Do Virgo men back off in a relationship?
This topic was created in the Virgo forum by PiscesSteph on Tuesday, November 5, 2013 and has 13 replies.
Hi all,
I have been dating my virgo for just over a month now. It all started when he told me he has always liked me then asked my dad (they are friends but he is much younger than my father) if he could date me. After that things went pretty quickly. He would text me constantly and ask to see me every day. He would also go on about how he couldn't believe how comfortable he feels around me and that he has never liked a girl so much so quickly. (I thought virgos were slow....) He also talks a lot about serious things like how he wants to build a house then asks me what my perfect house is, would I be willing to live in the country, do I like living with someone, etc. Then this past week he has been quite distant and will still text me every day but hardly at all in comparison to a week ago. He's also not been asking to hang out. Is he just so comfortable that now he's fallen into that? It seems to soon to me. Should I take this as a sign to move on? I realize I'm quite a sensitive person so that's why I would like advice.
I have been dating my virgo for just over a month now. It all started when he told me he has always liked me then asked my dad (they are friends but he is much younger than my father) if he could date me. After that things went pretty quickly. He would text me constantly and ask to see me every day. He would also go on about how he couldn't believe how comfortable he feels around me and that he has never liked a girl so much so quickly. (I thought virgos were slow....) He also talks a lot about serious things like how he wants to build a house then asks me what my perfect house is, would I be willing to live in the country, do I like living with someone, etc. Then this past week he has been quite distant and will still text me every day but hardly at all in comparison to a week ago. He's also not been asking to hang out. Is he just so comfortable that now he's fallen into that? It seems to soon to me. Should I take this as a sign to move on? I realize I'm quite a sensitive person so that's why I would like advice.
Posted by PiscesSteph
Hi all,
I have been dating my virgo for just over a month now. It all started when he told me he has always liked me then asked my dad (they are friends but he is much younger than my father) if he could date me. After that things went pretty quickly. He would text me constantly and ask to see me every day. He would also go on about how he couldn't believe how comfortable he feels around me and that he has never liked a girl so much so quickly. (I thought virgos were slow....) He also talks a lot about serious things like how he wants to build a house then asks me what my perfect house is, would I be willing to live in the country, do I like living with someone, etc. Then this past week he has been quite distant and will still text me every day but hardly at all in comparison to a week ago. He's also not been asking to hang out. Is he just so comfortable that now he's fallen into that? It seems to soon to me. Should I take this as a sign to move on? I realize I'm quite a sensitive person so that's why I would like advice.
Ask your father? Father knows best.
Thank you guys for your responses.
LetItB I would ask my dad if he were open like that but unfortunately he is not. He is actually really awkward about the whole situation. It's kind of funny.
Sunnyvirgo83 you are totally right. I should not be spending my time trying to get answers for something I cannot change. It's just hard not to want to know when you care. If I could be happy with knowing that I cannot change a damn thing then I would live my life not worrying. Unfortunately it`s not that easy. I still have a life. I spend time with friends, go to yoga, etc. Now I am just stuck worrying about getting hurt while I try to distract myself with the rest of my life. haha
I guess it`s possible he thinks I need space or maybe he just lost himself in the whole thing and realized he needs space. He`s been the most open person I have ever dated so I would like to think that he would tell me.
Ixion120 - I am going to give it time. It`s the only thing I can do and maybe it will pass quickly. Fingers crossed.
LetItB I would ask my dad if he were open like that but unfortunately he is not. He is actually really awkward about the whole situation. It's kind of funny.
Sunnyvirgo83 you are totally right. I should not be spending my time trying to get answers for something I cannot change. It's just hard not to want to know when you care. If I could be happy with knowing that I cannot change a damn thing then I would live my life not worrying. Unfortunately it`s not that easy. I still have a life. I spend time with friends, go to yoga, etc. Now I am just stuck worrying about getting hurt while I try to distract myself with the rest of my life. haha
I guess it`s possible he thinks I need space or maybe he just lost himself in the whole thing and realized he needs space. He`s been the most open person I have ever dated so I would like to think that he would tell me.
Ixion120 - I am going to give it time. It`s the only thing I can do and maybe it will pass quickly. Fingers crossed.
Not a big deal just let him maneuver how he wants dont force anything
Posted by PiscesSteph
LetItB I would ask my dad if he were open like that but unfortunately he is not. He is actually really awkward about the whole situation. It's kind of funny.
why does your father have to be asked?
Are you 12 years old?
Posted by PiscesSteph
I have been dating my virgo for just over a month now.
.. he told me he has always liked me then asked my dad if he could date me.
After that things went pretty quickly.
He would text me .... He would also go on about how he .... he feels around me .... He also talks a lot about .... he wants ..... etc.
He's also not been asking to hang out. Is he just so comfortable that now he's fallen into that? It seems to soon to me. Should I take this as a sign to move on?
Obviously, you have no say-so for your own life. What he thinks/does/says is your only concern.
and the last quoted section above is you stating that you think it's too soon for him to be getting comfortable enough to fall back.
You're obviously a doormat, with no self worth.
Looks like I missed a lot! haha
Sorry folks my basement flooded and I have been busy.
Ixion120 I am not 100% sure I understand exactly what you mean. In the beginning I am a bit stand-offish and usually wait until I feel it is safe before I dive in. He totally dived in so quickly that it shocked me and then I thought it was maybe safe for me to do so. Then he backed off. It is definitely insecurity on my part I will admit it. That being said, I like when guys are very affectionate verbally and physically. I also like being paid attention to if we are apart (texts, phone calls, etc.) Not to an extreme extent but I like to know how someone's day is going and know that they care how mine is going. This probably all ties into insecurity. The funny thing is I've gone through different phases in my life when I had all kinds of confidence and others where I've had little. I always seem to appreciate the same attention from a man so I think that is just how I am. I am comfortable with it. I know I need a guy who is loving.
As for the asking my dad thing, someone had suggested it earlier in the thread (I am assuming because I mentioned that my guy and my dad are friends). I was simply responding. I don't see the big deal.
Sorry folks my basement flooded and I have been busy.
Ixion120 I am not 100% sure I understand exactly what you mean. In the beginning I am a bit stand-offish and usually wait until I feel it is safe before I dive in. He totally dived in so quickly that it shocked me and then I thought it was maybe safe for me to do so. Then he backed off. It is definitely insecurity on my part I will admit it. That being said, I like when guys are very affectionate verbally and physically. I also like being paid attention to if we are apart (texts, phone calls, etc.) Not to an extreme extent but I like to know how someone's day is going and know that they care how mine is going. This probably all ties into insecurity. The funny thing is I've gone through different phases in my life when I had all kinds of confidence and others where I've had little. I always seem to appreciate the same attention from a man so I think that is just how I am. I am comfortable with it. I know I need a guy who is loving.
As for the asking my dad thing, someone had suggested it earlier in the thread (I am assuming because I mentioned that my guy and my dad are friends). I was simply responding. I don't see the big deal.
I should probably mention that I talked to my Virgo about it. I am impatient and things were not improving. He was shocked and couldn't see that he had backed off. When I explained how and why I felt that he did back off he got worried and said he probably got too comfortable too quickly and didn't realize it.
I feel bad for bringing it up now because I feel like he will now be thinking about his actions and trying harder but not naturally if you know what I mean.
I am really not good with change. If a guy changes behaviour it has often meant that he is drifting away. So it makes me nervous. There are many times where I could care less but this time I really do care. Apparently it turns me into a chicken! haha
I feel bad for bringing it up now because I feel like he will now be thinking about his actions and trying harder but not naturally if you know what I mean.
I am really not good with change. If a guy changes behaviour it has often meant that he is drifting away. So it makes me nervous. There are many times where I could care less but this time I really do care. Apparently it turns me into a chicken! haha
You're being a doormat .... people in here realize you are a Pisces, so nobody is really surprised that you are eager to lay on the ground in front of him, for him to walk on you if he wishes.
That's really the only issue you have, though, it looks like you're oblivious to its existence, and believe it's cute.
It's not cute ... and the reason Why he has begun to not be interested any longer.
I fully realize that all of that ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ will fly over your head, but, everyone else gets it.
Yeah I definitely don't see the doormat part. I've walked away from too many shitty dudes to be a doormat.
Since I talked to him he has been back to his old self. Actually he has been extra-affectionate and texting constantly. He even did my dishes while I was at work and drove 2 hours to help me clean my things out of my basement before the sewage back-up could reach it. I feel silly for doubting him but I have my guard up at the moment. With time, it will come down.
Since I talked to him he has been back to his old self. Actually he has been extra-affectionate and texting constantly. He even did my dishes while I was at work and drove 2 hours to help me clean my things out of my basement before the sewage back-up could reach it. I feel silly for doubting him but I have my guard up at the moment. With time, it will come down.
Posted by P-Angel
You're being a doormat .... people in here realize you are a Pisces, so nobody is really surprised that you are eager to lay on the ground in front of him, for him to walk on you if he wishes.
That's really the only issue you have, though, it looks like you're oblivious to its existence, and believe it's cute.
It's not cute ... and the reason Why he has begun to not be interested any longer.
I fully realize that all of that ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ will fly over your head, but, everyone else gets it.
Hence..my Daddy comment
Posted by PiscesSteph
Yeah I definitely don't see the doormat part.
Of course you don't .... that's why I said it will fly right over your head.
Posted by LetltBPosted by P-Angel
You're being a doormat .... people in here realize you are a Pisces, so nobody is really surprised that you are eager to lay on the ground in front of him, for him to walk on you if he wishes.
That's really the only issue you have, though, it looks like you're oblivious to its existence, and believe it's cute.
It's not cute ... and the reason Why he has begun to not be interested any longer.
I fully realize that all of that ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^ will fly over your head, but, everyone else gets it.
Hence..my Daddy commentclick to expand
^^^
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