Aries f and Virgo m
This topic was created in the Virgo forum by aries89dc on Monday, April 21, 2014 and has 20 replies.
Did we move into a relationship to quickly or am I just excessively thinking things through. We met online and he was very eager to get to know me. We have only been talking for two weeks now. He stays two hours away, which makes it very difficult to keep in touch like we would like. We've only been on two dates, and he seems like a very nice guy. My birthday was last Friday and he was a perfect gentleman. Opening the car door for me, I felt really respected. Even though I'm so independent it was nice chilvary things that are hard to come by these days. He took me out to eat and to the movies. I enjoyed my time with him and the steady flow of conversation. However he is so impatient. When I tell him I have work to do he insist that I'm putting him second. When I don't let him have his way it turns into a conflict. He jokes around a lot and I take things very seriously. It's not that he has potential I can see him as the one, as long I have trust. But it is hard to perceive what he really wants because he is so secretive with specific things such as his phone. Or maybe Im just looking into things the wrong way. I don't really feel any mental passion, it just feels good in other ways. I would love to hear from a Virgos man point of view, but any comments would help in understanding how this operates.
Did we move into a relationship to quickly or am I just excessively thinking things through. We met online and he was very eager to get to know me. We have only been talking for two weeks now. He stays two hours away, which makes it very difficult to keep in touch like we would like. We've only been on two dates, and he seems like a very nice guy. My birthday was last Friday and he was a perfect gentleman. Opening the car door for me, I felt really respected. Even though I'm so independent it was nice chilvary things that are hard to come by these days. He took me out to eat and to the movies. I enjoyed my time with him and the steady flow of conversation. However he is so impatient. When I tell him I have work to do he insist that I'm putting him second. When I don't let him have his way it turns into a conflict. He jokes around a lot and I take things very seriously. It's not that he has potential I can see him as the one, as long I have trust. But it is hard to perceive what he really wants because he is so secretive with specific things such as his phone. Or maybe Im just looking into things the wrong way. I don't really feel any mental passion, it just feels good in other ways. I would love to hear from a Virgos man point of view, but any comments would help in understanding how this operates.
Follow your gut instincts.
An error that many women make is they feel he's the one within a small period of time.
Do not fall in love or even potentially feel like you can fall in love until you know the direction he's going in.
@When I tell him I have work to do he insist that I'm putting him second. When I don't let him have his way it turns into a conflict, being secretive and hiding his phone.
That is a red flag, listen to the red flags, be objective about it, be fair about it and base your decision off of that.
He could be married for all you know or in a live in relationship type of situation. Just make sure you know him first before getting too involved.
An error that many women make is they feel he's the one within a small period of time.
Do not fall in love or even potentially feel like you can fall in love until you know the direction he's going in.
@When I tell him I have work to do he insist that I'm putting him second. When I don't let him have his way it turns into a conflict, being secretive and hiding his phone.
That is a red flag, listen to the red flags, be objective about it, be fair about it and base your decision off of that.
He could be married for all you know or in a live in relationship type of situation. Just make sure you know him first before getting too involved.
Posted by tiki33
Follow your gut instincts.
An error that many women make is they feel he's the one within a small period of time.
Do not fall in love or even potentially feel like you can fall in love until you know the direction he's going in.
@When I tell him I have work to do he insist that I'm putting him second. When I don't let him have his way it turns into a conflict, being secretive and hiding his phone.
That is a red flag, listen to the red flags, be objective about it, be fair about it and base your decision off of that.
He could be married for all you know or in a live in relationship type of situation. Just make sure you know him first before getting too involved.
Thank you , i don't want to rush into something else. I just talked to him and asked him where do we stand, he said we are just going with the flow. It's just when he gets so eager to see me, I take it as he wants to get to know me. I told him I'm devoted to school just as well as he is devoted to work. He pulls the guilt trip as you said Red Flag. And I get frustrated and lose focus and time on my goals. I want him to be able to understand this, without being repetitive about it. Is there a special language to this Virgo man?
2 weeks really isn't enough time to know a guy. I don't believe he's looking for anything serious with you which is why he's creating conflict and being secretive.
If you don't mind dating him casually then relax, have fun, keep your eyes peeled for the guy who ready, open and isn't creating conflict and being secretive.
Since it's so new the best language is silence, expect nothing, need nothing and get on with developing your life, focus on doing that MORE than focusing on a man because focusing too much on a man creates negative energy and sends the wrong message about you which is you're desperate or why else would you be so involved with a guy you've only known for 2 weeks.
Women who have an air of desperation move fast, expect a relationship to evolve quickly and if it doesn't evolve quickly she's thrown completely out of whack in her Daily life..
Women with an air of desperation need to know where the relationship is going, she lacks self control on an emotional level and that energy can make a man stop being interested, doesn't mean he won't stick around for the benefits for example sex but he will not be open with you once he see you are y too serious too soon.
Once a man get a whiff of that "where are we going" "I need you" energy the good stuff ends, he's half ass, he's secretive and the only way to turn it around is to stop everything your doing and be different.
Try a new vibe/new energy that says I won't focus on you until I feel you're worth focusing on.
Try a new outlook, as in I won't get caught up on where we are and therefore I won't give you my heart until I feel I can trust you with my heart.
Shift your perspective and you'll feel much better about your situation.
If you don't mind dating him casually then relax, have fun, keep your eyes peeled for the guy who ready, open and isn't creating conflict and being secretive.
Since it's so new the best language is silence, expect nothing, need nothing and get on with developing your life, focus on doing that MORE than focusing on a man because focusing too much on a man creates negative energy and sends the wrong message about you which is you're desperate or why else would you be so involved with a guy you've only known for 2 weeks.
Women who have an air of desperation move fast, expect a relationship to evolve quickly and if it doesn't evolve quickly she's thrown completely out of whack in her Daily life..
Women with an air of desperation need to know where the relationship is going, she lacks self control on an emotional level and that energy can make a man stop being interested, doesn't mean he won't stick around for the benefits for example sex but he will not be open with you once he see you are y too serious too soon.
Once a man get a whiff of that "where are we going" "I need you" energy the good stuff ends, he's half ass, he's secretive and the only way to turn it around is to stop everything your doing and be different.
Try a new vibe/new energy that says I won't focus on you until I feel you're worth focusing on.
Try a new outlook, as in I won't get caught up on where we are and therefore I won't give you my heart until I feel I can trust you with my heart.
Shift your perspective and you'll feel much better about your situation.
That was very helpful thanks
Posted by CluelessCancer
Yes Virgos are like this, it's a manipulative, controlling tactic, don't feed into it, ignore the heck out of it...also he probably just wants to be reassured you're just as into him as he he is into you.
People are only clingy and needy because you're not feeding them-once you start feeding them-they'll feel more secure...and be less clingy/needy
It hard to distinguish what he really because he has started pulling back. But he gets angry when he doesn't have his way, I look over it because I have a plate full already dealing with school. I don't think he understands the stress I endure from it. He piles up this tactic of guilt on me just to get his way. It does not work because I explained to him my education is important. I know he works hard and can afford to do what he wants. But I am in a position where there is no alternative and he doesn't recognize this.
Posted by CluelessCancer
This is also going on in my situation and i just don't understand it so i am going back to ignoring his azz...i've tried hard to be nice, but he thinks i'm faking it.
It seems like it's only a problem of distance, because when I'm with him all is well. When apart he gets pushy and impatient and desperately wants immediate results from me especially on his free time. He doesn't want to consider the effort I have to put into to make free time for myself and others.
I'm in agreement with you guys I will maintain my focus on my priorities. _??_
This guy is something serious. He calls me and expects me to drop everything for him. I asked him repeatedly can you wait 2 weeks until school is over. He texted me and said no I expect to see you tomorrow. What a trip this guy is. I talked to him over his break and he asked if I were on my way. I told him no, there was a brief pause and he hung up without saying goodbye. Major issues I prefer not to deal with it.
I had no clue about Virgos He is 27. Born August 25
I messaged him why do you seem so pissed
He responded what do I want I don't care about him or want to see him so what's the point
I said I do care and that he must doesn't care about my education
No response from this guy
I'm not stressing over this it's just pathetic
Lol and then I asked him to come see me he said he did last time
I told him I came to you twice with no problem I didnt know we were taking turns to visit one another
I messaged him why do you seem so pissed
He responded what do I want I don't care about him or want to see him so what's the point
I said I do care and that he must doesn't care about my education
No response from this guy
I'm not stressing over this it's just pathetic
Lol and then I asked him to come see me he said he did last time
I told him I came to you twice with no problem I didnt know we were taking turns to visit one another
I believe me hearing your experience is very helpful, no need to feel obligated of stay on my topic. I don't mind being devoted but geesh can I have one thing exclusively for me. I could understand if he were saying I'm spending all my time with my friends, this is the exact opposite. I wish he could look at this self-improvement for me, because in the long run we will be for the best.
I meant to say it will be for the best.
He has his self together, but I refuse it give up on things that I take pride in. He could be one of those priories. With things going as they are I can't give him what he wants unless he is patient about it.
He has his self together, but I refuse it give up on things that I take pride in. He could be one of those priories. With things going as they are I can't give him what he wants unless he is patient about it.
Ok I will work that
I am damn near an expert of aries/virgo..lol.. I fell so in love with an virgo. He was amazing! We have been on and off and now are off, for 4 long months. Anyway, the last time we broke up, he completely quit talking to me for a few days, I knew something was up. When we began talking again, he talked about how much he misses me and thinks about me. He also told me about his fear of getting hurt and how he had strong feelings for me, but he is so scared. He is so scared to put time into a relationship and things not work. How he is affraid of rejection and being a waste of time and feelings.We have had absolutely no contact for 3 months. I have to let him go, theres nothing more I can do. Sux, but I am trying. Anyway, from my experience, I would say that Virgos, possibly can fall in love pretty fast, however, I think that even if they are in love, they are not going to let you know or make any commitments. He will have to think and think about everything before he comes out about it. Virgos are constantly thinking and analyzing. I have virgo moon and rising, so I get this. However, after two weeks, and you guy is controling and jealous?/ sounds like a un-evolved guy. These guys are all over, Virgo, Aries, etc.. the whole lot. My guy was very honest and respectful all the time, he never was jealous or petty. This guy sounds kind of imature for a virgo? IDK, but, what I do know is that relationships take along time to learn and grow together and generally, when you are two weeks into a relationship, no matter how good it feels, how fast you are falling in love, you have to give yourself time to get to know the person. We usually fall in love with the feeling we have when we are with them, rather thatn the person themselves. How can we love someone we dont even know? I am just saying this, cuz I have been the same way, head over heels with someone that I don't even know. Be careful!
Posted by aries89dc
When I don't let him have his way it turns into a conflict.
What does this mean? By getting his way, are you talking sexually?
Posted by aries89dc
It's just when he gets so eager to see me, I take it as he wants to get to know me.
If you're keeping him on a string by fucking him (which is something an Aries would do) ... then why would you twist the meaning of why he is eager to see you?
Posted by aries89dc
But he gets angry when he doesn't have his way ...
And there it is again. What is this way he wants. Usually when people use this term, they are referring to sex.
Posted by aries89dc
He texted me and said no I expect to see you tomorrow. What a trip this guy is. I talked to him over his break and he asked if I were on my way. I told him no, there was a brief pause and he hung up without saying goodbye.
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For him to expect to see you tomorrow is an indication that you're fucking him, and he wants you to come fuck him.
I get this indication all throughout this thread.
It appears to me that you're keeping him on a string, by using sex as a leash to try to keep him on some kind of line.
My Virgo was born on August 25th ... and he is nothing like you've described in here.
Of course, I'm nothing like you either, in that, I don't use sex to manipulate men.
Other people have mirrored these comments but I agree....
2 weeks too soon to know anything.
Putting pressure on your to see him at this stage MAJOR RED FLAG. Players and extremely insecure men do this.
No "mental passion" is also worrisome. You need the mental stimulation even more after the initial rush of passion fades.
If I were you, I'd keep my guard up and take things real slow. If he's serious about you he will wait. Good luck.
2 weeks too soon to know anything.
Putting pressure on your to see him at this stage MAJOR RED FLAG. Players and extremely insecure men do this.
No "mental passion" is also worrisome. You need the mental stimulation even more after the initial rush of passion fades.
If I were you, I'd keep my guard up and take things real slow. If he's serious about you he will wait. Good luck.
Well I appreciate the feedback from you guys , but we chose to cease communication. In this case the issue probably was me, maybe I ought to focus on what's on my plate, and don't try stray away from my goals.
Posted by CluelessCancerPosted by aries89dc
Well I appreciate the feedback from you guys , but we chose to cease communication. In this case the issue probably was me, maybe I ought to focus on what's on my plate, and don't try stray away from my goals.
No it's him. He's insecure and highly controlling. I know this guy you're dating. Believe me.click to expand
Thank you, I don't have any intent manipulate no one for sex, maybe I didn't explain in clear and precise way for others . But I posted this to understand my situation more clearly and to get positive and negative insight. CluelessCancer you have helped me gain a clear view that he may want a person who is in complete interest of him and as of this moment I can't give 100% devotion to his needs. Unfortunately, we both are in agreement to further communicate.
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