Can I eventually salvage friendship with Virgo ex?

What's the most you ever lost on a coin toss.

AntonChigurh: It appears you post that a lot!

The most. You ever lost. On a coin toss.

So no one else has any comments for this?

*flips a quarter and covers it*

Call it.

sorry but you didn't give enough information.

what did you argue about?

you said you made the mistake of not letting him "cool off." wtf does that mean? what is your sign? where you blowing up his phone and playing psycho bitch due to insecurity?

you said, you "returned some stuff." in other words, you were dramatic. you effectively said, "here's your shit" which implies that you were done.

did you state that you wanted things to be over due to the falling out?

long story short, TELL THE STORY! you can't get help/assistance without perspective. let us know your level of bitch and his level of asshole so that we can understand the dynamics of the argument and your relationship.

Posted by socalgal
Virgo and I were friends for almost 20 years, dated for 3 months and had a falling out. I made the mistake of not giving him space to cool off. I texted and tried to call and he wouldn't answer (when we had a tiff once before he always answered the phone). I went to his house and when he opened the door he wouldn't talk to me. I then returned some stuff and when I got home he left horrible VMs...he said I was dead to him and I burned the bridge. His friend tried to talk to him and he said that we were done and he was thinking of moving on. I sent him a kind, letter basically telling him he was special, I cherished the length of our friendship and also the relationship and that I wished him the best in whatever he did. All these years he's told his friend I was the one who got away and all he did was talk about me. He told his friend (and also me) when he met/dated girls he always wished they were more like me. Do you think he will read the letter and take the time to really analyze what I said? Will he try to be my friend again eventually? Will he find that he misses me? It was two weeks ago he ended it with me.

It really depends on what you did to make him stop talking to you...for a virgo to say "you're dead to me" it must be something pretty damn bad for it to get on that level. He might not initiate conversation with you ever. Well that's just my perspective (virgo female) because if a "friend" did something really bad to me that really hurt me to my core...I wouldn't have shit to say to them at all...they would be totally deleted. He really cared for you that's why it's hurting so bad. I believe he will read the letter analyze it and think about it, but he's going to need time to come around.

Posted by RealTalk

Posted by socalgal
Virgo and I were friends for almost 20 years, dated for 3 months and had a falling out. I made the mistake of not giving him space to cool off. I texted and tried to call and he wouldn't answer (when we had a tiff once before he always answered the phone). I went to his house and when he opened the door he wouldn't talk to me. I then returned some stuff and when I got home he left horrible VMs...he said I was dead to him and I burned the bridge. His friend tried to talk to him and he said that we were done and he was thinking of moving on. I sent him a kind, letter basically telling him he was special, I cherished the length of our friendship and also the relationship and that I wished him the best in whatever he did. All these years he's told his friend I was the one who got away and all he did was talk about me. He told his friend (and also me) when he met/dated girls he always wished they were more like me. Do you think he will read the letter and take the time to really analyze what I said? Will he try to be my friend again eventually? Will he find that he misses me? It was two weeks ago he ended it with me.

It really depends on what you did to make him stop talking to you...for a virgo to say "you're dead to me" it must be something pretty damn bad for it to get on that level. He might not initiate conversation with you ever. Well that's just my perspective (virgo female) because if a "friend" did something really bad to me that really hurt me to my core...I wouldn't have shit to say to them at all...they would be totally deleted. He really cared for you that's why it's hurting so bad. I believe he will read the letter analyze it and think about it, but he's going to need time to come around.

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The Virgo guys already gave her advice on what to do the last time she posted.

He asked her if he could be there for her when she was sick, and she turned him down, and then she flipped the bird at him and basically acted a fool in the street when she saw him helping another woman. She embarassed him, so he chewed her out and told her not to come around anymore.

It would be nice (for her sake), if he changed his mind, but I have a feeling he's not going to. He's fed up and had enough of her selfish "me", "me", "me" attitude.

You embarrassed him in public?

Gonna take more than a letter telling him how great he is.

Write the letter when you are a changed person and break-down where you know you went wrong and be sincere.
Put yourself in his shoes.

@VV oh ok...nah...not going to happen. It's a wrap. I doubt if he'll ever talk to her again. If a "friend" embarrassed me in public, I would chew their ass out too & never speak to them again. Sorry boo-boo, that letter is most likely in file "G". The garbage. But IDK, maybe he's different. A 20-year friendship? She should know how he would react in a situaton like that. I guess she knows now...

RT - that was the gist of it. There's more to it than that (there always is).

Hopefully he can forgive and forget. Good luck with that though. Usually once we're done..kaput!

20 years of friendship down the drain...Guess reality didn't measure up to his dream so *poof* he's gone just like that...Anythings possible, it all depends on you giving him enough space to sort himself out.

hm... from what you're saying, i would understand why you got jealous... especially afterwards you found out it was his ex. yeah it seems like Virgos HATE being embarrassed in public more so than any other people i know... so maybe that's why he flipped out when you flipped out... or he might have gotten mad back at you so he can avoid being the bad guy or feels guilty about something... i'm really not sure. either way... things didn't have to escalate to this point. while you were trying to talk things out with him, were you doing it calmly or? i think i understand why you gave him back his stuff and cut him a check... but i think that pushed him away further. regardless, don't beat yourself up for it. i'm sure you have decided to give him his time. you can try to find out from his friend if he's willing to give you a chance in the meantime. otherwise you will be in the dark not knowing whether or not you should move on or not. there could be many reasons why he's doing this and that but the best way is to find out either directly from him later on or through someone else. that's how my situation is right now too