Help Stop the Bleeding

This topic was created in the The Powder Room forum by LillyPetal on Thursday, April 21, 2016 and has 20 replies.
Okay, I have always been a bit of a misanthrope, and I'm one of those women who doesn't have friends - just friendly acquaintances I enjoy the occasional, brief interactions with.

The one thing I will honor, however, is being my "Sister's Keeper" whenever I can. I'll tell a woman when she looks good, if I know someone has been trying to lose weight, I'll encourage them and tell them when they are getting stronger, I'll compliment a woman when I know she's gotten a major change, and I tell her when she has food on her face or lipstick on her teeth. Women I know or women I don't know; I'll share my perfume if they need it, and I'll encourage them to go for things. The best part of that is, despite the pettiness between many women, when it really counts, most generally pull together. One such example is being caught during That-Time-Of-The-Month without appropriate gear.

One day, while in the campus restroom, one of the "popular" girls on campus asked me for a pad. "I am not sure I have pads, but I definitely have a tampon." I began to rummage in my neatly packed gym bag.

"Ugh! No, I hate those."

"Yes, I know what you mean. I have never used them before recently -" This is where she gave me a look that screamed 'Yeah, RIGHT! I don't believe you!'

"No, really. I've always only used pads. But I one day didn't hav-"

"Yeah, yeah! The only reason you can use tampons now is because you're getting THE PEEN!" Both she and a group of girls standing around started laughing.

I was speechless. I gave her the pad and left the locker room. I wasn't sure how I felt about her joke because I've always been a private person, and I've never been in the kind of situation (relationship) for someone to make a joke about me in that context. I was analyzing what had happened so that I could decide how I felt about the situation.

Ladies, you know how tough we really are, but when we want to be coddled and babied, we do That Thing as we talk to our man to inspire that protective instinct in him? Yeah, I was doing that when I later recounted my locker room story to my boyfriend. He literally LOLd in my face. Dimples galore. I didn't get the reaction I wanted: "Oh, shut up! You're just thrilled because her saying that means a bunch of people think you're "tapping this.""

Him: *grinning like an idiot* "Exactly. Plus, I haven't heard the word "peen" since highschool. That's really funny."

That got me thinking: How rare is it for a woman to never have used tampons? Is it the popular, go-to choice? Her reaction of disbelief really befuddled me.

So, ladies, which do you prefer? Pads or tampons? I find that tampons work better when I go to the gym. It's helpful to wear a pantyliner for extra hygiene. Pads used to feel uncomfortable when I exercised, but they are definitely more comfortable to apply
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Funny story smile sometimes it beats me why 'popular' girls are popular...
Hehehe anyhoo

I prefer tampons during day, running around working etc and yes I also do use a pantyliner to keep fresh.
I use pads for bedtimezzz.

I suspect tampons have become more popular in the last decade or so.
It wasn't really a go-to option for our mother's generation for example.

Period technology *phew*


That's childish. For her to be in college and be a grown woman and to make middle school like jokes like that is completely childish. I feel sorry for you.

I used to use pads until I got curious when I was 13. I used to be a book worm, and in the books I read, most of the teen girls used tampons. I felt like tampons were the mark of a real woman since only women can technically use tampons the way it should be used and because you have to be a little more mature to use one. It wasn't as life-changing as I thought it would be. Now I alternate between pads and tampons. I usually use tampons when out in public with a liner since it's cleaner and moves around less. At home or when I'm comfortable I opt for pads.

Do you go to a religious school?
Posted by wagtail
Funny story smile sometimes it beats me why 'popular' girls are popular...
Hehehe anyhoo

I prefer tampons during day, running around working etc and yes I also do use a pantyliner to keep fresh.
I use pads for bedtimezzz.

I suspect tampons have become more popular in the last decade or so.
It wasn't really a go-to option for our mother's generation for example.

Period technology *phew*




Interesting. I wonder if lady sanitation has reached its peak, or if there is someone out there actually working to reinvent the wheel, so to speak. The first time I used a tampon a few weeks ago, it was very awkward, and the process still kind of is until I get use to the feeling, but I appreciate the Liberty it gives me. I like the idea of pads for night time.
Posted by Lilianni
That's childish. For her to be in college and be a grown woman and to make middle school like jokes like that is completely childish. I feel sorry for you.

I used to use pads until I got curious when I was 13. I used to be a book worm, and in the books I read, most of the teen girls used tampons. I felt like tampons were the mark of a real woman since only women can technically use tampons the way it should be used and because you have to be a little more mature to use one. It wasn't as life-changing as I thought it would be. Now I alternate between pads and tampons. I usually use tampons when out in public with a liner since it's cleaner and moves around less. At home or when I'm comfortable I opt for pads.

Do you go to a religious school?

Yes, honestly, jokes like that always catch me off guard because I would never personally speak that way to someone I didn't know very well, let alone around others. It's just not my style to encroach on that kind of comedic territory.

I remember asking my mom about tampons and she did say they were for women, and then I never asked about them again. All the girls I knew in highschool used pads.

I was raised going to private, religious schools all the way through highschool, but my college isn't a religious one, no.
@wagtail I get to glimpse the dynamics whenever I am in the student unit in building, and I must say - being popular in that way takes a lot of WORK. She and the ones like her do a lot of socializing. It's exhausting just hearing them! The part that freaks me out the most is how much each knows about the other. I get anxious just thinking about people knowing so much about me. >__
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@wagtail I get to glimpse the dynamics whenever I am in the student unit in building, and I must say - being popular in that way takes a lot of WORK. She and the ones like her do a lot of socializing. It's exhausting just hearing them! The part that freaks me out the most is how much each knows about the other. I get anxious just thinking about people knowing so much about me.
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The things they 'know' about each other are probably not really worth knowing Tongue
You're correct, it does take a lot of work.

Some people have the energy for it I guess ~shrug~

treetrunk em. Next time she gives you any grief tell me and I'll send her a hot cup o'used-tampon tea...
with a pinch of concrete so she can harden the treetrunk up.

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@wagtail I get to glimpse the dynamics whenever I am in the student unit in building, and I must say - being popular in that way takes a lot of WORK. She and the ones like her do a lot of socializing. It's exhausting just hearing them! The part that freaks me out the most is how much each knows about the other. I get anxious just thinking about people knowing so much about me.
The things they 'know' about each other are probably not really worth knowing Tongue
You're correct, it does take a lot of work.

Some people have the energy for it I guess ~shrug~

treetrunk em. Next time she gives you any grief tell me and I'll send her a hot cup o'used-tampon tea...
with a pinch of concrete so she can harden the treetrunk up.

Lolz

That's so gross!Laughing

But, I will. Big Grin
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I prefer tampons, because pads feel like wearing a baggy lump hanging in my pants. I hate pads! I started using tampons when I was 15 or 16, and I was still a virgin.

As for new technology, there are now period panties! My sister bought a pair and tried them....and she's convinced they work great! No odor, no wet feel, no leaking onto clothes....

Posted by littlemegabytes
This interaction seems very odd and juvenile to me (on the other girls part), it seems like something a girl would say/do in jr high school? What kind of university do you go to where you can tell who is popular? Lol. I also haven't heard PEEN beyond the 6th grade like your boyfriend, or why you'd call out someone on suspicion of them having sex, on a college campus lol. I think it is safe to assume that generally people are having sex on your average college campus. Obviously there are exceptions, but very rare from what I have seen. Do you by chance go to a small christian college?

To answer your question, my sister is a virgin, and she's 32 years old. She hasn't worn a single tampon in 32 years because she says "it does not fit" but I always thought that was bullshit...

I can't remember if I wore tampons before I lost my virginity, but I would guess I probably did not. My period is like Niagara Falls, so pads alone aren't a viable option, ever.

It is a rather small campus, and I usually can tell by the amount of people someone socializes with and is surrounded by.

When I say that I'm an introvert and keep to myself, I mean it on a very serious level. Students are use to seeing me by myself all of the time, even when in the lounge. I was raised religious, and it must show, because people assume I am very innocent, pure, and conservative. I put my things on adjacent chairs and I wear my headphones as I study, read, do art, or watch my TV shows or documentaries. I even wear them when I'm not listening to anything. So, when I met my saggicorn, and the two of us are with each other, students noticed. The very same girl let slip that she and her friends were talking about my boyfriend and me. When I asked her about it, she said: "Nevermind what we were saying. You two are cute together!"

Today, a guy came in with a sheet of jokes and he showed my cancer brother. "Don't show it to your sister; she'll most likely disapprove," he said with a tone. My brother just ignored him and showed me because my brother knows me better. But this happens so frequently. People look at me and assume.

People like to mess with me. I keep to myself, but they seek me out. An Aries guy specifically says asocial to me things and then laughs and says he loves to "make me squirm." (I don't squirm.) Sometimes I think people see me as Angela from my favorite show 'The Office.'

So maybe that's why she said what she said, to mess with me and ruffle my feathers. I'm a very private person, and I'd prefer that no one noticed me beyond the context in which I want them to see me. But that's not how it works because people are curious or downright nosy, and I understand that - even though I don't like it.

I can see where tampons wouldn't work for someone with a heavy flow.
Posted by scorpx3
I prefer pads all day every day, and no question about it during bedtime. Maxi overnight ones, it's that serious (and super comforting in a time when all else is seriously uncomfortable).

I've worn tampons and I do wear them during exercise, but during my period I'll take a "mini vacay" from working out, just to avoid tampons...lol...it's that serious. I feel like tampons leave me feeling extra sore.

P.S. At the hospital where I work I've noticed nurses prefer pads over tampons (they're open about it, being that it's night shift and all women...the one guy working the floor is usually making rounds checking up on patients who are sleeping so lol). This shows me there's some health reason associated with that decision...so I feel it's wiser to use pads.

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The convenience of tampons (once they are in) is also why they are dangerous. It's definitely easy to forget you have them on (especially in an environment that a nurse is in.) I pay extra care to change even when I think it's not done with. Drinking lots of water and frequenting the loo often is helpful. I'm sure women have gotten sick from not changing often enough!
@MoonArtist I just finished the video. Those are really cool for the fact that they don't need to be disposed of! I wonder if they are safer than a tampon or pad. I wouldn't mind having a few pairs just to save on the amount of waste I am producing as a citizen of earth. *^___^* Awesome concept. What is more, these may be sent to impoverished women across the world to help them with keeping safe and sanitary.
Posted by Fox
the thought of tampons make me feel sick Sad can't get over my disgust for them. I'm sure the thought is more daunting than it really is.

They are uncomfortable to insert, but it's easier during the early phase of my period. It gets a bit more painful as the days progress. The bulky feel that MoonArtist described is what has made me switch to tampons & pantyliner and ditch the pads I've used since I first got my period. Especially now that the weather is warming up, it can be very uncomfortable. But it's great we have options, and it's nice to see other options are becoming available (period panties.)
Posted by LillyPetal
@MoonArtist I just finished the video. Those are really cool for the fact that they don't need to be disposed of! I wonder if they are safer than a tampon or pad. I wouldn't mind having a few pairs just to save on the amount of waste I am producing as a citizen of earth. *^___^* Awesome concept. What is more, these may be sent to impoverished women across the world to help them with keeping safe and sanitary.

I'm tempted to try a pair. My sis did and she's getting more. She said they worked great.
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@MoonArtist I just finished the video. Those are really cool for the fact that they don't need to be disposed of! I wonder if they are safer than a tampon or pad. I wouldn't mind having a few pairs just to save on the amount of waste I am producing as a citizen of earth. *^___^* Awesome concept. What is more, these may be sent to impoverished women across the world to help them with keeping safe and sanitary.

I'm tempted to try a pair. My sis did and she's getting more. She said they worked great.
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Do eeeet! Then tell us what you think. Big Grin Does she buy them online? How much?
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@MoonArtist I just finished the video. Those are really cool for the fact that they don't need to be disposed of! I wonder if they are safer than a tampon or pad. I wouldn't mind having a few pairs just to save on the amount of waste I am producing as a citizen of earth. *^___^* Awesome concept. What is more, these may be sent to impoverished women across the world to help them with keeping safe and sanitary.

I'm tempted to try a pair. My sis did and she's getting more. She said they worked great.

Do eeeet! Then tell us what you think. Big Grin Does she buy them online? How much?
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Yes online, and about $ 36

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