CUT a VIRGO LOOSE !

This topic was created in the Virgo forum by saweetz1988 on Sunday, May 26, 2013 and has 37 replies.
okay..so here goes ! how to cut a VIRGO LOOSE ! obviously he's an EX not that he ever acted like one...constant phone calls..supportive with everything etc etc !
NOW i think its about time i try ONCE AGAIN to cut things loose with him ! there's no point in me and him continue what we are ! sO
what is the best way !
change my number? block his number ? letters? email ? what? i see him braking down if i cut him off my life ! as many virgos in this dxpnet mention how much they like keeping their exes around ! obviously its only been 1 month and a half ! but ya i think i have to take it seriously this time !
ps: he never play the HOT and COLD thing on me ! he just never made up his mind whether he wants me as a life long partner or not ! get the idea ? ! ? confused virgo man ! sounds familiar?
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Posted by RomancingA
Tell him to fuk off and keep saying it until he either proves himself worthy or gets yhe point. Be prepared for a loss.....its a game and if he calls your bluff ur fukt but if he snaps back and makes an effort then it might work, just don't continue it.....its only good for a one time use, do it again and hell figure u out.
If u truly dont want him.........and want him to leave. Tell him so and ask him if he would mind letting you know how far u need to trash the relationship for him to finally walk away.....if he respects himself he will leave on his own....but sad.
Whatever......I doubt you have his attention anyway, ur prolly trying to be a snatch and hurt him.


" " Whatever......I doubt you have his attention anyway, ur prolly trying to be a snatch and hurt him ""
I definitely still have his attention ! In fact I must say i have done the F u thing before but obviously it didn't work ! to him its not over. He's really nice 2 me still ! being there for me ,..supporting me with my job....always there ! i just don't know what his real intention is ! if he wants to get back with me as in ( work on us on a serious level ) then he should mention something and not allow me to be free so other guys can have access to me ? obviously i don't want to talk to him about the TITLE because we did that before and only went around in circle ! I also like him in my life in some way ..he's practical and a very useful friend/lover...its just sad that he can't be committed 2 me fully ! OR is it me thats' not doing the job ! i start to doubt myself these days !
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Why is it when you try to end it with a Virgo they come back all hot and heavy wanting you and as soon as you are alright lets do this baby you and me against the word! They soon Fuck O#% and don't know if they want a Shit or hair Cut!
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LMAO OMG you know your Virgo's haha! Well I am doing the Selena Gomez right now! and to be honest I am gonna do the Beyonce "best thing you never had" in a min! You are right I been a push over with his on off crapola for 8 months now! he calls I come dumb ass blonde bimbo running to him! Then he won't contact me for days after he gets what he "wants" Well im done being his playboy Bunny.. my Aries was Amazing, regrets regrets.....
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Posted by RomancingA
Lol they only do this to women who continue to show them they are pushovers....
Theyll keep coming back to get laid, feel snugly, vanish, wash----rinse-----repeat. Eventually the girl breaks down and gets tpo hurt. The virgo doesnt do it to spite you.
The virgo is often caught between feelings of loyalty and caring about where u end up and feelings of his that your not a good mental match for him......he will have his own reasons. Hell flip between wanting the idea of a future with u and being stern that he cant hold back for you and wants to move on.
Keep playing his damsel in distress and hell keep playing u like a fiddle.....
The woman that lands a virgo snaps him out of his moods the second they start. She will be stern, forward with her expectations, will only commit when he shows commitment, lets HIM stress about how to LAND you and keep you, she will actively live her life but ensure that hes still special, shell make herself a part of his life but not move in......its the moments he misses u that hell see that he needs u closer. Virgo men dont want someone dishonest and calculating.....if u have to force yourself to have a life, give him space, and tone your psycho down he will find out ur a fake.
Ive only had 1 Virgo try this crap with me lol.....hes long gone and best gone imo.

Virgo men are actually simple: be clean, make time for him, accept his need to hybernate, involve him in plans, snuggle him, let him nap, feed him good healthy food, watch movies with him, do weekend things together, involve him in purchases, hang out with him and his friends, keep the emotional talks to a minimum, if u have to have a serious talk----do it while driving and dont lose ur shit and cry, let him make the effort to hang with u, dont always presume u have his time, exercise and keep ur booty ready........and leave him alone until sometime in the afternoon.


Selena Gomez- come and get it
Thats song kinda describes how one should treat a Virgo haha





+100000000000000000000000000!!!!!!!!!!!!! perfect!
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"The woman that lands a virgo snaps him out of his moods the second they start. She will be stern, forward with her expectations, will only commit when he shows commitment, lets HIM stress about how to LAND you and keep you, she will actively live her life but ensure that hes still special, shell make herself a part of his life but not move in......its the moments he misses u that hell see that he needs u closer."

but howwwwwwwwwww!
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I don't get these Virgos who keep coming back. Once I'm done, I'm done and if someone is done with me, that's it. I'm also done. I will not fight for someone who doesn't want to be with me. Its a waste of time.
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Did you even read my post? I said that I was NOT like that, but you make a blanket statement, saying 'You fucking Virgos?
Figures that a Capricorn would post that. lol I made the mistake of hooking up with a Cap. Worst mistake of my life.
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Posted by xxoommmxxoo
Fuckin virgos

Thats exactly the favourite hobby of all the ladies on this thread Tongue
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Posted by RomancingA
Why does it have to be about DICK all the time??


Because we are dicks and because we have dicks smile
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Saweetz, I like you because you remind me of my Taurus, but you should stop pretending you are not into him as much as he is into you, you're asking how you can cut him loose? phlueaseeeee, you know exactly how to do that, but you dont..because deep inside you might be enjoying the uncertainty of this situation OR because you are just still completely unsure as to what exactly is what you feel for him at this right moment..
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People are no posessions, so theres no such thing as winning or losing when it comes to relationships.
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Posted by RomancingA
If hes gone.....if it didnt work, you crashed and burned the relationship too many times and he doesn't want to see you anynore.......then its your loss and you lost.

Virgos want security, someone who doesn't change. I dont change easily and im a force even when im sick like today.......maybe thats why I get along so well with my virgo.


Thats not true (at least not in my case) we are changeable ourselves since we are mutable, and since we aim for equality in a relationship, we dont expect our partners to remain the same, we just want someone we can grow together with and growing implies changing as well.
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I need help can someone answer my post please
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^Cap moon or no Cap moon, thats a very unhealthy way of dealing with things^
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Posted by RomancingA
Im having a nap.....you guys are depressing!
I hate having a summer cold Sad but thats what I get for being in water all weekend Sad


Make it a very long nap, you need it Tongue and you need help as well btw.
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"I never saw a virgo wait for a girl. They move on fairly quickly. Im guessing they will miss those they loved but not in a good way, they often dislike having those feelings. They just dont think of someone once they are out of their life. Like I said: when its over, give space, think it over but dont assume its a tool to hurt them because it doesn't work........just know its a gamble to walk away. U could lose him."

I wish they moved on quickly and did not think about the ones they care about cause mine def doesn't. I have tried to cut my Virgo lose twice now in 8 months due to him ignoring me for no reason but given he has a crazy stressful job yes I understand this but when he is all hot over me he is non stop calling/texting wanting to see me, wanting to purchase a home together, even went through that whole process but I couldn't pull the trigger doing it cause he turns ice cold for no reason and I think did I do or say something to piss him off? we never have had a fight ever I am far to easy going and when twice now I told him how it was and things were simply not working for me and I can't be having a part time bf! Well soon as I say this he is blowing my phone up apologizing for not responding to me then things go back to being good for awhile the sweet good morning/night beautiful texts but then it will happen again. I saw him last week and since then he has not bothered to call or respond to my text in over a week now so this time instead of confronting him about how he is ignoring me then have him come back all mushy and sorry I am just ignoring him back and maybe when he decides to come out his hole it maybe to late for him.
I have absolutely nothing against the Virgo my brother is one love him to pieces but this one is just a real pain in the ass I never met a guy so complicated its frankly exhausting being in love with him.
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Posted by RomancingA

Im not easily changeable......I like the same things, concrete morals, ethics etc......by not being easily changeable I mean in the sense that I am dependable....I dont follow my friends, listen to outside advice, allow peopleyo alter my environment etc.....ddoesnt mean I cant grow as a person lol.
Im not some fun sucking loser who doesn't know how to have fun on a friday night......I just know who I am.
Thats why we get on so well.....my Virgo and I, he appreciates that I follow my own code.

Losing or winning isnt about posessing anyone.....if you intentionally fuck up your relationship in an attempt to get validated by them and you lose them, then you lost your own game!



What's your sign?
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Hey guys smile
I just would like to say I agree about the whole waiting thing. I've known a Virgo man who's been in and out of my life for 4 years. I am 26 known him since HS though , didn't talk or meet really till I was 22. Alot has happened especially alot of GROWING up. I understand the whole hot and cold thing went through that with him and also went through the whole being " friends but hooking up" with him and the disappearing and his non emotional ....me and him being on two levels of the conversation. What I wish people would understand is, it's about action alot with them not words.
He we are two years later and things have changed. Virgos need their time to grow and mature till they have their mind set and he came back and it's good now. We talk everyday we check in with each other and I've realized you need to have patience and let them come to you but it's mostly about trust .... If you try to hard and get controlling and try to manipulate the situation they will sense it and can manipulate right back at you and it will turn into a mind game!!!! If you are questioning what it is and what your situation is then you need to stop and go with the flow or just drop it!! You will kill yourself and ruin it and scare them off!!
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Katy Perry has obviously dated a Virgo dedicating her Hot and Cold song to all the Virgo's Tongue lol
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All of the women here whining about Virgos...the Virgo (and the guys reading this thread) are having the last laugh.
@sag...you are one of the biggest liars here. Before you deleted your last screen name it was an entirely different tune.
Glad you demanded answers tho..you will get it soon enough when he's done mirroring what you did to him for so long. How's it feel to be a puppet for a change?
Unbelievable...
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Posted by GenethliacLover66
It's like this. Virgos take a long time to decide if you're the one for them or not. As soon as you cut their deciding time short, they chase you down because they don't want to risk losing a possible long term partner. However, even though he's chasing you hard, he hasn't had enough time to assess if you guys will be able to make it long term. You can't really rush a virgo's decision making process.

no I'm definately not rushing or WAITING on his decision making process ..it's a long process. Way too long. 2.5 years was a deal breaker for me. I don't care how long he needs . Years ,months whatever . I am not waiting around. He also knows that for a fact. He asks questions now cause he knows I could be gone at anytime. ! He took 20 mins before he chose a perfect water bottle. It will be 100 years before he chooses a perfect girl :p
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Great posts from everyone . I am a Taurus woman and I am Not a push over. 2.5 years it has always been him obsessing over me not the other way around. I don't think I have given or gave him enough love to expect such commitment either . I also wonder sometimes that he needs a cancer who will adore and understand him. I do support and understand him but I must admit it has always been him giving me full support /love /effection . I am maybe at fault on this. He taught me to be so logical so I didn't really allow my loving side towards him. Maybe I am not in love with him. Very complicated situation. I do enjoy his company/comfort/calls/texts etc. to me I no longer feel committed to him anymore so to me it's plainly FWB. To him I'm not so sure. He is sensitive and often think I am usin him for .... Only . . Well maybe he's right . I enjoy the fun . . I made a decision that I will cut him loose as soon as I start dating someone seriously. Whenever that is as I am opening myself to other guys. I don't cry /whine/beg /call . nonE of that at all . So he knows he's taking a big risk here. He's not doing it very well though. He's too weak . N Virgo hates failure and making wrong decisions. That's y it will take him years to realized. N hell no I am not waiting around.
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Posted by RomancingA
Pisces1880:
I don't think you really want to end this relationship of yours. You want to be validated, you want confirmation and you won't commit further without that confirmation because most Pisces women are very protective of their environment....you want full assurance, which he isn't giving.
I'm not going to tell you how to get that assurance, it happens on it's own...each person has their own path. However playing the "contact" game is meaningless unless you mean business and by business I mean that if you can't follow through with your NO CONTACT ban, in order to regain space, and figure out what you need on your life.....don't bluff, do what you say you are going to do...always!
What are you going to do? If I were in your shoes I would send a text that you want meet in person...not on the phone or texting, but actually talk face to face. If you want a relationship with this person then you need to actually have that talk and you need to inform him of your expectations.

I know it's hard when you get hurt, feel disappointed, like you can't count on him or you feel alone.......but if you care, if it matters and you can muster a second load of strength....try to start clean when you meet up to have your talk.
That's all I got....

I'm totally dying here! I have a cold....I'm so grumpy Sad I have to get off this computer and muster strength to go pack our camping gear.



You are right I did want Validation and he did contact me last night and things ended on not such a good note unfortunately. He just was not feeling it like I was I guess? he said he is very attracted to me, cares about me a lot, loves spending time with me and we look good together on paper (whatever that means, I am guessing because we both make good money? I don't know) But he felt like he was forcing things and that is why he always pulled away. Well Tbh I believe he was also seeing someone else behind my back cause when I asked him if there was another girl he avoided the question like the plague on two occasions. Oh well life goes on his loss! But he still wants to remain friends and be apart of my life, I had a good laugh at that one and said I don't think so I have to move on Clean break no contact. I got a feeling he just does not know what he want's with me right now and he is going to keep trying to come in and out of my life I guess so now
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Posted by Sagtastic1 Different tune same song. I don't expect everyone to like my music.



You can't change what you don't acknowledge. The Virgo figured you out and so will every other man until you fix yourself. You have a long road ahead of you, why not start now? Your music sucks.
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Posted by GenethliacLover66


no I'm definately not rushing or WAITING on his decision making process ..it's a long process. Way too long. 2.5 years was a deal breaker for me. I don't care how long he needs . Years ,months whatever . I am not waiting around. He also knows that for a fact. He asks questions now cause he knows I could be gone at anytime. ! He took 20 mins before he chose a perfect water bottle. It will be 100 years before he chooses a perfect girl :p

What king of questions does he ask you?
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you know the old . Where r you . Why are you calling me from private number .. Did you just call a guy .. Bla bla bla and you are right. I had a woman instinct n that's why I never allowed myself to love him fully even when we were together . A Scorpio ex of mine who waited for me for 3 years wants me to give him a chance . He's willing to give me anything whatever it takes . So I will give him a chance so I can this Virgo ex loose . I'm gambling here Winking
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Cut this virgo lose !
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Gotcha. it's smart not invest in something that doesnt feel right. also he has to invest too. Not one way.

*totally beating myself up right now for caving*


No do not beat yourself up. you are human and horny. Lol but seriously. I dont like the fact that virgos test and manipulate just to see if youll do it and for selfish reasons and to see if they still have you. . It makes me very angry because to me its a game and i hate games. But no, do not beat yourself up. Own your mistake, today is a new day and you cant change the past. Decide what you want today and stick to.it. When he calls again, youll have to make the decision.

We started off life this to be honest. He would do something to piss me off and I would go M.I.A for a while..... well, until he called my phone enough to break me down. He would use sex as a way to "keep me around" it worked for a while until the cycle repeated it's self. I asked him if he was trying to control me with the "D" and he avoided my question.


These cycles are the result of an unhealthy relationship. I dont think healthy relationships have these cobstant cycles. The constant push pull. Making up breaking up for excitement or whatever. I am no expert but these cycles get old and exhausting and you just reach a point when enough is enough. its hard to break free but it is psychologically damaging if you let it continue over a period of time because you forget what a real relationship is and you might take these cycles into an otherwise healthy relationship. Damaged people damage healthy people.
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I Agree 100% It's not healthy! This is why I just ended it with my Virgo no friend zone cause that only leads back into the same routine! I told him I had to cut him from my life cold Turkey! No more seeing each other calls,texts or emails done done and done! The hot and cold thing just wore me out after 8
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Posted by RomancingA
They dont like failure........they dont accept it. Its about pride. A virgo would put countless hours in trying to turn a hooker straight, just for the challenge. He will however reep yhe benefits of said hooker lol.


I have to roll on this one...WHY IS THIS TRUE??? My goodness what is it with trying to "fix" the unfixable. As I told my friend, you can't turn a stripper into a housewife.....she did this shit to you once why the hell did you expect anything different from her when you took her ass back. That is what eats at me. Smart as shit guy, but why???? And still hung up over it. Been over for 2 years. Move your ass on. Dwell in the crap and you miss out on some great things in life.
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Posted by Piscescorp
By the way, I only do this to men who I know are Jack-asses. I can tell by the way they speak about women.
that is how I know what kind of guy I am dealing with at first. smile


He want's you cause he cannot have you! You are lucky you was a strong women not to fall for his Bullshit and fall in love! Cause once you are in love with him he would have prob done a 180 on your ass! Not all Virgo men are like this I know and I like to believe the player Virgos balance the good ones!
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Same here I got a Virgo Brother and a 10 yr old Virgo Son who both are my World but yes agree both of them can be moody too! God bless their future girlfriends lol.
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Posted by Pisces1880
Not all women will put up with a Virgo mans bullshit not just a Virgo but any man any sign who does not treat their lady how they so deserve! I certainly am not a women who is going to take it and told my virgo he can take a long walk of a short plank, sure it took me 8 months of back and forth crap to figure out it wasn't going to work but I sure as heck would never go running to him under any circumstance! Moving on...... I maybe a pisces and some may think we are weak and don't have a back bone but treat us wrong we will disappear and never look back.

" I maybe a pisces and some may think we are weak and don't have a back bone but treat us wrong we will disappear and never look back.
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well the pisces on dxp sure don't act like that, they can be a bit snippy and negative
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You Cannot tarnish everyone with the same brush! That includes Pisces, Virgos, Scorps all signs of the zodiac! We are all individuals with our own morals different up upbringings and personality traits!
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That is very sweet, sounds like a lovely lady and for sure must be hard when you get close to the family of the man who is hurting you as it is harder to break away.
My Bestie is a Scorpio she is like my sister and dated and moved in with my brother a Virgo. Their relationship was toxic after 2 years of them contently at each other her coming crying to me about my brother and him being my brother I was pulled in two different directions contently. At the end of the relationship I told her it was time for her to move on I admit my brother was a jerk to her and I could see him draining the life out of her.. One day when he was at work I went over to the house with her rented a moving truck bought along a bunch of friends and moved her out.. Best decision of her life she met a Sag guy 6 months later Married him and now have son together and she is extremely happy. My Virgo Brother is still single and looking.
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I figure this is a good thread for my question.... I love my virgo, and he loves me... we had plans of marriage and a future together, but there is so much baggage from our respective pasts, and trying to work through the baggage and issues seems impossible. I basically told my Virgo that I'm not right for him, our style s of overcoming relationship issues are too different... I told him I didn't want to complicate his life anymore, but that I love him more than any man and I always will... I haven't heard from him since.
It's killing me...I don't know what to do. I don't want it to be over, but it honestly feels helpless and hopeless... did I make a mistake?
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Posted by Sagtastic1
You're a Sag too? I definately know what your feeling. How long did you guys date? about a year?


YES! Just about a year.... wow! smile I don't know what to do now... do I give him more time? This just seems so wrong... no closure... he's never been good about talking about things that aren't working, I think he kind of hoped the issues would just go away, but I don't operate that way. I'm not clingy, or overly emotional...I just like to talk about things and reach an understanding... I'm a true Sag. I've never felt more loved in my life, and I think that's what makes this so hard....I just don't know what move to make at this point.
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You're words are spot on! And all the things you say, I plan on doing... I know why I arrived at the decision I made... and I will stick to that just like you said. the problem is, I am totally unsure that this is the right thing, but I'm at a loss for what else to do... I feel like I'm doing him a favor by letting go, because I can't change my need for open two way communication, I can't live with his silent 'hope it goes away' attitude. I'll give him a couple of more days...I told him if he needs to carry on in this silence then fine, I will respect that, but I feel this is no way of resolving things.
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"If you are not ready to "really" move on, when he calls, fix it then. Do not wait on him to say "are you sure you want this" because I don't see that happening"
Fair enough! Straight and too the point.... but the question is will he call. We have literally talked to eachother every sinlge day for the last year... he was never hot and cold, always consistent, always good morning, good night and everything in between... now... nothing. 5 long days of silence... I think I'll give it a couple of more days, and then ask for a meeting so we can gain some closure on this. In the meantime I'll keep myself busy... smile
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