admire her and still want to have another option.

But I'm more the faithful type so I wouldn't be able to relate to someone who moves this way.

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Posted by VenusAquarius
My Pisces girlfriend's father had a side chick. He finally wanted to end his marriage and showed up to the side chick's house with bags in hand. To her father's surprise, side chick was like "uhun son, you can't live here." He went back home and that was the end of the affair. Some women do not want the duties of a wife. And, some men know this... It's hard to find a "total package." Some chicks they love to stick their dick in but don't want their baby coming out of....


But, I agree with Kodak.


I was raised by Capricorns... who gave me tenets/proverbs to live by. As a curious little Aries, I was filled with questions. My questions sorta ceased when one the Caps told me, in response to one of my.... "why" questions.... "because they can."


That answer, "because they can," sent my little

mind into orbit. In an essence, I began to understand power, freedom, and control.


Still inline with this topic..... and another jewel from my Capricorn upbringing, as I am a Capricorn Ascendant.... "it is better for a man to love you more than you love him." This came from both female and a male Capricorns.

I was raised by a Capricorn mom. Dad worked a lot but was still around. But mom truly raised us and oh my God, I credit her for not being a promiscuous homosexual like so many gays are. lol.I don't even have sex outside of a committed relationship even though apart of me wants to. Being sexually responsible, if that's even a saying, is so ingrained in me because of my Cap mom.

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Posted by Kodak

Posted by Aries_Luminary
Why do some men... not all... I won't group you... Why do men like to keep side chicks when they are perfectly happy with their life and who they chose to be in a relationship with?

It's just a simple question.


This isn't the why do men cheat question. Because people in general cheat for their own personal reasons.


When I say side chick I don't mean a woman u randomly have sex with from time to time. I mean a woman you are carrying out a "relationship" with. You buy her gifts, take her out. You do all the things you would do in a real relationship. You go out of your way for her and make time for her. All that. And you care about her and have feelings for the woman.


BUT you love the woman you are actually with and have no plans on leaving her. You're happy with her. And you're happy with your side chick. I guess really it would be having two girlfriends.


But anyway. I see this ALOT. And I'm curious as to why it happens.

It's having that intimacy with another can be exciting, knowing you have a girl back home. Sometimes, men want to spread their love wide, not so much deep. And if it becomes a habit, then it sticks. If the wife puts up with it, then he gets his cake and eats it too. I had a few Childhood mentors like this. Very Alpha, dominant type of dudes who got what they wanted, and no one ever opposed them.

I think it's a legitimate way to love. Not everyone is suited to monogamy. The sooner we accept that, the better. If you don't like it, don't get involved with those types. And these people shouldn't be looked down upon when they're honest about what they want.

Yeah yeah world peace and all that.

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Posted by Explicit
The side-bitch does things in the bedroom that the main-chick doesn't or can't do

Posted by VenusAquarius
My Pisces girlfriend's father had a side chick. He finally wanted to end his marriage and showed up to the side chick's house with bags in hand. To her father's surprise, side chick was like "uhun son, you can't live here." He went back home and that was the end of the affair. Some women do not want the duties of a wife. And, some men know this... It's hard to find a "total package." Some chicks they love to stick their dick in but don't want their baby coming out of....


But, I agree with Kodak.


I was raised by Capricorns... who gave me tenets/proverbs to live by. As a curious little Aries, I was filled with questions. My questions sorta ceased when one the Caps told me, in response to one of my.... "why" questions.... "because they can."


That answer, "because they can," sent my little

mind into orbit. In an essence, I began to understand power, freedom, and control.


Still inline with this topic..... and another jewel from my Capricorn upbringing, as I am a Capricorn Ascendant.... "it is better for a man to love you more than you love him." This came from both female and a male Capricorns.

Posted by Explicit

Posted by VenusAquarius
My Pisces girlfriend's father had a side chick. He finally wanted to end his marriage and showed up to the side chick's house with bags in hand. To her father's surprise, side chick was like "uhun son, you can't live here." He went back home and that was the end of the affair. Some women do not want the duties of a wife. And, some men know this... It's hard to find a "total package." Some chicks they love to stick their dick in but don't want their baby coming out of....


But, I agree with Kodak.


I was raised by Capricorns... who gave me tenets/proverbs to live by. As a curious little Aries, I was filled with questions. My questions sorta ceased when one the Caps told me, in response to one of my.... "why" questions.... "because they can."


That answer, "because they can," sent my little

mind into orbit. In an essence, I began to understand power, freedom, and control.


Still inline with this topic..... and another jewel from my Capricorn upbringing, as I am a Capricorn Ascendant.... "it is better for a man to love you more than you love him." This came from both female and a male Capricorns.

I was raised by a Capricorn mom. Dad worked a lot but was still around. But mom truly raised us and oh my God, I credit her for not being a promiscuous homosexual like so many gays are. lol.I don't even have sex outside of a committed relationship even though apart of me wants to. Being sexually responsible, if that's even a saying, is so ingrained in me because of my Cap mom.

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Posted by Aries_Luminary
Why do some men... not all... I won't group you... Why do men like to keep side chicks when they are perfectly happy with their life and who they chose to be in a relationship with?

It's just a simple question.


This isn't the why do men cheat question. Because people in general cheat for their own personal reasons.


When I say side chick I don't mean a woman u randomly have sex with from time to time. I mean a woman you are carrying out a "relationship" with. You buy her gifts, take her out. You do all the things you would do in a real relationship. You go out of your way for her and make time for her. All that. And you care about her and have feelings for the woman.


BUT you love the woman you are actually with and have no plans on leaving her. You're happy with her. And you're happy with your side chick. I guess really it would be having two girlfriends.


But anyway. I see this ALOT. And I'm curious as to why it happens.

Do you wear your pjs when you go outside?

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Posted by VenusAquarius
My Pisces girlfriend's father had a side chick. He finally wanted to end his marriage and showed up to the side chick's house with bags in hand. To her father's surprise, side chick was like "uhun son, you can't live here." He went back home and that was the end of the affair. Some women do not want the duties of a wife. And, some men know this... It's hard to find a "total package." Some chicks they love to stick their dick in but don't want their baby coming out of....


But, I agree with Kodak.


I was raised by Capricorns... who gave me tenets/proverbs to live by. As a curious little Aries, I was filled with questions. My questions sorta ceased when one the Caps told me, in response to one of my.... "why" questions.... "because they can."


That answer, "because they can," sent my little

mind into orbit. In an essence, I began to understand power, freedom, and control.


Still inline with this topic..... and another jewel from my Capricorn upbringing, as I am a Capricorn Ascendant.... "it is better for a man to love you more than you love him." This came from both female and a male Capricorns.

Yes, this is an old saying. There is truth behind it as well. But at the same time, what type of love are you looking for? That stability, comfortable type of love? Or that can't live without you type of love?

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Posted by Aries_Luminary

Posted by Explicit
The side-bitch does things in the bedroom that the main-chick doesn't or can't do

This is a sterostype. Maybe In older generations. I just don't think that old idea or belief fits anymore. Younger ppl are dabbling in more taboo experiences. Threesomes have become a regular thing that ppl don't second guess.


Is this the case sometimes... yea. But that's usually when 2 squares are together. I just don't think that way of thinking fits these situations anymore

I can understand why certain people cheat though.


They want the stability, the love, the cuddles and the cuteness at home.


And then they want to have dirty sex and excitement with the other person on the side.

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Posted by Aries_Luminary

Posted by VenusAquarius
My Pisces girlfriend's father had a side chick. He finally wanted to end his marriage and showed up to the side chick's house with bags in hand. To her father's surprise, side chick was like "uhun son, you can't live here." He went back home and that was the end of the affair. Some women do not want the duties of a wife. And, some men know this... It's hard to find a "total package." Some chicks they love to stick their dick in but don't want their baby coming out of....


But, I agree with Kodak.


I was raised by Capricorns... who gave me tenets/proverbs to live by. As a curious little Aries, I was filled with questions. My questions sorta ceased when one the Caps told me, in response to one of my.... "why" questions.... "because they can."


That answer, "because they can," sent my little

mind into orbit. In an essence, I began to understand power, freedom, and control.


Still inline with this topic..... and another jewel from my Capricorn upbringing, as I am a Capricorn Ascendant.... "it is better for a man to love you more than you love him." This came from both female and a male Capricorns.

Yes, this is an old saying. There is truth behind it as well. But at the same time, what type of love are you looking for? That stability, comfortable type of love? Or that can't live without you type of love?

I'm married to "the love that can't live without me."


We have been together 22 years which includes a 4 year divorce (no contact)... to which he would leave notes on my car, mailbox, every 6 mos. or so.


It is with the last note that I realized it was of such frequency; was no longer "scared" of his determination and fortitude; realized he loved me like no other could or possibly would.... although a few have tried their damndest.


It is in this love I am most free.

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Posted by SofiaV87
The men that do this do it cuz they can & they know they can. I don't think that's real love though .. U can't love someone but be In a relationship loving someone else.. That's not real love .. They can love them as a person/as a friend but not true love... As long as women will agree to that kind of set up , men will continue to do it.. I don't blame them

Posted by Gemitati
Excellent question and first answer!


However we went to the moon and i say if those money were spent on research of this issue - that would so much more for the humanity than moon walking!

But no one cares! Unfortunately.

Posted by Aries_Luminary

Posted by VenusAquarius

Posted by Aries_Luminary

Posted by VenusAquarius
My Pisces girlfriend's father had a side chick. He finally wanted to end his marriage and showed up to the side chick's house with bags in hand. To her father's surprise, side chick was like "uhun son, you can't live here." He went back home and that was the end of the affair. Some women do not want the duties of a wife. And, some men know this... It's hard to find a "total package." Some chicks they love to stick their dick in but don't want their baby coming out of....


But, I agree with Kodak.


I was raised by Capricorns... who gave me tenets/proverbs to live by. As a curious little Aries, I was filled with questions. My questions sorta ceased when one the Caps told me, in response to one of my.... "why" questions.... "because they can."


That answer, "because they can," sent my little

mind into orbit. In an essence, I began to understand power, freedom, and control.


Still inline with this topic..... and another jewel from my Capricorn upbringing, as I am a Capricorn Ascendant.... "it is better for a man to love you more than you love him." This came from both female and a male Capricorns.

Yes, this is an old saying. There is truth behind it as well. But at the same time, what type of love are you looking for? That stability, comfortable type of love? Or that can't live without you type of love?

I'm married to "the love that can't live without me."


We have been together 22 years which includes a 4 year divorce (no contact)... to which he would leave notes on my car, mailbox, every 6 mos. or so.


It is with the last note that I realized it was of such frequency; was no longer "scared" of his determination and fortitude; realized he loved me like no other could or possibly would.... although a few have tried their damndest.


It is in this love I am most free.

Wow. How interesting. You're an Aries right? What is his sign?


If u don't mind sharing, why did u divorce for 4 years? And how did u find your way back to each other with those years of no contact.


We're off topic but I'm such a curious person

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Posted by VenusAquarius
@Aries_Luminary, because you are curious (a thinker), I think you will find this article very insightful to yoir topic..


The Eternal Triangle by Liz Green (astrologer)

http://www.astro.com/info/in_triangle_e.htm


I personally believe there is a curse, karma, involved in these engagements... more detrimental when engaged in at earlier years of life than later years. You may see the underpinnings of what I suggest in the article.


Edit: you may ask particular persons, as you did here, to explain their behavior to no avail.... As many are not self-aware - truly "savage."

Posted by Aries_Luminary
Why do some men... not all... I won't group you... Why do men like to keep side chicks when they are perfectly happy with their life and who they chose to be in a relationship with?

It's just a simple question.


This isn't the why do men cheat question. Because people in general cheat for their own personal reasons.


When I say side chick I don't mean a woman u randomly have sex with from time to time. I mean a woman you are carrying out a "relationship" with. You buy her gifts, take her out. You do all the things you would do in a real relationship. You go out of your way for her and make time for her. All that. And you care about her and have feelings for the woman.


BUT you love the woman you are actually with and have no plans on leaving her. You're happy with her. And you're happy with your side chick. I guess really it would be having two girlfriends.


But anyway. I see this ALOT. And I'm curious as to why it happens.

Posted by DeadStool
You can claim them as dependents on your taxes

Posted by Aries_Luminary

When I say side chick I don't mean a woman u randomly have sex with from time to time. I mean a woman you are carrying out a "relationship" with. You buy her gifts, take her out. You do all the things you would do in a real relationship. You go out of your way for her and make time for her. All that. And you care about her and have feelings for the woman.