ARRGGHHH!!!!!!!!! SO EFFING FRUSTRATING

This topic was created in the Virgo forum by scorpio24 on Wednesday, March 13, 2013 and has 18 replies.
So after a week of him being sooo nice to me and actually acting like a boyfriend be starts to be SHiit again. So we talk about it, he says he loves me but isn't SURE if he is in love with me. I asked him if he was ever in love with me he said yes. I ask him when did it go wrong, he doesn't know. Some of the things he said: he told me he doesn't enjoy having a conversation with me, he thinks I'm immature for example: I still am unsure of what I wanna do with me life career wise and all I care about is socialising with people and not missing out on stuff. So I was like "well go out with a fucking 90 year old woman then!!! I'm young of course I don't wanna get old and remember on all the times I "stayed at home sleeping" lol. then I said how its unfair how he is continually over analysing and notices all my negative traits, and completely forgets about all the good things about me. Cause really, he has fuck all to say about me negatively but he always seams to find something! And I reminded him that there are wayyy more GOOD things about me then bad and he should focus on them coz if he focus's so much on the bad then it brings it out of me more by law of attraction. He had nothing to day coz he knew I was right and I said he should stop trying to make me or expect me to be some perfect girl cause ill never be perfect because NO ONE IS perfect and he will never find a PERFECT girl so he needs to sort his effing shiit out. He didn't say anything to that cause he realised I was right. I told him that I am an idiot for tolerating it for so long and I know he thinks I'm an idiot for tolerating it for so long, but I can't help that I love him. I also said he always criticises me and I appreciate it and take it all in but suggested to him that maybe be should stop trying to make me perfect and focus on Making himself better.
I am so over this whole relationship, very close to just breaking up with him. I wonder though if retrograde has anything to do with this? We are now kinda on a break. But why was he sooooo good to me last week and now is just being frustrating and weird again. Lol not sure that virgo and scorp are the best combo after all.
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Posted by scorpio24
And I reminded him that there are wayyy more GOOD things about me then bad and he should focus on them


Perhaps you should try telling yourself this AND believing it - then, and only then, are you likely to shrug and walk away from someone who believes this about you.
Posted by scorpio24
I told him that I am an idiot for tolerating it for so long and I know he thinks I'm an idiot for tolerating it for so long


You also need to believe this rather than just spouting it at him and expecting him to tell you something different, even more idiotic is you saying this and then continuing to tolerate behaviour towards you that you don't like.
Posted by scorpio24
I am so over this whole relationship, very close to just breaking up with him. I wonder though if retrograde has anything to do with this?
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You've said you know you are an idiot but you still are only "very close" to breaking up with him - you really don't believe you are an idiot, but you are probably right in that he does. Even more idiotic is blaming it all on a planet.
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I know I NEED to break up with him for my own benefit, I'm clearly not happy. It's so much easier said then done, I realllllly love this guy it's so fucking hard to just completely let go. And I NEVER blamed it on a planet :/ I said "I WONDER if this has something to do with retrograde?
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People know but there's either a need to change your content or change your life. Leave him before he leaves you in all likelihood he will come back to you.
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Posted by scorpio24
So after a week of him being sooo nice to me and actually acting like a boyfriend be starts to be SHiit again. So we talk about it, he says he loves me but isn't SURE if he is in love with me. I asked him if he was ever in love with me he said yes. I ask him when did it go wrong, he doesn't know. Some of the things he said: he told me he doesn't enjoy having a conversation with me, he thinks I'm immature for example: I still am unsure of what I wanna do with me life career wise and all I care about is socialising with people and not missing out on stuff. So I was like "well go out with a fucking 90 year old woman then!!! I'm young of course I don't wanna get old and remember on all the times I "stayed at home sleeping" lol. then I said how its unfair how he is continually over analysing and notices all my negative traits, and completely forgets about all the good things about me. Cause really, he has fuck all to say about me negatively but he always seams to find something! And I reminded him that there are wayyy more GOOD things about me then bad and he should focus on them coz if he focus's so much on the bad then it brings it out of me more by law of attraction. He had nothing to day coz he knew I was right and I said he should stop trying to make me or expect me to be some perfect girl cause ill never be perfect because NO ONE IS perfect and he will never find a PERFECT girl so he needs to sort his effing shiit out. He didn't say anything to that cause he realised I was right. I told him that I am an idiot for tolerating it for so long and I know he thinks I'm an idiot for tolerating it for so long, but I can't help that I love him. I also said he always criticises me and I appreciate it and take it all in but suggested to him that maybe be should stop trying to make me perfect and focus on Making himself better.
I am so over this whole relationship, very close to just breaking up with him. I wonder though if retrograde has anything to do with this? We are now kinda on a break. But why was he sooooo good to me last week and now is just being frustrating and weird again. Lol not sure that virgo and scorp are the best combo after all.


You need to chill out. Why are you focusing so much on him? Remember you? *Hello*
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Posted by scorpio24
So after a week of him being sooo nice to me and actually acting like a boyfriend be starts to be SHiit again. So we talk about it, he says he loves me but isn't SURE if he is in love with me. I asked him if he was ever in love with me he said yes. I ask him when did it go wrong, he doesn't know. Some of the things he said: he told me he doesn't enjoy having a conversation with me, he thinks I'm immature for example: I still am unsure of what I wanna do with me life career wise and all I care about is socialising with people and not missing out on stuff. So I was like "well go out with a fucking 90 year old woman then!!! I'm young of course I don't wanna get old and remember on all the times I "stayed at home sleeping" lol. then I said how its unfair how he is continually over analysing and notices all my negative traits, and completely forgets about all the good things about me. Cause really, he has fuck all to say about me negatively but he always seams to find something! And I reminded him that there are wayyy more GOOD things about me then bad and he should focus on them coz if he focus's so much on the bad then it brings it out of me more by law of attraction. He had nothing to day coz he knew I was right and I said he should stop trying to make me or expect me to be some perfect girl cause ill never be perfect because NO ONE IS perfect and he will never find a PERFECT girl so he needs to sort his effing shiit out. He didn't say anything to that cause he realised I was right. I told him that I am an idiot for tolerating it for so long and I know he thinks I'm an idiot for tolerating it for so long, but I can't help that I love him. I also said he always criticises me and I appreciate it and take it all in but suggested to him that maybe be should stop trying to make me perfect and focus on Making himself better.
I am so over this whole relationship, very close to just breaking up with him. I wonder though if retrograde has anything to do with this? We are now kinda on a break. But why was he sooooo good to me last week and now is just being frustrating and weird again. Lol not sure that virgo and scorp are the best combo after all.


You need to chill out. Why are you focusing so much on him? Remember you? *Hello*
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im an overly passionate s
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**im an overly passionate scorpio with my venus in libra Sad
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it comes naturally to me to not be selfish in this situation.
Sad FML i wish i could wake up and just be completely over him.
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Posted by MellyMel
Ah dammit! I messed up the quote feature. Stupid iPhone!


no one called me an idiot, but in regards to alot of people's comments on other threads i have begun thats how i feel that everyone thinks. the main one being Mr Defence starting a whole entire thread on just me. haha
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So, instead of actually taking any responsibility for yourself and your own life ... you're just going to continue with the manipulations and guilt-tripping in an attempt to get him to be responsible for your happiness.

:::: shakes head ::::

btw, people don't think you're an idiot .. they KNOW you are ... and it's due to your obssession with acting like one
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He is an inmature Virgo, he would start feeling totally in love with you again the minute you dump his a**.
When he sees you happily going on with your life and totally over him and the relationship he would realize you are the love of his life and want you desperately. Move on, be happy, focus on yourself, make sure he sees you with someone else, when he starts pursuing again, give a little and then pull away, be hot and cold, mess with his head, this will secure his heart forever lol, they just love drama and irrationally always want anything they cannot have...
But then why anyone would want to be with someone like this...
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Sorry dafna79, I couldn't do this even if I wanted to, not because not capable but because I believe that two wrongs don't make a right Sad
Anyhoo... I am currently giving him a load of space. Yesterday I deactivated my Facebook account and deleted his number for the time being, don't want to contact him until he wants to contact me. Yesterday was the 2nd time in 2 years that we did not speak to eachother at all not even a hello.Sad It's now 630am here in aus, and I just woke up from a dream where he was texting me and being lovely, then I woke up and still nothing Sad I feel sad, but I'm just going to not talk to him until he talks to me. I wonder if/when he will Sad
Crying actually heart broken right about now.
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Posted by scorpio24
Sorry dafna79, I couldn't do this even if I wanted to, not because not capable but because I believe that two wrongs don't make a right Sad
Anyhoo... I am currently giving him a load of space. Yesterday I deactivated my Facebook account and deleted his number for the time being, don't want to contact him until he wants to contact me. Yesterday was the 2nd time in 2 years that we did not speak to eachother at all not even a hello.Sad It's now 630am here in aus, and I just woke up from a dream where he was texting me and being lovely, then I woke up and still nothing Sad I feel sad, but I'm just going to not talk to him until he talks to me. I wonder if/when he will Sad
Crying actually heart broken right about now.


I wasn't telling you what to do, i am just sharing my experience with some Virgos and yours is pretty young and seems to be a little inmature.
At this point in your relationship I believe the best thing for you guys is to end things.
Move on with your life, start loving yourself and putting you and your hapiness as your #1 priority, work on you, focus on what makes you happy, your goals, your friends, your family, etc. If you do this 2 things could happen:
1- You will find yourself a better person, you will start to be happy by yourself and then meet a guy that will truly make you happy
2- The Virgo might realize what he's lost and come back to this new you and the relationship will be better that what it is right now.
Truth is we cannot change anyone, we can only change ourselves. I know how you feel, you think you will never love or be attracted to anyone but him, you are 20 I am 33 years old, believe me I have been there and I am telling you, you will meet someone else, and you will be attracted to him and you will fall crazily deeply in love again, when you are ready.

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Posted by P-Angel

btw, people don't think you're an idiot .. they KNOW you are ... and it's due to your obssession with acting like one



*claps hands* well done, you are officially a hero in reminding me how much of an idiot everyone KNOWS i am. please give yourself a pat on the back for being such a wonderful hero in this forum.

LOL
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Just for you scorpio24
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Posted by scorpio24
Thanks were you able to see it.
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yes smile makes sense! you are a genious
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