Damn push and pull..

what are you guys playing at?!
BLAH.

explanation—?

How can anyone tear you apart with an answer like that?! Thanks Mike for your insight and honesty. It's refreshing. But the push and pull thing that Virgos do is frustrating...and I guess innate.

Mike-
Pretty insightful and honest answer. TFS : )

A couple things, Mike ....

"I've always been very careful about getting involved with someone and I think so much so that I get caught up in the things that indicate to me that the other person is really into me. If I see those things starting to change then I subconsciously start to pull away as a protective measure."

A lot of people do this, not just Virgos (though, they do it more often) .. and it all boils down to .. Can this other person provide the kind of love I need? vs. Do I really love this person?

Too many times in life (most) people will initiate a relationship according to whether the OTHER person is interested in us, just like you described, which causes us to pull away once we come back to our heads. You go about life, and if a person is attracted to you (third person), then it makes you stop and take notice to ponder those questions. Most times, people want to be loved so goddamm bad that they will compromise themselves to start a relationship solely based around the other person's attraction to us, rather than whether we were really attracted to them = a desperate heart.

So, though, on one hand, it irritates the fuck out of me that Virgos are so anal about this pulling away thing to OVER-analyze about their feelings with the other person .. on the other hand, it's prudent for your own behalf and well-being to make sure that this attraction isn't superficial to your soul, and only making your ego feel good.

"Thinking about how it is perceived on the other side of the fence I can see that it isn't necessarily pleasant. For me I know that atleast one supporting reason behind the behavior is my shyness."

All people, except for Virgos, WANT emotional expression to be chaotic. We WANT you to openly vent off ALL emotional spikes as they arise. When this doesn't happen, and instead you pull away .. this is why it is unpleasant to others. Others WANT you to fight for them, win them over, display jealousy, wrap a world around them passionately to prove to them that they are special = all ego. When a Virgo pulls away, the other person is left feeling unimportant, not special enough to tear the world apart for their heart = unpleasant.

However, I wouldn't equate it to being shy. I've never met a shy Virgo when they feel their heart is accepted by another person. What feels like shyness to you on your end, is likely because you don't have a clear picture in which to mirror.

A Virgo shows their love by reflecting.

This reflective love is the reason for not only what is percieved as shyness on your part, also why Virgos hate deception.

If you are with a person and you are unsure of HOW to love them, so you can mirror back to them the kind of love you percieve they need, then you will become distant/shy/reserved .... while you analyze what it is they need so you can provide = being a Virgo.

So, because your love to give is this reflection ... obviously, you cannot tolerate a deception, for if they lie to you, then how the hell can you give to them for real?

Hey Mike,

Are an August virgo or a september virgo — 🙂

"Too many times in life (most) people will initiate a relationship according to whether the OTHER person is interested in us"

Oh yes PA! I've thought about that too and I'm glad I'm not the only one who realizes that. It irks me for some reason even though it's so true. I've noticed this with all my friends who've been in relationships.
Its true though being pursued is MUCH easier than pursuing so essentially it's a take what you get kind of situation because no one wants to get hurt, especially the pursued whose waiting on somebody to come along and notice them first.
Sad but true 😢

This thread has brought out the best Virgo love description I have seen, mucho kudos to P-Angel

I have always described myself as a mirror... REFLECTIVE LOVE

ya' virgos copy your every thing, when they are in love with you.
That also includes using your style to "reach you a lesson" and using your style of fight to fight with you!

Copy cats!