Confusing: Virgo man avoiding eye contact

This topic was created in the Virgo forum by MaryJane666 on Thursday, January 8, 2015 and has 16 replies.
I have a question. My boss is a virgo male. He is very fun and friendly with all. He likes to talkand make jokes and have fun. He is a cool guy.
So my situation: Beacuse he is my boss, I must talk to him from time to time. And everytime we talk he looks at me and then looks away. It's kind of annoying that he can't keep an eyecontact longer than a second. Hes look is wondering around the room and if our eyes meet, he will turn his look away. It always makes me think that he's lying or talking some crap, or hiding some facts from me. So it kinda keeps me alert. Big Grin
And when we are around our co-workers and he is talking something... It does not matter if it is serious, related to work or nothing to with work (joke, some fun story or smth.). If his eye stops at me, he quickly turns his glimpse away again. Confused. I'm straightforward person, if someone is talking to me, I look him/her into eye. I do not stare, but I'm not afraid of the eyecontact. It looks like he feels uncomfortable or weird around me.
At the christmasparty we were talking about dancers what our team saw. And I made a comment that the male dancer was good-looking/hot. Just an innocent comment. Later when I went to sit to the table and went past him, he said: "So, the dancer was handsome..." Me: "What?!?" He: "So, the dancer was handsome..." Me: "Yes, he was..." and I walked away. It made me think If I had said something wrong or what.
He has a girlfriend, who he lives with (things are not so great I heard), I have a boyfriend who I live with also.
What is going on? Does he like me or hate me, or what? Why is he acting all weird. He does not act with others like that. He talks freely and looks them into the eye etc.
Confused...
Posted by MaryJane666
He has a girlfriend, who he lives with (things are not so great I heard), I have a boyfriend who I live with also.
What is going on? Does he like me or hate me, or what? Why is he acting all weird. He does not act with others like that. He talks freely and looks them into the eye etc.
Confused...



WTF? Confused about what? Virgo will be loyal to his girlfriend and is just being friendly. How do you know how he acts with everyone at all times? He's most likely picked up the obvious signs you're bored with your boyfriend and nothing but TROUBLE. It sure screams that loud and clear here.
...or is this another bored troll?
MJ I think he may like you.When I was younger I was bad at the eye contact thing if I was attracted to a girl but was still sizing her up not knowing if I would be turned down.Not all Virgos are loyal most of us are.I worked with one that did not know what that word meant,but he had no problem with eye contact.Annoyed me greatly but not my life.
Posted by LetltB
Posted by MaryJane666
He has a girlfriend, who he lives with (things are not so great I heard), I have a boyfriend who I live with also.
What is going on? Does he like me or hate me, or what? Why is he acting all weird. He does not act with others like that. He talks freely and looks them into the eye etc.
Confused...



WTF? Confused about what? Virgo will be loyal to his girlfriend and is just being friendly. How do you know how he acts with everyone at all times? He's most likely picked up the obvious signs you're bored with your boyfriend and nothing but TROUBLE. It sure screams that loud and clear here.
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What the hell?!? I love my boyfriend and we are about to get married. I have no feeligs for my boss whatsoever! He is my boss for god's sake and friend of me and my boyfriend and most of my friends who I know. We hang around with the same people.
My main questin was why does he act weird. He makes me feel uncomfortable and makes me think that I have done something wrong or he does not like me.
You moron... I'm the most loyal person ever in love. You pissed me off. Don't see any hidden agenda in my question.
And loyal? We are going camping with friends, I organize, he is coming along... My question: "is everyone taking their girfriends/wives along, so I could know how many tickets and cottages to book." His answer: "NOOOOOO, no girlfriends/ wives on this trip. But you can take your beautiful friends with." Yeah, sounds very loyal to me...
And how do I know how he acts with others? I see... I hear and see it on daily bases. I share an office with him and few other superiors.
If you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all!
Posted by kane48txboy
MJNot all Virgos are loyal most of us are.I worked with one that did not know what that word meant,but he had no problem with eye contact.


So is she confused about living with her boyfriend and having a boyfriend?..could that be why she came here and asked?
Or are we suppose to stroke this poster into hoping he wants her and overlook ^^that part?

Posted by kane48txboy
MJ I think he may like you.When I was younger I was bad at the eye contact thing if I was attracted to a girl but was still sizing her up not knowing if I would be turned down.Not all Virgos are loyal most of us are.I worked with one that did not know what that word meant,but he had no problem with eye contact.Annoyed me greatly but not my life.


Thank you for your answer. smile We are both in a relationship, and he is friends with my boyfriend.... May this be the reason why he can't keep an eyecontact (if he likes me)... I mean... If it might be true, maybe this attraction makes him feel wird and that is the reason why he is acting a bit weird around me? It has puzzled me for months, ever since he became my direct superior. Before that we did not have that much contact and I did not notice that...
Posted by MaryJane666
My main questin was why does he act weird. He makes me feel uncomfortable and makes me think that I have done something wrong or he does not like me.
You moron... I'm the most loyal person ever in love. You pissed me off. Don't see any hidden agenda in my question.
And loyal? We are going camping with friends, I organize, he is coming along... My question: "is everyone taking their girfriends/wives along, so I could know how many tickets and cottages to book." His answer: "NOOOOOO, no girlfriends/ wives on this trip. But you can take your beautiful friends with." Yeah, sounds very loyal to me...
And how do I know how he acts with others? I see... I hear and see it on daily bases. I share an office with him and few other superiors.



If this was a business question about your boss, it would remain as business. You threw the girlfriend/boyfriend thing in and made it personal. If your all grown up and about to be married why not take a minute and ASK HIM DIRECTLY? You had to come to Virgo forum to ask? I apologize for seeing through the bullshit. It's what I do best.
Posted by MaryJane666It has puzzled me for months,



Months? lol...and why would you ask US and not him?
Posted by LetltB
Posted by MaryJane666It has puzzled me for months,



Months? lol...and why would you ask US and not him?
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Because it would make the situation even more awkward between us...
Posted by tiziani
If someone makes you feel uncomfortable either confront them or avoid them. Making insinuations about his personal life and him being interested in you, when you're the one actively taking an interest in him, just makes you seem like you very hazy boundaries and should be avoided.


Avoid? We sit behind the same table and hang around same friends. I see him all the time, I can not avoid him. Big Grin
Do I stop going to work and to the meetings? Do I must avoid hanging around with our mutual friends?
I don't need a solution to this... I want to know answers, without asking him directly. It would make this whoule thing even more weird.
Posted by MaryJane666
Because it would make the situation even more awkward between us...


Nah...it's because you are hoping for confirmation here and simply did not get it.
Posted by LetltB
Posted by kane48txboy
MJNot all Virgos are loyal most of us are.I worked with one that did not know what that word meant,but he had no problem with eye contact.


So is she confused about living with her boyfriend and having a boyfriend?..could that be why she came here and asked?
Or are we suppose to stroke this poster into hoping he wants her and overlook ^^that part?


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Does not sound that she is confused on the BF part.I still think he is attracted to her.That may bother him being around her so much since he has a GF.The ask him directly is good for getting on firm ground.
Posted by tiziani
If someone makes you feel uncomfortable either confront them or avoid them. Making insinuations about his personal life and him being interested in you, when you're the one actively taking an interest in him, just makes you seem like you very hazy boundaries and should be avoided.


It's what grown ups in committed relationships do, because they have nothing to hide.
Posted by MaryJane666
Posted by tiziani
If someone makes you feel uncomfortable either confront them or avoid them. Making insinuations about his personal life and him being interested in you, when you're the one actively taking an interest in him, just makes you seem like you very hazy boundaries and should be avoided.


Avoid? We sit behind the same table and hang around same friends. I see him all the time, I can not avoid him. Big Grin
Do I stop going to work and to the meetings? Do I must avoid hanging around with our mutual friends?
I don't need a solution to this... I want to know answers, without asking him directly. It would make this whoule thing even more weird.
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Yah..ok.
Obviously I am a Virgo myself and have recently been diagnosed with Asperger Syndrome: one characteristic of this is apparently difficulty in making/sustaining appropriate eye contact and I have been told that I have an issue with this (one of the things that led me to get tested): apparently many Virgos are aspies and vice versa, so perhaps your boss is something of an aspie.