Mean Men

This topic was created in the The Powder Room forum by SeaLion on Tuesday, May 31, 2022 and has 28 replies.
Ladies -

How do you feel about a guy who is mean to other women but not to you? Do you feel it's a red flag? Do you not care as long as it's not you? Do you think it's funny?

🚩How is that even funny to mistreat other human beings?
Posted by Timone

🚩How is that even funny to mistreat other human beings?
What if it's another woman flirting with him and he is mean to her? Or some woman from his past that he had a one night stand with and he was a dick to her afterwards?

Posted by SeaLion
Posted by Timone

🚩How is that even funny to mistreat other human beings?


What if it's another woman flirting with him and he is mean to her? Or some woman from his past that he had a one night stand with and he was a dick to her afterwards?
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I think how he carries himself and treats other people speaks volume of the type of person he is.
Posted by Timone

🚩How is that even funny to mistreat other human beings?
This

I’d think he was a jerk
Posted by Timone

🚩How is that even funny to mistreat other human beings?
I am pretty sure it is more complex (meant to be) than how this came out to be…it must be.
Posted by SeaLion
Posted by Timone

🚩How is that even funny to mistreat other human beings?


What if it's another woman flirting with him and he is mean to her? Or some woman from his past that he had a one night stand with and he was a dick to her afterwards?
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I know exactly what you asking and it is ok until you graduating from elementary - early middle school. Later in life I CANT imagine!

Punching dude in a face if he is being a dick - dif story but being a dick to his exes…you are next hon.
Depends on what he's mean about.

If he's telling girls to stay away that are pursuing or chasing, I don't mind.

If he's being disrespectful and calls everyone a bitch except me, it would bug me. I already know as soon as he's pissed, that word will start flying.

If he's capable of being mean to any female, he could do it to you.
Posted by saggurl88

Depends on what he's mean about.

If he's telling girls to stay away that are pursuing or chasing, I don't mind.

If he's being disrespectful and calls everyone a bitch except me, it would bug me. I already know as soon as he's pissed, that word will start flying.

If he's capable of being mean to any female, he could do it to you.
I dated a Pisces guy that would bad talk all his exs like that. After a while I realized he would talk about me like that too if it came down to it and it was a turn off. Apparently every woman in his life was a bitch and he was like this perfect being that could do no wrong. 🙄

I'm talking more of the "telling girls to stay away" mean. Or if it's a one night stand, kicking her out of his house afterwards type mean. Like "thanks for the blow Job, now get tf out"


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Posted by Timone

🚩How is that even funny to mistreat other human beings?


What if it's another woman flirting with him and he is mean to her? Or some woman from his past that he had a one night stand with and he was a dick to her afterwards?


I know exactly what you asking and it is ok until you graduating from elementary - early middle school. Later in life I CANT imagine!

Punching dude in a face if he is being a dick - dif story but being a dick to his exes…you are next hon.
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Yeah no I mean like if he is mean to a girl who is flirting and he is not interested. Or if he had a one night stand and he got a blow Job and kicks the girl out right afterwards type mean.

Bad talking an ex is a whole diff story, especially if he does it more then once. That's def a red flag. I've only known one guy that has really done that. Pisces man.
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Posted by saggurl88

Depends on what he's mean about.

If he's telling girls to stay away that are pursuing or chasing, I don't mind.

If he's being disrespectful and calls everyone a bitch except me, it would bug me. I already know as soon as he's pissed, that word will start flying.

If he's capable of being mean to any female, he could do it to you.


I dated a Pisces guy that would bad talk all his exs like that. After a while I realized he would talk about me like that too if it came down to it and it was a turn off. Apparently every woman in his life was a bitch and he was like this perfect being that could do no wrong. 🙄

I'm talking more of the "telling girls to stay away" mean. Or if it's a one night stand, kicking her out of his house afterwards type mean. Like "thanks for the blow Job, now get tf out"
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That's a huge red flag. If a guy has problems with every women that he dates, usually it's not them that's the issue.

That type of mean behavior with guys is somewhat normal, IMO. Women can fall for those types of guys and they keep coming around if a guy let's them.

Who doesn't like a convenient blow job with no strings attached?

I wouldn't tolerate being treated like that or even knowing that a guy I'm interested in is actively participating in this, if we have been intimate. It's a major turn off to me.
Awww he seems sad and kinda pathetic. A huge lack of self esteem and a lot of self hatred that he lashes out at other women who interact with him. Be it flirting or sexual intimacy. Dude needs to love himself a bit more.
I feel that he should hook up with the nice guy.
Posted by jazzykid

I feel that he should hook up with the nice guy.
It's like the bad cop and the other playing the nice cop but in reality both are shit. 🤣
Why would he need to be mean to anyone let along women?
Posted by bkbella86

Why would he need to be mean to anyone let along women?
Women issues 😬
Posted by SeaLion

Ladies -

How do you feel about a guy who is mean to other women but not to you? Do you feel it's a red flag? Do you not care as long as it's not you? Do you think it's funny?
No mean people for me or around me

My cancer rising does not like that at all.

I like people to be sweet and nice.

Turns me all the way off

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Posted by Timone

🚩How is that even funny to mistreat other human beings?


What if it's another woman flirting with him and he is mean to her? Or some woman from his past that he had a one night stand with and he was a dick to her afterwards?
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Nope. If he does it to her, he will do it to you.

Nothing is “just” anything.

No one lives on an island.

Posted by Antiphates

In my experience it depends on the rest of the mans package. If it is good women won't mind and it might even make him more appealing. Especially if woman to woman competition is involved.
If male’s package is good - woman don’t mind that he is treating others like shit? She WILL be next you know…unless she is the last on the run and he is marrying her…then she will be next later. With ‘wife’ status but treated like shit nevertheless…package and all…🙄
Posted by LadyNeptune

Awww he seems sad and kinda pathetic. A huge lack of self esteem and a lot of self hatred that he lashes out at other women who interact with him. Be it flirting or sexual intimacy. Dude needs to love himself a bit more.
It’s been long overruled that bullies have low self esteem. They don’t! They have a very high opinion of themselves and in general very pleased with themselves.

Update your magazine rack darling. It doesn’t seem you read online much.
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Posted by bkbella86

Why would he need to be mean to anyone let along women?


Women issues 😬
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Doesn’t EVERY man has women issues?

We just watched old Maury show. For shits and giggles…and there is a huge scary looking woman and her man doesn’t blink and stare…

I said he probably afraid of her or stoned.

Aries said I would be afraid EVEN stoned…😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
Your not special. It's just not your turn yet.
Posted by Lostthoughts

Your not special. It's just not your turn yet.
I have no idea what you're talking about.
Posted by SeaLion
Posted by Lostthoughts

Your not special. It's just not your turn yet.


I have no idea what you're talking about.
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I think he means that someone who mistreats other people will continue to do it. You will be next in line for the same mistreatment.
I also think there’s a difference between being direct and being mean.

Does this really need to be asked to women?

It means you’re next, honey.

Insecure women get off on feeling special from the rest. I could see how this could escalate from love bombing special treatment to devalue and control.

You ain’t special honey. You’re next.
Total douchebag and red flag. One of my exes was like that and he foolishly thought that I would not think any less of him if he spoke condescendingly of his exes or women who liked him and did favours for him. It’s like he looked down on women who threw themselves at him. I couldn’t respect, let alone love someone like him.

The irony, and best comeuppance, is he ended up with one of these females who had a crush on him that he spoke poorly of/thought was so below him. 👏🏻