Fuck Green Eyes: I HATE Jealousy and Envy

Posted by Emhendo

The ugliest fuckin emotion somebody can have, and it's subtle - yet loud. You can feel it off people, but can't always see it.


You always feel like you gotta watch what you do around a jealous-hearted ass friend or family member, because you don't want to "upset" them, in a way...They will make you feel uncomfortable for being yourself or having nice things..


Can't accept compliments from people around jealous ass motherfuckas 'cause you know how they is... You gotta constantly downplay yourself, or comfort/coax a jealous ass person so they can act "less jealous".


I never been a jealous person, somebody is always jealous of me - and that shit is scary. Fuck that emotion... People do some crazy ass shit out of envy and jealousy.


I don't understand it, because you would think the people that are jealous of you would 100% of the time be strangers...


But nah, it's people you call family or have known for years. People that are suppose to be happy for you.


My own DAD has been jealous of me.

My best friend

One of my ex-girlfriends

My cousins

My uncle

Friends..


You feel like you gotta tone down who you are around them, because you don't want them to feel bad about themselves and resent you -


I say FUCK THAT. You ain't gotta do shit for they sorry ass. That's a problem they have to work out within themselves. Nobody got time to walk on eggshells or kiss somebody's ass so they'll feel good enough about themselves to let you do you as well... Fuck all that.


They always say embrace your haters, but I think it's a difference between haters and jealous ass people... I can't figure it out right now - but I can do without any of that bullshit.

Posted by LadyNeptune

I have green eyes.

Smh your sugar baby privileges are now revoked.

Posted by Undine

Good job that my family and friends are not materialistic then....I have no idea what any of you is talking about!!!!!


How does it manifest? Some "kindred" spirit informing you you were the subject of gossip? Open hostility toward you (for what purpose?)? Demands to share your good fortune with them?

Posted by xXxBitcheroniiiXxX

I think it's flattering.



Yasss bitch, envy me. Envy me from afar...

Posted by VenusAquarius

Posted by Undine

Good job that my family and friends are not materialistic then....I have no idea what any of you is talking about!!!!!


How does it manifest? Some "kindred" spirit informing you you were the subject of gossip? Open hostility toward you (for what purpose?)? Demands to share your good fortune with them?

Jealousy is not all about material things:

- beautuful beautiful spouse, kids, etc.

- Size of breasts, waist

- skin

- intelligence - this one is #2 for me. I was in graduate school, a man wanted to fight me cause I was right. He later apologized.

Had a professor act the same until the other professor checked him. Had a female boss scared shitless with insecurity.

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Posted by PowerDonut

As a Taurus I am jelly of people on the AYCE buffet list

Posted by Undine

Posted by VenusAquarius

Posted by Undine

Good job that my family and friends are not materialistic then....I have no idea what any of you is talking about!!!!!


How does it manifest? Some "kindred" spirit informing you you were the subject of gossip? Open hostility toward you (for what purpose?)? Demands to share your good fortune with them?

Jealousy is not all about material things:

- beautuful beautiful spouse, kids, etc.

- Size of breasts, waist

- skin

- intelligence - this one is #2 for me. I was in graduate school, a man wanted to fight me cause I was right. He later apologized.

Had a professor act the same until the other professor checked him. Had a female boss scared shitless with insecurity.

But how do you find out it's jealousy...? Instead of a clash between strong personalities, for example...

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Posted by Undine

Posted by LadyNeptune

I have green eyes.

Smh your sugar baby privileges are now revoked.

I actually opened this thread because green is my favourite eye colour ..


I still have no idea what this thread is about....

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Posted by VenusAquarius

Posted by xXxBitcheroniiiXxX

I think it's flattering.



Yasss bitch, envy me. Envy me from afar...

I admire people like you. My husband is the same way. He loves haters. Haters tickle him so.


But, I feel like y'all ain had those soap opera plots against y'all. I don't think y'all had to fight.


Don't get me wrong. My phobia will turn to disgust, then anger, and I've beat the shit out of 'em like a cockroach.

Lol girl I grew up fighting, but when it comes to "soap opera" type drama I've only ever really dealt with one situation that was similar to a soap opera.



Every other situation was me having to survive the streets and other situations that most people here can't relate to.



Also I don't think it's a coincidence that I've avoided soap opera situations and the majority of my life I've had mostly male friends.



Women are dramatic.

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Posted by MissKrabs

friends, cousins, ok i can see it. but dad? how can a parent be jelous of their own kid, that's another level of crazy.

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Posted by VenusAquarius

Posted by xXxBitcheroniiiXxX

Posted by VenusAquarius

Posted by xXxBitcheroniiiXxX

I think it's flattering.



Yasss bitch, envy me. Envy me from afar...

I admire people like you. My husband is the same way. He loves haters. Haters tickle him so.


But, I feel like y'all ain had those soap opera plots against y'all. I don't think y'all had to fight.


Don't get me wrong. My phobia will turn to disgust, then anger, and I've beat the shit out of 'em like a cockroach.

Lol girl I grew up fighting, but when it comes to "soap opera" type drama I've only ever really dealt with one situation that was similar to a soap opera.



Every other situation was me having to survive the streets and other situations that most people here can't relate to.



Also I don't think it's a coincidence that I've avoided soap opera situations and the majority of my life I've had mostly male friends.



Women are dramatic.

Haters are not in my personal circle, lol (with the exception of family members. Can't choose family)


I'm talking neighbors, co-workers, strangers, acquaintances...


I've had soap opera drama with a stranger.... a friend... naaaaaw, lol.


I was admiring what seemed to be your light attitude about jealousy. It's similar to my husbands.


@Undine, some haters will actually tell you they are jealous.

Jealousy is flattering.


All the women I've ever known had a lot of soap opera drama at some point in their lives and they all shared the same things in common.


1.) It involved someone they trusted.


2.) The person they trusted was usually a woman (excluding relationship drama).



They didn't know they had haters in their circle until shit hit the fan.


I just eat my popcorn and listen.

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Posted by MissKrabs

friends, cousins, ok i can see it. but dad? how can a parent be jelous of their own kid, that's another level of crazy.

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Posted by VenusAquarius

Posted by xXxBitcheroniiiXxX

Posted by VenusAquarius

Posted by xXxBitcheroniiiXxX

I think it's flattering.



Yasss bitch, envy me. Envy me from afar...

I admire people like you. My husband is the same way. He loves haters. Haters tickle him so.


But, I feel like y'all ain had those soap opera plots against y'all. I don't think y'all had to fight.


Don't get me wrong. My phobia will turn to disgust, then anger, and I've beat the shit out of 'em like a cockroach.

Lol girl I grew up fighting, but when it comes to "soap opera" type drama I've only ever really dealt with one situation that was similar to a soap opera.



Every other situation was me having to survive the streets and other situations that most people here can't relate to.



Also I don't think it's a coincidence that I've avoided soap opera situations and the majority of my life I've had mostly male friends.



Women are dramatic.

Haters are not in my personal circle, lol (with the exception of family members. Can't choose family)


I'm talking neighbors, co-workers, strangers, acquaintances...


I've had soap opera drama with a stranger.... a friend... naaaaaw, lol.


I was admiring what seemed to be your light attitude about jealousy. It's similar to my husbands.


@Undine, some haters will actually tell you they are jealous.

Jealousy is flattering.


All the women I've ever known had a lot of soap opera drama at some point in their lives and they all shared the same things in common.


1.) It involved someone they trusted.


2.) The person they trusted was usually a woman (excluding relationship drama).



They didn't know they had haters in their circle until shit hit the fan.


I just eat my popcorn and listen.

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Posted by Emhendo

Posted by xXxBitcheroniiiXxX

Posted by VenusAquarius

Posted by xXxBitcheroniiiXxX

Posted by VenusAquarius

Posted by xXxBitcheroniiiXxX

I think it's flattering.



Yasss bitch, envy me. Envy me from afar...

I admire people like you. My husband is the same way. He loves haters. Haters tickle him so.


But, I feel like y'all ain had those soap opera plots against y'all. I don't think y'all had to fight.


Don't get me wrong. My phobia will turn to disgust, then anger, and I've beat the shit out of 'em like a cockroach.

Lol girl I grew up fighting, but when it comes to "soap opera" type drama I've only ever really dealt with one situation that was similar to a soap opera.



Every other situation was me having to survive the streets and other situations that most people here can't relate to.



Also I don't think it's a coincidence that I've avoided soap opera situations and the majority of my life I've had mostly male friends.



Women are dramatic.

Haters are not in my personal circle, lol (with the exception of family members. Can't choose family)


I'm talking neighbors, co-workers, strangers, acquaintances...


I've had soap opera drama with a stranger.... a friend... naaaaaw, lol.


I was admiring what seemed to be your light attitude about jealousy. It's similar to my husbands.


@Undine, some haters will actually tell you they are jealous.

Jealousy is flattering.


All the women I've ever known had a lot of soap opera drama at some point in their lives and they all shared the same things in common.


1.) It involved someone they trusted.


2.) The person they trusted was usually a woman (excluding relationship drama).



They didn't know they had haters in their circle until shit hit the fan.


I just eat my popcorn and listen.

I disagree with the "jealousy is flattering" thing you telling VenusAquarius


I think imitation is flattering.. Teasing is flattering.. Nervous flatulence is flattering.


But that jealousy shit is straight up uncomfortable. It's stupid... Evil... Sick... Makes me wanna punch your fuckin ass in the face. Not say "awwww".


Cuz just the faces and the tone jealous people be using, and then they'll still be your friend - KNOWING they can't stand your ass...


Haters come and go, I can see why someone would enjoy a hater.

They hate on shit that's not even bad or you can genuinely talk shit about... Or they really don't like it and share they fuckin opinion - but if you like, it shouldn't matter what a hater think.. Then they fuckin leave. A hater probably not even really "jealous", some of the time.


A jealous person is just naturally this way though.It's pretty much a fuckin mental issue.. They get jealous very easily, and over shit you can't control. You might not be the only person they jealous of.


As @VenusAquarius said... Beauty, skin, cute kids, attractive partner... Just shit you can't control, shit that was a blessing.


Just shit like the way you walk, talk, your presence.. How clean you are... Just real stupid simple shit.. It's disgusting. It's snakeish.. You won't even know they envy you unless you observe them. 10/10 the jealous person will end up being obvious.. It don't take these retarded people long..


And it's fuckin sick cuz they be ready to fight you, cuss you out over small shit - because they never liked you that much in the first place, or even kill you.


Jealousy got Selena killed..

Jealousy killed Pac..

Jealousy killed Biggie..


Kenneka Jenkins died by jealousy..


Fuck jealous people.

But that's how I personally feel.



You can feel however you want about it.

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Posted by LadyNeptune

I have green eyes.

Smh your sugar baby privileges are now revoked.

Posted by Redbull

Actually I think Im a pro at detecting and handling it now. So much practice. I made a thread about it in Taurus forum. I noticed a lot of cartoonish and nonsensical detectable jealousy and saltiness coming to us so had to pull some cards so to speak like I sense whats going on or you wouldnt even go out of your way to try to down. Thats not going to stop me. Dont try to down because you feel down and dont like seeing others not down dont even try it you might get your feelings hurt even worse and its on you. Dont even embarrass and expose yourself because its easy to see through like "oh your salty and jealous" but its beyond that to personal levels too. Yeah I'll embarrass you because Ive seen it so much before. My thing is to stay above it and its like a kind of...validation that you are doing your thing.


Can get more tricky though to avoid getting involved in someones jealousy spiral so that can take navigation and like I said practice. Im focused on moving forward and minding my own.

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Posted by Emhendo

Posted by Redbull

Actually I think Im a pro at detecting and handling it now. So much practice. I made a thread about it in Taurus forum. I noticed a lot of cartoonish and nonsensical detectable jealousy and saltiness coming to us so had to pull some cards so to speak like I sense whats going on or you wouldnt even go out of your way to try to down. Thats not going to stop me. Dont try to down because you feel down and dont like seeing others not down dont even try it you might get your feelings hurt even worse and its on you. Dont even embarrass and expose yourself because its easy to see through like "oh your salty and jealous" but its beyond that to personal levels too. Yeah I'll embarrass you because Ive seen it so much before. My thing is to stay above it and its like a kind of...validation that you are doing your thing.


Can get more tricky though to avoid getting involved in someones jealousy spiral so that can take navigation and like I said practice. Im focused on moving forward and minding my own.

People jealous of Taurus 'cause ya'll don't give a fuck... Ya'll pull peoples card whether you end up losing or not... Ya'll just test the testes.


I admire Taurus for the bad assery... But I still can't fuck with Taurus too close, cuz you people get ignorant.. Throw an Aries Mercury on them, and I can't be around that Taurus.

This site honestly showed me that its more ridiculous than I ever thought. People dont seem to be able to take it and I get it. Cant stop wont stop its motivation if anything, and validation. People know this wont stop. So many reasons for the jealousy but to me life aint about that so I try to spread the vibes and blessings in their times. I fux with the Cancers generally impressive sign for real. Good topic just gotta keep it goin and doing you. Actually your pretty young for some of your realizations. Yeah take that jealousy somewhere before you get your feelings hurt haha. Freud was a Taurus once we get to analyzing we see through and know you more than you know you haha.

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Posted by GemLover

Are everybody with green eyes jealous of you?

Lol isn't jealousy called the green eyed monster, or something like that? Not literally green eyes. ;P

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Posted by Emhendo

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Posted by Emhendo

Posted by xXxBitcheroniiiXxX

Posted by VenusAquarius

Posted by xXxBitcheroniiiXxX

Posted by VenusAquarius

Posted by xXxBitcheroniiiXxX

I think it's flattering.



Yasss bitch, envy me. Envy me from afar...

I admire people like you. My husband is the same way. He loves haters. Haters tickle him so.


But, I feel like y'all ain had those soap opera plots against y'all. I don't think y'all had to fight.


Don't get me wrong. My phobia will turn to disgust, then anger, and I've beat the shit out of 'em like a cockroach.

Lol girl I grew up fighting, but when it comes to "soap opera" type drama I've only ever really dealt with one situation that was similar to a soap opera.



Every other situation was me having to survive the streets and other situations that most people here can't relate to.



Also I don't think it's a coincidence that I've avoided soap opera situations and the majority of my life I've had mostly male friends.



Women are dramatic.

Haters are not in my personal circle, lol (with the exception of family members. Can't choose family)


I'm talking neighbors, co-workers, strangers, acquaintances...


I've had soap opera drama with a stranger.... a friend... naaaaaw, lol.


I was admiring what seemed to be your light attitude about jealousy. It's similar to my husbands.


@Undine, some haters will actually tell you they are jealous.

Jealousy is flattering.


All the women I've ever known had a lot of soap opera drama at some point in their lives and they all shared the same things in common.


1.) It involved someone they trusted.


2.) The person they trusted was usually a woman (excluding relationship drama).



They didn't know they had haters in their circle until shit hit the fan.


I just eat my popcorn and listen.

I disagree with the "jealousy is flattering" thing you telling VenusAquarius


I think imitation is flattering.. Teasing is flattering.. Nervous flatulence is flattering.


But that jealousy shit is straight up uncomfortable. It's stupid... Evil... Sick... Makes me wanna punch your fuckin ass in the face. Not say "awwww".


Cuz just the faces and the tone jealous people be using, and then they'll still be your friend - KNOWING they can't stand your ass...


Haters come and go, I can see why someone would enjoy a hater.

They hate on shit that's not even bad or you can genuinely talk shit about... Or they really don't like it and share they fuckin opinion - but if you like, it shouldn't matter what a hater think.. Then they fuckin leave. A hater probably not even really "jealous", some of the time.


A jealous person is just naturally this way though.It's pretty much a fuckin mental issue.. They get jealous very easily, and over shit you can't control. You might not be the only person they jealous of.


As @VenusAquarius said... Beauty, skin, cute kids, attractive partner... Just shit you can't control, shit that was a blessing.


Just shit like the way you walk, talk, your presence.. How clean you are... Just real stupid simple shit.. It's disgusting. It's snakeish.. You won't even know they envy you unless you observe them. 10/10 the jealous person will end up being obvious.. It don't take these retarded people long..


And it's fuckin sick cuz they be ready to fight you, cuss you out over small shit - because they never liked you that much in the first place, or even kill you.


Jealousy got Selena killed..

Jealousy killed Pac..

Jealousy killed Biggie..


Kenneka Jenkins died by jealousy..


Fuck jealous people.

But that's how I personally feel.



You can feel however you want about it.

I was just saying I disagree. I know my views are my own, and yours are your own.. Thank you.

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Posted by VenusAquarius

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Posted by VenusAquarius

Posted by xXxBitcheroniiiXxX

Posted by VenusAquarius

Posted by xXxBitcheroniiiXxX

I think it's flattering.



Yasss bitch, envy me. Envy me from afar...

I admire people like you. My husband is the same way. He loves haters. Haters tickle him so.


But, I feel like y'all ain had those soap opera plots against y'all. I don't think y'all had to fight.


Don't get me wrong. My phobia will turn to disgust, then anger, and I've beat the shit out of 'em like a cockroach.

Lol girl I grew up fighting, but when it comes to "soap opera" type drama I've only ever really dealt with one situation that was similar to a soap opera.



Every other situation was me having to survive the streets and other situations that most people here can't relate to.



Also I don't think it's a coincidence that I've avoided soap opera situations and the majority of my life I've had mostly male friends.



Women are dramatic.

Haters are not in my personal circle, lol (with the exception of family members. Can't choose family)


I'm talking neighbors, co-workers, strangers, acquaintances...


I've had soap opera drama with a stranger.... a friend... naaaaaw, lol.


I was admiring what seemed to be your light attitude about jealousy. It's similar to my husbands.


@Undine, some haters will actually tell you they are jealous.

Jealousy is flattering.


All the women I've ever known had a lot of soap opera drama at some point in their lives and they all shared the same things in common.


1.) It involved someone they trusted.


2.) The person they trusted was usually a woman (excluding relationship drama).



They didn't know they had haters in their circle until shit hit the fan.


I just eat my popcorn and listen.

With having a phobia of jealousy, I haven't made that mistake.

What signs do you look for?


What do you consider red flags?

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Posted by Redbull

Posted by Emhendo

Posted by Redbull

Actually I think Im a pro at detecting and handling it now. So much practice. I made a thread about it in Taurus forum. I noticed a lot of cartoonish and nonsensical detectable jealousy and saltiness coming to us so had to pull some cards so to speak like I sense whats going on or you wouldnt even go out of your way to try to down. Thats not going to stop me. Dont try to down because you feel down and dont like seeing others not down dont even try it you might get your feelings hurt even worse and its on you. Dont even embarrass and expose yourself because its easy to see through like "oh your salty and jealous" but its beyond that to personal levels too. Yeah I'll embarrass you because Ive seen it so much before. My thing is to stay above it and its like a kind of...validation that you are doing your thing.


Can get more tricky though to avoid getting involved in someones jealousy spiral so that can take navigation and like I said practice. Im focused on moving forward and minding my own.

People jealous of Taurus 'cause ya'll don't give a fuck... Ya'll pull peoples card whether you end up losing or not... Ya'll just test the testes.


I admire Taurus for the bad assery... But I still can't fuck with Taurus too close, cuz you people get ignorant.. Throw an Aries Mercury on them, and I can't be around that Taurus.

This site honestly showed me that its more ridiculous than I ever thought. People dont seem to be able to take it and I get it. Cant stop wont stop its motivation if anything, and validation. People know this wont stop. So many reasons for the jealousy but to me life aint about that so I try to spread the vibes and blessings in their times. I fux with the Cancers generally impressive sign for real. Good topic just gotta keep it goin and doing you. Actually your pretty young for some of your realizations. Yeah take that jealousy somewhere before you get your feelings hurt haha. Freud was a Taurus once we get to analyzing we see through and know you more than you know you haha.

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Posted by VenusAquarius

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Posted by VenusAquarius

Posted by xXxBitcheroniiiXxX

Posted by VenusAquarius

Posted by xXxBitcheroniiiXxX

I think it's flattering.



Yasss bitch, envy me. Envy me from afar...

I admire people like you. My husband is the same way. He loves haters. Haters tickle him so.


But, I feel like y'all ain had those soap opera plots against y'all. I don't think y'all had to fight.


Don't get me wrong. My phobia will turn to disgust, then anger, and I've beat the shit out of 'em like a cockroach.

Lol girl I grew up fighting, but when it comes to "soap opera" type drama I've only ever really dealt with one situation that was similar to a soap opera.



Every other situation was me having to survive the streets and other situations that most people here can't relate to.



Also I don't think it's a coincidence that I've avoided soap opera situations and the majority of my life I've had mostly male friends.



Women are dramatic.

Haters are not in my personal circle, lol (with the exception of family members. Can't choose family)


I'm talking neighbors, co-workers, strangers, acquaintances...


I've had soap opera drama with a stranger.... a friend... naaaaaw, lol.


I was admiring what seemed to be your light attitude about jealousy. It's similar to my husbands.


@Undine, some haters will actually tell you they are jealous.

Jealousy is flattering.


All the women I've ever known had a lot of soap opera drama at some point in their lives and they all shared the same things in common.


1.) It involved someone they trusted.


2.) The person they trusted was usually a woman (excluding relationship drama).



They didn't know they had haters in their circle until shit hit the fan.


I just eat my popcorn and listen.

With having a phobia of jealousy, I haven't made that mistake.

What signs do you look for?


What do you consider red flags?

Because of my fear of jealousy, it's not something I look for. But, when I encounter it, my "trigger finger" starts itching. My sesnses scream danger.


I'm a very good energy reader. (Plus, my husband will also tell me.)


Some people are so obvious either they're dumb or they think I am.


Sometimes it ain't about me. Jealousy is sometimes a character flaw they carry around 24/7. I just happened to come along or enter their radar.


Ultimately, my love language applies to friendships as well. My friends must love me like my spouse does. I can tell love... those that love me peep my love language and show me... to include friends. I don't see people that don't speak my love language. They could try to get close to me but, I don't take them seriously, and they can't get near unless they love me, i.e, speaking my love langauge... male or female.


Love me or leave me alone.


Sidenote of strange:

I'm down with women who are bi... like me. Bi is like natural cool ass down for whatevs type people for the most part. I like hoes too... lol, same reason. I can seduce some hating ass females, lol (not for sex)... I show 'em love, tenderness, how attractive they are... tease 'em. Make 'em feel special, but, be like "but you so pretty baby." But, if she don't start speaking my love language, she'll fade awaaaaaay, lol.


I also like societal rejects.


I find basic bitches and dummies dangerous.

Yeah I get that. I'm the same way.



Only difference is I get amusement from keeping jealous bitches just close enough to me to where they can't hurt me, but they can see me happy.



I can smell jealousy a mile away. I bask in it.

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Posted by torothebull02

i have an issue , someone that i have to interact with on a weekly basis has shown signs of being jealous. such as making comments as to why i finished some work at my own time, ahead of schedule, etc. i cannot avoid them because they are in the same work team. can anyone give some advice about how to go about this interaction in future scenarios?


example: they asked me why im an overachiever? (i completed my work on time)

i let that question slide, moths pass and i receive good news about some work project. i asked them if i am still an overachiever? they acted like they didnt know what i was talking about. i proceeded to remind them, they apologized if they made me feel bad, i said i did not feel bad, it seemed like they felt bad. they sort of had no answer.

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Posted by torothebull02

i have an issue , someone that i have to interact with on a weekly basis has shown signs of being jealous. such as making comments as to why i finished some work at my own time, ahead of schedule, etc. i cannot avoid them because they are in the same work team. can anyone give some advice about how to go about this interaction in future scenarios?


example: they asked me why im an overachiever? (i completed my work on time)

i let that question slide, moths pass and i receive good news about some work project. i asked them if i am still an overachiever? they acted like they didnt know what i was talking about. i proceeded to remind them, they apologized if they made me feel bad, i said i did not feel bad, it seemed like they felt bad. they sort of had no answer.

Simply tell them "get the fuck off my case"... I don't care who they are. If you don't live with them, if they don't feed you and clothe you.. They shouldn't be all in your shit, and you don't have to answer to them..


You could also simply say "well, I don't know how to answer that.. So I'ma change the subject"


Just ignore shit like that... Make an "are you serious?" kind of face.. Make them feel dumb and keep it the fuck moving.

thank you for replying. should i mirror their behavior when they ask me things like that, like a clapback? i have began stopping them in their tracks when they attempt to act that way, turns out they dont like it much. hm, why the hell would they think it is ok for it to be done to me? lol

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I think it's flattering.



Yasss bitch, envy me. Envy me from afar...

I admire people like you. My husband is the same way. He loves haters. Haters tickle him so.


But, I feel like y'all ain had those soap opera plots against y'all. I don't think y'all had to fight.


Don't get me wrong. My phobia will turn to disgust, then anger, and I've beat the shit out of 'em like a cockroach.

Lol girl I grew up fighting, but when it comes to "soap opera" type drama I've only ever really dealt with one situation that was similar to a soap opera.



Every other situation was me having to survive the streets and other situations that most people here can't relate to.



Also I don't think it's a coincidence that I've avoided soap opera situations and the majority of my life I've had mostly male friends.



Women are dramatic.

Haters are not in my personal circle, lol (with the exception of family members. Can't choose family)


I'm talking neighbors, co-workers, strangers, acquaintances...


I've had soap opera drama with a stranger.... a friend... naaaaaw, lol.


I was admiring what seemed to be your light attitude about jealousy. It's similar to my husbands.


@Undine, some haters will actually tell you they are jealous.

Jealousy is flattering.


All the women I've ever known had a lot of soap opera drama at some point in their lives and they all shared the same things in common.


1.) It involved someone they trusted.


2.) The person they trusted was usually a woman (excluding relationship drama).



They didn't know they had haters in their circle until shit hit the fan.


I just eat my popcorn and listen.

With having a phobia of jealousy, I haven't made that mistake.

What signs do you look for?


What do you consider red flags?

Because of my fear of jealousy, it's not something I look for. But, when I encounter it, my "trigger finger" starts itching. My sesnses scream danger.


I'm a very good energy reader. (Plus, my husband will also tell me.)


Some people are so obvious either they're dumb or they think I am.


Sometimes it ain't about me. Jealousy is sometimes a character flaw they carry around 24/7. I just happened to come along or enter their radar.


Ultimately, my love language applies to friendships as well. My friends must love me like my spouse does. I can tell love... those that love me peep my love language and show me... to include friends. I don't see people that don't speak my love language. They could try to get close to me but, I don't take them seriously, and they can't get near unless they love me, i.e, speaking my love langauge... male or female.


Love me or leave me alone.


Sidenote of strange:

I'm down with women who are bi... like me. Bi is like natural cool ass down for whatevs type people for the most part. I like hoes too... lol, same reason. I can seduce some hating ass females, lol (not for sex)... I show 'em love, tenderness, how attractive they are... tease 'em. Make 'em feel special, but, be like "but you so pretty baby." But, if she don't start speaking my love language, she'll fade awaaaaaay, lol.


I also like societal rejects.


I find basic bitches and dummies dangerous.

Yeah I get that. I'm the same way.



Only difference is I get amusement from keeping jealous bitches just close enough to me to where they can't hurt me, but they can see me happy.



I can smell jealousy a mile away. I bask in it.

I wanna learn to bask in it. My Cap aunt says it plagues me cause I don't bask in it.

I think Drake hit the nail on the head when he described jealousy as love and hate at the same time.


That's exactly what it is.



Knowing that, I appreciate the love and ignore the hate.

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i have an issue , someone that i have to interact with on a weekly basis has shown signs of being jealous. such as making comments as to why i finished some work at my own time, ahead of schedule, etc. i cannot avoid them because they are in the same work team. can anyone give some advice about how to go about this interaction in future scenarios?


example: they asked me why im an overachiever? (i completed my work on time)

i let that question slide, moths pass and i receive good news about some work project. i asked them if i am still an overachiever? they acted like they didnt know what i was talking about. i proceeded to remind them, they apologized if they made me feel bad, i said i did not feel bad, it seemed like they felt bad. they sort of had no answer.

Simply tell them "get the fuck off my case"... I don't care who they are. If you don't live with them, if they don't feed you and clothe you.. They shouldn't be all in your shit, and you don't have to answer to them..


You could also simply say "well, I don't know how to answer that.. So I'ma change the subject"


Just ignore shit like that... Make an "are you serious?" kind of face.. Make them feel dumb and keep it the fuck moving.

thank you for replying. should i mirror their behavior when they ask me things like that, like a clapback? i have began stopping them in their tracks when they attempt to act that way, turns out they dont like it much. hm, why the hell would they think it is ok for it to be done to me? lol

Can't resist the feels.

ahh i would like your input as well if thats ok

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Posted by torothebull02

i have an issue , someone that i have to interact with on a weekly basis has shown signs of being jealous. such as making comments as to why i finished some work at my own time, ahead of schedule, etc. i cannot avoid them because they are in the same work team. can anyone give some advice about how to go about this interaction in future scenarios?


example: they asked me why im an overachiever? (i completed my work on time)

i let that question slide, moths pass and i receive good news about some work project. i asked them if i am still an overachiever? they acted like they didnt know what i was talking about. i proceeded to remind them, they apologized if they made me feel bad, i said i did not feel bad, it seemed like they felt bad. they sort of had no answer.

Simply tell them "get the fuck off my case"... I don't care who they are. If you don't live with them, if they don't feed you and clothe you.. They shouldn't be all in your shit, and you don't have to answer to them..


You could also simply say "well, I don't know how to answer that.. So I'ma change the subject"


Just ignore shit like that... Make an "are you serious?" kind of face.. Make them feel dumb and keep it the fuck moving.

thank you for replying. should i mirror their behavior when they ask me things like that, like a clapback? i have began stopping them in their tracks when they attempt to act that way, turns out they dont like it much. hm, why the hell would they think it is ok for it to be done to me? lol

Can't resist the feels.

ahh i would like your input as well if thats ok

I agree with @emhendo.


I ain't no expert expert. As I said, I have a phobia. I try to steady myself and strategize their future moves and strategy is intricately situational and person specific.

you said listening to rap music helps? this is very person specific. i dont want to downplay myself or change who i because of them as emhendo mentioned in their post either. if i were to change that would be them trying to bull me in a way. you mentioned a classmate was confrontational. if you dont mind me asking, how did you cope with that stressful situation when you knew you had to see them again?

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Posted by torothebull02

i have an issue , someone that i have to interact with on a weekly basis has shown signs of being jealous. such as making comments as to why i finished some work at my own time, ahead of schedule, etc. i cannot avoid them because they are in the same work team. can anyone give some advice about how to go about this interaction in future scenarios?


example: they asked me why im an overachiever? (i completed my work on time)

i let that question slide, moths pass and i receive good news about some work project. i asked them if i am still an overachiever? they acted like they didnt know what i was talking about. i proceeded to remind them, they apologized if they made me feel bad, i said i did not feel bad, it seemed like they felt bad. they sort of had no answer.

Simply tell them "get the fuck off my case"... I don't care who they are. If you don't live with them, if they don't feed you and clothe you.. They shouldn't be all in your shit, and you don't have to answer to them..


You could also simply say "well, I don't know how to answer that.. So I'ma change the subject"


Just ignore shit like that... Make an "are you serious?" kind of face.. Make them feel dumb and keep it the fuck moving.

thank you for replying. should i mirror their behavior when they ask me things like that, like a clapback? i have began stopping them in their tracks when they attempt to act that way, turns out they dont like it much. hm, why the hell would they think it is ok for it to be done to me? lol

Can't resist the feels.

ahh i would like your input as well if thats ok

I agree with @emhendo.


I ain't no expert expert. As I said, I have a phobia. I try to steady myself and strategize their future moves and strategy is intricately situational and person specific.

you said listening to rap music helps? this is very person specific. i dont want to downplay myself or change who i because of them as emhendo mentioned in their post either. if i were to change that would be them trying to bull me in a way. you mentioned a classmate was confrontational. if you dont mind me asking, how did you cope with that stressful situation when you knew you had to see them again?

It wasn't a classmate, it was one of the instructors. He embarrassed hisself by acting confrontational and full of emotion cause he was wrong. I let him make a fool of himself. With emotional people, you let them explode on themselves. As luck would have it, the other instructor stepped in to check him.


I am a defense developer. Power plays the number element in strategy. Who has it me or them. These are usually easy because I will set them up to fuck themselves. Power is equal... I just stay away completely... won't recognize their existence.


I had a jealous co-worker cry out of jealousy. She thought she was competing with me for a promotion. She knew I was better and smarter than her. I was training her and she was lazy, greedy, and materialistic.


We never really spoke outside of her questions on how to the job.


I tried to tell her the place was racist. She kept temperature checking me, telling me her ranking in the interviews even though neither of us got the job. Meanwhile I got a promotion somewhere else but didn't tell anyone.


So, one day... one week before my secret depature, still training her, her not paying .. she wasn't paying attention while I was training her. I said, "look, you gotta get all the knowledge from me while you can. This is my last week." She stopped and looked up at me with a big smile yet her eyes started filling up with tears. They were about to spill. She asked me if I got a promotion and where. And, she looked ridiculous with jealousy... big fake smile and eyes full of tears. Nothing to do about her jealousy.


For those of equal power, all I have to do is keep being myself. That's what bothers them my achievement and my teflon stance.


If me being doing making you mad, that's all I gotta do.


I plan for those saboteurs. That's intricate and you gotta be good at chess. But, I rather just beat their ass.


Some haters are violent but, I hadn't met a woman more violent than me yet or that can shoot better than me. Last fight was 8 or so years ago. Big bitch too. I don't want to but, once it's on, I really enjoy it.

as a professor and acting that childish, its incredible. i cant belive people like that are able to get so far...


respect everything you said makes total sense. i just gotta focus on me and do what i need to do, not fall into distractions its tricky when emotions get involved. have to learn to check that.


you mentioned "I am a defense developer. Power plays the number element in strategy. Who has it me or them. These are usually easy because I will set them up to fuck themselves. Power is equal... I just stay away completely... won't recognize their existence." mind elaborating what defense developer means, are you a literal defense developer or is that the way you go about people acting jealous with you?

so if there is equal power just ignore them? and if they are more powerfu just let them play it out until the game runs it course?

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Jealousy is a secondary emotion. Put there by social pressures which are everywhere.

The root emotion is fear.

is this true?

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i have an issue , someone that i have to interact with on a weekly basis has shown signs of being jealous. such as making comments as to why i finished some work at my own time, ahead of schedule, etc. i cannot avoid them because they are in the same work team. can anyone give some advice about how to go about this interaction in future scenarios?


example: they asked me why im an overachiever? (i completed my work on time)

i let that question slide, moths pass and i receive good news about some work project. i asked them if i am still an overachiever? they acted like they didnt know what i was talking about. i proceeded to remind them, they apologized if they made me feel bad, i said i did not feel bad, it seemed like they felt bad. they sort of had no answer.

Simply tell them "get the fuck off my case"... I don't care who they are. If you don't live with them, if they don't feed you and clothe you.. They shouldn't be all in your shit, and you don't have to answer to them..


You could also simply say "well, I don't know how to answer that.. So I'ma change the subject"


Just ignore shit like that... Make an "are you serious?" kind of face.. Make them feel dumb and keep it the fuck moving.

thank you for replying. should i mirror their behavior when they ask me things like that, like a clapback? i have began stopping them in their tracks when they attempt to act that way, turns out they dont like it much. hm, why the hell would they think it is ok for it to be done to me? lol

Can't resist the feels.

ahh i would like your input as well if thats ok

I agree with @emhendo.


I ain't no expert expert. As I said, I have a phobia. I try to steady myself and strategize their future moves and strategy is intricately situational and person specific.

you said listening to rap music helps? this is very person specific. i dont want to downplay myself or change who i because of them as emhendo mentioned in their post either. if i were to change that would be them trying to bull me in a way. you mentioned a classmate was confrontational. if you dont mind me asking, how did you cope with that stressful situation when you knew you had to see them again?

It wasn't a classmate, it was one of the instructors. He embarrassed hisself by acting confrontational and full of emotion cause he was wrong. I let him make a fool of himself. With emotional people, you let them explode on themselves. As luck would have it, the other instructor stepped in to check him.


I am a defense developer. Power plays the number element in strategy. Who has it me or them. These are usually easy because I will set them up to fuck themselves. Power is equal... I just stay away completely... won't recognize their existence.


I had a jealous co-worker cry out of jealousy. She thought she was competing with me for a promotion. She knew I was better and smarter than her. I was training her and she was lazy, greedy, and materialistic.


We never really spoke outside of her questions on how to the job.


I tried to tell her the place was racist. She kept temperature checking me, telling me her ranking in the interviews even though neither of us got the job. Meanwhile I got a promotion somewhere else but didn't tell anyone.


So, one day... one week before my secret depature, still training her, her not paying .. she wasn't paying attention while I was training her. I said, "look, you gotta get all the knowledge from me while you can. This is my last week." She stopped and looked up at me with a big smile yet her eyes started filling up with tears. They were about to spill. She asked me if I got a promotion and where. And, she looked ridiculous with jealousy... big fake smile and eyes full of tears. Nothing to do about her jealousy.


For those of equal power, all I have to do is keep being myself. That's what bothers them my achievement and my teflon stance.


If me being doing making you mad, that's all I gotta do.


I plan for those saboteurs. That's intricate and you gotta be good at chess. But, I rather just beat their ass.


Some haters are violent but, I hadn't met a woman more violent than me yet or that can shoot better than me. Last fight was 8 or so years ago. Big bitch too. I don't want to but, once it's on, I really enjoy it.

as a professor and acting that childish, its incredible. i cant belive people like that are able to get so far...


respect everything you said makes total sense. i just gotta focus on me and do what i need to do, not fall into distractions its tricky when emotions get involved. have to learn to check that.


you mentioned "I am a defense developer. Power plays the number element in strategy. Who has it me or them. These are usually easy because I will set them up to fuck themselves. Power is equal... I just stay away completely... won't recognize their existence." mind elaborating what defense developer means, are you a literal defense developer or is that the way you go about people acting jealous with you?

so if there is equal power just ignore them? and if they are more powerfu just let them play it out until the game runs it course?

When I say I'm a "defensive developer" was speaking figuratively. I'm really good at defense. That's the way I fight any battle, "walk into my fist," also figuratively speaking. I feel it's a righteous win when I play defense. Plus, I bring "the hammer" so, I gotta give 'em a chance to stop themselves so I don't feel guilty about what I'm about to do.


If you have the power, you have to be real slow to not be able smash a hater.


If you don't have the power, you have to set them up. Pay attention and be thoroughly aware of controlling the situation in invisible ways... time, space (if a physical situation), audience, garner hidden support, connections, document, be prepared for litugation, etc. So, when the powerful one comes for you, they are walking onto a stage you created and they ain even know it.


Equal power stay away. Don't engage, provoke, question, talk, chit-chat... invisible. Why be around them? But, if they try you... gotta stay a couple moves ahead. Usually achievement is your teflon.


I'm trying to keep a hating ass male co-worker out my office. He just plops his hating ass in my guest chair. He saw me putting on lipstick turned away from the door and he still sat his woman-hatin' ass down. Cubicles have an advantage. I'mma just walk out on his ass.


As far as rap, it cheers successful people on and shares the annoyance of haters... and stories of overcoming jealousy.


For example, Lil Wayne's "Bill Gates" lyrics...

"It go dark a** shades, I can't see them haters

Now eat these f***in' bullets, don't forget to tip the waiter

still I do not give you motherfuckers the time of day

pistol in your mouth I cannot make out what you tryna say

and if they want a war, then tell them mother fuckers bombs away

All these bitches and niggas still hatin’

I used to be a baller but now I’m Bill Gaten’

got a list full of problems, I tend to em later

yeah life is a bitch but I appreciate em man"




I thought you posted on my "Money Making Motivational" thread?" That thread happens to full of anti-jealousy music.

i will check that thread out i dont think i have ran into it just yet.

not sure what a teflon is.

you really know how to break it down and see the situation for what it is, thats really amazing. whats your sun sign?

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i have an issue , someone that i have to interact with on a weekly basis has shown signs of being jealous. such as making comments as to why i finished some work at my own time, ahead of schedule, etc. i cannot avoid them because they are in the same work team. can anyone give some advice about how to go about this interaction in future scenarios?


example: they asked me why im an overachiever? (i completed my work on time)

i let that question slide, moths pass and i receive good news about some work project. i asked them if i am still an overachiever? they acted like they didnt know what i was talking about. i proceeded to remind them, they apologized if they made me feel bad, i said i did not feel bad, it seemed like they felt bad. they sort of had no answer.

Simply tell them "get the fuck off my case"... I don't care who they are. If you don't live with them, if they don't feed you and clothe you.. They shouldn't be all in your shit, and you don't have to answer to them..


You could also simply say "well, I don't know how to answer that.. So I'ma change the subject"


Just ignore shit like that... Make an "are you serious?" kind of face.. Make them feel dumb and keep it the fuck moving.

thank you for replying. should i mirror their behavior when they ask me things like that, like a clapback? i have began stopping them in their tracks when they attempt to act that way, turns out they dont like it much. hm, why the hell would they think it is ok for it to be done to me? lol

Can't resist the feels.

ahh i would like your input as well if thats ok

I agree with @emhendo.


I ain't no expert expert. As I said, I have a phobia. I try to steady myself and strategize their future moves and strategy is intricately situational and person specific.

you said listening to rap music helps? this is very person specific. i dont want to downplay myself or change who i because of them as emhendo mentioned in their post either. if i were to change that would be them trying to bull me in a way. you mentioned a classmate was confrontational. if you dont mind me asking, how did you cope with that stressful situation when you knew you had to see them again?

It wasn't a classmate, it was one of the instructors. He embarrassed hisself by acting confrontational and full of emotion cause he was wrong. I let him make a fool of himself. With emotional people, you let them explode on themselves. As luck would have it, the other instructor stepped in to check him.


I am a defense developer. Power plays the number element in strategy. Who has it me or them. These are usually easy because I will set them up to fuck themselves. Power is equal... I just stay away completely... won't recognize their existence.


I had a jealous co-worker cry out of jealousy. She thought she was competing with me for a promotion. She knew I was better and smarter than her. I was training her and she was lazy, greedy, and materialistic.


We never really spoke outside of her questions on how to the job.


I tried to tell her the place was racist. She kept temperature checking me, telling me her ranking in the interviews even though neither of us got the job. Meanwhile I got a promotion somewhere else but didn't tell anyone.


So, one day... one week before my secret depature, still training her, her not paying .. she wasn't paying attention while I was training her. I said, "look, you gotta get all the knowledge from me while you can. This is my last week." She stopped and looked up at me with a big smile yet her eyes started filling up with tears. They were about to spill. She asked me if I got a promotion and where. And, she looked ridiculous with jealousy... big fake smile and eyes full of tears. Nothing to do about her jealousy.


For those of equal power, all I have to do is keep being myself. That's what bothers them my achievement and my teflon stance.


If me being doing making you mad, that's all I gotta do.


I plan for those saboteurs. That's intricate and you gotta be good at chess. But, I rather just beat their ass.


Some haters are violent but, I hadn't met a woman more violent than me yet or that can shoot better than me. Last fight was 8 or so years ago. Big bitch too. I don't want to but, once it's on, I really enjoy it.

as a professor and acting that childish, its incredible. i cant belive people like that are able to get so far...


respect everything you said makes total sense. i just gotta focus on me and do what i need to do, not fall into distractions its tricky when emotions get involved. have to learn to check that.


you mentioned "I am a defense developer. Power plays the number element in strategy. Who has it me or them. These are usually easy because I will set them up to fuck themselves. Power is equal... I just stay away completely... won't recognize their existence." mind elaborating what defense developer means, are you a literal defense developer or is that the way you go about people acting jealous with you?

so if there is equal power just ignore them? and if they are more powerfu just let them play it out until the game runs it course?

When I say I'm a "defensive developer" was speaking figuratively. I'm really good at defense. That's the way I fight any battle, "walk into my fist," also figuratively speaking. I feel it's a righteous win when I play defense. Plus, I bring "the hammer" so, I gotta give 'em a chance to stop themselves so I don't feel guilty about what I'm about to do.


If you have the power, you have to be real slow to not be able smash a hater.


If you don't have the power, you have to set them up. Pay attention and be thoroughly aware of controlling the situation in invisible ways... time, space (if a physical situation), audience, garner hidden support, connections, document, be prepared for litugation, etc. So, when the powerful one comes for you, they are walking onto a stage you created and they ain even know it.


Equal power stay away. Don't engage, provoke, question, talk, chit-chat... invisible. Why be around them? But, if they try you... gotta stay a couple moves ahead. Usually achievement is your teflon.


I'm trying to keep a hating ass male co-worker out my office. He just plops his hating ass in my guest chair. He saw me putting on lipstick turned away from the door and he still sat his woman-hatin' ass down. Cubicles have an advantage. I'mma just walk out on his ass.


As far as rap, it cheers successful people on and shares the annoyance of haters... and stories of overcoming jealousy.


For example, Lil Wayne's "Bill Gates" lyrics...

"It go dark a** shades, I can't see them haters

Now eat these f***in' bullets, don't forget to tip the waiter

still I do not give you motherfuckers the time of day

pistol in your mouth I cannot make out what you tryna say

and if they want a war, then tell them mother fuckers bombs away

All these bitches and niggas still hatin’

I used to be a baller but now I’m Bill Gaten’

got a list full of problems, I tend to em later

yeah life is a bitch but I appreciate em man"




I thought you posted on my "Money Making Motivational" thread?" That thread happens to full of anti-jealousy music.

i will check that thread out i dont think i have ran into it just yet.

not sure what a teflon is.

you really know how to break it down and see the situation for what it is, thats really amazing. whats your sun sign?

I'm the Sun sign that is exalted in the Sun.


Teflon:

a tough synthetic resin made by polymerizing tetrafluoroethylene, chiefly used to coat nonstick cooking utensils and to make seals and bearings.


Made for heat cause shit don't stick.

youre a Leo?

teflon, like water rolling off a feather?

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i have an issue , someone that i have to interact with on a weekly basis has shown signs of being jealous. such as making comments as to why i finished some work at my own time, ahead of schedule, etc. i cannot avoid them because they are in the same work team. can anyone give some advice about how to go about this interaction in future scenarios?


example: they asked me why im an overachiever? (i completed my work on time)

i let that question slide, moths pass and i receive good news about some work project. i asked them if i am still an overachiever? they acted like they didnt know what i was talking about. i proceeded to remind them, they apologized if they made me feel bad, i said i did not feel bad, it seemed like they felt bad. they sort of had no answer.

Simply tell them "get the fuck off my case"... I don't care who they are. If you don't live with them, if they don't feed you and clothe you.. They shouldn't be all in your shit, and you don't have to answer to them..


You could also simply say "well, I don't know how to answer that.. So I'ma change the subject"


Just ignore shit like that... Make an "are you serious?" kind of face.. Make them feel dumb and keep it the fuck moving.

thank you for replying. should i mirror their behavior when they ask me things like that, like a clapback? i have began stopping them in their tracks when they attempt to act that way, turns out they dont like it much. hm, why the hell would they think it is ok for it to be done to me? lol

Can't resist the feels.

ahh i would like your input as well if thats ok

I agree with @emhendo.


I ain't no expert expert. As I said, I have a phobia. I try to steady myself and strategize their future moves and strategy is intricately situational and person specific.

you said listening to rap music helps? this is very person specific. i dont want to downplay myself or change who i because of them as emhendo mentioned in their post either. if i were to change that would be them trying to bull me in a way. you mentioned a classmate was confrontational. if you dont mind me asking, how did you cope with that stressful situation when you knew you had to see them again?

It wasn't a classmate, it was one of the instructors. He embarrassed hisself by acting confrontational and full of emotion cause he was wrong. I let him make a fool of himself. With emotional people, you let them explode on themselves. As luck would have it, the other instructor stepped in to check him.


I am a defense developer. Power plays the number element in strategy. Who has it me or them. These are usually easy because I will set them up to fuck themselves. Power is equal... I just stay away completely... won't recognize their existence.


I had a jealous co-worker cry out of jealousy. She thought she was competing with me for a promotion. She knew I was better and smarter than her. I was training her and she was lazy, greedy, and materialistic.


We never really spoke outside of her questions on how to the job.


I tried to tell her the place was racist. She kept temperature checking me, telling me her ranking in the interviews even though neither of us got the job. Meanwhile I got a promotion somewhere else but didn't tell anyone.


So, one day... one week before my secret depature, still training her, her not paying .. she wasn't paying attention while I was training her. I said, "look, you gotta get all the knowledge from me while you can. This is my last week." She stopped and looked up at me with a big smile yet her eyes started filling up with tears. They were about to spill. She asked me if I got a promotion and where. And, she looked ridiculous with jealousy... big fake smile and eyes full of tears. Nothing to do about her jealousy.


For those of equal power, all I have to do is keep being myself. That's what bothers them my achievement and my teflon stance.


If me being doing making you mad, that's all I gotta do.


I plan for those saboteurs. That's intricate and you gotta be good at chess. But, I rather just beat their ass.


Some haters are violent but, I hadn't met a woman more violent than me yet or that can shoot better than me. Last fight was 8 or so years ago. Big bitch too. I don't want to but, once it's on, I really enjoy it.

as a professor and acting that childish, its incredible. i cant belive people like that are able to get so far...


respect everything you said makes total sense. i just gotta focus on me and do what i need to do, not fall into distractions its tricky when emotions get involved. have to learn to check that.


you mentioned "I am a defense developer. Power plays the number element in strategy. Who has it me or them. These are usually easy because I will set them up to fuck themselves. Power is equal... I just stay away completely... won't recognize their existence." mind elaborating what defense developer means, are you a literal defense developer or is that the way you go about people acting jealous with you?

so if there is equal power just ignore them? and if they are more powerfu just let them play it out until the game runs it course?

When I say I'm a "defensive developer" was speaking figuratively. I'm really good at defense. That's the way I fight any battle, "walk into my fist," also figuratively speaking. I feel it's a righteous win when I play defense. Plus, I bring "the hammer" so, I gotta give 'em a chance to stop themselves so I don't feel guilty about what I'm about to do.


If you have the power, you have to be real slow to not be able smash a hater.


If you don't have the power, you have to set them up. Pay attention and be thoroughly aware of controlling the situation in invisible ways... time, space (if a physical situation), audience, garner hidden support, connections, document, be prepared for litugation, etc. So, when the powerful one comes for you, they are walking onto a stage you created and they ain even know it.


Equal power stay away. Don't engage, provoke, question, talk, chit-chat... invisible. Why be around them? But, if they try you... gotta stay a couple moves ahead. Usually achievement is your teflon.


I'm trying to keep a hating ass male co-worker out my office. He just plops his hating ass in my guest chair. He saw me putting on lipstick turned away from the door and he still sat his woman-hatin' ass down. Cubicles have an advantage. I'mma just walk out on his ass.


As far as rap, it cheers successful people on and shares the annoyance of haters... and stories of overcoming jealousy.


For example, Lil Wayne's "Bill Gates" lyrics...

"It go dark a** shades, I can't see them haters

Now eat these f***in' bullets, don't forget to tip the waiter

still I do not give you motherfuckers the time of day

pistol in your mouth I cannot make out what you tryna say

and if they want a war, then tell them mother fuckers bombs away

All these bitches and niggas still hatin’

I used to be a baller but now I’m Bill Gaten’

got a list full of problems, I tend to em later

yeah life is a bitch but I appreciate em man"




I thought you posted on my "Money Making Motivational" thread?" That thread happens to full of anti-jealousy music.

i will check that thread out i dont think i have ran into it just yet.

not sure what a teflon is.

you really know how to break it down and see the situation for what it is, thats really amazing. whats your sun sign?

I'm the Sun sign that is exalted in the Sun.


Teflon:

a tough synthetic resin made by polymerizing tetrafluoroethylene, chiefly used to coat nonstick cooking utensils and to make seals and bearings.


Made for heat cause shit don't stick.

youre a Leo?

teflon, like water rolling off a feather?

No I'm not a Leo. Sun is domicile (at home) in Leo.

had to google it lol your b day is nearing

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