Did i bust myself?
This topic was created in the Virgo forum by lostguy on Tuesday, August 9, 2011 and has 11 replies.
Yikes...something definitely happened, and (knowing our sensitive asses) she took offense to something silly and won't admit it.
You apologized, she should have been able to realize at that point there was an opportunity to fix things. If she didn't, sounds like she still needs to work on herself.
I guess the only thing left to do would be to call her ask, ask if you can talk to her, and come straight out and tell her what you said here.
She can either confirm that something was done/said that upset her, and you two can take it from there, or she can deny it and my best suggestion would be to let her go--she'll either come around and when she does let HER apologize for d1cking you around.
You apologized, she should have been able to realize at that point there was an opportunity to fix things. If she didn't, sounds like she still needs to work on herself.
I guess the only thing left to do would be to call her ask, ask if you can talk to her, and come straight out and tell her what you said here.
She can either confirm that something was done/said that upset her, and you two can take it from there, or she can deny it and my best suggestion would be to let her go--she'll either come around and when she does let HER apologize for d1cking you around.
call her up*
Posted by Layna
Either that or a new guy entered her life?
Agreed.
Well, was that something you said something about her, you, others? Was it something vugar/inappropiate or rather just some joke that might have gone a bit far?
I would wait up for few days...then if she doesn't contact you I would call her and try to be very casual/fun and suggest something to do, while doing that I would mention once more (not question) just affirm that you apologize for anything that might have been said that was silly (call it silly to light it up if it wasn't that big) and reiterate to her that you are glad that you both have been able to reconnect again and that's it. If you do things that way, you would sound casual, will keep things light, would express your honest interest casually, and after that would know her thoughts about it all soon (at least the ones that could give you some clues).
I would give it few days after that...let it sink and you will either 1) hear back from her, thus the story continues or 2) not hear from her for a while, in which the case is clear, at least at this time.
All the best! keep us posted if you would like to.
MissV
Oh yah, one thing i would like to ask is if you have dissed a virgo off, will they even reply u?
Or in my case, is she trying to illicit a response (albeit insufficient) from me?
Or just being plain diplomatic (yes i am pissed and i am replying just to maintain the semblance of peace now get out from my face, now and on?)
Or in my case, is she trying to illicit a response (albeit insufficient) from me?
Or just being plain diplomatic (yes i am pissed and i am replying just to maintain the semblance of peace now get out from my face, now and on?)
Posted by Layna
Either that or a new guy entered her life?
Or an old one!
Posted by lostguy
Oh yah, one thing i would like to ask is if you have dissed a virgo off, will they even reply u?
Or in my case, is she trying to illicit a response (albeit insufficient) from me?
Or just being plain diplomatic (yes i am pissed and i am replying just to maintain the semblance of peace now get out from my face, now and on?)
Well I can't speak for ALL virgos but, if you dissed me, you won't hear from me depending upon the situation. Simultaneously she may be pissed at you but want to hear from you too. She is not going to initiate now. Down the line she may...it may be a while but if she is really into you she will contact you. UNEQUIVOCALLY!!!! It will happen if she REALLY wants you!
Nice title
Posted by lostguy
ok, she replied me but she did so like half a day later, during a time knowing full well that i am not available immediately to reply her. seems to me like she doesn't want me to start a chat with her. Like being diplomatic yet cold you know? it was the same when i first initiated a chat with her after that gathering.
Anyway the jab at her was that she mentioned that she will be late for the gathering (which she is aware that she has this habit of being late) and i just casually jab at her saying that i am quite immune to it alr haha (i don't mean any sarcasm and she knows i am someone who is not sarcastic by nature and such stuff are purely my sense of humor). I think she might have taken it very hard. Other than that i dun think i have said anything that personal to her at all.
Do virgo close you off because of such stuff? Before i realised my folly i thought that she was pulling back because she needs time to think where we were heading.
I will definitely call her tonight and talk to her again.
Yep...figured it was something she took offense to.
As someone else mentioned, Virgo females are very prideful and will not just come out and tell you what's wrong in most instances. If you approach us and ask us, however, we will usually be ready with a pre-rehearsed speech.
The reason she took offense is probably because she (like myself) beats up on herself a lot for her issues w/lateness, and is sensitive to anyone else making comments on it (uber sensitive in her case, I'd have laughed what you said off). Very silly reason to be upset at you, but that's from my POV.
Don't be surprised if there are more unknown sensitivities with her. If that little comment set her off, I wouldn't be surprised at all.
You're all over the place with this. What is your sign, if you don't mind me asking?
I thought you said: "Anyway the jab at her was that she mentioned that she will be late for the gathering (which she is aware that she has this habit of being late) and i just casually jab at her saying that i am quite immune to it alr haha (i don't mean any sarcasm and she knows i am someone who is not sarcastic by nature and such stuff are purely my sense of humor). I think she might have taken it very hard. Other than that i dun think i have said anything that personal to her at all."
You made it seem like she admitted to being offended by that, now you're saying she never said that?
Sign please?
I thought you said: "Anyway the jab at her was that she mentioned that she will be late for the gathering (which she is aware that she has this habit of being late) and i just casually jab at her saying that i am quite immune to it alr haha (i don't mean any sarcasm and she knows i am someone who is not sarcastic by nature and such stuff are purely my sense of humor). I think she might have taken it very hard. Other than that i dun think i have said anything that personal to her at all."
You made it seem like she admitted to being offended by that, now you're saying she never said that?
Sign please?
lostguy - We are that busy.But she might have been thinking why you to have been friends instead of more all these years.Maybe she doesn't think your interested in her,since you keep meeting up at friends houses or someone else was there when you went out .Or is not being alone part of your culture? Maybe she doesn't even know how you feel about her.Just because you both feel something more,maybe she doesn't know if you feel "it"too.If you haven't dropped any hints,she might feel she's "in like" alone.Man up,but in a romantic and polite way.
Posted by lostguy
Now the question is why would she wait for half a day to reply my msgs? is it because it is the normal virgo thing of pulling back because she needs time to think where we were heading? or can any virgo gals enlightened me is going on in her head?
hey buddy. we will never fully know, but in my opinion, chances are either she did get hurt by what you said to her (especially if it was done publicly) and just needed some time to deal with it, alone, and get over it little by little and she will never fully admit it OR something/someone got in her mind during that time that needed to be taken care of.
what i would do now, is just focus on the present and take it from here. if she acts cool, then go with the flow.
and just in case she would be hiding any temporal hurt felt at the time...just try not to mock her about her being late again for a while, especially in front of other people. i will tell you one thing, we might look like strong/solid women often, able to deal with thing on our own, but inside if we do like/care about someone we desire for that person to be our protector and defender at times, especially in groups, since we do SO many things alone and on our own that we never tell people about...sometimes we need a place of rest, someone we can trust, and that we will know will have our back...
i'm not saying that 'that' was the case necessarily, but keep it in mind as a side note friend. now, if the situation is something else/someone else you will find out sooner than later, because we can't hide things for way too long. our actions show things over time. we just probably need someone strong or who likes a bit of challenge at the very least...not purposely, it is just our nature more often than not.
missv
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