Chemistry!!
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Have you ever had such chemistry with someone that you didn't know how to handle it or what to do with it? If so, what sign did that to you?
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We trembled in each other's presence...it never went anywhere. 
virgo def.
never encountered anything like it before.
pure magnetism at its best.haahaa
never encountered anything like it before.
pure magnetism at its best.haahaa
pisces...and i ran the hell away! a lot of people go on and on about the scorpio stare, but this pisces had a stare that stopped me dead in my tracks. so yeah, i had to run because i didn't know what else to do, lol. too bad, he was such a cutie too.
Libra
This sounds like a Venus Mars connection. Lord, can I TESTIFY to this one! Actually the guy who I experienced chemistry with --to a HIGGGHH POWERED magnitude-- was my ex boyfriend's best friend. It's like a paralyzing feeling because you just stop in your tracks. It was unbelievable and akward all at the same time!!!!!!!!!!
Ohhh, the sign... VIRGOOOO! His bday is actually 3 days after mine... Sept. 17th! If I could rewrite history,,, I would make him Adam and me EVE!!!!
stringsattached,well atleast then give me the option of being called something else.not eggs please.will you?haahaa
maybe another name for devil.will do.
and yes,people have commented on my eyes their aquarius'ness.must be in the astrology then.i never gave that much thought to it before.but boy you must be very good at guessing signs.
mars in scorpio,yes i know it has its dark side.but i have embraced it.i have scorpio rising too,so i guess it is not THAT painful.haahaa
maybe another name for devil.will do.
and yes,people have commented on my eyes their aquarius'ness.must be in the astrology then.i never gave that much thought to it before.but boy you must be very good at guessing signs.
mars in scorpio,yes i know it has its dark side.but i have embraced it.i have scorpio rising too,so i guess it is not THAT painful.haahaa
A question for you all - if you can't become a couple with THE person you feel the highest magnetism, would you try your best to make him/her a lifetime friend or would you rather forget about his/her existence?
i tried becoming a friend.but it was very painful.to see that person with someone else.it is very hard.lets face it,it is not manageable for me.
so,i would rather not see that person all that often if i cannot be with her.
although it is hard to forget about that person's existence,it won't do me any good to keep lingering around her also.
i would rather>me hurt alone than, me hurting around her.
i tried becoming a friend.but it was very painful.to see that person with someone else.it is very hard.lets face it,it is not manageable for me.
so,i would rather not see that person all that often if i cannot be with her.
although it is hard to forget about that person's existence,it won't do me any good to keep lingering around her also.
i would rather>me hurt alone than, me hurting around her.
Seems like alot of these attractions don't get off of the ground? I wonder why? Are we just too afraid of being SO attracted (vulnerable) to each other. I mean attraction is a little scary anyway at first, but with both feeling electrified what is that? Like dual sides of a magnet repelling each other? Why don't we connect?
On the friendhip side of it..I don't think I can be that physically attracted to someone, and just be friends...too much strain.
I think you are right. Too much potential for pain.
'adbeb$
Chemistry and animal attractions make things happen? or the rest is bunch of personal politics and strategies?.
You know?
You know?
Self deceptions my dear if you ask me? what makes you stay and having hope for a relationship that was never meant to be..??
Even loyalty has it own limits..!!
sorry... my damn english sometimes...
Even the loyalties have its own limits..!!
Even the loyalties have its own limits..!!
QBONE --just curious ...how di you get to know the devil you know? HAHA
Scopiogoat: I know other people like this. You can't let go. Maybe something keeps you hoping that it will come down to YOU for him after all. Maybe it will as you seem to have the purest of love for him. I don't know how you are not in a perpetual state of brokenness though. I couldn't stand and watch my beloved bestowing his affections on someone else in my presence, or talk to him about "HER" and their problems. Kudos to you!
Scopiogoat: I know other people like this. You can't let go. Maybe something keeps you hoping that it will come down to YOU for him after all. Maybe it will as you seem to have the purest of love for him. I don't know how you are not in a perpetual state of brokenness though. I couldn't stand and watch my beloved bestowing his affections on someone else in my presence, or talk to him about "HER" and their problems. Kudos to you!
scopiogoat..
I can not give you any advice..(I stopped it years ago) nor can I lead you to a better place.. but what I am hoping is you to stop this damn (self deceiving process).
I am sure you'll manage if you get it right..
I can not give you any advice..(I stopped it years ago) nor can I lead you to a better place.. but what I am hoping is you to stop this damn (self deceiving process).
I am sure you'll manage if you get it right..
By studying the DEVILS? some are with wheels... some with wings... some with horns... some with female appearance? some with male appearance... And so on? lol
But I am sure you know what I meant?
But I am sure you know what I meant?
I know he feel the magnetism as well and he may fear to never hear from me again. And yes I know it sounds crazy but we can sometimes sense each other's mood remotely.
This doesn't sound like you should make a deadline Scopiogoat,...Maybe, just maybe, you should force yourself to seperate from him for a while. Make it clear you are not playing mind games. Just give him a chance to feel the lack of you in is life. You obviously mean alot to him as well as he you, or you would not be dancing together. I don't think you can "deadline" your heart anyway. Only your head. Does he have a clue how much he would miss you? If you can muster up the courage to set a deadline and be determined to stick with it, then you could do the same to distance yourself for a while, and still have your hope to hang on.
This doesn't sound like you should make a deadline Scopiogoat,...Maybe, just maybe, you should force yourself to seperate from him for a while. Make it clear you are not playing mind games. Just give him a chance to feel the lack of you in is life. You obviously mean alot to him as well as he you, or you would not be dancing together. I don't think you can "deadline" your heart anyway. Only your head. Does he have a clue how much he would miss you? If you can muster up the courage to set a deadline and be determined to stick with it, then you could do the same to distance yourself for a while, and still have your hope to hang on.
Ya Qbone....I was just rattling your chain 
sigh?. What can I say?. LADIES?..!
Just give him a chance to feel the lack of you in is life
I love you for saying that.. (Just give him a chance ?and adding ..not punishing him because of his lack of experiences?)? at the same time you are not a doormat? you are not a toy that people can play with? and many other things.. scopiogoat.. You are a great individual and honestly I admire who you are... you just need some adjustments.. that all?
I love you for saying that.. (Just give him a chance ?and adding ..not punishing him because of his lack of experiences?)? at the same time you are not a doormat? you are not a toy that people can play with? and many other things.. scopiogoat.. You are a great individual and honestly I admire who you are... you just need some adjustments.. that all?
Have you ever felt you were not good enough for someone even though you have the chemistry? Why would you let someone go because of that?
I hope not too prying Scopiogoat, but when you seperated from him did he miss you? What is it that's keeping him on the fence with you? Is he connected to someone else that he doesn't want to hurt? I'm trying to look at it from my point of view. If I had someone who loved me and had that much chemistry with me, and I loved them too, there would only be one or two things that could keep me back. One would be doubt about the other's sincerity toward me, and the other would be that I was not free. But that's just me
Brahn
I can't settle for friendship. I am an "all or nothing" type of guy.
don't laugh but it is because you are so damn egoist? I encourage you that you don't settle for less too, and aim for all or nothing?.
When you reach the real destination.. (if ever).. you'll see me laughing and waiving.. trust me on that, I've seen tougher people than you in my life that said the same crap..
Stay on course? all or nothing..
Lmao.
I can't settle for friendship. I am an "all or nothing" type of guy.
don't laugh but it is because you are so damn egoist? I encourage you that you don't settle for less too, and aim for all or nothing?.
When you reach the real destination.. (if ever).. you'll see me laughing and waiving.. trust me on that, I've seen tougher people than you in my life that said the same crap..
Stay on course? all or nothing..
Lmao.
Who said that you are the one who should deserve all..?? unless you meant crap then? that's another story though?.
when you lost control of your feelings for your virgo did the two of you get together?
Or has it been this type of a situation all along? Sorry I'm not up to snuff on your story. I was thinking that you HAD been together,and something came between you two. Now it sounds more like he doesn't want to get into something that may break HIS heart. Like you going back to the other after something (possibly goes wrong) Is that right?
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Or has it been this type of a situation all along? Sorry I'm not up to snuff on your story. I was thinking that you HAD been together,and something came between you two. Now it sounds more like he doesn't want to get into something that may break HIS heart. Like you going back to the other after something (possibly goes wrong) Is that right?
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for me...aquarius hands down...and then aries and libras..and some virgos.
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and cancers develop that over time.
Good lord...you wouldn't beleive me if I told you how closely I can relate to your story. Except mine did not end up on a friendship level. Instead I got called a few certain nasty names and we never saw each other again. (Don't let THAT happen).
Scopiogoat...what you've got is that damned classic love triange thing. Even if you're not involved with the EX, it's getting in the middle of everything, and it's a helpless feeling because well....what is IS, and what was WAS. I really hope you can work it out, because I still love the person who got mad at me, but we will probably never hook up. I know how it tears at your feelings day and night and worms it's way into head every time you take a mentle break. I guess if being "pure" and close is good enough for the time being...just live day by day. Enjoy the moments you share and be there for him. But, as Qbone said, don't be a doormat for the man. Don't give up too easily, but don't cling to the edge of the cliff too long...hope he looses his fear. Good luck!
Scopiogoat...what you've got is that damned classic love triange thing. Even if you're not involved with the EX, it's getting in the middle of everything, and it's a helpless feeling because well....what is IS, and what was WAS. I really hope you can work it out, because I still love the person who got mad at me, but we will probably never hook up. I know how it tears at your feelings day and night and worms it's way into head every time you take a mentle break. I guess if being "pure" and close is good enough for the time being...just live day by day. Enjoy the moments you share and be there for him. But, as Qbone said, don't be a doormat for the man. Don't give up too easily, but don't cling to the edge of the cliff too long...hope he looses his fear. Good luck!
god, this is heart breaking reading all this. why is it so hard when two people like each other so much? I fear that the reason me and virguy aren't getting together is that the connection is too strong. I can relate to the repelling magnets analogy. It's like when you've f'ed up a previous relationship, you don't wanna see the other person you really want to be with for fear of messing it up. but when you do you can't help but touch them and then when you finally hug you can't let go.
I slept with mine recently after making progress (it's been 8 months and we reconnected and I've been playing it cool, therefore he started chasing a bit), it was an amazing night. very intimate, but I don't think I will hear from him for a while. he's back in retreat mode I think. It does feel like too much too handle though. I personally feel spent after spending intimate time with him. like I need to get myself together again, it's too intense.
It's an age thing as well. when you are young you have nothing to lose, you throw yourself into relationships which inevitably crash and burn. but two people around 30 who have both been burnt aren't gonna put themselves up against the wall again so easily. it takes me years to get over heartache and I don't wanna be nursing a broken hurt any time soon.
I just hope i'm reading this right and he's not just taking me for a ride. we've been dancing round each other for 18 months now. I sense that he is terrified of me. I do seem to get under men's skin in a weird way. I dunno why I have this effect, but it prevents me from having a 'normal' relationship. i think it may be a combination of being very sexy (no point in being modest here!) and a bit naive at the same time. I have many male friends who want to have a relationship with me including those with girlfriends...I have to be responsible when I"M the single one! this is annoying and difficult (girls don't trust me) and galling when every guy I don't want, wants to get with me and the ONE guy I like isn't making the moves. I'm approaching 30, but I still feel like a wide eyed innocent, even though i have been through testing times and bad relationships. I am still a die hard romantic. I don't wanna become one of those cynical bitter hard faced women who trust no one. what chance do you have of finding love then? I'm willing to risk getting hurt, but I need to have more of a clue before I lay my cards on the table.
I slept with mine recently after making progress (it's been 8 months and we reconnected and I've been playing it cool, therefore he started chasing a bit), it was an amazing night. very intimate, but I don't think I will hear from him for a while. he's back in retreat mode I think. It does feel like too much too handle though. I personally feel spent after spending intimate time with him. like I need to get myself together again, it's too intense.
It's an age thing as well. when you are young you have nothing to lose, you throw yourself into relationships which inevitably crash and burn. but two people around 30 who have both been burnt aren't gonna put themselves up against the wall again so easily. it takes me years to get over heartache and I don't wanna be nursing a broken hurt any time soon.
I just hope i'm reading this right and he's not just taking me for a ride. we've been dancing round each other for 18 months now. I sense that he is terrified of me. I do seem to get under men's skin in a weird way. I dunno why I have this effect, but it prevents me from having a 'normal' relationship. i think it may be a combination of being very sexy (no point in being modest here!) and a bit naive at the same time. I have many male friends who want to have a relationship with me including those with girlfriends...I have to be responsible when I"M the single one! this is annoying and difficult (girls don't trust me) and galling when every guy I don't want, wants to get with me and the ONE guy I like isn't making the moves. I'm approaching 30, but I still feel like a wide eyed innocent, even though i have been through testing times and bad relationships. I am still a die hard romantic. I don't wanna become one of those cynical bitter hard faced women who trust no one. what chance do you have of finding love then? I'm willing to risk getting hurt, but I need to have more of a clue before I lay my cards on the table.
Picesdreamer: you sound like you know who you are and what you want AND don't want. It is difficult when every guy that sets eyes on you is out to be "YOURS" haha! Well as a Pisces you probably have good intuition (which is why you choose virgo ) Most virgos won't take you for a ride..usually we are the ones ending up on a ride..hence our guarded personality. Give it plenty of time, and nourishment in the way of appreciation and encouragement. Make him laugh. I love to laugh at silly stuff. Goofy stuff really. Coax him out of the 'worry' mode of life, and uh...ask him to cook for you. (Most virgos are really good cooks)that's just an extra haha!
) Most virgos won't take you for a ride..usually we are the ones ending up on a ride..hence our guarded personality. Give it plenty of time, and nourishment in the way of appreciation and encouragement. Make him laugh. I love to laugh at silly stuff. Goofy stuff really. Coax him out of the 'worry' mode of life, and uh...ask him to cook for you. (Most virgos are really good cooks)that's just an extra haha!ha ha. no offense taken. when I get down about the situation I just have to remind myself that love always finds a way (true love that is, not what we perceive it to be) and if it ain't meant to be with this one then it is because the REAL love is around the corner somewhere. It's out of our hands so why worry about it? you can't make someone fall in love with you.
Scopiogoat...I am just curious. Do you find yourself bouncing back and forth on the issue of staying and leaving? What haven't you done to "GIVE YOUR ALL"? Sounds to me like you are, but he's not responding? At least I can't detect his response other than fear. Does he make you feel like he WANTS you? What is HE doing when you are so up-front with your feelings? Does he give you a reason to hope for him?
thanks jwalker... I think he is sensitive... I do make him laugh a lot yeah. we are pretty goofy together. I love that. we have great banter (probably out of nervousness), he seems to constantly tease me. I like it up to a point but it's like he uses it as a shield against us getting into any serious conversation. That is why it is so hard to tell him how I feel coz there never seems to be a 'right' time as we are always fooling around together and the interaction between us is very lighthearted. He's smart. He knows what he's doing.
he asked me to cook for him! I haven't yet. think I need to keep away for a bit. try to undo the sleeping with him part!
he asked me to cook for him! I haven't yet. think I need to keep away for a bit. try to undo the sleeping with him part!
You can't "UNDO" that! Good night all!
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I hear you, Strings!!!! I DEFINITELY hear you ))
))Virgo. But I think it had a lot to do with the fact that there are several oppositions between our charts not just one. there is more than one taurus and scorpio opposition. there is a leo and aqua opposition, pisces and virgo opposition, and gemini and sagittarius opposition.
moon in sag; ascendant in gemini
sun, merc and mars in virgo; NN in pisces (midpoints too)
saturn in scorpio and SN in scorpio; mars and jupiter in taurus ascendant in taurus(cusp)
venus in leo; sun in Aquarius
jupiter in Aquarius; moon/mars midpoint in leo
there are a lot of hard aspects between our midpoints too.
there is probably as many conjuncts and oppositions as there are trines and sextiles in our chart and we have a few squares too, but none too bad.
moon in sag; ascendant in gemini
sun, merc and mars in virgo; NN in pisces (midpoints too)
saturn in scorpio and SN in scorpio; mars and jupiter in taurus ascendant in taurus(cusp)
venus in leo; sun in Aquarius
jupiter in Aquarius; moon/mars midpoint in leo
there are a lot of hard aspects between our midpoints too.
there is probably as many conjuncts and oppositions as there are trines and sextiles in our chart and we have a few squares too, but none too bad.
YES...
Scorpio
Pisces
and another VirgO :O
Scorpio
Pisces
and another VirgO :O
Sweethearts, a lot of women find themselves in this position and personally, I think it's all ego, really .. we want what we can't have and when a woman thinks she's succeeded in capturing a man with her seductive and alluring womanhood, then he pulls away, appearing uninterested .. the woman becomes blinded, for if she was using her senses, she would realize that she doesn't deserve to be treated badly. Females are programmed to use their sensuality, if this isn't recriprocated by the object that we are chasing, our ego tricks us into thinking we have chased hard enough .. I truly believe this because in most cases, once this man has been captured, the woman leaves. So, she really want him at all, just the conquest.
That's just my opinion, for what it's worth.
That's just my opinion, for what it's worth.
"thinking we have chased hard enough"
* haven't .. haven't chased hard enough
* haven't .. haven't chased hard enough
That actually makes alot of sense but I think that is whether we are female or male. The question is how do you control it or can you.
...."Give it plenty of time, and nourishment in the way of appreciation and encouragement. Make him laugh. I love to laugh at silly stuff. Goofy stuff really. Coax him out of the 'worry' mode of life, and uh...ask him to cook for you. (Most virgos are really good cooks)that's just an extra haha!"....
JWalker, that is so damn correct. lol I have to laugh at that myself. Everything is so true. My virgo spent almost 10 years missing me and he loves the ideas of me making him laugh. I mean it's really just silly stuffs but he enjoyed it. I guess I was ablt to loosen him up a bit and constanly I would reassured him not to worry too much on life bascially and that everything would be okay when time comes. They do worry too much. And yes, the cooking part is so true. He has mentioned many times that he's a good cook and love to cook for me blah blah blah. Last time he made me some simple breakfast and I made him wore an apron haha he laughed at that not that funny but I guess he liked the idea I was easy going and made him feel comfortable.
JWalker, that is so damn correct. lol I have to laugh at that myself. Everything is so true. My virgo spent almost 10 years missing me and he loves the ideas of me making him laugh. I mean it's really just silly stuffs but he enjoyed it. I guess I was ablt to loosen him up a bit and constanly I would reassured him not to worry too much on life bascially and that everything would be okay when time comes. They do worry too much. And yes, the cooking part is so true. He has mentioned many times that he's a good cook and love to cook for me blah blah blah. Last time he made me some simple breakfast and I made him wore an apron haha he laughed at that not that funny but I guess he liked the idea I was easy going and made him feel comfortable.
does chemistry fade?
I concur with SG .. chemistry just is, it can't be developed over time. Trust, respect and compatibility can, indeed .. but, the sparks of chemistry is present upon first encounter, even if you don't even know the person, to know if they are even good for you, or not.
If the fire wasn't burning from the beginning .. it's not going to fade, rather, wasn't there in the first place. Often hearts just want to be wanted and so we pull the wool over our eyes to make us think the other is our soulmate.
If the fire wasn't burning from the beginning .. it's not going to fade, rather, wasn't there in the first place. Often hearts just want to be wanted and so we pull the wool over our eyes to make us think the other is our soulmate.
LOL@Kuni
Before my fish, my first real connection was with a...well, i'm not going to lie...I had none. Do sex count as chemistry?
Before my fish, my first real connection was with a...well, i'm not going to lie...I had none. Do sex count as chemistry?
"but Scorpios make my panties burn..."
filthy scorps.
filthy scorps.
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