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Sep 20, 2008Comments: 1470 · Posts: 13777 · Topics: 204
Well yah I'm looking for personal answers. I don't think there's a general one.
Would you pick your hypothetical unborn children over your soulmate?
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Oct 21, 2015Comments: 11066 · Posts: 36034 · Topics: 110
If he doesn’t want kids and I do he wouldn’t be my first choice, would he.
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Apr 29, 2018Comments: 4020 · Posts: 3656 · Topics: 89
First choice
I got enough kids
If we could go back in time pre babies, the same. I didn’t want kids before I had them.
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Oct 21, 2015Comments: 11066 · Posts: 36034 · Topics: 110
*asks women for their opinion
*calls opinion stupid
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Jan 31, 2015Comments: 1573 · Posts: 6705 · Topics: 16
I can't answer the specific question because I don't want kids (I like them, and worked with them for years, but in my 30s decided not to have them myself), so option 1 is just right for me. But, I was in one relationship that presented a dilemma because I realized I couldn't handle the stress of worry I'd have about my partner -- his job could be very dangerous. There were other differences, too, I could later see, so it couldn't have worked anyway, but it's the only time I've faced really caring about someone -- loving them -- and having an obstacle that I tried hard to cope with, but couldn't. No regrets, thanks to other differences, but at the time, it was excruciating to sort out.
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Jun 18, 2017Comments: 3657 · Posts: 5507 · Topics: 76
find another #1 who wants to have kids
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Dec 24, 2018Comments: 1859 · Posts: 1253 · Topics: 15
I’m not sure that true love exists. I think love is based on how much time you’re willing to put into making a relationship work.
Sometimes you meet someone that speaks the same love language as you and you feel compelled to work on that relationship more than you ever have with others...you’ll put in the work you didn’t for others and for your own reasons. Eventually you develop genuine love. I don’t think it’s instant or a true love- it’s based off of work.
Saying that: I think we as people do have many different eras of our life where we experience powerful love 💕
When you were young and experienced your first big love, you imagined then you’d never love again or live the same way or want anyone else. That love ended and you felt very strong emotions for others. Later in life you look back at those old loves and you’re aware — that, that type of love couldn’t possibly satisfy you now. People grow and change and will experience many loves in their life.
As per question: I would stay in a relationship where I loved them and they didn’t want children but they’d have to acknowledge that I was giving up an aspect of my core that deeply wants to be a mother. If they loved me in return...they’d have to acknowledge the loss I would be accepting and the levels of pain I’d experience as I got older, having missed out on my opportunity to be a mother.
Anyone would have to ask themselves if love is truly worth giving up a hope within yourself?
There are many people that fall in love and try to have a family with someone who turns out cannot reproduce and they have to find new ways to love one another. That is a sacrifice you make for someone you care for immensely.
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Ultimately I want to have a child. Just one 👶🏻
Luckily, I’m with someone that wants at least four lol and he’s the one compromising to have less children because that’s what I want. I’d be happy with him if we had none at all because our journey through life together so far is everything I ever hoped for in a man. I feel content and im prepared to take on whatever the universe gives us.
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Sep 14, 2018Comments: 224 · Posts: 556 · Topics: 16
The one that loves you enough to give you a family, over settling for someone who deprives you of what you want.