A question from Virgos

When I was in university, we were the group of 5 girls & boys. There was a Gemini girl in my group. She used to talk a lot and most of the time it was about the miseries of her life. it was like my father is neglecting me and did this... my mother is not treating me well and said this... my sister is very mean to me and behaved like this... and then apart from his family stories there were stories of her boyfriend that I love him so much but he did that to me... he did not took my call, did not message me... don't care about me, don't love me as much as I do bla bla bla... in short we all boy and girls were always listening to her sob stories... it was not just in cafeteria of university but she used to call late at night to all of us as well... and all of us including me talked and consoled her for hours late night instead of sleeping. Not only consoling, during preparation of assignments, reports and thesis, she never had to do any work and we used to distribute her work between us too.

Now coming to point, the thing that I wanna tell here is that during that period, my life was disturbed too. I don't wanna go in details but there were all types of problems; financial, emotional, mental, physical etc. in my life too. And inside my heart sometimes I used to compare my situation to hers and mine was from all angles worst than her. But being a Virgo, who never like to ask for help and always hide their inner turmoil behind calm & composed persona, nobody in my group ever got a hint that if I'm ever feeling low. Instead of it I was considered the most hardworking and dependable member of my group to whom they can ask for any favor any time with 101% trust that I??ll never let them down. And yes, I always did that and my contribution to any task was always way more than others.

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At times I thought that why everyone considers me so strong? Why I'm always the name in everyone's mind when there is a task for which some extra hard work is needed? Why all of them consider me as some superwoman who never feels down and always a top performer? Should I (like that Gemini girl) share at least what my near ones what problems of my life and that how I'm affected by those problems? I even tried few times but realized that I CAN??T DO THIS. I feel so vulnerable when I tell someone about any of my misery. And as for asking help.. A Big No, I CAN NEVER DO THIS. If I take a look on my life then I never asked for any kind of help, not even once in my life, not even from my family or friends. But as for giving help, whether its my family or my friends; whenever someone need any kind of help whether its emotional, financial or in their studies or work, I'm the first person that comes in their mind for asking help with full confidence. And yes, I never refused anyone.

If you Virgos are also like me in some ways...? If yes, what's is this with us that we always try to hide our sensitive side, why we are so afraid of being vulnerable, why we always put a mask of some superwoman who never feels down and can do anything without any help... —

Hi! I'm a Gemini girl and yes, I say what I feel. Not just the miseries but also the happiness. If I can't do something, I can also say it as it is. Some say geminis lie, but in all honesty, geminis are transparent specially when it comes to emotions. But it doesn't mean that we are weak. We just want people around us to know that like a normal human being, we're not always happy or easy-go-lucky.

As for my virgo ex, he is so good at hiding things. In fact, possibly one reason why we ended our relationship. It always felt like I'm not getting the fair share of honesty from him specially with what he feels. He has told me countless times that he tells me everything, when he's happy or sad. But I do feel that sometimes, he still keep things from me.

Hey @itsnoteasy
I feel you there and I know how it feels, why are we like that? think of it like this... we are blessed with stable mind and usually we think first before doing anything.
We don't do public breakdowns and usually we can only turn off the walls and be vulnerable when we are alone or with someone we TRULY feel comfortable (I doubt if we really trust someone to bare our soul), I think we are truly blessed because we can take so much and so much more without batting an eyelash, we are bestowed with the strenght of an amazon and a face of a maniquin. Your name speaks for itself, it's not easy being a Virgo coz if others are in our shoe they might have gone crazy *running naked outside* *shakes head*

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Hey @itsnoteasy
I feel you there and I know how it feels, why are we like that? think of it like this... we are blessed with stable mind and usually we think first before doing anything.
We don't do public breakdowns and usually we can only turn off the walls and be vulnerable when we are alone or with someone we TRULY feel comfortable (I doubt if we really trust someone to bare our soul), I think we are truly blessed because we can take so much and so much more without batting an eyelash, we are bestowed with the strenght of an amazon and a face of a maniquin. Your name speaks for itself, it's not easy being a Virgo coz if others are in our shoe they might have gone crazy *running naked outside* *shakes head*

I loved the way you put it.. each and every word of your post describe my feelings as well.. yes, —strength of an Amazon and a face of a mannequin?? is what we are..

Love your post.. 🙂

That Gem you were talking about is miserable and she might have a Cancer Asc or something. This Gem has a Cancer Asc but I'm not a whiner I don't tell my shit and I would neverrrrrrrr want anyone feeling sorry for me. If I'm going through something I only tell a select few--if that. And I have a problem of never leaning on anyone for support--ultra independent.

Same here. When my ex and I broke up. All my friends even my parents were surprised. They thought the three years we've been together was so strong and that we would end up together. It's because I didn't tell them anything when I'm not happy at all, when I'm in pain etc.

What I've realized, I shouldn't really act so tough when I'm really not. They think that I would not need any help at all because I'm strong and this and that. This made me open up to people a little more when I need help or when I have troubles. Just so they know, life isn't easy for me unlike what they perceive my life to be.