FWB expectations

This topic was created in the The Powder Room forum by hellosaggy on Monday, January 21, 2019 and has 25 replies.
Ladies,

What are the requirements/expectations of a FWB, that has gone on for awhile. I have a few my longest one currently is 6 months with a virgo, 2 months with a scorpio.

Of course you have pillow talk and friendship stuff. Personally I help with things they need (as long as my aqua bi gf) doesn't find out. but do you expect a regular FWB to help you out?

I really don't do the real relationship stuff... ie talk every day, going out out. but we check in and sext.... reason I ask is, scorpio just moved into her new place, she was strapped for cash and I took care of a few things for her. I know scorpio isn't seeing anybody else, and she wants more, but I just think that's being a good friend
Posted by hellosaggy

Ladies,

What are the requirements/expectations of a FWB, that has gone on for awhile. I have a few my longest one currently is 6 months with a virgo, 2 months with a scorpio.

Of course you have pillow talk and friendship stuff. Personally I help with things they need (as long as my aqua bi gf) doesn't find out. but do you expect a regular FWB to help you out?

I really don't do the real relationship stuff... ie talk every day, going out out. but we check in and sext.... reason I ask is, scorpio just moved into her new place, she was strapped for cash and I took care of a few things for her. I know scorpio isn't seeing anybody else, and she wants more, but I just think that's being a good friend
You're a PERFECT!!!! FWB
I wouldn't expect being helped out if it was a short term FWB but if it's being going on for a while and you both have mutual respect for one another...I still wouldn't expect it but I'd be more open to the help.

FWB can be tricky.. boundaries are important. If you aren't on the same page... something so innocent as helping out can be misconstrued as you trying to be more than what it is.
yeah I am trying to navigate. aqua's birthday is Sunday, so I have to kind of get them satisfied through weekend.

I actually like the polygamy life, other than the financial stretching, I get to juggle so I'm not bored. Yeah the aqua wants a don't ask, dont tell policy with me. I try to respect it. when she drinks she's suuuupppper possessive(she's Puerto Rican), and says how much she loves me and wants a future. but as soon as she's around her gay friends, shes like he has a penis, that's why we aren't together.

She's not comfortable just being gay and not a full "lesbian", because I guess being Bi is a crime or something. I laugh at her because we've been together over a year, but we don't acknowledge it, but her lesbian girlfriend demands social media posts and for her not to talk to me while she's around.

I told her Friday why doesn't she just go be with the girl and move out. She said because even if I moved out I still want you, so I will cheat on her with you. She's a mess. so I don't want to add to it by her knowing while she's trapped by her girlfriend I have two fwb.
Posted by hellosaggy

Ladies,

What are the requirements/expectations of a FWB, that has gone on for awhile. I have a few my longest one currently is 6 months with a virgo, 2 months with a scorpio.

Of course you have pillow talk and friendship stuff. Personally I help with things they need (as long as my aqua bi gf) doesn't find out. but do you expect a regular FWB to help you out?

I really don't do the real relationship stuff... ie talk every day, going out out. but we check in and sext.... reason I ask is, scorpio just moved into her new place, she was strapped for cash and I took care of a few things for her. I know scorpio isn't seeing anybody else, and she wants more, but I just think that's being a good friend
I'll send you my cash app info! Tongue

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I have nothing to add to the story BFF Big Grin Just trolling. I can never get guys to be like this with me lol I try the friendship and sex thing and they get annoyed. I'm always losing in this department! Sad
If that Aqua finds out you're providing for other women. Smh
Sag men have NO problems letting a woman know. Cause they are blunt and still get the P. So, no fear. They have charm and and game but, they're blunt and honest.
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If that Aqua finds out you're providing for other women. Smh
Then #2 takes #1 spot.

BOOM

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Posted by STILL

If that Aqua finds out you're providing for other women. Smh
Then #2 takes #1 spot.

BOOM

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I'm sure she has her line up waiting
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Posted by VenusAquarius

Posted by STILL

If that Aqua finds out you're providing for other women. Smh
Then #2 takes #1 spot.

BOOM

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I'm sure she has her line up waiting
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Yep, read his last post. She's bi with a jealous lesbian girlfriend that knows he's with her.
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yeah I am trying to navigate. aqua's birthday is Sunday, so I have to kind of get them satisfied through weekend.

I actually like the polygamy life, other than the financial stretching, I get to juggle so I'm not bored. Yeah the aqua wants a don't ask, dont tell policy with me. I try to respect it. when she drinks she's suuuupppper possessive(she's Puerto Rican), and says how much she loves me and wants a future. but as soon as she's around her gay friends, shes like he has a penis, that's why we aren't together.

She's not comfortable just being gay and not a full "lesbian", because I guess being Bi is a crime or something. I laugh at her because we've been together over a year, but we don't acknowledge it, but her lesbian girlfriend demands social media posts and for her not to talk to me while she's around.

I told her Friday why doesn't she just go be with the girl and move out. She said because even if I moved out I still want you, so I will cheat on her with you. She's a mess. so I don't want to add to it by her knowing while she's trapped by her girlfriend I have two fwb.
I don't know why, but this makes me sad for the aqua. As if her gay friends wouldn't accept that she can be bisexual or even love regardless of gender.

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Posted by STILL

Posted by VenusAquarius

Posted by STILL

If that Aqua finds out you're providing for other women. Smh
Then #2 takes #1 spot.

BOOM

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I'm sure she has her line up waiting
Yep, read his last post. She's bi with a jealous lesbian girlfriend that knows he's with her.
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We always do. Whether we're interactive with them or not, there's always someone in line.

I read most of his posts on the Aqua and have observed something. I'm still waiting to see if my theory is correct.
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Posted by VenusAquarius

Posted by STILL

Posted by VenusAquarius

Posted by STILL

If that Aqua finds out you're providing for other women. Smh
Then #2 takes #1 spot.

BOOM

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I'm sure she has her line up waiting
Yep, read his last post. She's bi with a jealous lesbian girlfriend that knows he's with her.
We always do. Whether we're interactive with them or not, there's always someone in line.

I read most of his posts on the Aqua and have observed something. I'm still waiting to see if my theory is correct.
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Understand what you mean by "we always do?"

You're always bi with a jealous lesbian girlfriend?
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Posted by STILL

Posted by VenusAquarius

Posted by STILL

Posted by VenusAquarius

Posted by STILL

If that Aqua finds out you're providing for other women. Smh
Then #2 takes #1 spot.

BOOM

User Submitted Image
I'm sure she has her line up waiting
Yep, read his last post. She's bi with a jealous lesbian girlfriend that knows he's with her.
We always do. Whether we're interactive with them or not, there's always someone in line.

I read most of his posts on the Aqua and have observed something. I'm still waiting to see if my theory is correct.
Understand what you mean by "we always do?"

You're always bi with a jealous lesbian girlfriend?
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Lol No. Always have someone else in line.
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Posted by hellosaggy

yeah I am trying to navigate. aqua's birthday is Sunday, so I have to kind of get them satisfied through weekend.

I actually like the polygamy life, other than the financial stretching, I get to juggle so I'm not bored. Yeah the aqua wants a don't ask, dont tell policy with me. I try to respect it. when she drinks she's suuuupppper possessive(she's Puerto Rican), and says how much she loves me and wants a future. but as soon as she's around her gay friends, shes like he has a penis, that's why we aren't together.

She's not comfortable just being gay and not a full "lesbian", because I guess being Bi is a crime or something. I laugh at her because we've been together over a year, but we don't acknowledge it, but her lesbian girlfriend demands social media posts and for her not to talk to me while she's around.

I told her Friday why doesn't she just go be with the girl and move out. She said because even if I moved out I still want you, so I will cheat on her with you. She's a mess. so I don't want to add to it by her knowing while she's trapped by her girlfriend I have two fwb.
I don't know why, but this makes me sad for the aqua. As if her gay friends wouldn't accept that she can be bisexual or even love regardless of gender.

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its the LGBTQ+ community.... She and I were just fine until her friends shamed her back in July about divorcing a woman and being with me. now she's out to prove she's really "gay"... but she's not a full lesbian... she knows she's not... but I read some of her texts messages from her friends and they were saying some mean things to her. She likes Women and on rare occassions men, and that's ok. but between the hardships of being a lesbian and having people accept her and now being with me its probably caused some identity issues. Now I've gone from the full boyfriend, which is why I ventured out, to the ex "roommate"... that she secretly is still with.

She took her girlfriend to her uncles house for christmas, and they said "oh we thought you switched back"... she's been mad basically since then. She was supposed to spend christmas eve morning with the girl and then she and I were supposed to go by my family Christmas day.... she basically didn't come home and ruined our plans because she wanted to thumb her nose at her family. its ridiculous, but I can understand that she's trying to own her identity, but all she's doing is being stubborn and trying to force people to acknowledge her.
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Posted by STILL

If that Aqua finds out you're providing for other women. Smh
Then #2 takes #1 spot.

BOOM

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I do it for selfish reasons... I know women's libido is affected by stress, sooooo I remove stress and I can regularly remove panties lmao....

plus what's the point of having someone with good sex and doing well for himself and he just smashing and dashing I think its tacky.

I know fwb should just be friends with sex, but its not like we are at the same level. I feel there is an obligation to help out if you can.

plus I am a sag, what I say is most important because I'm mostly honest. don't look at my actions, I am very generous, but if I told you its X, its X
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I have nothing to add to the story BFF Big Grin Just trolling. I can never get guys to be like this with me lol I try the friendship and sex thing and they get annoyed. I'm always losing in this department! Sad
and you don't ask for nothing...
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Posted by saggurl88

I have nothing to add to the story BFF Big Grin Just trolling. I can never get guys to be like this with me lol I try the friendship and sex thing and they get annoyed. I'm always losing in this department! Sad
and you don't ask for nothing...
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I never ask for anything, just time and sex but that starts getting into dangerous relationship territory. Sad I don't want a fwb and have sex every so often. I want to have it whenever I call the person. I like being a priority. I guess that's a no no for a fwb situation.

This is why I just continue to go back to my ex Scorpio. At least he doesn't complain or have any issues with giving me what I want. Can I just have the D!!!

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Posted by VenusAquarius

Posted by STILL

If that Aqua finds out you're providing for other women. Smh
Then #2 takes #1 spot.

BOOM

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I do it for selfish reasons... I know women's libido is affected by stress, sooooo I remove stress and I can regularly remove panties lmao....

plus what's the point of having someone with good sex and doing well for himself and he just smashing and dashing I think its tacky.

I know fwb should just be friends with sex, but its not like we are at the same level. I feel there is an obligation to help out if you can.

plus I am a sag, what I say is most important because I'm mostly honest. don't look at my actions, I am very generous, but if I told you its X, its X
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Bravo!!!!

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I agree with every word. It's not selfish but smart to know that women's libido is affected by stress. Teach the others please.

Plus, people confuse fucbuddy with FWB all the time. I personally stress the "F" IN FWB. If he's not their friend, why are they calling him one? And, I've had a fucbud. I know the difference.
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Posted by saggurl88

I have nothing to add to the story BFF Big Grin Just trolling. I can never get guys to be like this with me lol I try the friendship and sex thing and they get annoyed. I'm always losing in this department! Sad
and you don't ask for nothing...
I never ask for anything, just time and sex but that starts getting into dangerous relationship territory. Sad I don't want a fwb and have sex every so often. I want to have it whenever I call the person. I like being a priority. I guess that's a no no for a fwb situation.

This is why I just continue to go back to my ex Scorpio. At least he doesn't complain or have any issues with giving me what I want. Can I just have the D!!!

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That's a fucbuddy. I wanted exactly what you wanted. Just lay out that expectation. I did and was successful with a Gemini, years ago.

From what I've read, and maybe experienced (not sure) but, the problem is that some want you to want a relationship even if they don't or it ain't enough fun for them, I guess.
@saggurl88,

Duh,

Just thought about. It's their ego. Even if they don't want a relationship, we fuc with their ego if we don't want their ass either, lol.
Posted by VenusAquarius

@saggurl88,

Duh,

Just thought about. It's their ego. Even if they don't want a relationship, we fuc with their ego if we don't want their ass either, lol.
Hahahaha! Men don't know what they really want!Laughing
It must be Scorpio Venus that don't do these things as just reading that has a sickness response lol.

happens on T.V too with cheaters
Mmm. I’m heavy in the lgbt community... bisexual women are almost bottom of food chain. Lesbians think they are disease carriers. And selfish horn dogs... my aqua is selfish and goes between both so there is some truth to it. But bi men are considered basically gay men. A lot of the community doesn’t feel that bi women are lesbians. And a lot of lesbians have penis envy. And are afraid to be left by bi women for a man, which actually happens a lot.