Love terms and conditions do apply

This topic was created in the The Powder Room forum by Cancan26 on Thursday, July 26, 2018 and has 15 replies.
So ladies considering we are supposed to be the more understanding and forgiving sex …

does your love have terms and conditions?

And Im not just talking about romantic love, I mean platonic love and family love

whats the cut off when people are being crazy? Whats the line? Is there a line for you?

Can you be so deep in love that you would stay even if it was hurting you?

Can loyalty top self preservation

Are you a “ride or die” even if you don’t like were your going

I am totally loving and amazing and a sucker - I’ll do anything for friends and family until only one time...just once - someone will hurt my feelings...no, there isn’t going to be any second chances!

I don’t forget. Though I forgive and move on like that person doesn’t exist but I just can’t forget!

Frigging Scorpio had never failed though I was praying for it! I don’t anymore. We are just founded peace in this war! But still as much as I love him - I wouldn’t take crap!

When my daughter was growing up I told her that if I ever hear one time ‘I hate you’ - I will never forget nor forgive her and what do you think? She had NEVER said it to me!

Just have to tell them what your position on crap!
Posted by ACsquarepluto

I left my first Leo ex when we were living with roommates including a mother and child and I overheard the child say in another room to him "I thought you said you hated Kayla" (that's my name) (he and I had broken up and gotten back together to give context)

I left my Virgo ex when he showed me a text conversation with a girl he met on facebook where he said "I don't give a fuck about Kayla" (context: he showed me this bc he left me for the girl and then the girl rejected him so he said we're back on. Don't know if he forgot about that part of the conversation or what. Then I rejected him)

Those were the only times I ended relationships, my 2 Pisces exes left me. I think the lesson is to not be hasty leaving people because they may have said something out of anger. Or date signs I get along with who are more careful with their words

Don't have platonic or family relationships rn

Hey! Just want to say I can’t receive or send messages. It’s all broken in pieces. Is it just me? Thanks
I don't have a problem cutting people out of my life if the relationship is not working and they are hurtful. I grew up with a very mean, troubled, mentally unstable mother and I left her so that seemed to continue throughout my life.

I feel for and advocate for people to not be in toxic relationships. It is stressful and harmful to the soul and the very nature for which we were born.
Posted by tctaa

I don't have a problem cutting people out of my life if the relationship is not working and they are hurtful. I grew up with a very mean, troubled, mentally unstable mother and I left her so that seemed to continue throughout my life.

I feel for and advocate for people to not be in toxic relationships. It is stressful and harmful to the soul and the very nature for which we were born.
Do you have a pisces mars by any chance I feel our attitudes and situations are very similar ... smile
Posted by FantamRooster

There isn't anything a person can do to make me stop loving them (that I've experienced so far) but there are plenty of things that can make me put distance between myself and a loved one. I have some relatives who insult me every time they see me. I don't see them much.

I used to think of myself as something of a martyr when it comes to men, but lately I've realized that I'm a lot harder to deal with than I used to admit. Sure, I bent over backwards for them, but I made them pay steep emotional tolls for that. I'm not the saint I used to think I was.
Fair enough. And good for you for being able see any of your own fault too that can be hard to do smile
Posted by ACsquarepluto

Posted by Gemitati

Posted by ACsquarepluto

I left my first Leo ex when we were living with roommates including a mother and child and I overheard the child say in another room to him "I thought you said you hated Kayla" (that's my name) (he and I had broken up and gotten back together to give context)

I left my Virgo ex when he showed me a text conversation with a girl he met on facebook where he said "I don't give a fuck about Kayla" (context: he showed me this bc he left me for the girl and then the girl rejected him so he said we're back on. Don't know if he forgot about that part of the conversation or what. Then I rejected him)

Those were the only times I ended relationships, my 2 Pisces exes left me. I think the lesson is to not be hasty leaving people because they may have said something out of anger. Or date signs I get along with who are more careful with their words

Don't have platonic or family relationships rn

Hey! Just want to say I can’t receive or send messages. It’s all broken in pieces. Is it just me? Thanks
I'm not sure, I'm not receiving notifications and it might be fixed but if not I will make a thread with your reading today. I finally have time, energy, and no other obligations. On my honor it will be posted around 6pm (9 hrs) 😁
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After your message all went back to normal format!
Posted by Cancan26

Posted by tctaa

I don't have a problem cutting people out of my life if the relationship is not working and they are hurtful. I grew up with a very mean, troubled, mentally unstable mother and I left her so that seemed to continue throughout my life.

I feel for and advocate for people to not be in toxic relationships. It is stressful and harmful to the soul and the very nature for which we were born.
Do you have a pisces mars by any chance I feel our attitudes and situations are very similar ... smile
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my Mars is in Pisces and a Cap Moon and Aries Mercury - I do not do well with confrontation - most times I walk away but I will bytch about shit for awhile and then it will be gone - with my Taurus Sun, I guess it's in their best interest that I do walk away LOL because I'm not pretty when I'm pissed off
Posted by tctaa

Posted by Cancan26

Posted by tctaa

I don't have a problem cutting people out of my life if the relationship is not working and they are hurtful. I grew up with a very mean, troubled, mentally unstable mother and I left her so that seemed to continue throughout my life.

I feel for and advocate for people to not be in toxic relationships. It is stressful and harmful to the soul and the very nature for which we were born.
Do you have a pisces mars by any chance I feel our attitudes and situations are very similar ... smile
my Mars is in Pisces and a Cap Moon and Aries Mercury - I do not do well with confrontation - most times I walk away but I will bytch about shit for awhile and then it will be gone - with my Taurus Sun, I guess it's in their best interest that I do walk away LOL because I'm not pretty when I'm pissed off
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Yes I also do my best to walk away from confrontation as well but sometimes unfortunately I believe in telling some pretty harsh truths (I believe is my scorpio moon and gemini merc) ....which lead to confrontations...as i get older i try hard to hold my tongue Sad
Posted by FantamRooster

Posted by Cancan26

Posted by FantamRooster

There isn't anything a person can do to make me stop loving them (that I've experienced so far) but there are plenty of things that can make me put distance between myself and a loved one. I have some relatives who insult me every time they see me. I don't see them much.

I used to think of myself as something of a martyr when it comes to men, but lately I've realized that I'm a lot harder to deal with than I used to admit. Sure, I bent over backwards for them, but I made them pay steep emotional tolls for that. I'm not the saint I used to think I was.
Fair enough. And good for you for being able see any of your own fault too that can be hard to do smile
I was a painfully shy child and never took up for myself. Once I found the nerve to start taking up for myself, I sometimes went overboard with it. I still do sometimes. Finding that assertive middle ground between being a push-over and being an aggressive asshole is really hard, I think.
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I feel you with what you are saying and I agree. It's difficult when one has not been able to or learned to express themselves as a child when that is the time that we should be learning these things. I was not allowed to express myself when I was a child so it was difficult for me as well. Now that I'm older, I just don't care because I have seen people way worse than me so I have finally gotten comfortable with being in the middle. And it's not that I don't keep trying, I do - it's just not so important anymore.
Posted by Cancan26

Posted by tctaa

Posted by Cancan26

Posted by tctaa

I don't have a problem cutting people out of my life if the relationship is not working and they are hurtful. I grew up with a very mean, troubled, mentally unstable mother and I left her so that seemed to continue throughout my life.

I feel for and advocate for people to not be in toxic relationships. It is stressful and harmful to the soul and the very nature for which we were born.
Do you have a pisces mars by any chance I feel our attitudes and situations are very similar ... smile
my Mars is in Pisces and a Cap Moon and Aries Mercury - I do not do well with confrontation - most times I walk away but I will bytch about shit for awhile and then it will be gone - with my Taurus Sun, I guess it's in their best interest that I do walk away LOL because I'm not pretty when I'm pissed off
Yes I also do my best to walk away from confrontation as well but sometimes unfortunately I believe in telling some pretty harsh truths (I believe is my scorpio moon and gemini merc) ....which lead to confrontations...as i get older i try hard to hold my tongue Sad
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lol yes I got you - you learn to let the lesser stuff go but can't hold back on the bigger stuff lol - I pick my battles these days lol
You can love someone, but not have to be close to them. I don't put terms and conditions on my love. I can love from afar.

However, I do put terms and conditions on allowing them in my life, and having more access to it.....
Been paying my way too long to entertain nonsense. Sorry Pisces doormat stereotype 🤷‍♀️
Posted by FantamRooster

Posted by tctaa

Posted by FantamRooster

Posted by Cancan26

Posted by FantamRooster

There isn't anything a person can do to make me stop loving them (that I've experienced so far) but there are plenty of things that can make me put distance between myself and a loved one. I have some relatives who insult me every time they see me. I don't see them much.

I used to think of myself as something of a martyr when it comes to men, but lately I've realized that I'm a lot harder to deal with than I used to admit. Sure, I bent over backwards for them, but I made them pay steep emotional tolls for that. I'm not the saint I used to think I was.
Fair enough. And good for you for being able see any of your own fault too that can be hard to do smile
I was a painfully shy child and never took up for myself. Once I found the nerve to start taking up for myself, I sometimes went overboard with it. I still do sometimes. Finding that assertive middle ground between being a push-over and being an aggressive asshole is really hard, I think.
I feel you with what you are saying and I agree. It's difficult when one has not been able to or learned to express themselves as a child when that is the time that we should be learning these things. I was not allowed to express myself when I was a child so it was difficult for me as well. Now that I'm older, I just don't care because I have seen people way worse than me so I have finally gotten comfortable with being in the middle. And it's not that I don't keep trying, I do - it's just not so important anymore.
It's interesting you say that. Aside from being so shy (like, hiding behind my mother shy) I wasn't really allowed to express anger. I always had to be polite. If my sister and I fought, we were made to hug and makeup before we were actually over being mad. I'm sure my parents had the best of intentions with that, but I literally got no practice in stating my boundaries and dislikes. I'm better at it now than I'm making it sound, but I still struggle.
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I think we all struggle with something - nobody is perfect and if they think they are, they are probably worse off than we are

I don’t get easily close to people even if they think they are. But once you are in, I would say I am very tolerant and easy going. You would have to do something really bad to me for me to cut you out if we have history.