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Posted by -Damous
What about when they don’t develop feelings too and then no one cares
It just never works out like that. someone always develops feelings.
Because we want an easy lay..
Posted by Yodi
Because we want an easy lay..
True...I do understand that.
I'm just trying to reckon being put in that bracket on the reverse side.
Posted by truecap
I'm just curious... why would any women degrade herself to settle for a FWB arrangement?
Oh, I get the sex and not wanting a relationship. That's understandable.
However, the man only sees an easy lay. Why would one want to be viewed upon like that?
What happens when the oxytocin kicks in and you develop feelings for someone who only sees you as a vessel to jack off in? Where are you now? Pining away for someone who doesn't give one iota about you.
Please don't take this as I'm judging anyone, but I'm curious.
I agree. I wouldn't want to have that kind of relationship either.
If you do it right and have boundaries then feelings dont get involved. Some people, both men and women, are able to seperate sex from emotions.
Finding the right partner is key here. Sometimes one does go in it wanting just a fwb situation but the chemistry is more crazy then they originally thought.
Finding the right partner is key here. Sometimes one does go in it wanting just a fwb situation but the chemistry is more crazy then they originally thought.
Posted by Erinelda
I don't sign myself up for that crap, I am not interested. It is an arrangement where he gets all his needs met and I could have just stayed home with a vibarator and my cats for hugs. It's a pretty bad trade deal for me.
Totally agree with that.
Posted by SeaLion
If you do it right and have boundaries then feelings dont get involved. Some people, both men and women, are able to seperate sex from emotions.
Finding the right partner is key here. Sometimes one does go in it wanting just a fwb situation but the chemistry is more crazy then they originally thought.
What if you're missing out on the slow romance of the love of your life and the excitement of the FWB sumbitch gets in the way?
Posted by truecapPosted by SeaLion
If you do it right and have boundaries then feelings dont get involved. Some people, both men and women, are able to seperate sex from emotions.
Finding the right partner is key here. Sometimes one does go in it wanting just a fwb situation but the chemistry is more crazy then they originally thought.
What if you're missing out on the slow romance of the love of your life and the excitement of the FWB sumbitch gets in the way?click to expand
Then it wasnt meant to be. If 2 ppl really like eachother and the universe wants you to be together then it's going to change into more than just fwbs.
In some cultures people have sex b4 dating. If they like eachother then they start dating.
Not everyone operates in the same way.
Posted by ErineldaPosted by truecapPosted by Erinelda
I don't sign myself up for that crap, I am not interested. It is an arrangement where he gets all his needs met and I could have just stayed home with a vibarator and my cats for hugs. It's a pretty bad trade deal for me.
Totally agree with that.
Last night a guy I have known forever tried to lay down the "terms" of which he would sleep with me. He wanted me to make sure it was a open relationship and that I joined some fetish website.
I laughed my ass off and told him that I don't need to jump through hoops, if I wanted to have sex with him I would.
He said: "I don't know, I am pretty picky".
And I said: "Bitch, I'd just have to rub your thigh"
He said: "That's true" and that was the end of that attempt, he'll be back in a couple months.
Guys think they have leverage now because it's so easy for them lol 👎click to expand
I just love this! Love your energy and wit!
You go girl!
Posted by SeaLionPosted by truecapPosted by SeaLion
If you do it right and have boundaries then feelings dont get involved. Some people, both men and women, are able to seperate sex from emotions.
Finding the right partner is key here. Sometimes one does go in it wanting just a fwb situation but the chemistry is more crazy then they originally thought.
What if you're missing out on the slow romance of the love of your life and the excitement of the FWB sumbitch gets in the way?
Then it wasnt meant to be. If 2 ppl really like eachother and the universe wants you to be together then it's going to change into more than just fwbs.
In some cultures people have sex b4 dating. If they like eachother then they start dating.
Not everyone operates in the same way.click to expand
You misunderstood.
I meant what if you're missing out on a slow romance with SOMEONE ELSE while you're messing with jack the jackoff.
Posted by Jade_Alexander
.....because.... I like us as friends and I’m not an easy lay...
Because I’m not emotionally available for more
Because he isn’t available to take on the responsibility of my family
Because we are open and respectful of each others needs, emotions and baggage
Okay, but what in the off chance, you develop feelings and he doesn't.. what then?
Posted by truecapPosted by SeaLionPosted by truecapPosted by SeaLion
If you do it right and have boundaries then feelings dont get involved. Some people, both men and women, are able to seperate sex from emotions.
Finding the right partner is key here. Sometimes one does go in it wanting just a fwb situation but the chemistry is more crazy then they originally thought.
What if you're missing out on the slow romance of the love of your life and the excitement of the FWB sumbitch gets in the way?
Then it wasnt meant to be. If 2 ppl really like eachother and the universe wants you to be together then it's going to change into more than just fwbs.
In some cultures people have sex b4 dating. If they like eachother then they start dating.
Not everyone operates in the same way.
You misunderstood.
I meant what if you're missing out on a slow romance with SOMEONE ELSE while you're messing with jack the jackoff.click to expand
That's the beauty of Fwb. You can date someone and not have that urge to have sex with them early on because you are getting your needs met by someone else.
Posted by GC08
Seriously?? Who cares? If they wanna have sex and don’t want to be tied down, that is their preference/business.
I'm not judging...just asking why.
So, your input here is irrelevant.
Posted by PhoenixStorm
I am not able to do it myself, I definitely catch feelings. But in a way I guess I also admire the women who are able to objectively get their needs met without letting their emotions take over.
Emotionally right now, I don't want any attachments or heavy feelings to sort though, but physically my body still craves touch. And that's just me being honest.
But I know from experience that I cannot have sex without becoming attached. So I just stay celibate, sexually frustrated and bitchy, while admiring the women who are able to pull it off. Lol
Get a vibrator girl! That takes care of the itch.
A little disclaimer here. I'm a Scorpio Venus...so, intimate relations are very intense for me.
I know I can't do FWB.
I'm also a Capricorn Sun, so my reputation means EVERYTHING to me.
However, at the same time, I'm an Aquarius mars....very, very curious about free sex and not giving a damn.
I know I can't do FWB.
I'm also a Capricorn Sun, so my reputation means EVERYTHING to me.
However, at the same time, I'm an Aquarius mars....very, very curious about free sex and not giving a damn.
Posted by GC08Posted by truecapPosted by GC08
Seriously?? Who cares? If they wanna have sex and don’t want to be tied down, that is their preference/business.
I'm not judging...just asking why.
So, your input here is irrelevant.
Oh but if I sat here and agreed with your rigid views and double standards then my input here would be relevant? 😂😂😂click to expand
I'm not being rigid at all. And, I don't have a double standard.
However, I DO have a lot of male friends who I see mock, discredit, disrespect and share knowledge of the female "friends" they have benefits with. So, I wonder why any woman would be willing to be discussed, recommended (yes, they recommend their FWBs to each other) and talked about like that.
I've said many times I'm not judging here.
Posted by PhoenixStormPosted by truecapPosted by PhoenixStorm
I am not able to do it myself, I definitely catch feelings. But in a way I guess I also admire the women who are able to objectively get their needs met without letting their emotions take over.
Emotionally right now, I don't want any attachments or heavy feelings to sort though, but physically my body still craves touch. And that's just me being honest.
But I know from experience that I cannot have sex without becoming attached. So I just stay celibate, sexually frustrated and bitchy, while admiring the women who are able to pull it off. Lol
Get a vibrator girl! That takes care of the itch.
No it actually makes it worse for me because once I cum from clitoral stimulation i want penetration. I masturbate almost everyday and I'm still sexually frustrated and irritable lolclick to expand
Okay... a dildo and a vibrator at the same time!!
Oh, I know....I get it, it's the human physical contact you're wanting. Just trying to help.
Posted by ErineldaPosted by truecap
A little disclaimer here. I'm a Scorpio Venus...so, intimate relations are very intense for me.
I know I can't do FWB.
I'm also a Capricorn Sun, so my reputation means EVERYTHING to me.
However, at the same time, I'm an Aquarius mars....very, very curious about free sex and not giving a damn.
You don't have to give a disclaimer. Some people do it, others don't. We all have our own reasoning for the way we are.
I love Capricorn males, I bet I'd like you as a friend as well.click to expand
Probably! I bet we'd get along great as friends!
Posted by Arielle83
I used to see it as an easy lay.
And what do you see it as now?
Posted by truecapPosted by GC08
Seriously?? Who cares? If they wanna have sex and don’t want to be tied down, that is their preference/business.
I'm not judging...just asking why.
So, your input here is irrelevant.click to expand
The first sentence of your OP says otherwise. Putting a disclaimer at the bottom will do little to nothing for people to see past that.
Posted by truecapPosted by PhoenixStorm
I am not able to do it myself, I definitely catch feelings. But in a way I guess I also admire the women who are able to objectively get their needs met without letting their emotions take over.
Emotionally right now, I don't want any attachments or heavy feelings to sort though, but physically my body still craves touch. And that's just me being honest.
But I know from experience that I cannot have sex without becoming attached. So I just stay celibate, sexually frustrated and bitchy, while admiring the women who are able to pull it off. Lol
Get a vibrator girl! That takes care of the itch.click to expand
Not everyone can be satisfied with a vibrator.
Posted by Ram416Posted by truecapPosted by GC08
Seriously?? Who cares? If they wanna have sex and don’t want to be tied down, that is their preference/business.
I'm not judging...just asking why.
So, your input here is irrelevant.
The first sentence of your OP says otherwise. Putting a disclaimer at the bottom will do little to nothing for people to see past that.click to expand
Well, I guess people need to read the whole post.
Posted by truecap
A little disclaimer here. I'm a Scorpio Venus...so, intimate relations are very intense for me.
I know I can't do FWB.
I'm also a Capricorn Sun, so my reputation means EVERYTHING to me.
However, at the same time, I'm an Aquarius mars....very, very curious about free sex and not giving a damn.
I actually know a Cap sun/moon with Scorpio Venus but Aries mars. Emotional connections are not a top priority for her in relationships. And yes, she does FwB.
Posted by Ram416Posted by truecapPosted by GC08
Seriously?? Who cares? If they wanna have sex and don’t want to be tied down, that is their preference/business.
I'm not judging...just asking why.
So, your input here is irrelevant.
The first sentence of your OP says otherwise. Putting a disclaimer at the bottom will do little to nothing for people to see past that.click to expand
Well, I see men who do degrade women as nothing but a piece of ass when they enter into these arrangements.
My question is why would a woman allow herself to be seen as such?
Posted by Ram416Posted by truecap
A little disclaimer here. I'm a Scorpio Venus...so, intimate relations are very intense for me.
I know I can't do FWB.
I'm also a Capricorn Sun, so my reputation means EVERYTHING to me.
However, at the same time, I'm an Aquarius mars....very, very curious about free sex and not giving a damn.
I actually know a Cap sun/moon with Scorpio Venus but Aries mars. Emotional connections are not a top priority for her in relationships. And yes, she does FwB.click to expand
But, what you can't speak for is why does she do it.
Posted by Arielle83Posted by truecapPosted by Arielle83
I used to see it as an easy lay.
And what do you see it as now?
It’s just convenient sex.
I’m still friend’s with the guy. Just no sex.
It’s convenient if you aren’t committal or you are too busy.
It’s a straight forward arrangement.
I don’t understand these ppl that try to make it a relationship.click to expand
I just see thread after thread of girls entering into this arrangement only to end up heartbroken because they falsely believed that they would eventually be in a relationship with these guys. The truth is these guys will NEVER see them as anything more than easy sex.
Posted by truecapPosted by Ram416Posted by truecapPosted by GC08
Seriously?? Who cares? If they wanna have sex and don’t want to be tied down, that is their preference/business.
I'm not judging...just asking why.
So, your input here is irrelevant.
The first sentence of your OP says otherwise. Putting a disclaimer at the bottom will do little to nothing for people to see past that.
Well, I guess people need to read the whole post.click to expand
If you wanted honest, objective opinions, good luck with that.
Women do fwb for various reasons, some of which were mentioned here. If we have to ask why, we wouldn't get 1 definite answer because we are not privy to people's lives.
That's the only answer I can give you.
Posted by Ram416Posted by truecapPosted by Ram416Posted by truecapPosted by GC08
Seriously?? Who cares? If they wanna have sex and don’t want to be tied down, that is their preference/business.
I'm not judging...just asking why.
So, your input here is irrelevant.
The first sentence of your OP says otherwise. Putting a disclaimer at the bottom will do little to nothing for people to see past that.
Well, I guess people need to read the whole post.
If you wanted honest, objective opinions, good luck with that.
Women do fwb for various reasons, some of which were mentioned here. If we have to ask why, we wouldn't get 1 definite answer because we are not privy to people's lives.
That's the only answer I can give you.click to expand
I accept that.
Posted by truecapPosted by Arielle83Posted by truecapPosted by Arielle83
I used to see it as an easy lay.
And what do you see it as now?
It’s just convenient sex.
I’m still friend’s with the guy. Just no sex.
It’s convenient if you aren’t committal or you are too busy.
It’s a straight forward arrangement.
I don’t understand these ppl that try to make it a relationship.
I just see thread after thread of girls entering into this arrangement only to end up heartbroken because they falsely believed that they would eventually be in a relationship with these guys. The truth is these guys will NEVER see them as anything more than easy sex.click to expand
It's dxp. Lol. Threads like those are a dime a dozen here.
The reality outside of dxp is more varied and not all of them end up like the ones on dxp.
Posted by Ram416Posted by truecapPosted by Arielle83Posted by truecapPosted by Arielle83
I used to see it as an easy lay.
And what do you see it as now?
It’s just convenient sex.
I’m still friend’s with the guy. Just no sex.
It’s convenient if you aren’t committal or you are too busy.
It’s a straight forward arrangement.
I don’t understand these ppl that try to make it a relationship.
I just see thread after thread of girls entering into this arrangement only to end up heartbroken because they falsely believed that they would eventually be in a relationship with these guys. The truth is these guys will NEVER see them as anything more than easy sex.
It's dxp. Lol. Threads like those are a dime a dozen here.
The reality outside of dxp is more varied and not all of them end up like the ones on dxp.click to expand
Oh, for sure!
Posted by Arielle83Posted by truecapPosted by Arielle83Posted by truecapPosted by Arielle83
I used to see it as an easy lay.
And what do you see it as now?
It’s just convenient sex.
I’m still friend’s with the guy. Just no sex.
It’s convenient if you aren’t committal or you are too busy.
It’s a straight forward arrangement.
I don’t understand these ppl that try to make it a relationship.
I just see thread after thread of girls entering into this arrangement only to end up heartbroken because they falsely believed that they would eventually be in a relationship with these guys. The truth is these guys will NEVER see them as anything more than easy sex.
Ya well the guys are being straight forward and these “girls” are trying to manipulate a relationship.
They should be mad at themselves for thinking their pussy has some special “relationship” power.
If the guy wants fwb and the girl wants fwb, it should equal fwb.
Not “omg we fuck every Thursday night and now I’m sleeping over and cooking breakfast. I think he’s going to ask me to be his gf.”
That’s her crossing boundaries and expecting something she thinks she deserves.
I’ve had the same thing happen to me with a guy that thought it would equal relationship.
No I said fwb and I was clear. I just felt he was trying to manipulate me into commitment.
Bottom line is don’t lie about your intentions.
If you can’t do it, then don’t pretend you can.
I don’t equate sex with relationships. I needs lot more than just orgasms for me to care.click to expand
^^^ this.
this is what usually happens.
Posted by ErineldaPosted by PhoenixStormPosted by ErineldaPosted by PhoenixStormPosted by truecapPosted by PhoenixStorm
I am not able to do it myself, I definitely catch feelings. But in a way I guess I also admire the women who are able to objectively get their needs met without letting their emotions take over.
Emotionally right now, I don't want any attachments or heavy feelings to sort though, but physically my body still craves touch. And that's just me being honest.
But I know from experience that I cannot have sex without becoming attached. So I just stay celibate, sexually frustrated and bitchy, while admiring the women who are able to pull it off. Lol
Get a vibrator girl! That takes care of the itch.
No it actually makes it worse for me because once I cum from clitoral stimulation i want penetration. I masturbate almost everyday and I'm still sexually frustrated and irritable lol
It does go away, the urgency part. But hopefully you find someone by then. Maybe you could swing FWB if he likes you more than you like him? That seems to be less painful for women. You could find a nice guy who wants to be with you and slam your situation down, men have been doing that shit to us for hundreds of years lol.
Nah if I'm going to be fucking it has to be good, and if it's good then it's going to cloud my judgment and result in me getting all mushy and living in my feelings. It's just a lose-lose situation.
I'm fucked. Well, no im not and THAT is only part of the problem lmao
I am the same way and I get attached at the drop of a hat. For those reasons I have only been with one guy in nine years and I was gonna marry him. If I found a nice guy that wanted to be with me AND I wanted to sleep with him? We'd end up with one of those cringy couples names and wearing matching sweatshirts.click to expand
❤️
Posted by -Damous
What about when they don’t develop feelings too and then no one cares
Oh come on. Be realistic. It usually doesn't happen that way.
Posted by GC08Posted by truecapPosted by Ram416Posted by truecapPosted by GC08
Seriously?? Who cares? If they wanna have sex and don’t want to be tied down, that is their preference/business.
I'm not judging...just asking why.
So, your input here is irrelevant.
The first sentence of your OP says otherwise. Putting a disclaimer at the bottom will do little to nothing for people to see past that.
Well, I see men who do degrade women as nothing but a piece of ass when they enter into these arrangements.
My question is why would a woman allow herself to be seen as such?
I know you are a cap and care highly how other people view you, but some people don’t let the opinions of others hold them back so much.
And some women just don’t FWB up with immature jerk offs.
Does that answer your question as to why they do it even when they might be viewed as ....?click to expand
I suppose that does answer the question.
I also know 40 yo men who tell the tales.
Geesh, you'd think a 40 yo man would be mature enough not to tell. But at that age, I think they have to brag. So, I guess they are still jack offs just the same.
Posted by Arielle83Posted by truecapPosted by GC08Posted by truecapPosted by Ram416Posted by truecapPosted by GC08
Seriously?? Who cares? If they wanna have sex and don’t want to be tied down, that is their preference/business.
I'm not judging...just asking why.
So, your input here is irrelevant.
The first sentence of your OP says otherwise. Putting a disclaimer at the bottom will do little to nothing for people to see past that.
Well, I see men who do degrade women as nothing but a piece of ass when they enter into these arrangements.
My question is why would a woman allow herself to be seen as such?
I know you are a cap and care highly how other people view you, but some people don’t let the opinions of others hold them back so much.
And some women just don’t FWB up with immature jerk offs.
Does that answer your question as to why they do it even when they might be viewed as ....?
I suppose that does answer the question.
I also know 40 yo men who tell the tales.
Geesh, you'd think a 40 yo man would be mature enough not to tell. But at that age, I think they have to brag. So, I guess they are still jack offs just the same.
I bail on ppl that talk about me.
Because it was a friend, it’s usually kept discreet.
This was before tinder etc.
Now ppl need to spread all kinds of news.click to expand
It's hard to keep anything discrete these days.
I got out of a relationship that I was on for half my life. I don’t want to settle so I do have a fwb situation. It’s easier for me since I like companionship and sex.
But I abide by the rules set out. And my feelings are separate from the relationship.
Usually the guys start getting insecure with me. They start wondering what is wrong with them and why I don’t want them as a boyfriend.
I’ve had to let them know that if there is going to be a relationship, there will need to be a discussion about it and it needs to be mutually agreed upon. But until then, I will not consider anything a relationship and both of us are free to walk at any time.
Men don’t like this coming from a women. Usually I end up getting a consistent man that tries to have a relationship with me. I’ve only pulled back from one guy that was a fwb because I didn’t have feelings for him. I found out with time that I despised him. And so I walked.
I don’t feel degraded at all, this is much easier for me then settling for a man that I don’t want.
But I abide by the rules set out. And my feelings are separate from the relationship.
Usually the guys start getting insecure with me. They start wondering what is wrong with them and why I don’t want them as a boyfriend.
I’ve had to let them know that if there is going to be a relationship, there will need to be a discussion about it and it needs to be mutually agreed upon. But until then, I will not consider anything a relationship and both of us are free to walk at any time.
Men don’t like this coming from a women. Usually I end up getting a consistent man that tries to have a relationship with me. I’ve only pulled back from one guy that was a fwb because I didn’t have feelings for him. I found out with time that I despised him. And so I walked.
I don’t feel degraded at all, this is much easier for me then settling for a man that I don’t want.
My guy listen. We are all just humans. Sometimes people get lonely and just want to slam into each others pissholes for a bit with no stings attached. It's completely normal, and healthy imo. Assuming you don't end up with an std, or even worse a baby.
Posted by saggurl88
I got out of a relationship that I was on for half my life. I don’t want to settle so I do have a fwb situation. It’s easier for me since I like companionship and sex.
But I abide by the rules set out. And my feelings are separate from the relationship.
Usually the guys start getting insecure with me. They start wondering what is wrong with them and why I don’t want them as a boyfriend.
I’ve had to let them know that if there is going to be a relationship, there will need to be a discussion about it and it needs to be mutually agreed upon. But until then, I will not consider anything a relationship and both of us are free to walk at any time.
Men don’t like this coming from a women. Usually I end up getting a consistent man that tries to have a relationship with me. I’ve only pulled back from one guy that was a fwb because I didn’t have feelings for him. I found out with time that I despised him. And so I walked.
I don’t feel degraded at all, this is much easier for me then settling for a man that I don’t want.
You know what? My BFF is a Sag. If any female sign can pull this off, I think it's a Sagittarius.
Thank you for commenting.
Like I said, if any woman can successfully pull this off without feeling degraded, then it's Sag (or probably any fire sign). It's a perfect example though of the man side of it developing feelings instead of the female. I did say earlier someone usually develops feelings.
My BFF had this happen to her. So, it made her feel icky about it and just want to cut ties with him completely.
Did you feel this way.
I'm also happy to hear that you didn't feel degraded in the arrangement. However, I'm curious to how it made you feel in having to cut the ties.
Posted by truecapPosted by saggurl88
I got out of a relationship that I was on for half my life. I don’t want to settle so I do have a fwb situation. It’s easier for me since I like companionship and sex.
But I abide by the rules set out. And my feelings are separate from the relationship.
Usually the guys start getting insecure with me. They start wondering what is wrong with them and why I don’t want them as a boyfriend.
I’ve had to let them know that if there is going to be a relationship, there will need to be a discussion about it and it needs to be mutually agreed upon. But until then, I will not consider anything a relationship and both of us are free to walk at any time.
Men don’t like this coming from a women. Usually I end up getting a consistent man that tries to have a relationship with me. I’ve only pulled back from one guy that was a fwb because I didn’t have feelings for him. I found out with time that I despised him. And so I walked.
I don’t feel degraded at all, this is much easier for me then settling for a man that I don’t want.
You know what? My BFF is a Sag. If any female sign can pull this off, I think it's a Sagittarius.
Thank you for commenting.
Like I said, if any woman can successfully pull this off without feeling degraded, then it's Sag (or probably any fire sign). It's a perfect example though of the man side of it developing feelings instead of the female. I did say earlier someone usually develops feelings.
My BFF had this happen to her. So, it made her feel icky about it and just want to cut ties with him completely.
Did you feel this way.
I'm also happy to hear that you didn't feel degraded in the arrangement. However, I'm curious to how it made you feel in having to cut the ties.click to expand
Well I feel bad for cutting ties. I could tell he was starting to get feelings. All I had to do was wait it out. I’m a chicken and don’t like hurting someone’s feelings.
But men and women do this thing where they will test a person and do something that forces them to stay ( this is what they hope happens) or leave.
He ended changing plans on me like 3 or 4 days in a row and had been busy for a few weeks previously. So in essence, he wasn’t holding up his side of the fwb arraignment. So I told him I was done bending to his schedule and that I was gonna date and find another arrangement to get into.
He told me a couple months later that I didn’t take his feelings into consideration and that he felted slighted and that I didn’t like him enough to have a conversation with him about it.
I lied and told him that I didn’t know there were feelings involved, since neither of us ever talked about feelings. That we just didn’t have time to make the fwb arrangement work, so we can just go back to being friends instead.
What is he supposed to say to that? It was the truth. 😅
Posted by PhoenixStormPosted by truecapPosted by PhoenixStorm
I am not able to do it myself, I definitely catch feelings. But in a way I guess I also admire the women who are able to objectively get their needs met without letting their emotions take over.
Emotionally right now, I don't want any attachments or heavy feelings to sort though, but physically my body still craves touch. And that's just me being honest.
But I know from experience that I cannot have sex without becoming attached. So I just stay celibate, sexually frustrated and bitchy, while admiring the women who are able to pull it off. Lol
Get a vibrator girl! That takes care of the itch.
No it actually makes it worse for me because once I cum from clitoral stimulation i want penetration. I masturbate almost everyday and I'm still sexually frustrated and irritable lolclick to expand
*Looks into crystal ball once more*
Yep.. the vision is clear.
Posted by saggurl88Posted by truecapPosted by saggurl88
I got out of a relationship that I was on for half my life. I don’t want to settle so I do have a fwb situation. It’s easier for me since I like companionship and sex.
But I abide by the rules set out. And my feelings are separate from the relationship.
Usually the guys start getting insecure with me. They start wondering what is wrong with them and why I don’t want them as a boyfriend.
I’ve had to let them know that if there is going to be a relationship, there will need to be a discussion about it and it needs to be mutually agreed upon. But until then, I will not consider anything a relationship and both of us are free to walk at any time.
Men don’t like this coming from a women. Usually I end up getting a consistent man that tries to have a relationship with me. I’ve only pulled back from one guy that was a fwb because I didn’t have feelings for him. I found out with time that I despised him. And so I walked.
I don’t feel degraded at all, this is much easier for me then settling for a man that I don’t want.
You know what? My BFF is a Sag. If any female sign can pull this off, I think it's a Sagittarius.
Thank you for commenting.
Like I said, if any woman can successfully pull this off without feeling degraded, then it's Sag (or probably any fire sign). It's a perfect example though of the man side of it developing feelings instead of the female. I did say earlier someone usually develops feelings.
My BFF had this happen to her. So, it made her feel icky about it and just want to cut ties with him completely.
Did you feel this way.
I'm also happy to hear that you didn't feel degraded in the arrangement. However, I'm curious to how it made you feel in having to cut the ties.
Well I feel bad for cutting ties. I could tell he was starting to get feelings. All I had to do was wait it out. I’m a chicken and don’t like hurting someone’s feelings.
But men and women do this thing where they will test a person and do something that forces them to stay ( this is what they hope happens) or leave.
He ended changing plans on me like 3 or 4 days in a row and had been busy for a few weeks previously. So in essence, he wasn’t holding up his side of the fwb arraignment. So I told him I was done bending to his schedule and that I was gonna date and find another arrangement to get into.
He told me a couple months later that I didn’t take his feelings into consideration and that he felted slighted and that I didn’t like him enough to have a conversation with him about it.
I lied and told him that I didn’t know there were feelings involved, since neither of us ever talked about feelings. That we just didn’t have time to make the fwb arrangement work, so we can just go back to being friends instead.
What is he supposed to say to that? It was the truth. 😅click to expand
I respect you for being truthful.
Posted by truecapPosted by GC08Posted by truecapPosted by GC08
Seriously?? Who cares? If they wanna have sex and don’t want to be tied down, that is their preference/business.
I'm not judging...just asking why.
So, your input here is irrelevant.
Oh but if I sat here and agreed with your rigid views and double standards then my input here would be relevant? 😂😂😂
I'm not being rigid at all. And, I don't have a double standard.
However, I DO have a lot of male friends who I see mock, discredit, disrespect and share knowledge of the female "friends" they have benefits with. So, I wonder why any woman would be willing to be discussed, recommended (yes, they recommend their FWBs to each other) and talked about like that.
I've said many times I'm not judging here.click to expand
A person's friends says a lot about their own character.
Posted by _DazedPosted by PhoenixStormPosted by truecapPosted by PhoenixStorm
I am not able to do it myself, I definitely catch feelings. But in a way I guess I also admire the women who are able to objectively get their needs met without letting their emotions take over.
Emotionally right now, I don't want any attachments or heavy feelings to sort though, but physically my body still craves touch. And that's just me being honest.
But I know from experience that I cannot have sex without becoming attached. So I just stay celibate, sexually frustrated and bitchy, while admiring the women who are able to pull it off. Lol
Get a vibrator girl! That takes care of the itch.
No it actually makes it worse for me because once I cum from clitoral stimulation i want penetration. I masturbate almost everyday and I'm still sexually frustrated and irritable lol
*Looks into crystal ball once more*
Yep.. the vision is clear.click to expand
Dazed? Can you take care of this situation?
Posted by Ram416Posted by truecap
A little disclaimer here. I'm a Scorpio Venus...so, intimate relations are very intense for me.
I know I can't do FWB.
I'm also a Capricorn Sun, so my reputation means EVERYTHING to me.
However, at the same time, I'm an Aquarius mars....very, very curious about free sex and not giving a damn.
I actually know a Cap sun/moon with Scorpio Venus but Aries mars. Emotional connections are not a top priority for her in relationships. And yes, she does FwB.click to expand
You also know a water heavy Scorpio with VinS and Aqua mars.
Posted by truecapPosted by Ram416Posted by truecapPosted by GC08
Seriously?? Who cares? If they wanna have sex and don’t want to be tied down, that is their preference/business.
I'm not judging...just asking why.
So, your input here is irrelevant.
The first sentence of your OP says otherwise. Putting a disclaimer at the bottom will do little to nothing for people to see past that.
Well, I see men who do degrade women as nothing but a piece of ass when they enter into these arrangements.
My question is why would a woman allow herself to be seen as such?click to expand
My question is why are you friends with men like that?
Posted by truecapPosted by Ram416Posted by truecap
A little disclaimer here. I'm a Scorpio Venus...so, intimate relations are very intense for me.
I know I can't do FWB.
I'm also a Capricorn Sun, so my reputation means EVERYTHING to me.
However, at the same time, I'm an Aquarius mars....very, very curious about free sex and not giving a damn.
I actually know a Cap sun/moon with Scorpio Venus but Aries mars. Emotional connections are not a top priority for her in relationships. And yes, she does FwB.
But, what you can't speak for is why does she do it.click to expand
But you can speak for every man?
Posted by truecapPosted by saggurl88Posted by truecapPosted by saggurl88
I got out of a relationship that I was on for half my life. I don’t want to settle so I do have a fwb situation. It’s easier for me since I like companionship and sex.
But I abide by the rules set out. And my feelings are separate from the relationship.
Usually the guys start getting insecure with me. They start wondering what is wrong with them and why I don’t want them as a boyfriend.
I’ve had to let them know that if there is going to be a relationship, there will need to be a discussion about it and it needs to be mutually agreed upon. But until then, I will not consider anything a relationship and both of us are free to walk at any time.
Men don’t like this coming from a women. Usually I end up getting a consistent man that tries to have a relationship with me. I’ve only pulled back from one guy that was a fwb because I didn’t have feelings for him. I found out with time that I despised him. And so I walked.
I don’t feel degraded at all, this is much easier for me then settling for a man that I don’t want.
You know what? My BFF is a Sag. If any female sign can pull this off, I think it's a Sagittarius.
Thank you for commenting.
Like I said, if any woman can successfully pull this off without feeling degraded, then it's Sag (or probably any fire sign). It's a perfect example though of the man side of it developing feelings instead of the female. I did say earlier someone usually develops feelings.
My BFF had this happen to her. So, it made her feel icky about it and just want to cut ties with him completely.
Did you feel this way.
I'm also happy to hear that you didn't feel degraded in the arrangement. However, I'm curious to how it made you feel in having to cut the ties.
Well I feel bad for cutting ties. I could tell he was starting to get feelings. All I had to do was wait it out. I’m a chicken and don’t like hurting someone’s feelings.
But men and women do this thing where they will test a person and do something that forces them to stay ( this is what they hope happens) or leave.
He ended changing plans on me like 3 or 4 days in a row and had been busy for a few weeks previously. So in essence, he wasn’t holding up his side of the fwb arraignment. So I told him I was done bending to his schedule and that I was gonna date and find another arrangement to get into.
He told me a couple months later that I didn’t take his feelings into consideration and that he felted slighted and that I didn’t like him enough to have a conversation with him about it.
I lied and told him that I didn’t know there were feelings involved, since neither of us ever talked about feelings. That we just didn’t have time to make the fwb arrangement work, so we can just go back to being friends instead.
What is he supposed to say to that? It was the truth. 😅
I respect you for being truthful.click to expand
This new situation I’m in, I’m gonna fall in love with the guy. So this will be an interesting scenario and I’m just waiting to see how it plays out.
But as a women, I don’t tell a man that I love him, outside of a relationship, when sex is involved.
If a guy starts questioning me about it, I let the guy know that, and he will make that decision, if he wants to hear those words.
I have no clue why people put so much weight on those words lol.
Posted by truecapPosted by _DazedPosted by PhoenixStormPosted by truecapPosted by PhoenixStorm
I am not able to do it myself, I definitely catch feelings. But in a way I guess I also admire the women who are able to objectively get their needs met without letting their emotions take over.
Emotionally right now, I don't want any attachments or heavy feelings to sort though, but physically my body still craves touch. And that's just me being honest.
But I know from experience that I cannot have sex without becoming attached. So I just stay celibate, sexually frustrated and bitchy, while admiring the women who are able to pull it off. Lol
Get a vibrator girl! That takes care of the itch.
No it actually makes it worse for me because once I cum from clitoral stimulation i want penetration. I masturbate almost everyday and I'm still sexually frustrated and irritable lol
*Looks into crystal ball once more*
Yep.. the vision is clear.
Dazed? Can you take care of this situation?click to expand
What situation?
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