Playing frigid? Why?

This topic was created in the The Powder Room forum by GemiMay on Sunday, May 15, 2022 and has 23 replies.
Watching too much of Everybody love Raymond and finding how true this show really is…

Wondering WTG was wrong with Deb though she loved her husband - she made him beg for sex so much that it makes me sick and wish he cheated in her!

And I know there are many many men who would be truly happy and faithful had their SOs be sexually adequate. Poor man is suffering…

Then I see the episode where she says that it’s not that she doesn’t like sex. It’s him being dull and boring in bed…and I am rooting for her this time but then thinking WTF is wrong with this woman? She is obviously dominant in rship and they have chemistry BUT she won’t tell him until 12 (TWELVE) years later! And he is like…FUG! I feel dumb and embarrassed finding out that for TWELVE years I wasn’t doing it right!!!

So conclusion is: women tired of being a cum bucket BUT they don’t talk about it - they rather to refuse sex.

Is that’s why whole lotta women seem frigid?

P.S. I realize that some men just don’t get it. They think they are great and not even wives can get trough thick egoistic skull of theirs.
Gemi May,

Honey? You have been a bit rude and mean to all those men lately. Just saying.

As for this subject matter, I gotta read it first smile
Oh! And there is a moment when she is all over him but small distraction and she has her sexiness spooked and she won’t get it back and I am thinking…is she in need of therapy this twat? 🤔
Posted by borednbeautiful

Gemi May,

Honey? You have been a bit rude and mean to all those men lately. Just saying.

As for this subject matter, I gotta read it first smile
Lately?🤔

Where have YOU been? 😂😂😂
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Posted by borednbeautiful

Gemi May,

Honey? You have been a bit rude and mean to all those men lately. Just saying.

As for this subject matter, I gotta read it first smile


Lately?🤔

Where have YOU been? 😂😂😂
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Not on dxp obviously 😏

Did I miss anything? Things are same as 10 years ago but now there is you 😍
Posted by borednbeautiful
Posted by GemiMay
Posted by borednbeautiful

Gemi May,

Honey? You have been a bit rude and mean to all those men lately. Just saying.

As for this subject matter, I gotta read it first smile


Lately?🤔

Where have YOU been? 😂😂😂


Not on dxp obviously 😏

Did I miss anything? Things are same as 10 years ago but now there is you 😍
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I’d always been the same. And in real life. That’s what makes them want to ‘try and see’

Aries said now he understands what is meaning of ‘good woman is hard to find and even harder to keep’ saying…
Posted by nanobotz

Yea, its been a running joke for decades: Marriage dries up, man begs woman for sex, woman denies. Its how boomer marriages are viewed: sexless and frustrating. These are the ones that remained married.

I read an article stating that currently divorce rate for boomers is the highest its ever been. People married for 40/50 years are suddenly realizing they can get divorced or maybe younger gens are influencing them to not stay in miserable marriages. Realizing death swiftly approaches and they don't want to die miserable cooking hamburger helper for their husband who sits on the recliner snoring at 7pm every night
Yeah. What is the alternative though?

Not like they can find anyone better at that age. Now is the time to enjoy things such as children, grandchildren, retirement and casinos.
Posted by GemiMay
Posted by borednbeautiful
Posted by GemiMay
Posted by borednbeautiful

Gemi May,

Honey? You have been a bit rude and mean to all those men lately. Just saying.

As for this subject matter, I gotta read it first smile


Lately?🤔

Where have YOU been? 😂😂😂


Not on dxp obviously 😏

Did I miss anything? Things are same as 10 years ago but now there is you 😍


I’d always been the same. And in real life. That’s what makes them want to ‘try and see’

Aries said now he understands what is meaning of ‘good woman is hard to find and even harder to keep’ saying…
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Where did you find him anyway? He sounds too good to be true. This young generation of men want you to chase them.
Posted by nanobotz

Yea, its been a running joke for decades: Marriage dries up, man begs woman for sex, woman denies. Its how boomer marriages are viewed: sexless and frustrating. These are the ones that remained married.

I read an article stating that currently divorce rate for boomers is the highest its ever been. People married for 40/50 years are suddenly realizing they can get divorced or maybe younger gens are influencing them to not stay in miserable marriages. Realizing death swiftly approaches and they don't want to die miserable cooking hamburger helper for their husband who sits on the recliner snoring at 7pm every night
I am not a boomer. I am 1966. Raymond show I believe my age but they filming around 35-45

Their PARENTS are boomers. We come next.

I was determined to raise my child in full family.

I would be with Cap now IF ‘accident’ had not happened. I swear to God Almighty I wasn’t looking for anybody. I didn’t even SEE those other men on that day until I SAW one.

That’s why though I understand perfectly what you saying - I am slightly disagree.

My friends 60 and 65 are still married and they aren’t looking as well but I know they are just like the stubborn rust - just THERE!

I used to say I am feeling I am in a stale pond up to my eyeballs…but I realized that AFTER.

BEFORE I was pretty ok. Or so I thought.

My mom says ‘it’s easy to be faithful when nobody is pursuing’ lol

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Posted by nanobotz

Yea, its been a running joke for decades: Marriage dries up, man begs woman for sex, woman denies. Its how boomer marriages are viewed: sexless and frustrating. These are the ones that remained married.

I read an article stating that currently divorce rate for boomers is the highest its ever been. People married for 40/50 years are suddenly realizing they can get divorced or maybe younger gens are influencing them to not stay in miserable marriages. Realizing death swiftly approaches and they don't want to die miserable cooking hamburger helper for their husband who sits on the recliner snoring at 7pm every night


Yeah. What is the alternative though?

Not like they can find anyone better at that age. Now is the time to enjoy things such as children, grandchildren, retirement and casinos.
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Not true. Singles pool at 50 is wide and open.

People just too lazy and cozy to be in their own stale ponds. It’s stinks but underneath it’s warm and soothing…not EXCITING but so what? 🫣
I don’t understand the concept of a frigid woman.

I mean I guess it can happen to someone due to trauma or some medical problems.

But for most women, she just hasn’t met the right man to bring out all that fire in her.
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Posted by GemiMay
Posted by borednbeautiful
Posted by GemiMay
Posted by borednbeautiful

Gemi May,

Honey? You have been a bit rude and mean to all those men lately. Just saying.

As for this subject matter, I gotta read it first smile


Lately?🤔

Where have YOU been? 😂😂😂


Not on dxp obviously 😏

Did I miss anything? Things are same as 10 years ago but now there is you 😍


I’d always been the same. And in real life. That’s what makes them want to ‘try and see’

Aries said now he understands what is meaning of ‘good woman is hard to find and even harder to keep’ saying…


Where did you find him anyway? He sounds too good to be true. This young generation of men want you to chase them.
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NO he is NOT! Though we are very organic - I can’t make him to be affectionate. Though I kind of like it. Now. I stopped fighting it.

He used to be chased because of his band life from very young age. No healthy relationships but those he had were steamy and crazy and 100% Sex Drugs Rock-n-Roll baby…

I think his best is smart and kind. Smart enough to know that he CAN lose me. So he is behaving.

And yea! For decade of me dying over here after Scorpio - I think he is my consolation prize. 😂

I’ve heard a lot of guys in 50’s/60’s say ex-wives had stopped having sex with them for YEARS. Some blame it on menopause. I say that’s bullshit, they just don’t like you anymore.

Men do it too. However this isn’t a reason to cheat. Just leave if you aren’t happy. No one owes you sex.
Posted by nanobotz
Posted by borednbeautiful
Posted by nanobotz

Yea, its been a running joke for decades: Marriage dries up, man begs woman for sex, woman denies. Its how boomer marriages are viewed: sexless and frustrating. These are the ones that remained married.

I read an article stating that currently divorce rate for boomers is the highest its ever been. People married for 40/50 years are suddenly realizing they can get divorced or maybe younger gens are influencing them to not stay in miserable marriages. Realizing death swiftly approaches and they don't want to die miserable cooking hamburger helper for their husband who sits on the recliner snoring at 7pm every night


Yeah. What is the alternative though?

Not like they can find anyone better at that age. Now is the time to enjoy things such as children, grandchildren, retirement and casinos.


I think the dating pool is very open then, people are going through divorces at record rate! Also there is death just by natural causes. Heart attack, stroke, cancer, whatever is not that that uncommon among 50s, 60s these days.
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I can see myself dating at 60. And still posting on dxpLaughing

So many divorces. It’s like people finally realized marriage sucks!
Posted by PuzzlePieces

I’ve heard a lot of guys in 50’s/60’s say ex-wives had stopped having sex with them for YEARS. Some blame it on menopause. I say that’s bullshit, they just don’t like you anymore.
Right! I say ‘I don’t like orgasm’ said NO WOMAN EVER! But a lot of women don’t GET orgasm from their men…so they get nothing out of sex with them. Finally they say - fuck it! Kitchen is closed!
Posted by bkbella86

Men do it too. However this isn’t a reason to cheat. Just leave if you aren’t happy. No one owes you sex.
I lost you. Men do what too?
Posted by GemiMay
Posted by PuzzlePieces

I’ve heard a lot of guys in 50’s/60’s say ex-wives had stopped having sex with them for YEARS. Some blame it on menopause. I say that’s bullshit, they just don’t like you anymore.


Right! I say ‘I don’t like orgasm’ said NO WOMAN EVER! But a lot of women don’t GET orgasm from their men…so they get nothing out of sex with them. Finally they say - fuck it! Kitchen is closed!
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They should be getting oral sex from their man then! There is always a way. I’ve heard some women say they never liked sex so just stopped having it at some point. Some people don’t like sex? Whattt?? Lol. I’ve also heard that it’s easier to orgasm if you know your body. Ummmm meaning masturbate.. so maybe frigid means they never masturbate or used a toy 😂😂😂😂

Btw I had soooo much sex while going through menopause so WHATEVER!!
First we get attitude for having divorces, and then we are told we should leave if not happy. It’s confusing 😂😂 actually those who stay when miserable buy into the never getting divorced theory. Me well maybe it’s because my parents got divorced when I was 8.. I never bought into that being miserable til you die theory.
Posted by PuzzlePieces

I’ve heard a lot of guys in 50’s/60’s say ex-wives had stopped having sex with them for YEARS. Some blame it on menopause. I say that’s bullshit, they just don’t like you anymore.
No such thing as a frigid woman

Only clumsy men

Married sex can be boring though

Lol
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Posted by PuzzlePieces

I’ve heard a lot of guys in 50’s/60’s say ex-wives had stopped having sex with them for YEARS. Some blame it on menopause. I say that’s bullshit, they just don’t like you anymore.


No such thing as a frigid woman

Only clumsy men

Married sex can be boring though

Lol
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Not if you’re adventurous type lol but yes it can get boring but that wouldn’t stop me from having sex.. it’s intimate & bonding time.
Debra is basically written by a staff of male writers who don't know what to do with her, go figure.

Not saying a staff of female writers would have done a better job cuz they probably all Debras anyway.
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Posted by bkbella86

Men do it too. However this isn’t a reason to cheat. Just leave if you aren’t happy. No one owes you sex.


I lost you. Men do what too?
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Stop having sex in a marriage.