I'm trying to understand a re-occuring pattern with some Virgs behavior I've noticed, in personal life or business relations. Some make a sharp decision to end a relation(relationship with employee or partner)very recklessly. There is never a warning where a person can improve themselves with you guys despite how much good seems to be established of someones worth.
Why is everything NOTHING?? ..like you lack appreciation for anything you have, lack being able to see that WHOLE picture?...ugh, did I just answer that myself, ur so focused in the details you DONT see the big picture until its after execution?
Reason I say this, my boss and another I interviewed with, both Virgos expressed when I asked what happened to the previous person they "let go" suddenly, what they wanted done differently? I got this reply..
They became worked up, then muttered out, "I tolerate a lot, but they kept coming in 5 mintues late on occasion and I would have liked their desk to be kept neater."
Now, I understand this is unprofessional and Virgo vice. However, they went into explaining that the person they let go's work performance was excellent and they promoted them even, they were reaching their goals and were ambitious always. So I sat there thinking, professionally this person made their business better but because of smaller details that were not communicated by Virgo that bothered him he'd like changed he said... "Who needs someone smart and educated in my business, you didn't read my mind, good bye!" basically by that action.
Now, these two guys are before me looking worried as ever, remorseful and I suddenly became their therapist listening to how stressed they were at finding someone to start right away that new everything in 5 days.
As a Cap I thought they were idiots, who goes around being reckless like that when you have so much at stake established? But honestly I've read and experienced myself the famous ill hearted, "quick willed decisions" of such Virgos.
I'm just wondering what conditions does it take to go back on what you decided? Does this ever happen in life for you, you try to mend something you wronged? Does it take someone yelling to wake you up to this? Or is this the lack of wanting to confront a situation, so you just break free completely so its clean and thats why you would dismiss a starting over?
"Who needs someone smart and educated in my business, you didn't read my mind, good bye!"
Why does this sound like something John McCain would say ... hahahahaha I'm serious.
This is why I say Virgos (well earth signs period) shouldn't really be given a ton of power. They really don't understand how to use it -- Virgos especially. Cappies are okay as long as they have a decent anchor -- like an advisor of some sorts. We caps look at the small things instead of the big picture so we need help with that.
You know youre wrong SB, I just dont have the energy to tell you why since Im off to bed now plus youre smart enough to know your logic is flawed..
What? Oh boy I bearly disagree with you Evan but this time we are on total opposites of the coin. What do you mean her logic is flawed? She's right on the money 😄
You may find they were glossing over the real problem, as they can't / didn't feel that they should really spill too much information to you.
I can't really comment on the rest, since I appreciate every little thing I have, I easily see the bigger picture, and I put alot of thought into my decisions before I act on them. I don't make decisions on a whim, and I haven't come across a virgo that does.
So picking up a chick at the bar and going to fuck is not a whim decision for a Virgo male? female?
Please.........
I think they crawl so far inside their own heads, that they for get the RW is out here not in there.........they live in thought patterns others cant possibly know about cause they were not there in the place they call logic.........LOL!
Capricorns are the most independent sign in the Zodiac. To the point that we are known loners. You don't get anymore individual than a loner.
Exactly. Now I will admit, I don't like being alone but if I feel its necessary then I'll leave it all behind and go on my merry way. I don't have a family to take care of, so its not like I have something to keep me somewhere.
Virgos are obsessed with ethics. Sometimes to the point that they miss out on what really is important. My mom is the same. She is always like " unethical this, unethical that". It may not even be unethical, but she'll find it to be. She even got her PHD in Ethics!!!!!!!
My virgo boss is like that. So of her decisions and the way she handles things sometimes are questionable. I'm so glad she asks for my opinion on certain things now LOL, I'm so happy. She's better then that Aries boss however. But was good about my Aries boss is that she had commonsense -- she wouldn't have pulled what those two virgos pulled cap31. No way, no how -- I agree, that was such bullshit. I'm sorry it was. Coming in late, keeping the desk cleaner. What the hell does it matter as long as the work gets done.
I mean for fycks sake, if their work was crappy I could see it but because of some pointless bullshit, they get fired.
Whatever, thats abuse of power and they should be grieved for that. I know two individuals at my job who are like that. I keep to myself because I know about their 'nit-picky bullshit' ways.
No way, those two bosses need to get knocked down a peg or two if you ask me 😉 I'm all about over throwing stuff 😄
And people say caps aren't risky, whatever, I say get those fyckers out of there. Expose them so they can be up to their necks in stress.
Hey, thats what head to happen to a higher upper at my job, I had the right paper and I give it to the right person, now he's sweating bullets 😛
I think they crawl so far inside their own heads, that they for get the RW is out here not in there.........
Thats what I mean. I jus re-read that post I'm thinking, "What the hell?" Whats with those guys. I see oodballs view, there had to be something else because that's abuse of power if it isn't. They don't need to be the boss of anything if thats how they handle things that hold little importance.
They way things are in the world and thats all they come up with to fire someone. Holy hell, I'd wreck their cars if I got fired over something like that.
HAHAHAHA, seriously, thats bull-shit ...
I'm in a violent mood tonight, I'm not quite sure why 🙂
Did I stutter? (if you can even do that in writing lol). I said I haven't come across any virgo's that make decisions on a whim (self included), and I meant exactly that.
I've said this previously on the boards, maybe i'm just lucky to only have known really good virgo's, and I certainly don't fit the stereotype either.
If you've known lousy ones then that's fine to base your own opinion on, but I would appreciate it if you didn't mock mine.
i have a virgo coworker who gets on my nerves with that nitpicking,want to be right about everything..to her if it is not perfect or right in her eyes it is wrong,,,she is very negative about everything,,i cant remember a day when she has said anything positive about anything or anyone....granted in work i would like things to be done correctly but she is so cold and strong headed she will tell u how u should do things to your face whether u are a co worker,supervisor or manager she doesnt care..we talk about it all the time,,i tell her people and the world is not perfect,,deal with it,,maybe thats why she doesnt have many friends..etc...i deal with her because we have other things in common but when that comes out which seem like a lot lately..im starting to distance myself because i like to look at the bright side of things,,,to me one would have to be miserable within oneself to always find fault in others but cant look at yourself and find your faults within...i think they hide behind others so people will not see what underneath...they are scared to let people see them vulnerable..as all earth signs do
Actually Cappysweetie I was thinking of John McCain myself with that=p
Shaka thanks for replying! I understand what you are saying, dedication should be shown. You are right about Caps abhoring risk. Yet I wouldn't compromise work quality over everything established just for the history. Caps don't put up with lack professionalism or someone displaying no dedication in work no matter what. It's moreso Caps simply like to be fair in situations towards people and warn them of impending consequence before the strike.
I've worked in places not so professional where the manager didn't care, not that I was like that, I actually look down on people that carry themeselves like that. But I just imagine those types of people were never taught better or at a place where it was valued, it was accepted somewhere that behavior like that. I'd rather try to at least set some guideline and make them aware before the cut. Give them one chance to redeem themselves if their skills are there and not just their manners well rounded.
Hey, I am appreciative of being able to get hired because of this persons mistake. I just felt that the impulsive decisions in general under some personal preferences a bit much (clean desk) not lateness for expecting someone to be like you, thats all. Everyone can't know everything. I have high standards for relationships or work of others, yet I still remind myself I'm not god and not everyone thinks like I do. I make them aware when I am not happy with the way things aren't looking depending on if I see potential in them.
Oh, Cybernikes come to Long Island, NY you will see and hear plenty of illegal things and they get away with it all. I've even called the CEO of a company about an interview I had that was really not professional at all and they offered me a job for calling them about it. It's sad but that is life here, some places are admirable but not all are gems.
How did I get this info? They are open with me. I asked what he wanted done differently this time around that the previous employee didn't fulfill. The rest of the interview was just him going on a story himself. I get into conversations often with employers where they aren't professional and go off on tangents that you wouldn't expect is normal. People just feel free to tell me this. I don't find it professional either but they are so strung out when I meet them and they tell me their whole situation.
I was doing the interviewing as I should like they are me. I've been in plenty of places where they are mess the managers and don't even know what they want or why they'd have me there. I ask questions and I get people that are lost, these are lawyers or the most recent was major insurance company. I don't want to work for someone who's business is already going down hill with no hope of recovery from their beliefs in doing something. I want to know who I'm dealing with and establishing a relation with so I know I can help and make a difference.
stu.stu.stu.stut-ter, No, you didnt, and it was not a directed statement or question, but insinuated, you would be correct, but an addition to the thread, that is all, no more, no less, think of it what you will, its my opinion on some level(some experience), that is all, expressed, passed and moved on........
People are touchy on the board today.......CALM DOWN FOLKS, its only chitty chat....sharing, different POV, GEEEEZE!
I mean, they are slow and they are NEVER sure of any decision for its validity. They seek approvals from others.
HAHAHA - I think the thread title is not suitable.. Virgos are NOT good decision makers. If the head of the house hold is a virgo, that family will be most disfunctional..
" .. who goes around being reckless like that when you have so much at stake established? But honestly I've read and experienced myself the famous ill hearted, "quick willed decisions" of such Virgos."
Quick willed decisions? How do you know what stakes are worth value, or risk, to a company in which you've only seen the front door, and interviewing office?
"but they kept coming in 5 mintues late on occasion and I would have liked their desk to be kept neater."
That ^^^^^ doesn't sound to me like a quick-willed decision, which would infer being rash, and thoughtless ... it sounds like something that had been going for a while, for the word "kept" was used, to infer that this person had a habit of breaching this company policy.
The main question was, Why after making a decision do you ever go back on it realizing things from such an impulsive decision were may be not the best idea with someone?
We all seem to got on to focusing in the details to justify what business codes are but not on the main question, which was about AFTER you decide such a thing what happens? Lets change it to a personal relationship, that may be easier to target.
For something you have decided upon in haste have you ever gone back to mend things? Under what conditions would it be?
I've been in plenty of places where they are mess the managers and don't even know what they want or why they'd have me there. I ask questions and I get people that are lost, these are lawyers or the most recent was major insurance company. I don't want to work for someone who's business is already going down hill with no hope of recovery from their beliefs in doing something. I want to know who I'm dealing with and establishing a relation with so I know I can help and make a difference.
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Sounds like a lot of job-hopping .. when did you start your "career"?
Value in a company I know nothing of. It's an office no one from the outside comes into. Therefore, value is not at loss or stake of company in my eyes to have certain environmental details altered. This like mentioned isn't a company where it is dealing with something like Cybernikes said, that is a health concern or haz mat situation where lateness is effected by certain terms. And its not about lateness etc, its just plainly about the action.
Quick willed I meant he never thought ahead it predicts to me- since he did not get someone in the wings before he decided that he'd fire her. Who tolerates a bunch of anything yet runs around assuming people can hear what isn't said outloud and expects that to be well read and adheared to. I'm going solely on his story, what he told me of his actions. What the other told me of his actions.
He told me he promoted her and was very satified with her work otherwise. When I asked did he confront her about these on going little things he didn't like, he said no. But implied she should have known better because he believe that dedication is shown through those simple principals.
I am not so much questioning his values of business code. The question again was on making an impulsive decision, impulsive meaning that he was in panic because of the mess he had from just letting her go without having any back up plan. Says that plainly. That is not a planned out thing then.
Again, I am not backing up her actions, the question was about making an impulsive decision. He clearly regretted doing that because he had no one those weeks to replace her and he said his business was backed up. Perhaps I should have not used that example and made it a personal life example however I didn't have one on me.
From my experience with Virgo's .... they are never hasty. On The Contrary, they take so long to make a decision that a season could change.
What this looks like to me here, isn't a Virgo having a regret for what they did ... rather, you having a regret for what they did. For a reason in which you haven't clarified here, you believe that their decision to terminate this persons employment was a bad decision ... and what I can't grasp here is why you think you are in a position to make such a judgement call, as to what a company should or should not do to benefit them, when you've only just met the front door?
Every company, every supervisor out there .... has their own values, their own principals .. and they have a right to these because they are the ones in charge and running this business. It appears that this company, and the supervisors are sticklers for punctuation and tidiness and they have a right to be ... because they are the superiours and the ones who make these decisions.
From what I've gleened in here .... you appear to be unsatisfied with every job you've gone to because you think that the managers don't run these businesses properly and the thing is .... they are successful enough to be in business, for if they weren't, then they wouldn't be in business. It appears that your values are at odds with these practices because you've mentioned that this is an experience you seem to find yourself experiencing over and over.
So, I would suggest to you .. stop working for other people and start up your own business. That way it can be run the way you want it to.
As for your question .. I don't see where the Virgo made a bad decision and should re-evaluate their practices.
Thanks P-Angel. No, it's not job hopping. I did medical rotations in different offices for 3 summers. Worked for another company part time for 7 years actually in my life. And assisted to others in running a business' both in Manhattan and the Hamptons prior.
What I spoke of that you are referring to, it's called interviewing what I made remarks on from those managers. I also was in one business that went out of business I was with for 4 months while in school. Notice I said, where they don't know what they want from you when you ask them, what are the job objectives. These managers weren't organized at all and neither was there place of business.
Quite honestly, there is a lot of "junk" companies I've crossed paths with in interviews and I don't settle for working in such an environment where no one takes pride in the work or business they have.
Sometimes, a Cancer has to be removed ASAP .. that's life.
Bring it to a personal level ... if a person was wrong in your life, are you going to hold onto this person until you've replaced him in your life? Or, are you going to terminate his relationship with you, eventhough you have no replacement?
You don't know any more than what they told you ... you have no idea as to how this person's breaching of policy effected the other workers attitude in the office. You haven't put any more thought into it except how you deem their professionalism being right or wrong from your own perspective = judgeing with limited information, or thought-expansion beyond your first impression.
Here's something you might want to think about, for I certainly did ...
Perhaps, they didn't want this person to be the trainer of the replacement because then the newbie would be taught to disrespect company policy about attendence and organization.
It's not uncommon for a company to remove the 'bad seed' before bringing in the new .. in fact, if a person is influencing others to defy authority, then the proper action is to terminate immediately, so the Cancer is removed before it can metastasize .. and certainly, it should be removed before new organs are inserted.
You know .... you are only looking at her/his job performances in getting the work done .. and not at office attitude.
Attitude is signature ... it will make or break a company. And a successful and flourishing company is built around the right personality fits .... the key to success is Attitude, Capricorn31.
And if this person's attitude was all about fighting against policy, which every person knows that a part of their responsibility is to be punctual >>>> eraticate ASAP.
Why is no one reading?? WHY. It's not what I asked, again. Not questioning ethics and this isn't about me.
Why would I regret what judgement he made P? What sense does that make honestly? How does this effect me negatively? You are reading too deeply into this P-Angel. I am using an example of a quick decision he made, as an example question "thought" as to is there any reflection from a Virgo when they make a quick decision— I know they think and think and think before taking action, but is there looking back, thinking, is what I referred to all this time.
Again, I should have used a different example, my opinion was he made a bad desicion again because he didn't have a back up plan>That to me implied-impulsive decision made. Not because his pricipals were off. But because he said he tolerated so much so much but never spoke to the person about what bothered him so much they did.
My opinion was my pov- you should COMMUNICATE with people, not rashly just not warn them of anything. That is my sense of fairness speaking. Not because that happened to me. Do we know what he really did, no we don't. But that wasn't the main question I asked.
And a lot of those people in those places they werent successful, they peeled through employees one after the other because of the way they conducted things. People left them or he got rid of them either way, there was no such thing as keeping at staff. They were loosing money so couldn't pay salaries what they should and another 2 I should say failed completely after a few years. No one is perfect and I certainly don't know all I know, wasn't my point made.
I just asked one question and somehow this got turned around completely off topic. I'm not attacking Virgos. I know some and they are wonderful guys and a women. I believe and admire their professional and personal views. I would work with 3 I know for sure and be behind them totally in support. I am just saying some that execute a certain decision making. I am questioning just the "thought process" simply. Perhaps my example was a bad focus to get this direction it took.
"And what they do should be respected. In general they are more stable and inteligent than average employee."
Indubitably ... that's why they are the superiours, and not the subordinates. An employees responsibility is to respect their decisions, and form a compliance attitude, instead of a defiant one.
Would I keep them if their attitude sucks, NO. BUT LIKE WHAT I SAID A MILLION TIMES>
I WOULD TALK TO THEM ABOUT IT> JUST LIKE I SAID HE TOLD ME HE DID NOT. I believe in teaching people. This means correcting them. Not being a doormat but at least communicating ways to improve at least once or twice.
That is my whole point. Try and COMMUNICATE and not expect everyone to think like yourself.
Again though, we don't know what really went on there except him.
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And for the supervisor for the other company, I was being hired to replace them. I just did not like the way the company was for the type of business it was. The owner of the company expressed that to me when he asked how things looked to me about the business and I told him pro and cons. He explained he was disappointed too with the manager of the place however for the money he was paying them he couldn't expect anything greater from them in making any improvements. Doesn't make sense why he would accept less but thats why declined to be involved with that.
I just asked one question and somehow this got turned around completely off topic. I'm not attacking Virgos. I know some and they are wonderful guys and a women. I believe and admire their professional and personal views. I would work with 3 I know for sure and be behind them totally in support. I am just saying some that execute a certain decision making. I am questioning just the "thought process" simply. Perhaps my example was a bad focus to get this direction it took.
Oh heavens no, you aren't attacking virgos at all. What in the world gave you that idea?
I understood your question, Capricorn31 ... and I've tried to answer it, and I didn't look at this like a Virgo-bashing, thought clearly, your question is aimed at Virgo's, and making the implication that Virgos put their decisions in a box, and never re-hash their reasons for making such a decision. You want to know if Virgo's ever re-think, or reflect when a quick decision has been made.
I understand your question.
And I've answered your question >>>> Virgo's don't make rash decisions. So, if a decision isn't rash, and a lot of thought has been put into it to come to the accurate conclusion ... then what point is there in re-thinking?
Personally, I wouldn't communicate this to an employee either .... I would EXPECT them as a part of their RESPONSIBILITY to KNOW proper office procedure. I would take the position that it's the employees responsibility to know what they should do to adhere to company policy without being micro-managed.
Again .... about back-up plans ... please think about what I proposed to you as proper managing procedures >>>>>> you want the "bad" employee to exit the premises BEFORE bringing in new meat >>> terminate.
And doso ^^^^^ withOUT a replacement. 1) you can train yourself as to what you expect, and not have the Cancer training, 2) you've just sent a message to other employees in whom this Cancer has infected.
I was made aware there was no policy of the company explained to this person. In fact I ask them that when in conversation for that reason. I've had a conversation where they say, thats a good question because they forget themselves. It happens. I just I guess see it as there needs to be guidelines in order for anyone to follow anything that both parties are aware of the consequence if breached.
Virgos don't make rash decisions, you call McCain decision to bring in Palin not rash or reckless? Thats kinda on the same lines too. May be this Virgo boss "thought it out" of firing the person he did I understand when he said he tolerated a lot, but just didn't plan out what the next move would be. That was what made me think, why would you do something so shorting yourself like that. May be it wasn't impulse but reckless or I dunno what as a label then. I understand what you are saying to cleanse out the system before introducing new. I just get to stuck to me that judging a situation with out investigating it and asking questions to the one the in judgement, is acting impulsive.
You and P-Angel have different opinions on Virgoism too -- which I find cool 😄
However, regardless of the sign of the person, the decision wasn't the best one in my opinion but I'm not the boss of anything so I guess I shouldn't really talk but ... I still, I still think higher up positions should belong to fire signs 😉 LOL!!!
"when I asked what happened to the previous person they "let go" suddenly, what they wanted done differently?"
What I find worse ... is that a question was asked, which suggested that the negative attributes of the previous employee was wished to be conveyed to her ... and then made a judegment for answering in this very negative fashion, in which was asked for.
What did he do wrong He was a fuck-up Ah, how horrid that they said he was a fuck up
Negative energy breeds negative energy ... you ask for negative, then this is what you get.
You asked them to tell you what this other person did "wrong" .... you didn't project "positive" energy .. so why on earth did you think this is what you should recieve back?
If you ask a person what is "wrong" .. then you better be prepared to hear the answer
I can't say I've experienced this either ... or, what's probably closer to the truth, is that I've not experienced this in actions of a Virgo.
My Virgo will not necessarily "say" that he is wrong about something, and I suppose for a person who needs to have verbal affirmation that this neglect of voicing this error, could be interpretated as lack of courage, or an abundance of pride/ego, or a lack of remorse .... so, it's really a matter of interpretated perception.
My husband would be inclined to correct the error in action, and never say a word .. but, for the fact that his action has changed, is clear indication to me that there is recognition of a mistake.
However, I think a point to consider here, is self-confidence, and the viewing of mistakes. A lot of people feel guilt, remorse for mistakes .... and though it would seem logical that since Virgos are perfectionist, that they should feel remorse, but, they don't. I don't think of mistakes in terms of remorse either, necessarily, depends on circumstances, of course. But, some people have a defeatist mind-set, the glass is half-empty .... so would naturally see an error as something to dwell on, to bring them down for it.
Virgo's don't really have this mind-set .... when a mistake is made, they won't necessarily wallow in remorseful energy. Certainly, they will contemplate it, ponder for perhaps a long time if it's a vital mistake .... but, not wallow in self-deprecation for it.
However, I can see how that ^^^^^ might be interpretated as such because it's not verbally proclaimed that they fucked up, and exessive energy is put into worrying over how to make it right, so I can see how this would appear as though years are spent in denial, not wanting to atone for it.
I understand, SG ... you're a Cappy, so naturally, you hold a lot of value to having words said to you 🙂🙂
Just goes to show that there's a reason why we are all different ... because being a Pisces, I'd rather have 'action' as proof .. words are unimportant to me >>>>> intentions are what I value, and if intention is there without verbalizing ... happy Fish 🙂🙂
I'm almost back to my usual self 🙂 Thank you for asking 😄
You know Cappy, I'm still waiting on insight on those cappies. I mean, you can't really say that your giving up too much info cause this is in regards to a male Cap and males are different, right?
I find it amusing how this quickly turned into a Virgo bashing and Caps are better, blah blah blah
From a bunch of Caps who got "wronged" or "fell for a virgo man", typical...
I must commend P-Angel for her clear cut point on the fact they are management and doing their job.
Virgos are detail and ethic oriented. Clearly these people progressively did not fall into place and there would be no hesitation or remorse to let them go.
That attitude, Cajunspirit, may be why so many people hate virgos...."take it or leave it" "I'm the boss" wah wah wah....The fact is, sometimes they are power-tripping babies with no heart.
Exactly 😉
Look 'Mr.Negative' no one was bashing Virgos at all, just the particular boss who made a stupid decision 😄 If it was stupid, then it was just stupid -- regardless of the sign. It could be a libra and I say the same thing LOL!!! Actually, I just kind of help relocate a libra boss that was giving everyone hell around my area -- I'm so glad somewhere else. It was kind of like a demotion but she doesn't realize that yet.
That libra was JUST like the Virgo boss Capricorn31 was talking about. We co-workers had to ban together to get rid of her LOL!!!!! She was the main reason behind my issues a few monthes ago, hopefully she's completely out. If not, I will ask my Saggie boss what else can we do to get rid of her lol!
You probably didn;t read more then two comments anyway hahahahaha!!!! Why do you have something to say 😄
Virgos are detail and ethic oriented. Clearly these people progressively did not fall into place and there would be no hesitation or remorse to let them go.
This is exactly why Virgos should be the boss over any corporation. Or is they do, they fall rather quickly you see. That power-trip thing will get you ever time. hehehe, especially if you have a rightous capricorn like myself lurking in the mist 😉
From my experience, the only people who aren't shallow when it comes to the looks of a person, for relation purposes, have been Aqua's and Virgo's.
In reality, we don't know if the bosses made a bad decision in terminating that persons employment, because we ONLY know what limited information was posted in here .. and not information in the entirity .. as well as, she doesn't know this information in the entirity for her to even make a decision on whether this termination was a bad choice, or good choice.
This happens so often in here 😢 .... people only post what they want others to hear about any situation, with intentions of getting feedback exclusively slanted in their corners.
This thread is nothing but a amalgamation of prejudiced ignorance from self righteous sourpusses.
hey! That's my comment, I know it anywhere -- name calling I see 😄
I never said I didn't stand on my soap-box once in a while Mr. Cajun 😉
Oh and all that rhetoric you used is for the birds, "prejudiced ignorance from self righteous sourpusses" blah blah blah blllaaahhhhhhh
Like I said, if it were about any other sign, I give my opinion to -- you just upset that most of the threads on this board are filled with negativity towards Virgos, so just put all the blame on this one 😉
I'm trying to understand a re-occuring pattern with some Virgs behavior I've noticed, in personal life or business relations. Some make a sharp decision to end a relation(relationship with employee or partner)very recklessly. There is never a warning where a person can improve themselves with you guys despite how much good seems to be established of someones worth.
Why is everything NOTHING?? ..like you lack appreciation for anything you have, lack being able to see that WHOLE picture?...ugh, did I just answer that myself, ur so focused in the details you DONT see the big picture until its after execution?
Reason I say this, my boss and another I interviewed with, both Virgos expressed when I asked what happened to the previous person they "let go" suddenly, what they wanted done differently? I got this reply..
They became worked up, then muttered out, "I tolerate a lot, but they kept coming in 5 mintues late on occasion and I would have liked their desk to be kept neater."
Now, I understand this is unprofessional and Virgo vice. However, they went into explaining that the person they let go's work performance was excellent and they promoted them even, they were reaching their goals and were ambitious always. So I sat there thinking, professionally this person made their business better but because of smaller details that were not communicated by Virgo that bothered him he'd like changed he said... "Who needs someone smart and educated in my business, you didn't read my mind, good bye!" basically by that action.
Now, these two guys are before me looking worried as ever, remorseful and I suddenly became their therapist listening to how stressed they were at finding someone to start right away that new everything in 5 days.
As a Cap I thought they were idiots, who goes around being reckless like that when you have so much at stake established? But honestly I've read and experienced myself the famous ill hearted, "quick willed decisions" of such Virgos.
I'm just wondering what conditions does it take to go back on what you decided? Does this ever happen in life for you, you try to mend something you wronged? Does it take someone yelling to wake you up to this? Or is this the lack of wanting to confront a situation, so you just break free completely so its clean and thats why you would dismiss a starting over?