Confused

I have been reading your posts today and I thought I could post something about my Virgo Man.
I have know this Virgo man for a 5 years now and we have been together for almost 3 years. He has had a GF for a year before (committed) and she broke up with him for now reason (that's what he says).
Initially we had lots of arguements and fights ar the beginning of this relationship and I held on for this long because of the love i had even when he had his other GF(i did not know she was his GF).
He is very loving and caring all the while. when we have a fight on little issues he does not act considerate to my feelings during those fights. He just does not respond to anything I ask. We have been stayoing together for almost 2 years. I have to ask his permission to do a lot of things. But I dont have a problem with it, but when it is his turn , he does not even tell me half the things, just keeps them a secret. He is not cheating on me. He likes me.
I just dont know how to understand him better and make this relationship work.
He just remains silent when I talk abt long term relationship. I just dont know how to get him to speak. I am a Sag and I want to make this relationship work.
Any help please.

Well, I'd say if you want to save yourself a lot of wondering, stop trying to figure him out. I doubt you ever will. Virgo men are cool & mysterious & I think they like it that way.

I find with my Virgo man, the more you press him to talk or answer questions, he clams up all the more. If he is quiet about something I instinctly know he doesn't want to talk about it & I move on to another subject. Sooner or later he'll talk about what I originally asked in his own time.

And as far as I can tell, Virgo men do not like to report to anyone about anything they do, ever. Mine freely tells me about his day, this that & everything else, but if I ask..it's a different story.

They're very different is the word I use 🙂

Help

Hi Ksharat and welcome! First off, I don't believe that what you are experiencing is exclusive to a Virgo man but perhaps a MAN who is NOT honoring or respecting you and your wishes. This does not sound like a very healthy relationship nor do you seem to be happy. Ask yourself, is this how YOU want to live YOUR life? I am sharing with you an exerpt from a book that may be of some help. I so wish you the best but most of all, I wish for you a relationship that brings you peace, happiness and love.



"No woman is born smart - there are two ways to get smart, the hard way and the easy way. Most smart women got smart the hard way, through first - hand experience. And they have the scars to prove it - painful memories of sleeplessnights, tears, confusion, anger, self doubt and anxiety. Sure they have learned about life, love and relationships, but they paid a high price for their widsom. The Smartest women know that getting smart doesn't have to hurt."

A Smart Woman Knows That Her Most Valuable Sense Is a Sense of Self
-A sense of self means knowing what you have to offer and not offering it too quickly.

So what are the basic qualities that make a woman truly smart and give her the best chances for personal and emotional happiness?

A Smart Woman Knows that Being Smart Means:

* staying rational
* letting her intelligence control her emotions, not the other way around.
* trusting her values more that she trusts her hormones.
* choosing relationships that make her happy and allow her to grow.
* seeking out and accepting people who are positive and supportive.
* steering clear of relationships that spell out t-r-o-u-b-l-e.
* Walking away from people who try to control her or cause pain.
* if he doesn't make you feel good about yourself, then he's not for you.
* Be secure enough to leave a man whose choices make you emotionally insecure.
* if a man puts you down, he is trying to lower your self-esteem so that you will be more dependent on him.
* with a man who truly craves power, love will always play a weak second.
* being married to the wrong man is like being in prison---except you have to make your own meals.
* Living with the wrong man can be a thousand times lonelier than living with no man at all.
* any man who doesn't show up or call when he says he will isn't worth the paper your phone number is printed on.
* when a man disappears suddenly, with no real explanation, it is because there is something wrong with him, not because there is something wrong with you.
* if it hurts, it probably isn't good for you.

More important than anything, a smart woman never, ever, forgets that she is a whole person in her own right, with or without a man in her life."

The above is taken from the book - WHAT SMART WOMEN KNOW by Steven Carter and Julia Sokol

Thanks help. My Virgo sounds very simlar to your man. I do try to change the topic when he is silent, He does talk about his day how things went on at work and blabla....but sometimes I feel I need the answer right now. I will try to be more patient.
And thanks for the nice line Freebird. I will follow them.