Constructive Virgo Advise....

Posted by P-Angel

I will say this again .. take your fucking fingers out of your ears ....

Once you show a Virgo that you are emotionally insecure ... you're finished, there's no more chances.

Have some fucking dignity and step away.

Posted by libragirlie36

Posted by P-Angel

I will say this again .. take your fucking fingers out of your ears ....

Once you show a Virgo that you are emotionally insecure ... you're finished, there's no more chances.

Have some fucking dignity and step away.

+1. Cocoa, give him some space. He has enough to deal with right now...

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Posted by Ixion120
I wouldn't be so sure about the entire idea of her being 'over'. Give him some time to come to you Cocoa, perhaps he does, perhaps he doesn't, but just be supportive (not overly) if he hits you up play ball, If he doesn't try to contact use a light touch in your conversations with him. Be a good Friend before you try to be a good anything else.

Just because you messed up doesn't necessarily mean that its 'over' contrary to prevailing belief on this thread, but it might mean he will look at your behavior more closely than he did before.

Posted by Dafna79
The more you obsess over this guy the more you will push him away, you need to stop focusing all your energy on him and start doing it on yourself, stop the texting and niceties, you made it clear you care about him and the fact he is grieving, now just stop and go back to being the happy, succesful, strong woman that attracted him at the beginning, you cannot show weakness to aVirgo.... Instead show him that yes you lost yourself for a while but know you are in control of your life and your emotions again, remove yourself from all this drama and oversnalyzimg everything you said/he said and just live and enjoy your life, surround yourself with friends and family, focus on work, work out, plan a weekend trip, start a new hobby, join a class, do anything to meep your mind off this guy and be happy, believe at this point is the best you can do... Good luck I have a Virgo ex and I know how hard it is, good luck!

Posted by tiziani
I think you screw over your chances by keeping score. Someone who's been through that kind of transformation in their lives... they are not going to come out the other end of that the same person. Who texted who, apologized when or treated who like what will just fade away. You should probably adjust your mind to the thought that things will never be the same again, at least that way there'll be a chance to lighten up the mood.

Posted by CoCoa

Posted by Dafna79
The more you obsess over this guy the more you will push him away, you need to stop focusing all your energy on him and start doing it on yourself, stop the texting and niceties, you made it clear you care about him and the fact he is grieving, now just stop and go back to being the happy, succesful, strong woman that attracted him at the beginning, you cannot show weakness to aVirgo.... Instead show him that yes you lost yourself for a while but know you are in control of your life and your emotions again, remove yourself from all this drama and oversnalyzimg everything you said/he said and just live and enjoy your life, surround yourself with friends and family, focus on work, work out, plan a weekend trip, start a new hobby, join a class, do anything to meep your mind off this guy and be happy, believe at this point is the best you can do... Good luck I have a Virgo ex and I know how hard it is, good luck!

Thank you Dafna79,
I have been doing all of the above and am taking a trip to Vegas in early November for business and pleasure. Yes, I have overanalyzed this to the smallest degree must be the Virgo in my chart :-). Right not I have the flu and have been resting at home a lot so I guess that is why I have obsessed a bit...I am usually on the move much more but I am feeling better being busy will get him off my mind more.
Much appreciated,
CoCoa

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Posted by GeorgiaPeach

Posted by CoCoa

Posted by Dafna79
The more you obsess over this guy the more you will push him away, you need to stop focusing all your energy on him and start doing it on yourself, stop the texting and niceties, you made it clear you care about him and the fact he is grieving, now just stop and go back to being the happy, succesful, strong woman that attracted him at the beginning, you cannot show weakness to aVirgo.... Instead show him that yes you lost yourself for a while but know you are in control of your life and your emotions again, remove yourself from all this drama and oversnalyzimg everything you said/he said and just live and enjoy your life, surround yourself with friends and family, focus on work, work out, plan a weekend trip, start a new hobby, join a class, do anything to meep your mind off this guy and be happy, believe at this point is the best you can do... Good luck I have a Virgo ex and I know how hard it is, good luck!

Thank you Dafna79,
I have been doing all of the above and am taking a trip to Vegas in early November for business and pleasure. Yes, I have overanalyzed this to the smallest degree must be the Virgo in my chart :-). Right not I have the flu and have been resting at home a lot so I guess that is why I have obsessed a bit...I am usually on the move much more but I am feeling better being busy will get him off my mind more.
Much appreciated,
CoCoa

And everybody knows that what happens in Vegas stays in Vegas. Hope you have a great time.

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Posted by MellyMel909

Posted by CoCoa
Wow.......are they really that unforgiving.....ONE STRIKE RULE????? Really??

Unforgiving? No.
Intolerant of insincerity and/or egotism? .....yes.
The theme of all these threads seems to be: you. Not him. You. How *you* can make him see where *you* are coming from... How *you* can apologize in a such a way for *you* to get back into his good graces... Why he distanced himself from *you* after his mother died and what this means for the two of *you* in the future.
Sorry, but it seems your concern is more for how he sees/feels about *you* than it is for him as an individual person...
So no, it's not a "one strike you're out" rule. It's a "we aren't compatible long term because she's simply not what I'm looking for" situation.

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Posted by CoCoa

Posted by MellyMel909

Posted by CoCoa
Wow.......are they really that unforgiving.....ONE STRIKE RULE????? Really??

Unforgiving? No.
Intolerant of insincerity and/or egotism? .....yes.
The theme of all these threads seems to be: you. Not him. You. How *you* can make him see where *you* are coming from... How *you* can apologize in a such a way for *you* to get back into his good graces... Why he distanced himself from *you* after his mother died and what this means for the two of *you* in the future.
Sorry, but it seems your concern is more for how he sees/feels about *you* than it is for him as an individual person...
So no, it's not a "one strike you're out" rule. It's a "we aren't compatible long term because she's simply not what I'm looking for" situation.

I see... and thanks! I have always been a very selfless and giving person so much so be best friend also a Virgo has told me I give too much of myself. I look to grow and learn from every experience...I get that this is over in many of your Virgo eyes but I am not the insecure self- centered person you have concluded me to be.

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Posted by CluelessCancer

Posted by CoCoa
Long term hmmmmmmmm...well the man has had two failed marriages. Not perfect yet looking for perfect right??? NO ONE IS PERECT!!!

this sh1T is going to destroy your self esteem let him go. let it go. and never date a Virgo.

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