Are V men usually very self contained and ...
This topic was created in the Virgo forum by mslibra on Friday, March 19, 2010 and has 11 replies.
how long does it usually take them to really open up? another questions..are some of them slobs?
3 Months m'i lady
"How long does it take for them to open up?"
That's the $ 64,000 question. I'm no VM, but I'm sure it's safe to say they're all different and the variables would make answering a question like that impossible.
I've known mine a little over a year and I get peeks inside every now and then. He definitely knows more about what's going on inside me than vice versa. I've just learned to accept it because from everything I've learned, that's just how it is, I can take it or leave it.
Oh and he's not a slob. He's the type that notices everything, carries a lint brush, blah, blah, blah.
That's the $ 64,000 question. I'm no VM, but I'm sure it's safe to say they're all different and the variables would make answering a question like that impossible.
I've known mine a little over a year and I get peeks inside every now and then. He definitely knows more about what's going on inside me than vice versa. I've just learned to accept it because from everything I've learned, that's just how it is, I can take it or leave it.
Oh and he's not a slob. He's the type that notices everything, carries a lint brush, blah, blah, blah.
Okay..thanks. I feel that he will be to frustrating for me. I like to talk..not about superficial surface things, but just discuss stuff. He is sooooo quiet. I told my friend this and she said that maybe he is an introvert. He will talk, but never about his family..and I don't think he has one friend..maybe..not sure. Another question..do they hold onto their money..and why so? Is it just security to them..this is what I am thinking. He brought JUST ENOUGH money to cover the dinner and tip..not a penny more..I found that odd. I dated another guy, Virgo..and he had a wad in his wallet..but I could tell he was tight because of where he lived and his job..it didn't add up. He was making 100K a year and living in his boss' basement for free..hello.. yah..your are tight..lol. I think he may have had a demanding father..I have good intuition and I somehow can feel this is the story..like he isn't good enough. I can see the push/pull thing coming on also. After reading these posts I believe he just does this to sink back into his mind for some reason. Boy...is he strange..
Posted by mslibra
Okay..thanks. I feel that he will be to frustrating for me. I like to talk..not about superficial surface things, but just discuss stuff. He is sooooo quiet. I told my friend this and she said that maybe he is an introvert. He will talk, but never about his family..and I don't think he has one friend..maybe..not sure.
I am quiet around people I do not know well.
My style of conversation and comedy are often misinterpreted. As DY wrote, we're cautious.
Why should I bother to mention things of importance to ears I unsure will be receptive?
That's pointless and Virgos don't "do" pointless.
Another question..do they hold onto their money..and why so? Is it just security to them..this is what I am thinking. He brought JUST ENOUGH money to cover the dinner and tip..not a penny more..I found that odd. I dated another guy, Virgo..and he had a wad in his wallet..but I could tell he was tight because of where he lived and his job..it didn't add up. He was making 100K a year and living in his boss' basement for free..hello.. yah..your are tight..lol.
Free living accommodations means more saved money.
Yes we are "tight". I am a penny pusher my self. No reason to splurge or move out, when I am not financially stable, in my own eyes.
I think he may have had a demanding father..I have good intuition and I somehow can feel this is the story..like he isn't good enough.
http://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/virgo/Can% 27t-Good-Be-Good-Enough-1925172.asp">You should dig deeper into the forums
I can see the push/pull thing coming on also. After reading these posts I believe he just does this to sink back into his mind for some reason. Boy...is he strange..click to expand
Strange to you.
We are mental people, we are always thinking. "Sinking back into his mind" is part of who he is.
I have been friends with my VG for over a year and a half now. For the first year, I got pretty much nothing out of him. Since then I get tiny tidbits of information of insight into the real him. Believe me when I say its only tiny tidbits. That's just how some of them are. Very private, very cautious. For the first year or so, I didn't know anything about his family or if he had any other friends at all. Now, he will talk about family members, and I do know that he has 2 other friends. I only know one of his other friends names though. Its kind of like he makes a point to keep us all separated. I can almost guarantee that they might not know my name either.
That has to be a Virgo guy thing. I am a Virgo female, and I am not as private. I tend to keep emotional stuff to myself (as best I can), but I will speak freely about other things. I myself do not like to keep a lot of friends, because more friends typically just means more drama and more frustration.
He has money, from what I can tell, a good bit of it. He even has a financial advisor. However, every purchase is calculated. He will spend of some seemingly frivolous stuff, but the purchase was well planned and thought out before it happened.
Best advice I can give you is to just to wait it out, let him get more comfortable with you, and you will get a little more info. Don't expect a life story, and a gushing river of emotion, because thats not going to happen. Just pay attention when he speaks because he will sneak stuff in every now and then. I wouldn't push too hard, because that tends to make them uncomfortable. Though, once he is comfortable, you can ask questions and most likely he will answer.
That has to be a Virgo guy thing. I am a Virgo female, and I am not as private. I tend to keep emotional stuff to myself (as best I can), but I will speak freely about other things. I myself do not like to keep a lot of friends, because more friends typically just means more drama and more frustration.
He has money, from what I can tell, a good bit of it. He even has a financial advisor. However, every purchase is calculated. He will spend of some seemingly frivolous stuff, but the purchase was well planned and thought out before it happened.
Best advice I can give you is to just to wait it out, let him get more comfortable with you, and you will get a little more info. Don't expect a life story, and a gushing river of emotion, because thats not going to happen. Just pay attention when he speaks because he will sneak stuff in every now and then. I wouldn't push too hard, because that tends to make them uncomfortable. Though, once he is comfortable, you can ask questions and most likely he will answer.
We have things inside us that we don't want damaging, so we won't let you see or touch it until we're 100% sure that you'll handle it with love and respect.
Is there a time frame on that VirgoM20, that's exactly, what I'm willing to give, 110% of the time.
Posted by kitty69
Is there a time frame on that VirgoM20, that's exactly, what I'm willing to give, 110% of the time.
It's hard to say. I guess it depends on how a couple are with one another and also how well they know one another. If you hit it off from day one and see a lot of each other then it might be weeks, if you have a gradually building relationship and don't see each other very often then it might be a year or even longer. In the closest relationship I had (with a Leo woman) it took me six months before I felt I could really open up to her, but I recently made a female friend who's a Cappy and I've opened up to her almost totally, almost immediately. It depends on the dynamic between two individual people.
Nicely put, I too have received snippets, and would love to know more, he cries a lot with me, is affectionate enough, I guess, I should be grateful, accepting, all he is willing to give. This is my issue, I understand, I just expect people, to be as open and giving as I am, all of the time, this I know ,is not possible, ahhhh did I mention, I can't stand being a scorpio, it drives me nuts...
Halelulia to that, shame you guy's are over the other side of the globe, we could have coffee, and exchange stories, hehe.
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