Can you like someone so much it scares you?
This topic was created in the Virgo forum by piscesdreamer on Saturday, July 22, 2006 and has 12 replies.
I think this is a male thing, but i have also experienced it myself in some ways. Have you ever met someone who fits you so well, is everything you could ask for and you feel a great connection with (basically too good to be true, the one, head over heels in love) that you nipped it in the bud because you were scared to be hurt down the line, to hurt them or you thought you weren't good enough? Maybe because of past experiences, once bitten twice shy etc...
Coz people say "oh he's scared' if someone I like runs away, is that just something they say to make me feel better, is it that he isn't that into me? or do men (in particular Virgo males) who are immature, run away from big emotions and settle for relationships with people who don't overwhem their logical head space?
My ex once said that he couldn't handle how obsessive he was about me and that I was encroaching on the rest of his life and he couldn't get stuff done, so he dumped me. He still checks up on me 5 years later and he is settled down now.
When I met my Virgo I was knocked out and i was scared to see him in case it went wrong for me again (I usually reveal my feelings quite soon, so this time I wanted to take it slow), even though I was crazy about him, i knew it was a delicate situation and I didn't want to lose him by scaring him off, so played it ultra cool. now i haven't seen him for over a month.
just wondering what the rest of you think? I am still hankering after my disappeared Virgo! help!
P.S. Tell me what I want to hear!
Coz people say "oh he's scared' if someone I like runs away, is that just something they say to make me feel better, is it that he isn't that into me? or do men (in particular Virgo males) who are immature, run away from big emotions and settle for relationships with people who don't overwhem their logical head space?
My ex once said that he couldn't handle how obsessive he was about me and that I was encroaching on the rest of his life and he couldn't get stuff done, so he dumped me. He still checks up on me 5 years later and he is settled down now.
When I met my Virgo I was knocked out and i was scared to see him in case it went wrong for me again (I usually reveal my feelings quite soon, so this time I wanted to take it slow), even though I was crazy about him, i knew it was a delicate situation and I didn't want to lose him by scaring him off, so played it ultra cool. now i haven't seen him for over a month.
just wondering what the rest of you think? I am still hankering after my disappeared Virgo! help!
P.S. Tell me what I want to hear!
Yes....and as a Virgo, it scares me... I feel that way about my WHOLE FAMILY, and friends I meet.....I want to protect them,and want them to ALWAYS FEEL SAFE WITH ME....YET I KEEP THEM AT A DISTANCE BECUASE I LOVE THEM SOOOOO MUCH IT SCARES ME.....I LOVE YA, AND I'M ALLLLLWAYS THINKING WHEN YOU MIGHT DIE; I WANNA HAVE SO MUCH TIME WITH YOU, I WANT TO GIVE YOU SO MUCH....I felt that way with many people....and I get very territorial of my friends; I am not picky; I want to be with people who want to be with me, and my loyalty.
I have a Cancer moon; perhaps that is why I care soooo much....why It's sooooo hard to let ya out when you gotta go to your business trip, your anything; I want that feeling always you give me when you're around me; yet I fear that feeling.....It makes my hand tremble, beucase It causes me to admit a scary, almost mortifying idea.....I need you, and if you left; i'd go cold again...
Yes, I can feel so much for someone that it can scare me to death!
well, im convinced my virgo guy is afraid of me, whenever he opens up emoionally or gets into personal conversations with me he pulls away for weeks at a time... then reapears as if the conversation never occured and appologises for the absance.
My mother always told me i intimidate men and need to cut them some slack.
So if a vguy is scared to death of you.... how do you let them know your not the monster from the black lagoon who wants to drag him into the murk to never see the light of day again?!?!? LOL!!!
My mother always told me i intimidate men and need to cut them some slack.
So if a vguy is scared to death of you.... how do you let them know your not the monster from the black lagoon who wants to drag him into the murk to never see the light of day again?!?!? LOL!!!
Hi dreamer, I know exactly what your talking about. I too have been virgoed, although Ms. Virgo was in a relationship, the chemistry (I think) was surreal, constant texts, flirting, string at me etc. All was fine until I told her how I felt about her, then she disappeared. I waited for her for a year and one day recently she dropped a bombshell on me and told me that what I want is never going to happen. She left me in pieces, and I still cant figure her out or why things turned out that way. The loyalty and faithfulness I showed her was unreal. I hugged her the last time I saw her and told her how much I loved her. I just hope she doesnt get hurt because her relationship has been very problematic since Ive met her. I know I made the mistake in showing emotion and telling her how I feel but you know us gems. Im now convinced its totally over. So yes Ive been there trust me.......it is in fact scary.
Nope! I find faults in everybody.
I could text him dyrstr8z, but I think I have made too many moves (hardly any, but compared to him, it is unbalanced). I have some self respect and pride. Do you think he is waiting for me to make another move? The last time we communicated (over a 'business' matter) he let me down and I was pissed off. I'm wondering if he feels bad and is just hoping I call him, but is too much of a coward to contact me. The last time he withdrew after I expressed just mild irritation at his lack of communication, I called him after 5 weeks and he was pleased to hear from me and started contacting me again, then it went off the boil... what is up with that? Do I really have to hold this Virgo's hand through it all?
Or is it his way of saying he's not interested? i don't wanna look like a fool who can't get the hint.
A lot of people say not to text him, that I should try and bump into him. That's quite hard to do.
Or is it his way of saying he's not interested? i don't wanna look like a fool who can't get the hint.
A lot of people say not to text him, that I should try and bump into him. That's quite hard to do.
>even though I was crazy about him, i knew it was a delicate situation and I didn't want to lose him by scaring him off, so played it ultra cool. now i haven't seen him for over a month.
Really depends on the V-guy. No gal has ever scared me off... well, there was that wicca gal once who kinda freaked me out... but aside from that... I've had sex on the first date and that only increased my devotion. No need to play it cool. I'm very emotional too. If you haven't seen him for over a month... write, call.. drop by... I let chores etc go so long sometimes, that once I have some free time... takes me along time to catch up... sometimes work gets in the way. Even tho I'm not a workaholic, sometimes I have to buckle down and make cash. SOmetimes when I'm involved in a certain project that I really dig... it consumes all my time. I bet he's thinking about you... but keeps saying "I'll call her soon" as the days and weeks tick by... SO YOU call him! I bet he'll be glad to hear from you.
Really depends on the V-guy. No gal has ever scared me off... well, there was that wicca gal once who kinda freaked me out... but aside from that... I've had sex on the first date and that only increased my devotion. No need to play it cool. I'm very emotional too. If you haven't seen him for over a month... write, call.. drop by... I let chores etc go so long sometimes, that once I have some free time... takes me along time to catch up... sometimes work gets in the way. Even tho I'm not a workaholic, sometimes I have to buckle down and make cash. SOmetimes when I'm involved in a certain project that I really dig... it consumes all my time. I bet he's thinking about you... but keeps saying "I'll call her soon" as the days and weeks tick by... SO YOU call him! I bet he'll be glad to hear from you.
Thanks guys, that does make sense. He is a busy guy, trying to get his business back on track...
But for a fish, I think I have a good balance of emotion and practcal thinking, I am just as cynical as I am romantic. I was overly emotional with my ex and this time around I kept my emotions in check. I felt so strongly about Virgo guy, but didn't let it overwhelm me, I must have grown up. He is 33 and 4 years older than me.
He is immature for his age unfortunately. His behaviour has been quite rude towards me, ignoring messages etc, but we got on so well (as friends mainly) and his sudden change in behaviour just doesn't make sense, I am betting something is going on there, rather than he just lost interest. I'm willing to give it another go. I at least need to know one way or the other.
"I bet he's thinking about you... but keeps saying "I'll call her soon" as the days and weeks tick by... SO YOU call him! I bet he'll be glad to hear from you." well, that's what I'm doing, so who knows, he could be doing the same.
But for a fish, I think I have a good balance of emotion and practcal thinking, I am just as cynical as I am romantic. I was overly emotional with my ex and this time around I kept my emotions in check. I felt so strongly about Virgo guy, but didn't let it overwhelm me, I must have grown up. He is 33 and 4 years older than me.
He is immature for his age unfortunately. His behaviour has been quite rude towards me, ignoring messages etc, but we got on so well (as friends mainly) and his sudden change in behaviour just doesn't make sense, I am betting something is going on there, rather than he just lost interest. I'm willing to give it another go. I at least need to know one way or the other.
"I bet he's thinking about you... but keeps saying "I'll call her soon" as the days and weeks tick by... SO YOU call him! I bet he'll be glad to hear from you." well, that's what I'm doing, so who knows, he could be doing the same.
oh yeah, and I have been quietly pursuing him for 8 months! I willl happily pursue another 8 months if need be!
We have slept together though, silly me.
We have slept together though, silly me.
Actually Yes and the other way around to.. i usually scare the other person..when i finally come out to tell them in all honesty (you know us gems) and then i laugh when they say i love you...uhh i love me lol
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