should i

Posted by virgoOPPP

quit on this cap sun/pisces moon?

starting to think it's not gonna work out coz well.... all he ever does is work.

40 days is a long time.

Jesus would in 40 days.

i just can't believe that there are men out there that think material things are 'apologies' or would make up for the time and affection that their partners aren't receiving. and making me feel bad for wanting these things coz it's 'too teenager-y' for you is just gahhh. maybe i'm starting to understand why a pisces girl would cheat after 11 years.

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but idk maybe this is just one of my mood swings.

Posted by Undine

Posted by virgoOPPP

quit on this cap sun/pisces moon?

starting to think it's not gonna work out coz well.... all he ever does is work.

40 days is a long time.

Jesus would in 40 days.

i just can't believe that there are men out there that think material things are 'apologies' or would make up for the time and affection that their partners aren't receiving. and making me feel bad for wanting these things coz it's 'too teenager-y' for you is just gahhh. maybe i'm starting to understand why a pisces girl would cheat after 11 years.

defused bombs

but idk maybe this is just one of my mood swings.

HELL NO!!!

It's the best entertainment I could find on dxpnet these days !

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Posted by dilettante

🙄

Posted by virgoOPPP

Posted by Undine

Posted by virgoOPPP

quit on this cap sun/pisces moon?

starting to think it's not gonna work out coz well.... all he ever does is work.

40 days is a long time.

Jesus would in 40 days.

i just can't believe that there are men out there that think material things are 'apologies' or would make up for the time and affection that their partners aren't receiving. and making me feel bad for wanting these things coz it's 'too teenager-y' for you is just gahhh. maybe i'm starting to understand why a pisces girl would cheat after 11 years.

defused bombs

but idk maybe this is just one of my mood swings.

HELL NO!!!

It's the best entertainment I could find on dxpnet these days !

how is this entertainment?

i'm sure as hell not having a great time

i've even told him that maybe we shouldn't meet up tomorrow or for the mean time in general actually

i don't know when i'll be pushed into ghosting but he himself feels like a ghost

feels like i've been bombed into thinking he'll always have time the first weeks

but now i see that was just a trick

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Posted by dilettante

Posted by virgoOPPP

Posted by dilettante

🙄

what?

girl dont act like you dont know

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Posted by Undine

Posted by virgoOPPP

Posted by Undine

Posted by virgoOPPP

quit on this cap sun/pisces moon?

starting to think it's not gonna work out coz well.... all he ever does is work.

40 days is a long time.

Jesus would in 40 days.

i just can't believe that there are men out there that think material things are 'apologies' or would make up for the time and affection that their partners aren't receiving. and making me feel bad for wanting these things coz it's 'too teenager-y' for you is just gahhh. maybe i'm starting to understand why a pisces girl would cheat after 11 years.

defused bombs

but idk maybe this is just one of my mood swings.

HELL NO!!!

It's the best entertainment I could find on dxpnet these days !

how is this entertainment?

i'm sure as hell not having a great time

i've even told him that maybe we shouldn't meet up tomorrow or for the mean time in general actually

i don't know when i'll be pushed into ghosting but he himself feels like a ghost

feels like i've been bombed into thinking he'll always have time the first weeks

but now i see that was just a trick

The drama!!! Oh, The Drama!!!

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Posted by dilettante

what if you are the one who is getting ghosted by the cap??

Posted by MyStarsShine

Do you think this guy will start to act any differently any time soon?

If the answer is no, there's your answer

Why hasn't he tried to have sex with you by now......you're just a friend to him?

Posted by Antiphates

I would wait until this one has his hotel room suicide snooze where you have to kick in the door.

Would be a better social excuse for leaving.

Posted by Ramin

Thought you like space. Liar.

Posted by Nightcap-

There were lots of red flags to begin with

Posted by virgoOPPP

Posted by MyStarsShine

Do you think this guy will start to act any differently any time soon?

If the answer is no, there's your answer

Why hasn't he tried to have sex with you by now......you're just a friend to him?

he says he respects me and wants us to 'enjoy ourselves first'

says he'd rather go to theater with me than have sex immediately

so i interpreted that as: "we can't ever enjoy ourselves anymore after sex and i will continue to do my job. i will never spend time with you the way i first tricked you into thinking. i will send you gifts and money to compensate for this. exactly like your dad, sierra."

i got the message, alright

he's become way too rigid about his schedule lately

at first he seemed more open to compromise, but i can see now it was just at first

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Posted by virgoOPPP

Posted by Antiphates

I would wait until this one has his hotel room suicide snooze where you have to kick in the door.

Would be a better social excuse for leaving.

that guy was in his apartment and we were just friends

see i hate making so much effort then feel like i've been tricked afterwards

I know but he was a Cap too wasn't he?

You can't enjoy something if you didn't put in effort tho.

That's simply how "value" works.

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Posted by Nightcap-

There were lots of red flags to begin with

he's almost perfect except for ONE THING

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Posted by tiziani

what happens to your business partnership? Is it easy to get out of?

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by virgoOPPP

Posted by MyStarsShine

Do you think this guy will start to act any differently any time soon?

If the answer is no, there's your answer

Why hasn't he tried to have sex with you by now......you're just a friend to him?

he says he respects me and wants us to 'enjoy ourselves first'

says he'd rather go to theater with me than have sex immediately

so i interpreted that as: "we can't ever enjoy ourselves anymore after sex and i will continue to do my job. i will never spend time with you the way i first tricked you into thinking. i will send you gifts and money to compensate for this. exactly like your dad, sierra."

i got the message, alright

he's become way too rigid about his schedule lately

at first he seemed more open to compromise, but i can see now it was just at first

He sounds boring and there's something not quite right about him? Is he a mummy's boy or too close to his family?

At least you've seen the light and can tell him "no thanks"

Before you walk away, say to him "nobody on their death bed said I wished I'd spent more time at the office"

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Posted by virgoOPPP

Posted by Nightcap-

There were lots of red flags to begin with

he's almost perfect except for ONE THING

Which one thing? The focus on work over you thing? The no sex yet thing? The only had one relationship for 11 years thing? The rush into marriage talk after a week thing? The smoke screening? Are you a First Houser or a mouse 🐭?! *Gives Cap pick-yourself-up-by-your-bootstraps speech* 😋

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Posted by sweetpea2977

Once a workaholic, always a workaholic. They make very little time to enjoy the fruits of their labor. Trust me. Life is just too short to chase money 24/7 when you can't enjoy it 🤷Typically a dull boy and no fun. Stop wasting your time and let him go.

Posted by MyStarsShine

I was with a Virgo workaholic......years later he's still the same lol

I spent the majority of our relationship looking at the back of his head (he's a web designer).

One day our son said to me "who is this"? He was sitting at the computer typing with his back to me 😂

People rarely get over their addictive behaviour!

Posted by 777

I dont know if you are experiencing these relationships every month in real life or it's all in ur head.

Either way, I would reccomend professional help. A start would be to love yourself & stop trying to find someone to love bomb you with fake cliche versions of what love means

Posted by tiziani

Posted by virgoOPPP

hell i might stick around

just coz i'm pissed at people

the way i've been staying in my job so my aunt can't say crap

This is turning into the plot of Parade's End.

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Posted by tiziani

Posted by virgoOPPP

Posted by tiziani

Posted by virgoOPPP

hell i might stick around

just coz i'm pissed at people

the way i've been staying in my job so my aunt can't say crap

This is turning into the plot of Parade's End.

lol haven't watched but now i'm curious

thinking back, it's only resentment that really helps me keep it together

tbh i wanted something to anchor me down

I don't like period dramas, but Parade's End is damn good.

The husband and wife just see who can out-last one another in their marriage. He's perfectly aware she gets around and is sometimes seeing other men, but they both don't want to lose face by giving up the pretence of virtue in front of one another. Though there's a needless love triangle with another woman that added nothing to the story.

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Posted by virgoOPPP

Posted by MyStarsShine

I was with a Virgo workaholic......years later he's still the same lol

I spent the majority of our relationship looking at the back of his head (he's a web designer).

One day our son said to me "who is this"? He was sitting at the computer typing with his back to me 😂

People rarely get over their addictive behaviour!

this is why i'm curious about exes

not coz i wanna find something to be jealous over

but to find what went wrong, who went wrong

and if a girl cheats on you after 11 years, what did you do?

i know it's a little mean to think that

but if you still can't understand that you have a way of making a girl feel undesirable even with all the material stuff you've been showering on her that she had to MAKE SURE to let you KNOW THAT SHE HAD SEX WITH SOMEONE ELSE..... even as you thought you've been so perfect the entire time.... maybe it's time to have a little self-reflection

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Posted by MyStarsShine

There isn't another woman on the scene is there or at least on his mind?

Posted by maiden

you seem much more concerned about what you're getting out of this and not at all thinking about him.

all dxp projections aside... yeah it's a little odd, not the typical norm.. variables to be considered.

he's a cap.. who has given up time and resources..

he's a cap w a history of working too much, and even though it ruined a relationship for him.. guess how caps sort thru their emotions...?? ...work!

he's going to be a big picture thinker so in his mind if he doesn't see you 1x or 2x/ week this week, or next week, it's ok because his eye is on the entire life you may have together once he achieves some level at whatever he is doing.

but I think you should leave him be..Or/And if you do please respect him enough to tell him you're gonna walk away and don't just disappear..

From all you've written the guy hasn't done anything malicious or manipulative or consciously hurtful.

You are working yourself up into a tiff about what you're NOT getting.

Least you could do is leave him be, give him the respect of communicating that you're doing that..so he can work thru where he needs to be and maybe he'll marry someone who just takes him at his word and doesn't sit there thinking about the one or two immediate needs not currently being met

Posted by maiden

Posted by virgoOPPP

Posted by maiden

you seem much more concerned about what you're getting out of this and not at all thinking about him.

all dxp projections aside... yeah it's a little odd, not the typical norm.. variables to be considered.

he's a cap.. who has given up time and resources..

he's a cap w a history of working too much, and even though it ruined a relationship for him.. guess how caps sort thru their emotions...?? ...work!

he's going to be a big picture thinker so in his mind if he doesn't see you 1x or 2x/ week this week, or next week, it's ok because his eye is on the entire life you may have together once he achieves some level at whatever he is doing.

but I think you should leave him be..Or/And if you do please respect him enough to tell him you're gonna walk away and don't just disappear..

From all you've written the guy hasn't done anything malicious or manipulative or consciously hurtful.

You are working yourself up into a tiff about what you're NOT getting.

Least you could do is leave him be, give him the respect of communicating that you're doing that..so he can work thru where he needs to be and maybe he'll marry someone who just takes him at his word and doesn't sit there thinking about the one or two immediate needs not currently being met

nope no malice

something else happened but i'd rather not say

i have expressed doubts about things with him

but i was vague and told him maybe it's best to not see each other for a while

what happened????

what did he do when you said not to see each other for a while??

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Posted by dilettante

Posted by virgoOPPP

Posted by dilettante

🙄

what?

girl dont act like you dont know

i really don't know

feels like i have good reason to quit tbh

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Posted by saggurl88

Posted by virgoOPPP

Posted by dilettante

Posted by virgoOPPP

Posted by dilettante

🙄

what?

girl dont act like you dont know

i really don't know

feels like i have good reason to quit tbh

It’s day 40 of what? You’ve seen him in person some of those days, right?

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Posted by saggurl88

Posted by virgoOPPP

Posted by dilettante

Posted by virgoOPPP

Posted by dilettante

🙄

what?

girl dont act like you dont know

i really don't know

feels like i have good reason to quit tbh

It’s day 40 of what? You’ve seen him in person some of those days, right?

yes of course

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Posted by Antiphates

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Posted by Antiphates

I would wait until this one has his hotel room suicide snooze where you have to kick in the door.

Would be a better social excuse for leaving.

that guy was in his apartment and we were just friends

see i hate making so much effort then feel like i've been tricked afterwards

I know but he was a Cap too wasn't he?

You can't enjoy something if you didn't put in effort tho.

That's simply how "value" works.

oh noo that was a pisces sun/cap moon

to this day i don't feel like cultivating our friendship anymore

it's okay to be manipulative and dramatic

SO LONG AS IT DOESN'T INCONVENIENCE ME PERSONALLY

in any mental, emotional and spiritual form

But love is inconvenience by nature.

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Posted by Devil

This is why no one likes Virgos.

Posted by JamesWang

I am the same minus the work

Posted by 777

I take this thread is a sign u want me to keep hitting on you 💋

Posted by JamesWang

Posted by virgoOPPP

Posted by JamesWang

I am the same minus the work

then that's even worse

coz then he'd have no excuse to be doing this

but then again, if he didn't work so much.... we won't have this problem

Love language - giving gifts

Maybe yours is just different

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