ANOTHER ?????? FOR YOU VIRGO GUYS....
This topic was created in the Virgo forum by Paige99 on Thursday, February 8, 2007 and has 10 replies.
So what's the worst a girl can do to annoy the HELL out of you???
Does it bother you when we text you? Or, does it flatter you??
If I text you and you do NOT respond, will it annoy you if I text you the next day????
WHY THE HEEEEEEEELLL DOES IT TAKE YOU SOOOO LONG TO REPOND NOW??? When, we first met, you text me everyday and reponded to my texts right away?? What changed? What did I do???
Does it bother you when we text you? Or, does it flatter you??
If I text you and you do NOT respond, will it annoy you if I text you the next day????
WHY THE HEEEEEEEELLL DOES IT TAKE YOU SOOOO LONG TO REPOND NOW??? When, we first met, you text me everyday and reponded to my texts right away?? What changed? What did I do???
ahhaha... welcome paige..
welcome to the dating world of a virgo.. u've came to the right place. lol
i think ALL of us have been where you are right now. if ur willing to work at it.. give yourself time for a lot of understanding, a lot of space, a lot of patience, a lot WORK WORK WORK WORK WORK WORK WORK WORK WORK, a few tears here/there/everywhere (lol), a lot of confusion, a lot anger (but let that go), and work again....
i'm sleepy.. i'm out for now
welcome to the dating world of a virgo.. u've came to the right place. lol
i think ALL of us have been where you are right now. if ur willing to work at it.. give yourself time for a lot of understanding, a lot of space, a lot of patience, a lot WORK WORK WORK WORK WORK WORK WORK WORK WORK, a few tears here/there/everywhere (lol), a lot of confusion, a lot anger (but let that go), and work again....
i'm sleepy.. i'm out for now
What? 76 responses on the other thread wasn't enough?
Did you even hear what anybody was saying to you?
If you had .. why would you even ASK this question?
Did you even hear what anybody was saying to you?
If you had .. why would you even ASK this question?
Refer to numbers 3 & 5 from the "list" .. the one that tells you what type of women are deserving of the Virgo .. for, you've failed already.
'I need you NO DON'T LEAVE ME! I'LL STAB MYSELF IF YOU GO, I'LL DIE' lol Ok, maybe I'm the wrong Virguy for this, becuase that would go straight to my head!! lol 
it's never happened before though...but something in the general ball park of dependecy, and mental weakness, and over clinginess....yeah....
it's never happened before though...but something in the general ball park of dependecy, and mental weakness, and over clinginess....yeah....
Don't text all the time. It is annoying and if it disrupts a meeting at work or a quiet lunch, and more come after that, expect nothing even longer.
Anything more than a quick emssage once in awhile becomes tedious and the more frequent, the greater resolve not to respond to it.
Honeymoon is over Doll, no more days of texting bliss.
Anything more than a quick emssage once in awhile becomes tedious and the more frequent, the greater resolve not to respond to it.
Honeymoon is over Doll, no more days of texting bliss.
Alright Paige99, I'll tell you a few things I know from living with a Virgo. The following quote is yours from your other thread.
"He would talk to me every 2 to 3 weeks. Finally, I confronted him about it and aske him what was wrong, and he sid he likes and and does not know how to act around me."
That is a very important aspect into WHY you are going through this and not understanding .. the Virgo is himself at first, for to this point, he lets his natural self direct him .. once you told him that you are into him .. he backed away. This is normal and 99% of us women have experienced this. Yes, patience is important and all have told you that .. but, there's something you have to understand as to WHY this happens.
Being critical is the normal state of the Virgo and this includes himself. Once he realized your feelings, he then realized that he HAD to act a certain way around you. Quote: "he sid he likes and and does not know how to act around me". His self-critiquing started at the point of realization about your feelings for him .. from that point forward, he stopped being his carefree and charming self and began on his journey of analyzing EVERYTHING about you, the relationship, his feelings, your feelings, what you said, what you didn't say, why you did this, why he didn't do that - EVERYTHING. Because he is NOW aware and unsure because he recognizes emotions running around .. he is out of his natural zone (non-emotions) and into his critiquing whether this union should continue to the next level .. because he is so self-absorbed with his "study" of this coupling .. he feels out-of-place and now doesn't know how to "act".
Rest assured that if he told you he likes you .. he does. However, because he doesn't know how to act, meaning: what to say, what not to say .. he will withdraw. But, that doesn't mean he doesn't want to continue to pursue a relationship. Because they are so unsure of theirselves as this phase of relating, if you pull away now .. you've lost him. He's depeneding on you to keep this going until he's done pondering .. he is relying on you to keep contacting him .. he won't be annoyed. But, what he will do is doubt your interest in him if you STOP contacting him.
Text, call, or email every other day .. make sure he knows that you are still "with" him and that you're not going anywhere that leads you away from him. Unfortunately, the time he will take to fully come to a decision on whether you're good enough
"He would talk to me every 2 to 3 weeks. Finally, I confronted him about it and aske him what was wrong, and he sid he likes and and does not know how to act around me."
That is a very important aspect into WHY you are going through this and not understanding .. the Virgo is himself at first, for to this point, he lets his natural self direct him .. once you told him that you are into him .. he backed away. This is normal and 99% of us women have experienced this. Yes, patience is important and all have told you that .. but, there's something you have to understand as to WHY this happens.
Being critical is the normal state of the Virgo and this includes himself. Once he realized your feelings, he then realized that he HAD to act a certain way around you. Quote: "he sid he likes and and does not know how to act around me". His self-critiquing started at the point of realization about your feelings for him .. from that point forward, he stopped being his carefree and charming self and began on his journey of analyzing EVERYTHING about you, the relationship, his feelings, your feelings, what you said, what you didn't say, why you did this, why he didn't do that - EVERYTHING. Because he is NOW aware and unsure because he recognizes emotions running around .. he is out of his natural zone (non-emotions) and into his critiquing whether this union should continue to the next level .. because he is so self-absorbed with his "study" of this coupling .. he feels out-of-place and now doesn't know how to "act".
Rest assured that if he told you he likes you .. he does. However, because he doesn't know how to act, meaning: what to say, what not to say .. he will withdraw. But, that doesn't mean he doesn't want to continue to pursue a relationship. Because they are so unsure of theirselves as this phase of relating, if you pull away now .. you've lost him. He's depeneding on you to keep this going until he's done pondering .. he is relying on you to keep contacting him .. he won't be annoyed. But, what he will do is doubt your interest in him if you STOP contacting him.
Text, call, or email every other day .. make sure he knows that you are still "with" him and that you're not going anywhere that leads you away from him. Unfortunately, the time he will take to fully come to a decision on whether you're good enough
for him may take a gross amount of time .. that's where the patience comes in.
Anyway, I just wanted to tell you WHY he is behaving differently from when the two of you first started this dating thing .. he's still there .. he's just been thrown off-kilter by introducing emotions into the scenerio. This is where they feel vulnerable because they are full of just about all logic and will even try to reason-out these emotions, instead of just going with them.
Text him, Paige99, if you want to continue developing a relationship .. to stop texting him, will throw him into a tailspin .. because one, he'll think you were playing with his feelings and two, he'll then think that he HAS to become emotionally supportive and this is something he doesn't feel comfortable with.
Good Luck and get a library card
Anyway, I just wanted to tell you WHY he is behaving differently from when the two of you first started this dating thing .. he's still there .. he's just been thrown off-kilter by introducing emotions into the scenerio. This is where they feel vulnerable because they are full of just about all logic and will even try to reason-out these emotions, instead of just going with them.
Text him, Paige99, if you want to continue developing a relationship .. to stop texting him, will throw him into a tailspin .. because one, he'll think you were playing with his feelings and two, he'll then think that he HAS to become emotionally supportive and this is something he doesn't feel comfortable with.
Good Luck and get a library card
so does that mean that since i havent called him or contacted him since my dumm txt 3weeks ago he's not going to try....have i let to much time go by or do u think he appreciates the space??
Depends, libra lis .. I don't know the circumstances .. if you said, I've forgotten.
What did he say? Did he say that he wanted to try and have a relationship with you and that he liked being with you? If he did, then yeah .. pick up the phone now and call him, or first thing in the morning. He's likely thinking that you've decided he wasn't worth it.
You know, the Virgo has this insecurity where they think they aren't good enough for anybody .. that's one reason why they have to ponder so long and deep. They're thinking something along the lines of, "Why in the hell would she want someone like me?" Even if you've told him a million times .. it's just their nature to doubt their worth, so, if they feel unworthy inside themselves, they are just as deeply suspicious of your worth as well. Crazy .. I know .. but, that's how they are.
Tell him that you are still "with" him, just giving him time to sort stuff out. After this time .. keep in contact on a regular basis .. that is .. until you can't take the wait any longer. Unfortunately for the Virgo .. most people can't wait until they've gotten over their insecurity and fear .. and ditch them long before they've finished their pain-saking dwelling and fretting.
What did he say? Did he say that he wanted to try and have a relationship with you and that he liked being with you? If he did, then yeah .. pick up the phone now and call him, or first thing in the morning. He's likely thinking that you've decided he wasn't worth it.
You know, the Virgo has this insecurity where they think they aren't good enough for anybody .. that's one reason why they have to ponder so long and deep. They're thinking something along the lines of, "Why in the hell would she want someone like me?" Even if you've told him a million times .. it's just their nature to doubt their worth, so, if they feel unworthy inside themselves, they are just as deeply suspicious of your worth as well. Crazy .. I know .. but, that's how they are.
Tell him that you are still "with" him, just giving him time to sort stuff out. After this time .. keep in contact on a regular basis .. that is .. until you can't take the wait any longer. Unfortunately for the Virgo .. most people can't wait until they've gotten over their insecurity and fear .. and ditch them long before they've finished their pain-saking dwelling and fretting.
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