A Sense of Belonging

Posted by Cajunspirit
"Bachelor's of the Zodiac"
So they say... and honestly, I can't help but find I fall into this description myself.
I hate crowds and current trends. I don't like groups and prefer person to person communication.
The world view these days pushes for self sufficiency and this is very strongly engraved in me.
I never have a real sense of belonging. Any time I feel like I fit in, it just seems so superficial to me.
Parties and nightclubs are not things I enjoy. Dinners and small get together[s] are much better, for me.
I don't feel like I belong anywhere, not even in my own family.
I feel like an external factor that is separated from the bubble everyone congregates in.
The Bible taught me, "Put not your faith in man, but in God and God alone".
This is so true for me... people always fail me.
I am curious to find out which Virgos do feel " A Sense of Belonging ", what they feel it to and why.

Posted by AybLynk

owwww....i digg dha humor...i def. do excel in group settings THE MOST...but truss me papi..i come to mek trouble..datt's mainly why virgos dnt fuxx witt me anyway..oh well...bhut really, yah always look at the bad side of life all the time...u sound like u wanna kill urself..lo siento

Posted by tuscan_sun

The Virgo I know is going through the phase of what you described, although he is a bit of a hypocrite. He says he dislikes partying yet he goes out with his friends almost every week. He loves casinos. He likes his alone time, but who doesn't. He believes in a god and even preaches about the right path, but one can only follow one who walks the path.

He knows the wrongs and I feel sometimes that it is difficult to execute the change that he wants in his life, because of the possibility that he may have to let go of some people that he surrounds himself with.

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an_sun, haha, well you sure got yourself some healthy patience. What is your sign, may I inquire?

Posted by BelleTheScorpio
He's mentioned many times that I'm the only that sees the real him, that I'm the only he would show his real self to. He says when he's with me, that he doesn't feel lonely and he feels as though he belongs.

Oh boy, sounds like he is really into you

He is also very spiritual and he puts all of his faith in God, but he is able to see God in everything/everyone. It amazes me to watch him.

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Fantastic! Not enough Virgos have spiritual conviction I find.

cajun, i can offer you the other side of the coin. unlike most virgos, i fair better in groups and enjoy partying. i hate being alone tho i feel that even in a group i do not really belong to most of them. Or more that i simply want to march to my own beat and not follow other's ideals
Lets just say virgos do carry their discriminations in various ways and from the way you put it, you practice it socially.
and no offence to the aqua: you can be you and don't give a shyat about it, but speaking from experience, you aquas only know the surface of us virgos and have no idea what goes on inside, since we do not really talk about it unless we are ready. Most of my friends are aquas who yet seems to know us but do not really express wanting to understand us at a really deep level. Sure, you can talk to us on a superficial basis, but when it comes down to dark and dirty, you all just clam up and walk away. We merely have different ways of living life and expressing it. no doubt, you all can be yourselves anywhere anytime, and i do enjoy such a person as it shakes me away from the typical virgo routine. Believe me, i disdain my virgo-ness as well and enjoy you aquas.

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I don't tell anyone my sign

Posted by Shaks

ho ho ho, youre not intelligent enough to realize saying that makes you automatically a Pisces

Sounds like the case to me too. Though her posting record indicates Scorpio.

Posted by sortilege85
Cajun, when i was younger, most groups that i associated with was pretty much for my own learning experience of how people react amongst each other. Right now, your questioning your sense of belonging.
Pretty much the second semester was the start of a road were I began to observe and understand how everyone and everything works whether if it was harsh or not.
It was a good learning experience but i stopped before i would have ended up like them. Now, i enjoy hanging out with small groups and travelling.

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Yup... sounds like I'm going through these same experiences you did albeit in a different setting and culture.

Posted by Learus
Cajun, I really like you Virgos, but can't understand why you feel you don't fit in anywhere?

Posted by Cajunspirit

tuscan_sun, save yourself the stress... please I heed thee, do not date Virgo men.

Posted by tuscan_sun

Is that sarcasm cajun?

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Posted by tuscan_sun
Why would you say such a thing, is this in regards to my previous post?

Posted by Learus
To Cajun and Sortilege - With the traits you two just described, you two could be leaders if you wanted to. You both seem to be charismatic in a special way. Don't sell yourselves short.

Posted by sortilege85
Curious you'll enjoy this.

Posted by Learus

From my point of view, Virgo core values seem to be created from careful analyzation of details. From there comes logic. Most of what I've seen Virgos use is logic. Correct me if I'm wrong here, but I think it is more effective to logical values rather than go along with whatever society has declared logical.

Have I ever told you... I love you?

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