Can't just be me dealing
This topic was created in the The Powder Room forum by virgoOPPP on Sunday, March 20, 2022 and has 15 replies.
Why does a guy's need for a constant stream of ego stroking so reminiscent of a fading hollywood star or a neglected housewife's need for validation? These dudes just why.
You can do your own thing as a woman and have all the hobbies in the world, respect their privacy, time and schedule; give them all the space they could ever want; be as independent as you can be; let them dictate your bedtimes and keep track of your phone and online activities; defend them from friends and family who tell you that you deserve better.
never a bad word from you, no demands, no phone checking, no gps tracking, no controlling your comings and goings, no financial expectations. but their need for validation is bottomless.
like why? sad is life when you're not a clingy, codependent drama-stirring gold digger which is what i wanna be in the next life. mah one true dream.
Pisces sun/Cap moon: "What if I like another girl? You should fight for me." **uhh bruh it's been 2 weeks i'm not really sure i'm even 'there' yet
Cap sun/Pisces moon: "Two women sent me nudes and trying to have sex with me. What are you doing right now?!" **angrily asks me over the phone while i'm just cleaning the apartment just coz i text back too slow like am i cheating coz i don't get jealous?
Pisces sun/Libra moon: "There was this girl back in my village who would bring me cake when I was sick." **then says he lost his wallet so can't afford meal 🤣😂
You can do your own thing as a woman and have all the hobbies in the world, respect their privacy, time and schedule; give them all the space they could ever want; be as independent as you can be; let them dictate your bedtimes and keep track of your phone and online activities; defend them from friends and family who tell you that you deserve better.
never a bad word from you, no demands, no phone checking, no gps tracking, no controlling your comings and goings, no financial expectations. but their need for validation is bottomless.
like why? sad is life when you're not a clingy, codependent drama-stirring gold digger which is what i wanna be in the next life. mah one true dream.
Pisces sun/Cap moon: "What if I like another girl? You should fight for me." **uhh bruh it's been 2 weeks i'm not really sure i'm even 'there' yet
Cap sun/Pisces moon: "Two women sent me nudes and trying to have sex with me. What are you doing right now?!" **angrily asks me over the phone while i'm just cleaning the apartment just coz i text back too slow like am i cheating coz i don't get jealous?
Pisces sun/Libra moon: "There was this girl back in my village who would bring me cake when I was sick." **then says he lost his wallet so can't afford meal 🤣😂
“defend them from friends and family who tell you that you deserve better.”
If you have to always defend them, they’re not good for you. You know it, you deserve better.
If you have to always defend them, they’re not good for you. You know it, you deserve better.
Posted by CocosugarSome dudes just want a headache.
“defend them from friends and family who tell you that you deserve better.”
If you have to always defend them, they’re not good for you. You know it, you deserve better.
coz pAsSiOn?
Posted by virgoOPPPPosted by Cocosugar
“defend them from friends and family who tell you that you deserve better.”
If you have to always defend them, they’re not good for you. You know it, you deserve better.
Some dudes just want a headache.
coz pAsSiOn?click to expand
Yeah it kills the vibe, honestly.
No.1 you made the most virgo woman post of all time. Yall are naturally submissve YET naturally choosy. Something about these dudes that you're choosing. What phase in life are you at? And what are looking for? Free ya self from your expectations and standards. Being a virgo isnt about being discriminatory....its about swift thinking. Think on ya feet. Then eliminate. Or....do the other virgo thing. The mutable earth mercury ruled thing that requires honesty. Within that you'll find ya answer
Posted by Cocosugarno girl wants to feel like a middle-aged man in a failing marriage.Posted by virgoOPPPPosted by Cocosugar
“defend them from friends and family who tell you that you deserve better.”
If you have to always defend them, they’re not good for you. You know it, you deserve better.
Some dudes just want a headache.
coz pAsSiOn?
Yeah it kills the vibe, honestly.click to expand
wonder why i'm attracted to these people at first 🤔🤔
Posted by Libra4rmTX
No.1 you made the most virgo woman post of all time. Yall are naturally submissve YET naturally choosy. Something about these dudes that you're choosing. What phase in life are you at? And what are looking for? Free ya self from your expectations and standards. Being a virgo isnt about being discriminatory....its about swift thinking. Think on ya feet. Then eliminate. Or....do the other virgo thing. The mutable earth mercury ruled thing that requires honesty. Within that you'll find ya answer
i'm 28 and just want a boring, chill, normal dude who doesn't hoe around without this 'make me feel attractive' vibe. so disappointed that capricorn energy is not the cardboard that i ordered.
Posted by virgoOPPPPosted by CocosugarPosted by virgoOPPPPosted by Cocosugar
“defend them from friends and family who tell you that you deserve better.”
If you have to always defend them, they’re not good for you. You know it, you deserve better.
Some dudes just want a headache.
coz pAsSiOn?
Yeah it kills the vibe, honestly.
no girl wants to feel like a middle-aged man in a failing marriage.
wonder why i'm attracted to these people at first 🤔🤔click to expand
You have to find out why and help yourself heal from that. 💯
Posted by virgoOPPPJust dont ever settle. If he was up to par ya virgo senses wouldn't be going offPosted by Libra4rmTX
No.1 you made the most virgo woman post of all time. Yall are naturally submissve YET naturally choosy. Something about these dudes that you're choosing. What phase in life are you at? And what are looking for? Free ya self from your expectations and standards. Being a virgo isnt about being discriminatory....its about swift thinking. Think on ya feet. Then eliminate. Or....do the other virgo thing. The mutable earth mercury ruled thing that requires honesty. Within that you'll find ya answer
i'm 28 and just want a boring, chill, normal dude who doesn't hoe around without this 'make me feel attractive' vibe. so disappointed that capricorn energy is not the cardboard that i ordered.click to expand
Girl, you have got to look into why you easily attract these low value guys. I don’t know very many Virgo males or females except my Virgo female cousin. She’s extremely picky but ironically has awful taste in guys.
Posted by SassyKiwi
Girl, you have got to look into why you easily attract these low value guys. I don’t know very many Virgo males or females except my Virgo female cousin. She’s extremely picky but ironically has awful taste in guys.
picking projects?
maybe the neediness was attractive initially.
Your passivity or shall we say your lack of passion could become a problem for Pisces sun or moons. We are high….ahem….highly enthusiastic people, especially when in love. And yes, ego strokes should be part of the package, sorry. If our partner is not able to make us feel like a queen or king, who is going to do that….our neighbour? 👸🏻
Echoing what the others have said: I think it's time you do a deep-dive and ask yourself why you're attracting these types of men.
There is a lesson to be learned here or you're going to keep attracting the same type of men.
I used to be the same until I did some cliché soul-searching and started to work on myself.
There is a lesson to be learned here or you're going to keep attracting the same type of men.
I used to be the same until I did some cliché soul-searching and started to work on myself.
The signs you listed dabble in femininity.
They act as if a girl would.
Passive aggressive, stir the pot, making you jealous.
They act as if a girl would.
Passive aggressive, stir the pot, making you jealous.
I used to get these kind of antics with Scorpio and Taurus men. Particularly Venus in Taurus
They want to be chased and loved on.
They want to be chased and loved on.
Leave Your Feedback
We'd love to hear your thoughts! If you're not logged in, you can still share your feedback below. Your input helps us improve the experience for everyone. To post your own content or join the conversation, please log in or create an account.
Related Topics
You know its true!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rXhkYI8eoWM
@MoesMoneys
Joined: Nov 29, 2021 · Topics: 69 · Posts: 243
You know its true!
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rXhkYI8eoWM
@MoesMoneys
Joined: Nov 29, 2021 · Topics: 69 · Posts: 243
What does it mean when you show some degree of kindness to someone you've just me and they immediately feel comfortable attempting to borrow money from you? Does this mean they absolutely don't like you but feel that they should at least get something out
@virgoOPPP
Joined: Mar 24, 2019 · Topics: 282 · Posts: 10595
Okay I can see how the obsessiveness could be a Libra thing but where on earth does he get his work ethic from?
Obviously the man has a motor that doesn’t stop.
Not to mention that coldness in his eyes… the way he starts wars… not super Libra-esque thi
@lilyofthevalley
Joined: Apr 07, 2017 · Topics: 13 · Posts: 103
No, they are not at all compatible. Especially if Libra has no prominent Scorpio in her chart. But they’ll always be drawn to each other like mosquitos to the zapper light. No, Scorpio IS the zapper and only Libra will be zapped (such as it appears). It’s
@lilyofthevalley
Joined: Apr 07, 2017 · Topics: 13 · Posts: 103
How about that? Normally I’m a flighty little Libra bird as soon as I don’t get the attention I need to feel secure in a connection. But this Scorpio man is so different.
I’ve known him since last Fall. We’ve seen each other only a few times. He backed
@lilyofthevalley
Joined: Apr 07, 2017 · Topics: 13 · Posts: 103
I usually meet with a Taurus woman. I found her behavior is very impolite and selfish.
Once, She was sick and sudden absent, I just sent several very normal kind-hearted care messages. But she turned to assault my kind-hearted care message and say my ca
@attonie
Joined: Dec 26, 2014 · Topics: 13 · Posts: 29
I knew the thing I needed to do
But like a hobo's meal, I let it stew
In my mind a worry
All day and night
At the last minute it will send me to flurry
Never again I said at the 11th hour
Nearly waited too long, the whole thing sour
Now my evenings free
@Seajatt
Joined: Oct 14, 2021 · Topics: 27 · Posts: 670
Which reaction in response to a stressful event is common to you? Where is your Mars?
The most common are: fight, flight, faint, fright, or freeze.
@Som
Joined: Feb 15, 2020 · Topics: 41 · Posts: 1592
Im in a dilemma with a cancer guy (july 18) and im a leo girl (july 29).
About me: im religious and follow some very modest principles and values when it comes to the romance stuff. I believe in commitment snd marraige and dont really like dating—but im
@tasnim2993
Joined: Mar 15, 2022 · Topics: 1 · Posts: 1