doesn't like to tell me no.

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my Virgo guy has this thing where he doesn't like to tell me no. He hates when I tell him no so he doesn't like to tell me no but for example I asked if I can come over. He said I can n when am I free but when I told him he didn't respond. I asked a few days later if he is free on Saturday he didn't respond. He never says idk or I will let you know or I have to see, he just says nothing. Why can't he just do the above? Its not telling me no is it?
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Posted by j519oe
And inviting myself over is clearly saying. Hey I'm coming over. I have his permission to come over because I asked instead of just welcoming myself thanks




....but he hasn't given you an answer as to when you can come over.

..asking to come over is pushy don't you think?
Wouldn't it be better to wait and allow him to ask you to come over when he's ready to?
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Trust me I have to kinda be pushy when it comes to him. Waiting on him to ask me over would be the next 2 months. Last time I went to see him I wasnt "pushy" but I had to clearly show him I wanted to come over. If I don't remind him it will never happen. And what about the main point of the question?



Pushy with a Virgo will get you NOWHERE. Read up on that. You already let him know you are interested. If he's not responding HE'S NOT INTO YOU. Or he's wondering why you are being so pushy. Very black and white. So the main point of the question(s)

Posted by j519oe
Why can't he just do the above? Its not telling me no is it?
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Question 1: Virgos move at their own pace. They don't like to be pushed around, hate demands, and get turned off real fast by needy women.

Question 2: Yes...he's telling you no in a nice way. He's also saying back the hell off woman, stop pushing, what's your damn rush, let me be the man and wear the pants and decide I am comfortable enough to move forward.

I hope I answered your questions completely and to your satisfaction.
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I think your answer was completely based on this pushy thing. So it's ok that he's pushy with me when it comes to what he wants right? But I'm such a horrible person because I do it? I haven't asked him to come over in almost a month n a half. So NORMALLY when I ask to see him its the usual. "When are you free?" "I'm free such n such day" "ok" n then I come over. I asked him if I can come over last week, n when I asked him I just said "I miss you and I want to see you" he said "ok when are you free" I said I'm free Monday but do you have to work? Then that's when he didn't respond. I was not being pushy. N he never does this. So I asked two days later if he was free this weekend n he didn't respond. So which led me to ask why won't he just say no or idk or I will let you know instead of just not responding geez.
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Posted by j519oe
Trust me I have to kinda be pushy when it comes to him. Waiting on him to ask me over would be the next 2 months. Last time I went to see him I wasnt "pushy" but I had to clearly show him I wanted to come over. If I don't remind him it will never happen. And what about the main point of the question?



Pushy with a Virgo will get you NOWHERE. Read up on that. You already let him know you are interested. If he's not responding HE'S NOT INTO YOU. Or he's wondering why you are being so pushy. Very black and white. So the main point of the question(s)

Posted by j519oe
Why can't he just do the above? Its not telling me no is it?



Question 1: Virgos move at their own pace. They don't like to be pushed around, hate demands, and get turned off real fast by needy women.

Question 2: Yes...he's telling you no in a nice way. He's also saying back the hell off woman, stop pushing, what's your damn rush, let me be the man and wear the pants and decide I am comfortable enough to move forward.
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Ok tell me as much as I've read about Virgos, if he is not into me why would we be 8 months into each other, him telling me he has feelings for me n he want to see how far this goes then he randomly just not into me if i never done anything to make him feel that way? Smh some ppl on here shouldn't bother commenting... If he wanted this to be over he would tell me not continue to just string me along... I come to look for advice n majority of the ppl here just judge.
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Posted by j519oe

If he wanted this to be over he would tell me not continue to just string me along...






and yet ..... your main question was —??


Posted by j519oe

.... he just says nothing. Why can't he just do the above? Its not telling me no is it?

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People here have tried to tell you what's up here and because you don't want to hear the truth ... you say they are judging you.


You sound very juvenile.
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In my experience... you definitely can't rush them, you can't push them, they will walk at their speed not yours.... (hint - that's very slow) it's the way they are... Virgo men are men and want to be/feel they are masters of their own destiny.
If this is not to your liking... maybe a Virgo is not for you.... they require.... patience... then some more and then some more... (and a bit more after that) what's he worth to you? That's the real question 🙂
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Well jenova I don't rush him all the time. See I guess I'm confused on why say I can come one minute n then don't give me a date a minute later. I don't like to be left in the dark I just like to have a perfect understanding of everything n everything is ok with me. So while others call it me being "pushy" its not my intention. As long as I know what's going on n I know or have an idea on what I'm waiting for I'll wait. But if I'm clueless I don't want to feel like I'm waiting for nothing. So noooo! Never do I ever want to rush him. N he means a lot to me. My first love. A guy who is not after sex like all the others. 🙂
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See I guess I'm confused on why say I can come one minute n then don't give me a date a minute later. I know it can mean a lot of things so I waited two days to contact him back n see if he was free another day. In my eyes it wasn't rushing I'm not asking him every day can I come can I come can I come can I come. I just simply asked if he was free another day n those people want to make it seem like I'm rushing him so bad.
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Posted by j519oe
Well jenova I don't rush him all the time. See I guess I'm confused on why say I can come one minute n then don't give me a date a minute later. I don't like to be left in the dark I just like to have a perfect understanding of everything n everything is ok with me. So while others call it me being "pushy" its not my intention. As long as I know what's going on n I know or have an idea on what I'm waiting for I'll wait. But if I'm clueless I don't want to feel like I'm waiting for nothing. So noooo! Never do I ever want to rush him. N he means a lot to me. My first love. A guy who is not after sex like all the others. 🙂



Hey, I hear you... but Virgos are just... this is the way they are... I know it can seem confusing, but it's a love 'em or leave 'em deal... they aren't about to change.. it can be frustrating. But if you really love him.... then allow it to be what it is without resistance... let him take the lead...

If that ever becomes an intolerable situation then leave. But he won't change. Accept that and everything will feel better and flow easier 🙂
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Oh jenova I have another question. I don't want to contact him for a while. But when I try I start to miss him n end up talking to him. I don't want to feel like I always blow him up. So how do I not initiate contact n not miss him? I don't go out much so I'm mainly home all the time but how can I still care about him but not contact him?


NP...
Understand that we are all one thing... we all come from the same source, the same energy, separation is an illusion...
And if you want the big prize sometimes you have to know when to pull it in and when to let it out... allow him to be who he is and know with everything you are that what is meant for you will not pass you by 🙂
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Seems like he is scared to say "no". Its hard for me to say "no" and when I want to tell a guy no. My answer is always " We will or can when we're both free". As in that if he is free im not and then im free when he tells me he is "busy". Is it fair? No. But I dont want to hurt his feelings so thats what I say. You already invited yourself over and I would just let him see that I am busy. I have dated 2 virgo men and I am a virgo myself. Once they see that you are busy and making time for others. He will ask u to come over or invite you over his house.

My virgo guy didnt mind me telling him I was coming over. But I did it but once every 2-3 months lol. Randomness is what virgo men like, so they can still feel control.