I thought we would continue here. Don't want to hijack CapLady's thread any longer.
Cont. thread for seadream's question for Virgals
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"Girls can I ask, pv and VV? I'm genuinely interested, what are you scared of? That he might not give those feelings back? If you've had the balls to tell him how you feel why run? A Virgo did this to me twice but never gave me the chance to really reply...kinda felt like I'd been hit with a hammer (him bein a Virgo, totally out of blue as I'm sure you will identify with!)I was floored and needed time to digest so in meantime I think he took that as rejection!!! But hell I loved that guy but his "Cutting ties" made me act cold 'cos it felt like a mind freak! Your feedback would be greatly appreciated"
Yes, I suppose you hit the nail on the head (non-reciprocation). As I mentioned in an earlier post, I've heard another Virgal mention something in reference to being confident in all aspects of life with the exception of love/romance.
As most likely the case with your Virguy, when we fall, we tend to fall hard. PROCESSING emotions and feelings is not the easiest thing for me (I'll speak for myself here) so unless he's told me straight from his mouth or has a post-it declaring his feelings for me highlighted in yellow, 😉 that = zero security for me. I can't go on 'signs' alone. He has to say it, act it, and mean it for me to not eventually cut ties and move on with myself.
Yes, I suppose you hit the nail on the head (non-reciprocation). As I mentioned in an earlier post, I've heard another Virgal mention something in reference to being confident in all aspects of life with the exception of love/romance.
As most likely the case with your Virguy, when we fall, we tend to fall hard. PROCESSING emotions and feelings is not the easiest thing for me (I'll speak for myself here) so unless he's told me straight from his mouth or has a post-it declaring his feelings for me highlighted in yellow, 😉 that = zero security for me. I can't go on 'signs' alone. He has to say it, act it, and mean it for me to not eventually cut ties and move on with myself.
Thankyou VV and apollogies CapLady, didn't mean to highjack
You're welcome.
Hey VV thanks for that, we been twoing & throwing for over 2 years now and he still there, I got a big audit 2morow at work and need sleep but don't leave me ok (time difference = shit) can we talk 2morrow, I don't want to hurt him and never have just some understanding be good
Absolutely.
Yes, we can chat manana. 😉
Yes, we can chat manana. 😉
we are afraid of getting hurt or having a broken heart.because we hate to feel vulnerable...we can handle everything but love...because once we fall, its real and deep...but we keep it or hide it inside and make a bit distance to give ourselves a chance to observe if we are safe or that person will deserve to be Love....if we initiated just give us a response at the same time...because we hate to wait,waiting means REJECTIONS to us...we only say it 1's and that is it...i don't know if all virgos are the same??
^^^In a nutshell.
Very well put, PV.
Whoever says Virgos don't have emotions should be smacked with a rusty 2x4.
They exist but we refuse to squander them on just anybody.
When we find ourselves in love with persons who operate the same as us (and not all of us are like this), that's where the complications can come in; the misreading one another and so on and so forth.
At the same time, we could take the leap of faith and stay and see what happens?
The blow would be too much? Unbearable even?
Very well put, PV.
Whoever says Virgos don't have emotions should be smacked with a rusty 2x4.
They exist but we refuse to squander them on just anybody.
When we find ourselves in love with persons who operate the same as us (and not all of us are like this), that's where the complications can come in; the misreading one another and so on and so forth.
At the same time, we could take the leap of faith and stay and see what happens?
The blow would be too much? Unbearable even?
I totally broke down talking to a Leo friend a week ago, and I surprised myself. I had NO clue the fears I had about love, and it just made me feel so small.
I gotta head to class, but I'll be back later.
I gotta head to class, but I'll be back later.
Posted by VirgoVixxxen
^^^In a nutshell.
Very well put, PV.
Whoever says Virgos don't have emotions should be smacked with a rusty 2x4.
They exist but we refuse to squander them on just anybody.
When we find ourselves in love with persons who operate the same as us (and not all of us are like this), that's where the complications can come in; the misreading one another and so on and so forth.
At the same time, we could take the leap of faith and stay and see what happens?
The blow would be too much? Unbearable even?
TY VV, being a Virgo is not easy...it takes a lot of understanding and patience...In people eyes (opposite), we are a kind of a woman that you can LOOK but don't TOUCH, Touch but don't TASTE, Taste but don't Swallow,...that is the question left in many people around...if swallowed what is the next?means they reach the CLOUD 9 ...lol...
I had a friend (I forget her sign ) who once asked me, when we were about 24yo, why I was so confident when going on job interviews (I was temping at the time). I shrugged, said I felt that I had a firm grasp on the programs companies were using most, had a high typing speed, was a natural proofreader--lol, and would cause WWIII should someone ever insult the skills I worked so hard to learn.
I have a babyface, so at the age of 17 when I was walking into my first agency, the fact that I had reddish brown curls, was wearing a red sweater, plaid skirt, white stockings, and Mary Janes--looking like Little Orphan Annie (facepalm), I looked all of 13. They did NOT take me seriously, and smirked the whole while through my interview...until they sat me down at the computer to test me. I knocked out 105wpm with only 3 errors, scored in the 90th percentile in Word, and high 80s in Excel and Powerpoint. Suddenly, the smirks disappeared, and I was being offered my pick of jobs.
When it comes to business, it's about confidence, swagger, fake-it-til-you-make it...these factors are NOTHING for me when it comes to work, or school for me; I KNOW I can make it, and I know I influence my world with these factors--either I'm going to bust my ass to make it to the top and I'll make it or die trying, OR I'll SIT on my ass and get nowhere.
But...when it comes to love...
How can I transfer that same control to it? That same "I get what I put into it" type of byproduct? I know what I'm working for re: business, and my results match the work I'm putting into it (honestly, even MORE so)--but with love...I feel like it's a bottomless pit...a thankless job. Of course I've analyzed, and over anaylzed and realized it was more about the partners I was choosing, and how much of myself I gave to the wrong guys...but I'm still not sure, and terrified of giving something as irreplaceable as my heart to a reckless human being who could destroy it...and then walk away as if it was nothing. I just feel I have no control!
I'm most def. a "both feet planted firmly on the ground" type of person, and love just makes me feel as if I'm floating, and wildly lashing out at the air trying to find some sort of grip to balance myself, to no avail. I hate it
I def. do not agree w/ "it's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all". I feel it'd be better to never have loved.
I have a babyface, so at the age of 17 when I was walking into my first agency, the fact that I had reddish brown curls, was wearing a red sweater, plaid skirt, white stockings, and Mary Janes--looking like Little Orphan Annie (facepalm), I looked all of 13. They did NOT take me seriously, and smirked the whole while through my interview...until they sat me down at the computer to test me. I knocked out 105wpm with only 3 errors, scored in the 90th percentile in Word, and high 80s in Excel and Powerpoint. Suddenly, the smirks disappeared, and I was being offered my pick of jobs.
When it comes to business, it's about confidence, swagger, fake-it-til-you-make it...these factors are NOTHING for me when it comes to work, or school for me; I KNOW I can make it, and I know I influence my world with these factors--either I'm going to bust my ass to make it to the top and I'll make it or die trying, OR I'll SIT on my ass and get nowhere.
But...when it comes to love...
How can I transfer that same control to it? That same "I get what I put into it" type of byproduct? I know what I'm working for re: business, and my results match the work I'm putting into it (honestly, even MORE so)--but with love...I feel like it's a bottomless pit...a thankless job. Of course I've analyzed, and over anaylzed and realized it was more about the partners I was choosing, and how much of myself I gave to the wrong guys...but I'm still not sure, and terrified of giving something as irreplaceable as my heart to a reckless human being who could destroy it...and then walk away as if it was nothing. I just feel I have no control!
I'm most def. a "both feet planted firmly on the ground" type of person, and love just makes me feel as if I'm floating, and wildly lashing out at the air trying to find some sort of grip to balance myself, to no avail. I hate it
I def. do not agree w/ "it's better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all". I feel it'd be better to never have loved.
Wow. Reading this has opened my eyes to how Virgos feel when it comes to matter of the heart. Do you think it's the same for male Virgos?
I was just about to say that, sunny--I doubt it is. I think it's similar, but you know how guys are, lol.
The Virgo guys I do know are very sensitive souls, however...no matter how cold they come off. If you let them know you're interested in what they're saying, and just let them talk, you'd be surprised what things come out that they never meant for you to know.
The Virgo guys I do know are very sensitive souls, however...no matter how cold they come off. If you let them know you're interested in what they're saying, and just let them talk, you'd be surprised what things come out that they never meant for you to know.
Posted by CLCNY30
I totally broke down talking to a Leo friend a week ago, and I surprised myself. I had NO clue the fears I had about love, and it just made me feel so small.
I gotta head to class, but I'll be back later.
'sup sis,
Is this THE LEO? *snickers*
Oh, I know exactly what you mean. To be so exposed is terrifying especially if you are not sure if the other person feels the same.
One step at a time though...right?
Maybe it gets easier as you go along? *shrugs*
Posted by VirgoVixxxenPosted by CLCNY30
I totally broke down talking to a Leo friend a week ago, and I surprised myself. I had NO clue the fears I had about love, and it just made me feel so small.
I gotta head to class, but I'll be back later.
'sup sis,
Is this THE LEO? *snickers*
Oh, I know exactly what you mean. To be so exposed is terrifying especially if you are not sure if the other person feels the same.
One step at a time though...right?
Maybe it gets easier as you go along? *shrugs*click to expand
No, lmmfao.
But no, it was actually a female Leo (I get along with them quite well).
Their confidence game is GOAT, I really admire the sign.
Posted by preciousvirginPosted by VirgoVixxxen
^^^In a nutshell.
Very well put, PV.
Whoever says Virgos don't have emotions should be smacked with a rusty 2x4.
They exist but we refuse to squander them on just anybody.
When we find ourselves in love with persons who operate the same as us (and not all of us are like this), that's where the complications can come in; the misreading one another and so on and so forth.
At the same time, we could take the leap of faith and stay and see what happens?
The blow would be too much? Unbearable even?
TY VV, being a Virgo is not easy...it takes a lot of understanding and patience...In people eyes (opposite), we are a kind of a woman that you can LOOK but don't TOUCH, Touch but don't TASTE, Taste but don't Swallow,...that is the question left in many people around...if swallowed what is the next?means they reach the CLOUD 9 ...lol...click to expand
You're welcome and - OH MY GOSH!!!!
I read the exact thing you say about "looking but don't touch" on another astrology forum just last night...WOW.
No offense to any Virgo, but, sometimes we can come across as unapproachable but the REALITY is that we WANT to be approached, and We don't want people to just look, but we WANT them to touch too right? 😉 Well, with our permission of course.
LOL @ cloud 9
@CLC,
We're all >here< (even SassyVirgo).
We usually look younger than we are so it's no surprise to me that they didn't take you seriously on your interviews.
Don't you just love it when they underestimate you (and then later on you wipe the smirks off their faces faster than they can say boo)?
I feel you. Confidence for work, school, family...anything other than that other thing. Not lack of confidence in the sense that I couldn't be a good partner for someone, but, it's just, well - scary. 😉
I can tell you're confident in all you do C, and that's why it made me chuckle when you talked about being shy around your pooty cat. 😉
It's like you were a whole 'nother person. A scary cat. BUT I UNDERSTOOD....'cause I'm one too~! LOL!
We're all >here< (even SassyVirgo).
We usually look younger than we are so it's no surprise to me that they didn't take you seriously on your interviews.
Don't you just love it when they underestimate you (and then later on you wipe the smirks off their faces faster than they can say boo)?
I feel you. Confidence for work, school, family...anything other than that other thing. Not lack of confidence in the sense that I couldn't be a good partner for someone, but, it's just, well - scary. 😉
I can tell you're confident in all you do C, and that's why it made me chuckle when you talked about being shy around your pooty cat. 😉
It's like you were a whole 'nother person. A scary cat. BUT I UNDERSTOOD....'cause I'm one too~! LOL!
Posted by sunnycap
Wow. Reading this has opened my eyes to how Virgos feel when it comes to matter of the heart. Do you think it's the same for male Virgos?
Hi SC,
Yes, I would say it's the case for some. Not all, but some. I say this because I know some Virgo guys (in RL that is) who are just like me, CLC, PV, and others.
Maybe some of the more experienced Virgos who have more "relationship time" under their belts don't necessarily find themselves feeling this way.
Also, age has no bearing whatsoever as I've heard many stories of older Virgos (40,45 & up) who go through this all of the time.
Posted by preciousvirginPosted by VirgoVixxxen
^^^In a nutshell.
Very well put, PV.
Whoever says Virgos don't have emotions should be smacked with a rusty 2x4.
They exist but we refuse to squander them on just anybody.
When we find ourselves in love with persons who operate the same as us (and not all of us are like this), that's where the complications can come in; the misreading one another and so on and so forth.
At the same time, we could take the leap of faith and stay and see what happens?
The blow would be too much? Unbearable even?
TY VV, being a Virgo is not easy...it takes a lot of understanding and patience...In people eyes (opposite), we are a kind of a woman that you can LOOK but don't TOUCH, Touch but don't TASTE, Taste but don't Swallow,...that is the question left in many people around...if swallowed what is the next?means they reach the CLOUD 9 ...lol...click to expand
And no, being a Virgo is NOT easy. Hardly. I almost ALWAYS feel misunderstood. This is why I like Scorps and Cancers...
They almost always get me...even though they can work my last good nerve...and Black folk almost always have only one last good nerve left...lol.
I usually try not to waste my time anymore with people who can't see beyond the veil. Too frustrating.
Posted by CLCNY30Posted by VirgoVixxxenPosted by CLCNY30
I totally broke down talking to a Leo friend a week ago, and I surprised myself. I had NO clue the fears I had about love, and it just made me feel so small.
I gotta head to class, but I'll be back later.
'sup sis,
Is this THE LEO? *snickers*
Oh, I know exactly what you mean. To be so exposed is terrifying especially if you are not sure if the other person feels the same.
One step at a time though...right?
Maybe it gets easier as you go along? *shrugs*
No, lmmfao.
But no, it was actually a female Leo (I get along with them quite well).
Their confidence game is GOAT, I really admire the sign.click to expand
Oh hell yeah.
Sunny and optimistic too. A perfect antidote to the Virgo pessimism.
My ex Leo girlfriend was a master at helping me see the brighter side of things...sadly enough, she got on my last good nerve and I had to let her go.
Posted by 25thDecan
In short..love will do as it will. Fear will keep it at bay. Give YOURSELF a fighting chance at it and open up. Its all a journey to its success. 😉
*trust me, we've all been hurt. I KNOW I have been. But, have courage. You COULD be preemptively selling that great dude short by NOT having it.
25thDecan, are you referring to my post?
Posted by 25thDecan
In short..love will do as it will. Fear will keep it at bay. Give YOURSELF a fighting chance at it and open up. Its all a journey to its success. 😉
*trust me, we've all been hurt. I KNOW I have been. But, have courage. You COULD be preemptively selling that great dude short by NOT having it.
Agreed.
I think alot of people wonder how to move past the pain. Some people don't want to spend the time, or much less don't know how to handle getting over the rejection. As Caplady said in her thread, it's fucking painful. I don't believe that everyone is equipped to deal with heartbreak and rejection like a "good sport". Some suffer from it for years. Some never get over it. Honestly, I'd rather leave it alone altogether. What helps?
Time?
Getting up under another so you can get over the other?
Prayer?
A fast?
Aaaahhh...
Posted by VirgoVixxxenPosted by sunnycap
Wow. Reading this has opened my eyes to how Virgos feel when it comes to matter of the heart. Do you think it's the same for male Virgos?
Hi SC,
Yes, I would say it's the case for some. Not all, but some. I say this because I know some Virgo guys (in RL that is) who are just like me, CLC, PV, and others.
Maybe some of the more experienced Virgos who have more "relationship time" under their belts don't necessarily find themselves feeling this way.
Also, age has no bearing whatsoever as I've heard many stories of older Virgos (40,45 & up) who go through this all of the time.click to expand
The Virgo guy I know has a Virgo sun, Capricorn moon and venus in Virgo. I've heard that this can make you very shy and terrified of rejection. I have experienced this with him when we've been together. Do you know anything about this placement, and how it makes people act?
^^^yes but some haven't been told anything yet. Boy is too scared and girl is too scared so the entire thing goes down the drain.
I guess the key is to just take the leap of faith.
LADIES DO YOU HEAR THAT?!
TAKE THE LEAP and DON'T run after you do (after you've put yourself out there).
Stick around to see what boy has to say in return.
LADIES DO YOU HEAR THAT?!
TAKE THE LEAP and DON'T run after you do (after you've put yourself out there).
Stick around to see what boy has to say in return.
Posted by VirgoVixxxen
I guess the key is to just take the leap of faith.
LADIES DO YOU HEAR THAT?!
TAKE THE LEAP and DON'T run after you do (after you've put yourself out there).
Stick around to see what boy has to say in return.
I think I might have to. This has been going on long enough. He's away at work at the moment and will be away for 2-3 months, so I don't have a chance to say it to his face. It will have to be in a message. Being a Capricorn, it will be a very honest and straight message, not too sloppy or silly, just heartfelt and honest.
Whether I can deal with his reply (or his lack of any form of rely) is another story. I might have to come on here again then to cry! Hope you don't mind 🙂
Posted by sunnycapPosted by VirgoVixxxenPosted by sunnycap
Wow. Reading this has opened my eyes to how Virgos feel when it comes to matter of the heart. Do you think it's the same for male Virgos?
Hi SC,
Yes, I would say it's the case for some. Not all, but some. I say this because I know some Virgo guys (in RL that is) who are just like me, CLC, PV, and others.
Maybe some of the more experienced Virgos who have more "relationship time" under their belts don't necessarily find themselves feeling this way.
Also, age has no bearing whatsoever as I've heard many stories of older Virgos (40,45 & up) who go through this all of the time.
The Virgo guy I know has a Virgo sun, Capricorn moon and venus in Virgo. I've heard that this can make you very shy and terrified of rejection. I have experienced this with him when we've been together. Do you know anything about this placement, and how it makes people act?click to expand
SC,
I have a Cap moon. LOL.
The following passage is something that I also shared with someone who wanted info on Virgo suns/Cappie moons.
"Capricorn moons are generally cool-headed irregardless of how turbulent their emotions may be underneath. Messy emotional scenes and overly dramatic romantic gestures are foreign to cappy moons. However, natives with moon in cap are not likely to be less emotional than the other sign postions the moon is in, but they do have a great fear of/hard time with expressing emotion and would rather keep them under a tight reign. Letting go and expression of self is something that these folks find hard to do. Cappy moons often come across as cold and calculated but what they desire most out of life is stability, structure and control."
And a Virgo in Venus...with these placements I would think it would be a bit more of a daunting task to get this Virguy to show feelings, emotions, and come out of his shell. However, there's more to him than just his zodiac chart...right?
Since you say he is the shy type, I would think he would need an extra helping of encouragement and reassurance from you so that he can feel more confident in the relationship and begin to initiate, step-up, take the lead, etc.
SC, what's your sun/moon/venus?
Are you anything like him in relationships? Shy and really afraid of rejection?
Should I go read your thread?
Are you anything like him in relationships? Shy and really afraid of rejection?
Should I go read your thread?
Posted by CLCNY30
I had a friend (I forget her sign ) who once asked me, when we were about 24yo, why I was so confident when going on job interviews (I was temping at the time). I shrugged, said I felt that I had a firm grasp on the programs companies were using most, had a high typing speed, was a natural proofreader--lol, and would cause WWIII should someone ever insult the skills I worked so hard to learn.
I have a babyface, so at the age of 17 when I was walking into my first agency, the fact that I had reddish brown curls, was wearing a red sweater, plaid skirt, white stockings, and Mary Janes--looking like Little Orphan Annie (facepalm), I looked all of 13. They did NOT take me seriously, and smirked the whole while through my interview...until they sat me down at the computer to test me. I knocked out 105wpm with only 3 errors, scored in the 90th percentile in Word, and high 80s in Excel and Powerpoint. Suddenly, the smirks disappeared, and I was being offered my pick of jobs.
I could only imagine you with red curly hair and pigtails. LOL.
And we make some damn good proofreaders don't we? Ha!
105wpm is damn good.
VV; Getting up under another so you can get over the other?
i wonder why the other people can be like that, my other friends are easy to get another one after their previous relationships...why other people easy to fall in love?seems like the world will end up tomorrow so they need to spread their love, why not ME, or Us? sometimes they pushed me to be like them, but i can't stand it...I am confident w/o special one...if tomorrow will be the day of ARMAGEDON, well, i don't need to think anyone else to save...i only think about myself...lmao!!!
i wonder why the other people can be like that, my other friends are easy to get another one after their previous relationships...why other people easy to fall in love?seems like the world will end up tomorrow so they need to spread their love, why not ME, or Us? sometimes they pushed me to be like them, but i can't stand it...I am confident w/o special one...if tomorrow will be the day of ARMAGEDON, well, i don't need to think anyone else to save...i only think about myself...lmao!!!
Posted by preciousvirgin
VV; Getting up under another so you can get over the other?
i wonder why the other people can be like that, my other friends are easy to get another one after their previous relationships...why other people easy to fall in love?seems like the world will end up tomorrow so they need to spread their love, why not ME, or Us? sometimes they pushed me to be like them, but i can't stand it...I am confident w/o special one...if tomorrow will be the day of ARMAGEDON, well, i don't need to think anyone else to save...i only think about myself...lmao!!!
PV - I love you - and I'm so happy you're around more often...
Now I'm not judging anyone else who does but...OH MY GOD!!!!
I could NEVER give my body to somebody to get over another body. 😉
I guess it helps though because alot of people do it and do it successfully but, nah, not my bag.
Yes, and if love is not in the cards for me then I won't have to worry about the possibility of one of us not being taken up with the rapture. LMAO! I kid.
PV - you're funny!
Question:
If you knew you would meet the love of your life (your true soulmate) but he would die in six months would you:
A)Forego your one chance at true love
B)Take it, experience utter and complete bliss, and all encompassing love for half a year, and then live a widow for the rest of your life, broken and inconsolable from the heaviest of hearts
You don't have to answer tonight. You can answer whenever you want.
Ugh I'm the same way....confident in every other aspect about my life except the love dept 😢 Its like one minute I think sure I'll just say it (whatever right?! cant be that hard) then bam I'm backing to second guessing myself and over analyzing everything to death.....running through all the scenarios if I do speak up. Its exhausting! Then I think what if I do know....will I get bored with that? Not having my mind working constantly to figure it out.....its been basically given to me. "ok well he likes me...now what?" I guess its different when you have found the one? Hell I have no idea LOL Ok enough of my ramblings lol
^^^Hey there!
Where have you been? Missed you.
I know what you mean. It's almost as if the constant overanalyzing keeps it all so interesting. Mentally exhausting as you say, but nevertheless, interesting. I enjoy sitting still and flipping things inside out, left to right, up to down, psychologically - but then I just end up confusing myself. 😉
Yes, I think with "the one", there's a greater tolerance for monotony. Even when the passion fizzles because the foundation is so strong, you can still find so many other reasons to want to be together.
I'd rather beat a boy up than to tell him I like him. 😉 J/K.
Makes me laugh how tough Virgals can be when it comes to everything else but love.
How's the crabcake?
Where have you been? Missed you.
I know what you mean. It's almost as if the constant overanalyzing keeps it all so interesting. Mentally exhausting as you say, but nevertheless, interesting. I enjoy sitting still and flipping things inside out, left to right, up to down, psychologically - but then I just end up confusing myself. 😉
Yes, I think with "the one", there's a greater tolerance for monotony. Even when the passion fizzles because the foundation is so strong, you can still find so many other reasons to want to be together.
I'd rather beat a boy up than to tell him I like him. 😉 J/K.
Makes me laugh how tough Virgals can be when it comes to everything else but love.
How's the crabcake?
Posted by sunnycapPosted by VirgoVixxxen
I guess the key is to just take the leap of faith.
LADIES DO YOU HEAR THAT?!
TAKE THE LEAP and DON'T run after you do (after you've put yourself out there).
Stick around to see what boy has to say in return.
I think I might have to. This has been going on long enough. He's away at work at the moment and will be away for 2-3 months, so I don't have a chance to say it to his face. It will have to be in a message. Being a Capricorn, it will be a very honest and straight message, not too sloppy or silly, just heartfelt and honest.
Whether I can deal with his reply (or his lack of any form of rely) is another story. I might have to come on here again then to cry! Hope you don't mind 🙂click to expand
You should do it face to face...no?
Putting it in a letter is more comfortable?
Have you considered talking to him in person?
If you have to, you can come back here and cry.
We'll be armed with words of encouragement and warm milk and cookies. 🙂
Posted by VirgoVixxxen
^^^Hey there!
Where have you been? Missed you.
I know what you mean. It's almost as if the constant overanalyzing keeps it all so interesting. Mentally exhausting as you say, but nevertheless, interesting. I enjoy sitting still and flipping things inside out, left to right, up to down, psychologically - but then I just end up confusing myself. 😉
Yes, I think with "the one", there's a greater tolerance for monotony. Even when the passion fizzles because the foundation is so strong, you can still find so many other reasons to want to be together.
I'd rather beat a boy up than to tell him I like him. 😉 J/K.
Makes me laugh how tough Virgals can be when it comes to everything else but love.
How's the crabcake?
Hey VV 🙂 I've been busy busy busy....but I'm still around
Exactly...well put! I figured you'd be able to understand my ramblings LOL
Mr. Cancer is good...its progressing nicely (to what I'm still not sure) but its still going strong....guess thats a good sign lol. Its funny cause when I tell other people (like family and friends)about me and him....that just dont understand it....they think that we are weird LOL
Posted by VirgoVixxxen
SC, what's your sun/moon/venus?
Are you anything like him in relationships? Shy and really afraid of rejection?
Should I go read your thread?
Thanks for the info about cap moons. My sun is in Capricorn, my moon in Scorpio and my Venus in Pieces.We both have Scorpio rising. I've checked out Cafe Astrology's website, which I've found very informative and interesting, especially their compatibility grid: http://www.cafeastrology.com/articles/signcompatiblitygrid.html.<BR>
According to this grid, we have 7 Magenta Pink (Hot), 6 Crimson Red (Bang On) and 8 Light Purple (Harmonious) combinations. As I said, I've never really been into astrology before in my life, but the intense feelings and connections I have with this Virguy has just left me speechless and slightly confused! I had to try and find out what the hell was going on, because I could not explain it at all. It's not what I've felt in the past when I've fancied and loved someone, it's way beyond that! 🙂
Posted by VirgoVixxxen
Are you anything like him in relationships? Shy and really afraid of rejection?
Should I go read your thread?
I am terrified of rejection, which is why I haven't told him how I feel. He's said to me a couple of times that he's never promised me anything and that he doesn't like expectations, so that's why I'm holding back. However,I was the first one to say that I wasn't after anything heavy, just fun and games. Ever since then, he's said these things back. Don't know if it's just a coincidence or if he would have said it anyway. After all, he went through a very painful breakup 15 months ago with his long-term girlfriend who cheated on him, left him, got engaged to someone else within weeks of them splitting up and now has a baby by her new fiancee.
I don't think he's quite over it yet. He seems quite angry and resentful about it still. Since their breakup, he seems to have gone on a self-destructive path by drinking a lot and wanting to sleep around quite a bit when he's back home from work. I've known him for 8 years via mutual friends. I can see through all this, and I know he's such a great guy deep down. I don't think he thinks very highly of himself at the moment, though.
Posted by LostinmyMind11Posted by VirgoVixxxen
^^^Hey there!
Where have you been? Missed you.
I know what you mean. It's almost as if the constant overanalyzing keeps it all so interesting. Mentally exhausting as you say, but nevertheless, interesting. I enjoy sitting still and flipping things inside out, left to right, up to down, psychologically - but then I just end up confusing myself. 😉
Yes, I think with "the one", there's a greater tolerance for monotony. Even when the passion fizzles because the foundation is so strong, you can still find so many other reasons to want to be together.
I'd rather beat a boy up than to tell him I like him. 😉 J/K.
Makes me laugh how tough Virgals can be when it comes to everything else but love.
How's the crabcake?
Hey VV 🙂 I've been busy busy busy....but I'm still around
Exactly...well put! I figured you'd be able to understand my ramblings LOL
Mr. Cancer is good...its progressing nicely (to what I'm still not sure) but its still going strong....guess thats a good sign lol. Its funny cause when I tell other people (like family and friends)about me and him....that just dont understand it....they think that we are weird LOLclick to expand
Great!
And I see you've changed your avatar. At first I thought it was you when the new Virgo came aboard. LOL.
The Virgin/crabcake match always looks weird to those on the outside. 😉 Linda Goodman talks about how people on the outside don't understand it but it doesn't matter because the V&C understand it completely from the inside out.
Good to know things are coming along nicely. It would really be in his best interest to continue to behave himself. 😉
No sense in cruise'n for a bruise'n eh? 😉
Yeah I had to change it....new guy stole mine and I was getting confused myself 😛
Yep pretty much...we get it that's all that matter....(not really sure what we get but hey whatever LOL) Going with the flow...blah blah blah lol
Exactly....he hasn't seen me in kick ass mode yet 😛
Yep pretty much...we get it that's all that matter....(not really sure what we get but hey whatever LOL) Going with the flow...blah blah blah lol
Exactly....he hasn't seen me in kick ass mode yet 😛
Posted by sunnycapPosted by VirgoVixxxen
SC, what's your sun/moon/venus?
Are you anything like him in relationships? Shy and really afraid of rejection?
Should I go read your thread?
Thanks for the info about cap moons. My sun is in Capricorn, my moon in Scorpio and my Venus in Pieces.We both have Scorpio rising. I've checked out Cafe Astrology's website, which I've found very informative and interesting, especially their compatibility grid: http://www.cafeastrology.com/articles/signcompatiblitygrid.html.<BR>
According to this grid, we have 7 Magenta Pink (Hot), 6 Crimson Red (Bang On) and 8 Light Purple (Harmonious) combinations. As I said, I've never really been into astrology before in my life, but the intense feelings and connections I have with this Virguy has just left me speechless and slightly confused! I had to try and find out what the hell was going on, because I could not explain it at all. It's not what I've felt in the past when I've fancied and loved someone, it's way beyond that! 🙂click to expand
No problem. I got it from Cafe Astrology too.
I can relate to the intense feelings/connections. It's otherworldly, right?
I too had to find out what the hell was going on when I met this Cancer guy and that's what eventually led me to astrology. You start searching for a deeper meaning because it's nothing like you've ever felt before.
I'm gonna check out that compatibility grid. LOL
May I ask the ladies in this thread a question? Virgo, Cap, Scorp--doesn't matter, I'd love to hear all views...
Do you find you use sex to lure men?
I ask because, reading the other thread, I saw someone say that they had sex with the Virgo man, but were scared of revealing their feelings...and it seemed backwards to me, BUT understandable as we do live in a "Girls Gone Wild" world, where sex is the norm, and "making love" is some kind of mythical activity...
Have you ever asked yourself why it is easier to have sex with your man than it is to share your feelings?
It seems using sex to bait, tame, secure, and keep a man are what's hot in the streets...
Do you find you use sex to lure men?
I ask because, reading the other thread, I saw someone say that they had sex with the Virgo man, but were scared of revealing their feelings...and it seemed backwards to me, BUT understandable as we do live in a "Girls Gone Wild" world, where sex is the norm, and "making love" is some kind of mythical activity...
Have you ever asked yourself why it is easier to have sex with your man than it is to share your feelings?
It seems using sex to bait, tame, secure, and keep a man are what's hot in the streets...
Posted by VirgoVixxxenPosted by sunnycapPosted by VirgoVixxxen
No problem. I got it from Cafe Astrology too.
I can relate to the intense feelings/connections. It's otherworldly, right?
I too had to find out what the hell was going on when I met this Cancer guy and that's what eventually led me to astrology. You start searching for a deeper meaning because it's nothing like you've ever felt before.
I'm gonna check out that compatibility grid. LOLclick to expand
Yes, it really feels otherworldly! 🙂 I wrote this on another thread about how intensely I sometime can feel him:
"He works thousands of miles away for 2-3 months at the time. When he's there, I have been able to predict 99.5% of the time when he will be on Facebook. There's no pattern to when he will write or do something on there due to his job, and we do not communicate while he's away, so I have not been told that he's having time off to be on there or anything like that. Yet, I get a physical sensation on the day he writes something on there (hours before he actually does), and I've been right 99.5% of the time!
Once, I had this incredible feeling in my body all day. I just knew he would be on Facebook. At 11 o'clock at night he had still not been on there, and I thought I'd got it wrong for once. I went to bed to read my book, and was completely consumed with reading. Suddenly, out of the blue, I had this very strong urge to check Facebook. I couldn't concentrate and had a physical sensation in my stomach and chest. I opened my laptop, logged on to Facebook and he'd been on there 1 minute earlier!!!!
This has happened a few times.... a very strong feeling and then realising he's been on FB one or two minutes earlier. What is that all about??"
Almost scary...
Posted by CLCNY30
May I ask the ladies in this thread a question? Virgo, Cap, Scorp--doesn't matter, I'd love to hear all views...
Do you find you use sex to lure men?
I ask because, reading the other thread, I saw someone say that they had sex with the Virgo man, but were scared of revealing their feelings...and it seemed backwards to me, BUT understandable as we do live in a "Girls Gone Wild" world, where sex is the norm, and "making love" is some kind of mythical activity...
Have you ever asked yourself why it is easier to have sex with your man than it is to share your feelings?
It seems using sex to bait, tame, secure, and keep a man are what's hot in the streets...
I have never deliberately used sex to lure men. With this Virguy, nothing happened the first time we hooked up, when he made the first small move to let me know he liked me. I kept it friendly, but did not reciprocate. A couple of weeks later when we met up again by chance, it just happened. The chemistry between us was very, very intense, it almost knocked the air out of me. But it was not premeditated at all. It just happened 🙂
Posted by sunnycapPosted by VirgoVixxxen
Are you anything like him in relationships? Shy and really afraid of rejection?
Should I go read your thread?
I am terrified of rejection, which is why I haven't told him how I feel. He's said to me a couple of times that he's never promised me anything and that he doesn't like expectations, so that's why I'm holding back. However,I was the first one to say that I wasn't after anything heavy, just fun and games. Ever since then, he's said these things back. Don't know if it's just a coincidence or if he would have said it anyway. After all, he went through a very painful breakup 15 months ago with his long-term girlfriend who cheated on him, left him, got engaged to someone else within weeks of them splitting up and now has a baby by her new fiancee.
I don't think he's quite over it yet. He seems quite angry and resentful about it still. Since their breakup, he seems to have gone on a self-destructive path by drinking a lot and wanting to sleep around quite a bit when he's back home from work. I've known him for 8 years via mutual friends. I can see through all this, and I know he's such a great guy deep down. I don't think he thinks very highly of himself at the moment, though.click to expand
Posted by sunnycapPosted by VirgoVixxxen
Are you anything like him in relationships? Shy and really afraid of rejection?
Should I go read your thread?
I am terrified of rejection, which is why I haven't told him how I feel. He's said to me a couple of times that he's never promised me anything and that he doesn't like expectations, so that's why I'm holding back. However,I was the first one to say that I wasn't after anything heavy, just fun and games. Ever since then, he's said these things back. Don't know if it's just a coincidence or if he would have said it anyway. After all, he went through a very painful breakup 15 months ago with his long-term girlfriend who cheated on him, left him, got engaged to someone else within weeks of them splitting up and now has a baby by her new fiancee.
I don't think he's quite over it yet. He seems quite angry and resentful about it still. Since their breakup, he seems to have gone on a self-destructive path by drinking a lot and wanting to sleep around quite a bit when he's back home from work. I've known him for 8 years via mutual friends. I can see through all this, and I know he's such a great guy deep down. I don't think he thinks very highly of himself at the moment, though.click to expand
SC,
He's still got issues to work through and quite frankly, may not be ready for a serious relationship right now.
Reads to me like what his ex did to him really affected his self-esteem and confused him (and hurt him like hell) and he still needs time to heal. I wouldn't take this personal, and I don't think I would have any expectations of anyone if I had just gotten my heart smashed into tiny little pieces either. 😢
You say you've known eachother for 8 years via mutual friends so maybe at this point it's best to work on building the friendship and supporting him through this rough time and allow a romantic relationship to progress as naturally as possible. Just a thought? Also, if you really like this guy (and I know you do) and want something promising and solid with him, I would advise that you stop selling yourself short. If you sleep with him and then turn around and say that you don't want anything serious, then what is he to think? You're only further confusing him and sending mixed messages and he's mirroring your behavior.
Continued...
I know the fear of rejection is hard (just look at this thread, lol) but you have to mean what you say and say what you mean, or don't say anything at all. It sounds like he likes you, and I think you should take things slow and try to be more honest.
I know the fear of rejection is hard (just look at this thread, lol) but you have to mean what you say and say what you mean, or don't say anything at all. It sounds like he likes you, and I think you should take things slow and try to be more honest.
SC:
One thing you also need to know, Don't make him feel like an Option.We don't like that...Virgo is not the competitive type of a zodiac specially in the matter of the heart...
One thing you also need to know, Don't make him feel like an Option.We don't like that...Virgo is not the competitive type of a zodiac specially in the matter of the heart...
^^^^ZING!
Posted by VirgoVixxxen
Continued...
I know the fear of rejection is hard (just look at this thread, lol) but you have to mean what you say and say what you mean, or don't say anything at all. It sounds like he likes you, and I think you should take things slow and try to be more honest.
I think you're absolutely right. I really think he's still very hurt by what happened, despite trying to say the opposite. Whenever she has been mentioned, he suddenly change his behaviour and becomes annoyed and pulls away from me. This has now happened twice.
Even though we've known each other for 8 years through mutual friends, we hadn't really spoken much until last summer. We've been to the same social functions quite a few times, but did not chat very much. However, he was always staring at me, following me around and standing next to me or behind me. It became very noticeable after a few years, but as we were both in relationships at the time, nothing more happened. So we don't really have that friendship level at present. We've gone from just knowing each other distantly to having great sex! Because of this, I'm not sure how we can go back a few steps to become just friends again. I really would like to support him, because I know that he really struggles. There's nothing I would love to do more, in fact, because I care that much about him, and I just want him to make him feel safe, loved and cared for. i have so much love to give to him, if he would only give me a chance! 🙂
sunnycap I know what you mean about the intensity between cappy women and virgo guys. My gf is a cappy.
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